Why I enjoy living in the big city?

Would you rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bike?

It's because of their dreams, it's easier to realize their dreams in that first-tier city

The main reason why people in the city are struggling is because they don't give up on their dreams.

Maybe you have feelings for that place, or maybe you're used to the rhythm of life there.

They are also determined to fulfill their dreams, even if life is tiring.

Maybe I think that going back will make people look down on me, so I can only hold on.

The main reason why they are willing to persist is that they don't want to go back to being farmers.

There are pros and cons.

This is not official rhetoric, but the experience gained from many years of practice.

Let's start with small cities:

The advantages are: abundant network resources, familiar environment, comfortable urban life, and effortless work.

The disadvantages are: almost all work is more related than ability, and ability may not be able to be displayed and reused; Life is too leisurely and leads to laziness, often does not use the brain and leads to rigid thinking, and work too effortlessly leads to a longer adaptation period for changing jobs in the future.

Let's talk about big cities:

The advantages are: broad vision, many job opportunities, ability to be developed, clear development goals, motivation to struggle, active thinking, and extensive friends.

The disadvantage is: too many talents lead to the selection of the best of the best, it is easy to find a job, but it is difficult to find a suitable and good job. The pace of life is accelerating, and excessive focus on work leads to sub-health status.

The frustration is stronger when you are overworked or frustrated than in a small city, because you feel that choosing to develop in a big city is a failed decision.

Actually, I was also born in a small city, but it has been 10 years since I left my hometown, I still like life in a big city, although I have had hardships, failures, and hardships, but we are still young, all of which are our experiences and our wealth. In other words, if I return to my hometown now, I can quickly adapt to the work and work very well, but on the other hand, if my friends from my hometown come to Beijing to develop, first, I have to have the courage to do it, and second, even if I come out, it is still a question of whether I can adapt to it.

To sum up, it depends on how you choose, if you want to choose a comfortable and tiring life, stay in a small city, if you want to choose a wonderful but tiring life, go to Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou!

You just have to think about the house, do you still dare to go to the big city? At most, I have to go back to a small city for a few years, after all, I want to get married and have children, unless I have outstanding ability to buy a house in a big city and settle down, those who rent a house and get married are not realistic, and it is a problem for children to go to school when they are older.

In a larger city, you will exercise yourself, let yourself know more about the ugliness and gorgeousness of this world, and life in a smaller city will be very fulfilling, I suggest, if you feel that your stamina is good enough, strong enough, go to the big city!

Why, like in rural areas, young people in county towns and small prefecture-level cities have gone out to work? In fact, most young people in small cities go to big cities such as provincial capitals to work as unskilled general laborers, and they can't earn a little money, so isn't it good for them to stay in small cities or county seats?

When you are young, you can go to the big city to break through, and when you are old, you can go back to your hometown, which is a very pleasant thing. It's impossible to be too young

Me too. What are you. I'm out of love.

Why? There is no obstacle in the world that cannot be overcome.

People should struggle to live and provide a theme for memories when they are old.

Many times you will find that you are actually struggling to survive when you go back to your hometown.

In fact, the pressure on my hometown is also great. When you go back to your hometown, you have to consider buying a house, buying a car, marrying a daughter-in-law, (if you are a girl, then ignore me) If you go back to your hometown, after all, your parents are by your side, and you can take care of your parents more. There may be fewer job opportunities than in big cities (first-tier cities), but there are some that you can do very well.

It doesn't mean that there is no future for development when you go back to your hometown.

All work is stressful, all work can be developed well, Self-employed Q user: Anonymous user.

The vast majority of people who come out to work are running for the high wages and employment opportunities in the city! Do you think it's hard to live in the city, how good can it be if you don't have money or background at home? It's better to stay in the city and create opportunities for yourself!

Good luck! From a professional Q user: An anonymous user.

