Why don t victims of domestic violence choose to leave their families?

In today's highly civilized society, domestic violence is already not allowed, in fact, looking back when we were young, every family may have such a thing as domestic violence, it can only be said that the society is progressing, for these low-quality incidents, has been gradually reduced.

Around us, there is still a small amount of domestic violence, and the reason why those victims do not choose to leave the family where they are subjected to domestic violence is because of their children。I think most parents are reluctant to end this marriage for the sake of their children. When I was a child, my mother often told me that if it weren't for me and my brother, maybe I would have divorced my father a long time ago, and I would have endured this life and passed, in fact, this is a kind of mother's selfless behavior.

I even suggest that these mothers who have suffered domestic violence, in order for their children to have a better environment for growth, it is better to divorce earlier, because the child lives in this atmosphere of domestic violence all day long, which will have a certain impact on his personality.

I had a friend close to me who was still in his 40s and still unmarried, and I once talked to him about why he was so resistant to divorce, and he said that when he was a child, his dad used to beat her mom. So he didn't want to get married, because marriage was a fear for him.

He used to live in such a family atmosphere, he didn't want himself and his children to go down this path again, he would rather live better alone. This is all a shadow that has been caused psychologically, so those who are victims of domestic violence are for their children. It's not exactly a kind of love, but a kind of torture, when you encounter domestic violence, you must pick up the law to protect yourself.

eachIndividuals have their own favorite lifestyle, I don't know if you can understand my words, because everyone needs a process of adaptation in the process of life, so the reason why those who are abused by domestic violence do not choose to leave the family is that he has become accustomed to such a lifestyle. If he really felt very painful when he was subjected to domestic violence, he still chose to forgive when it was over, because he had fully adapted to such a lifestyle. There is also the fact that he feels that he still doesn't want to give up the family than being subjected to domestic violence.

Many outsiders can't understand why you don't choose to divorce when you're already in a lot of pain. In that case, wouldn't you be able to get out of the sea of suffering? So much so that some people who were subjected to domestic violence finally had no way to make everyone understand, resulting in him being misunderstood by everyone.

In fact, if this thing does not happen to us, we will never be able to empathize. So don't blame other people's lifestyles, because it can't be the same way everyone lives, right, so be more understanding of others. <>

Sometimes I wonder why my mom is always accommodating to my dad, and sometimes I can't stand it, why do I have to be like this. But my mom was willing to do that, and once I asked my mom why she didn't choose to say something she didn't want to do at all, and she said that when two people live together, one always has to accommodate the other. Because it is impossible for two people to agree every time.

Later, when I thought about it, I felt that what my mother said was also right. But I really feel like when I'm in a relationship, I feel like the two of us have the same opinion every time. I never have a conflict over some trivial things.

Later, my mother said that in fact, he was willing to accommodate you every time, and then let you not find out, so that you felt that the two of you had the same opinion. <>

So please respect everyone's choice in marriage.

Domestic violence, also known as domestic violence, refers to the mental or physical harm caused by a family member to the other party through beating, verbal abuse, cold violence and other means.

Domestic violence is terrible, and it has a poor impact on each other and on children. Some people ask, so why put up with it? So why not leave this family and open the sky?

Things are not so simple, perhaps the new generation of intellectual women know how to use the law to protect their rights and interests, and would rather leave than continue to endure it, but the phenomenon of domestic violence does not only happen to urban women, but also in China's wider and more far-reaching rural areas, domestic violence is even more serious, but these women who get up early and work late every day to make a living do not know how to get themselves out of the sea of suffering.

This has a lot to do with traditional thinking, our old tradition is that men are inferior to women, and they are not superior in terms of physical strength. In ancient times, women were subordinate to men, and there were no status rights to speak of.

My uncle and aunt is a very vivid example, when I was young, I had a hard time, I couldn't eat enough taro, I worked all day long, I got up at one or two o'clock in the morning to soak beans and fish for beans, and at four or five o'clock I started to make tofu skin, and my small business was a diligent and happy life, my uncle was the landowner of the family, and the early work was always done by the eldest mother, often not well, or scolded by the beating, once one day it snowed heavily, the eldest mother did not do anything well, and the big night was whipped by the uncle, and she cried and shouted: "Xiaohua is going to kill me" ran to the mill without clothes on.

In this kind of difficult years, the two of them just make do with their lives, and once the eldest mother leaves the uncle, it is impossible to marry again, so they can only live by themselves, and they also have three daughters and a son, and they are reluctant to have children. That's how I made up and made up the peace.

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Because they may all have their own children, they don't want to leave their children, and children are also their last bottom line, let them stay in this family life.

Victims of domestic violence do not choose to leave their families, most of them because of their children, and they do not want their children to have an incomplete family.

The main reason is that I am reluctant, I usually have children, and if the child does not have a mother, there is no way to live, and I am afraid that I will not be able to face life anymore. So endure and endure.

Because I have my own children in my family, and I don't want to leave my children at all, I want to endure domestic violence.

may really love each other very much, maybe they can't let go of this relationship at all, and maybe the two of them already have children, so they haven't left the family.

Because it is inseparable, victims of domestic violence are generally relatively vulnerable.

