Why are some parents reluctant to admit their mistakes? Blame the child?

Tricks] First, he doesn't arrange his own time. Someone needs to be supervised, and that's the problem of dependency.

The second, always asking, right? It shows that the child's lack of self-confidence is low self-efficacy.

So, my advice to you here is to let parents slowly reduce the time spent together. Probably spend ten minutes with your child on the first day and tell him that mom now has a very important thing to do. The next day, you may spend eight minutes with you, and so on, and slowly get rid of the bad habit of letting your child accompany an adult to do your homework together.

Low self-efficacy, he is now a child who is fine, and always asks, right? Or what we often call a lack of self-confidence. If the first problem is solved, I believe that the next problem will be solved.

Because after all, they are parents, they need to save face, they think they know a lot and know more than you, they just don't want to admit their mistakes, so they can only blame you.

There are too many virgins, and I despise parents who have made mistakes but refuse to admit them. My parents have made countless mistakes since I was a child, and they have had a great negative impact on the family and the parent-child relationship on me, but they have never apologized, on the contrary, they have been constantly whitewashing themselves and making all kinds of excuses, and they have gained more sympathetic skills when they are older. When I was a child, I was confused, and when I grew up, I watched their poor acting skills.

Not to mention that they are ordinary people, they will also make mistakes, and when they apologize, they don't treat themselves as ordinary people. Isn't it important to apologize, it's not important to the person who made the mistake, it's very important to the person who was hurt, especially the little ones! It means a clear attitude, and a clear attitude means the end of the matter.

Don't say that there is no right or wrong place in the home, this is the root of the family's hurt. Those who say they don't care when they grow up, do you dare to say that you don't have a child waiting to apologize in your heart? Now that I am a father, I immediately apologize for my mistakes, and I find that it is not as difficult as my father thought.

This is the legacy of feudal ideology and the style of paternalism. It may also be that hatred of iron does not make steel. As you should be kind to this issue. It is necessary to elevate yourself at all times.

I look down on Chinese parents very much, because there is still a feudal patriarchal system in China, parents think that truth comes second, face first, and what they say is always the truth. Even if they are wrong, in order to save their own face, they will not find problems from themselves, they always blame the children, and in their hearts, even if the children find out the mistakes of their parents, they cannot point it out. It's despicable to do that.

Naively think that what you think is right, and always take it for granted from the perspective of your parents...

Parents should decisively admit their mistakes to their children, so that they can have a self-confidence and will be good for their children's future development.

Communicate well with your child, you can directly admit to your child that you really shouldn't have wronged you, so that your child understands and forgives, so that you can effectively resolve the conflict between parents and children.

Parents should apologize for this problem as soon as they realize that they have wronged their children, directly admit their mistakes in wronging their children, and apologize for forgiveness by example.

After wronging a child, parents should take the initiative to admit their mistakes to their children head-on, so that they can set a good example for their children.

After wronging a child, parents must sincerely admit their mistakes to their children, and ensure that such mistakes will not be made again in the future, and ask for forgiveness from children.

If the child is wronged, the parent should take the initiative to find the child to admit the mistake in the future, so use a tactful tone to tell the child that the parents are also wrong.

Parents don't apologize even if they're wrong, which seems to be talking about older parents. The reason could be:

One. I'm a parent, and I'm right. The idea of patriarchy is deeply ingrained, and there is nothing wrong with believing that parents are heaven.

Two. Parents know that they are wrong, but they are unwilling or unable to admit their mistakes to the "juniors". "To die is to save face and suffer sin", in fact, I feel very guilty.

Three. Parents may mistakenly believe that they will no longer find "majesty" in front of their children after admitting their mistakes, and they will not be able to control their children from now on.

If it's me who blames the child, of course I have to say sorry to the child. After all, it is I who blames the child, and I am not a child or I did it wrong. If you have wronged your child, you should accompany your child and admit your mistake, why can't you do it.

In life, some people just refuse to admit their mistakes, especially for their children, and feel that they have lost face. Loss of identity. In the face of mistakes, he finds thousands of reasons to justify, and he does not admit his mistakes.

The facts are not admitted, and even worse, they have to hit a rake and bite back.

Children are a mirror of parents, reflecting the real problems of parents. In a family, children are taught by their parents' words and deeds, some good practices follow their parents' practices, and some bad habits are also inherited from their parents' behaviors. The so-called "those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black" is such a truth.

If you follow the good ones, you will learn the good ones, and if you follow the bad ones, how can you learn them well?

If the parent wrongs the child, he must admit his mistake to the child as soon as possible, explain that he is wrong, and it is best to analyze what caused the mistake? What's wrong? How to correct it?

how to avoid not making the same mistakes again in the future, etc. In this way, not only do you apologize to your child, but you also teach your child how to deal with the wrong cognitive behavior from others. At the same time, we should also teach children that even if they can't get an apology from others, they should be open-minded, lenient with others, and not be depressed by the misunderstanding given by others and not be able to extricate themselves.

Especially the modern child, self-esteem.

It's all very strong, and now those old traditional rules are getting less and less. Parents and children are basically friends, and only with the same thoughts and concepts will they communicate without barriers. As long as there are some different opinions and suggestions, and there are differences in views on things, it will cause each person to do his own thing, and no one should interfere with anyone, which will cause family conflicts.

In particular, the relationship between father and son can no longer be reconciled. Escalate to negative treatment, soft resistance, confrontation, and ultimately fighting.