This is because Chang Liquid Limb has some victims of domestic violence, and he doesn't realize the seriousness of the matter at all, and always has a fluke mentality, wanting to give the other party a chance to endure the world, so he didn't choose to leave the family.

It should be that there is a problem with their run-in, and Shen Mo is speculating about each other with complex feelings. Domestic violence in the name of love, enduring violence in the name of providing a complete family for the child. It's better to say that they are unwilling and dare not Kuanhe Dou to change their lives.

Why not leave? It should be that there is a problem with their run-in, and they are all using complex feelings to speculate on each other. Domestic violence in the name of love, in the name of providing a complete family for children, to endure violence.

It's better to say that they don't want to change their lives.

I believe everyone has observed such a phenomenon, many people will not choose to leave the family after being subjected to domestic violence, this is because they still have corresponding feelings for their other half, so even if the other party beats them, they still will not choose to leave. Another reason is that because there is a child between the two people, if this brother makes a fuss and leaves at a time, the child will have no mother, and many female friends are reluctant to leave their children. <>

Domestic violence is a very common behavior in life, and it can also reflect the hatefulness of the abuser. But some young friends will choose to flee, and some people will still stay in their original families, but this is obviously to give the other party the corresponding cognition, so the number of violent behaviors in the next will become more and more frequent, and each time it is heavier. In fact, these people also know the consequences of not fleeing, but the reason for such behavior is the mentality of the Holy Mother, thinking that if you continue to stay by the other person's side, then you can change the abuser and save the abuser.

The second kind of psychology is the psychology of dependence, because of the long-term violence by the other party, it leads to a state of self-isolation, so it will be particularly dependent on its own family. And in their ideology, they think that once they leave their family or their other half, then it will be more dangerous outside. The last psychology is that because you have no financial ability, once you leave the family, then you don't have any financial **, so things like food, housing and your own expenses will be affected.

But no matter what, because of these three psychology, many people's happiness has been buried, so I want to suggest that when you encounter violent behavior, you must take out the law to protect yourself. If you think about the child, you should take the child to escape from the family together, so as to effectively change the child's personality and psychology, and also make the child's life happier.

Because Tuanjube has a very deep entanglement between domestic abusers and domestic abusers, the domestic abusers sometimes collapse and dismantle when they are good and sometimes bad, which affects the emotions of the domestic abused people, and makes the domestic abused people fall into a contradictory psychological state.

For victims of domestic violence, the reason why they do not choose to leave the family is because of their children, who feel that if they leave the family, the children will be greatly harmed.

Because they feel that if they leave the family, they will lose their children, and they will not know where to go when they leave the family, which is very sad.

It is because these victims are nostalgic for their former selves and their former family life, and they also think that sooner or later they will not be like this, so they will not leave their current family.

The main reason is that Xiangsui has formed a special psychology, and she has been scared, so she doesn't dare to leave this family at all, and she doesn't dare to resist.

It's that they're out of line with society, and they're very afraid of society, they don't have any ability to survive, and their personalities are very weak.

The Three Wisdom Stages of Domestic Violence:

1. The first cycle is long, accompanied by frequent mild violence, the husband constantly shows hostility and anger towards his wife, and occasionally does something to his wife, but this degree is very mild.

2. In the second cycle, there is frequent serious violence between husband and wife, and the husband's temper is completely out of control, and he will do something to his wife when he encounters unhappy things, which is even a very common behavior.

3. In the third cycle, the violent husband sincerely repents of his violent behavior, and even buys flowers and expensive gifts to ask for forgiveness, and promises not to do it again.

01, for the sake of children.

Most women, after being subjected to domestic violence, do not leave the family for a long time, thinking about the child, the child is still young, leaving the child, afraid that the man will not take good care of it, take it away, and the man will not let it, so for the sake of the child, they will endure the humiliation and bear the burden, and endure it day by day, this idea does not change the man's continued domestic violence, and will only get worse and worse.

02, afraid of losing face Many women think that divorce is a very disgraceful thing, afraid that after their divorce, others will point fingers behind their and their mother's family, and they will not be able to get over their face, and they feel very ashamed.

03. Have a traditional concept of marriage.

Most women who do not choose divorce in domestic violence have traditional concepts, they have always believed that love and marriage should be the same, and even at some times they do not consider divorce as one of the options, which is a characteristic of this part of women. It is precisely because this part of women has a traditional concept of marriage, so even if her predecessors have suffered a lot of grievances in marriage, they are willing to give their husbands a certain opportunity and are willing to maintain a marriage relationship with their husbands, which is a very bitter thing. Although this concept of marriage is conducive to the development of feelings, for these women, if they find that their husbands often commit domestic violence against themselves, they should still think more about themselves at this time, and many times do not let themselves be immersed in grievances.

I feel that the reason why these victims don't want their families to worry is that they have been enduring it alone, but this is really not good. Zitong Buji will be greatly damaged.

Because they have their own fierce hermit children, and the children are important to a family, and the children are also the pillars of the family, so this situation will occur.

Probably because of the child, because he doesn't want the child to live alone, and he doesn't want the child to suffer this pain.

It is because they feel that if they leave, their parents will definitely be affected, and they also understand the emotions of the other party, so they do not choose to leave.