Therefore, as a parent, you must take the lead in setting an example, if you are wrong, you are wrong, you have wronged your child, admit your mistake, and apologize to your child, which is justified and understandable. It has nothing to do with face, but it has enhanced the relationship with the child and communicated better with the child, so why not.

His body is upright, and if he does not order, he will do it. His body is not right, although he does not obey orders. Children learn from their parents.

Because Chinese parents are subtle and introverted feudal, even after doing something wrong, they are not good at expressing their voices, they feel that they are adults, they have rich life experience, and they know more than children, so they will not say sorry to their children at all.

Because parents feel that it is a shameless thing to apologize to their children, they will not apologize to their children after knowing that they have done wrong.

Because they feel that this is a loss of parenthood, it will affect the relationship between parents and children, in fact, these need to be well resolved.

Because these parents don't realize their mistakes at all, and they don't feel the need to apologize to their children.

Introduction: Some parents must have their children admit their mistakes and then correct their mistakes after discovering that their children have made mistakes, but as parents, they rarely seem to admit their mistakes in front of their children, because they feel very embarrassed, and they are parents but they will still do wrong things, and they are a little sorry for the majesty of parents.

But in my opinion, such a practice is actually not so good, he will only make the child feel that my parents are very unprincipled, or do not follow the rules at all, always asking the child to admit mistakes and correct stupid mistakes, but they have never admitted to correct the mistakes, the child may also develop such a habit, parents may feel that they are parents, they are much older than the child, apologize in front of the child feel very embarrassed, feel embarrassed, And it's not so honorable to do something wrong, so they will choose to ignore or criticize the child to correct the mistake, but for the child, such a correction method is better than not correcting, otherwise it will make the child's heart more uncomfortable.

To know the importance of leading by example, if you say that your parents do not recognize your mistakes, then your children will definitely not actively correct their mistakes, don't always complain that children don't recognize their mistakes, because they are learning from you, I hope that all parents will correct them in time after finding out that they have made mistakes, the more this way, the more children can learn some better qualities, and they will not see the mistakes and go directly to avoid, and dare not admit their mistakes, dare not correct their mistakes. When the child makes a mistake, I hope that the parents can also be able to actively guide, instead of hitting you over and over again sarcastically, those ugly accusations will only make the child more and more depraved, and it is possible to find that it is not right not to always dislike your child so much, when you fail the child will come to see you, it should not be that they are comforting you.

Parents should have the courage to apologize to their children, admit their mistakes in the wrongs, and don't feel embarrassed to admit their mistakes to their children; secondly, to apologize for renting a mountain, there must be an apologetic attitude and sincerity; Moreover, telling the child that criticism does not mean that he does not love him, it is that he hopes to be better.

Some parents feel that it is embarrassing to admit their mistakes in front of their children, but in fact, this is a mistake and a mistake, if they do something wrong, they should be brave enough to admit their mistakes in front of their children.

Why do some parents feel embarrassed to admit their mistakes in front of their children, but Hongcha Zheng Neng's parents just can't pull down their sons, Qingyu, I think it's a bit inappropriate to admit mistakes in front of their children.

Many parents feel that their years of respect are already very big, and if they apologize in front of their children, they will feel very faceless, so they are particularly embarrassed.

Because we are parents and older than children, it will feel very shameful to admit mistakes, and of course there will be some embarrassment.

It is because parents have their own faces, and some parents may have some machismo, so Juedan has to admit his mistakes in front of his children.

Because parents are very good-looking, they feel that they should not admit their mistakes in front of their children, and they feel very embarrassed.

The reason why some parents find it difficult to admit their mistakes in front of their children is that I think it is because they are not used to it.

Why do some parents feel embarrassed to admit their mistakes in front of their children?

In fact, the educational effect of this punitive education method also varies from person to person. For some children, it will be effective, but for some children, it will not be effective. It can even cause further aversion to learning and doing homework.

So don't think that punishments like watching TV all night and playing cards all night will be effective for your child. In fact, regardless of whether it is effective or not, this kind of punitive education is enough once, and continuing to repeat it will only make this punitive education lose the meaning of education itself, and even cause antagonism between children and parents.

Of course, for children who are self-motivated and know honor and disgrace, it is enough to have this time, because this time is a kind of lesson for the child, and it will benefit him for life.

The child's mother said that it is still effective for the time being, and she is not sure how long this lesson will last, and she will find the root cause later.

There is no assessment system for parenthood.

Educating children is not a simple trifle either.

Every child's personality and thinking patterns are different.

But only love is constant.

The purpose of education.

After all, I hope they can become a better version of themselves.

In the process.

The family leak is also learning and growing along the way.

Because the child has a very good face, the child feels that he is very ashamed after making a mistake, so he is unwilling to admit his mistakes, the reason behind it is that parents have very high requirements for their children, and always hope that their children will become very good, and children will be punished by parents after making mistakes, and children have no sense of responsibility so they are unwilling to admit their mistakes.

This may be due to the fact that the child is afraid to admit his mistake and thinks that it is not his responsibility. Therefore, parents should pay attention to guidance, and should also let children take the initiative to take responsibility for their own responsibilities and mistakes. The reason behind this is due to the fact that family education is not in place, and school education is not in place.

Because the child feels that after admitting the mistake, the parent will punish him somewhat. Because the child does not want to take some responsibility, the child wants to better defend himself, the parent's punishment of the child is not particularly good, and the child does not recognize some of his mistakes.