There are probably several reasons for this:

First, it has an independent economic base. In everyday life, if you look closely, you can see that there are now women in many positions, such as police officers, engineers, scientists, and so on. This indirectly reflects the fact that with the development of society, the status of women has become higher.

Many girls have an independent job that allows them to support themselves. Since he can solve the problem of food, clothing, housing and transportation on his own, he does not obey his parents as he did in the past in terms of feelings. Rather, they have their own autonomy.

Second, social inclusion has been strengthened. In recent times, many countries have publicly stated that gay marriage is legal and free. It can be seen that in this society, there is a greater tolerance for different thoughts and different feelings.

Therefore, even if a woman does not get married when she reaches the marriageable age, she will not be condemned or looked down upon by others as before. Usually, you can observe the school-age girls around you, and you will find that if you don't get married, their parents will not force them, at most they will nag a few words.

Third, be more open-minded. With the popularization of education in the country, many girls have begun to realize that they can have a greater right, that is, to decide whether to marry or not. It is no longer limited to the old concept of marriage, that is, girls must find a good man in order to have a good future.

However, in reality, it is often the unstable factors in life that are brought about by marriage. Some highly educated women are more reluctant to compromise on their marriage choices, so they will not rush to find someone to marry, but go with the flow and wait for the favorite person to appear.

Why are young people now increasingly reluctant to get married? Is life too stressful or not meeting someone like you've been working with for a lifetime?

The fundamental reason for people who don't want to get married is the family of origin.

1. I've seen too many misfortunes.

Either from the friends around me, or from my parents, because I have seen too many cases of failure, I am seriously aware of the consequences of unhappiness in marriage, and it is because I have personally felt the painful consequences, so I am afraid in my heart! Fear that I too will become one of the unfortunate ones in the future. Because I have seen too much indifference to human feelings, I have completely lost confidence in marriage!

2. There is a shadow in my heart.

The so-called shadow in the heart refers to a person's childhood experience, a kind of struggle of parents for marriage, and all unhappy marriages will inevitably break out many fierce quarrels, and behind all quarrels, the most affected is nothing more than children. Because he was still in childhood, his heart's ability to bear it was not enough to accept all this, so he left an indelible shadow in his heart at a very young age, and then he did not dare to get married.

Because the current marriage is too fragile to withstand the wind and rain; Nowadays, people are also less optimistic about marriage.

I think there is a saying that is true, "I live well alone, why should I get married to bind myself?" "This reminds me of a very popular phrase on the Internet: Is it that mobile phones are not fun, or that TV series are not good?

Why should I fall in love? Although there are some jokes in the words, they also reflect the current young people's view of marriage.

In fact, the reason why young people do not get married is not because they are afraid of taking on family responsibilities, but because of the current society. Take boys as an example, in the traditional concept of our country, men are responsible for earning money to support the family and are the pillars of a family.

But the vast majority of today's young people have one thing in common: poverty. The wages I earn every month are barely enough to support myself, let alone my wife and children.

Coupled with the current deformed high housing prices and high bride price, it makes the boys miserable. I just live alone, I can't even think about getting married or something.

Because the price to pay for marriage is too great now, it is better to live a good life alone.

Nowadays, when young people get married, it is basically the man who buys the house, and the housing prices in the first and second-tier cities discourage many boys from ordinary families.

I can't get a high down payment, and the repayment pressure of the loan is still great, even if I buy a house, the decoration money has not yet been settled. If all this is done, there will be a bride price, a wedding banquet, wedding photos, etc. As for boys in third- and fourth-tier cities and even rural areas, the house is not the main pressure, but the high bride price discourages them, ranging from tens of thousands to hundreds of thousands, which scares off many boys.

The material pressure makes the boys feel a lot of pressure, and those who can buy a house in full are basically the second generation of the rich, who can pay the down payment loan to buy a house, and those who have a very good job and can afford the bride price, which is a relatively superior family situation. However, most boys come from ordinary backgrounds, and in the face of huge material pressure, they have a fear of marriage.

There are 1% of people in the world who want to be single aristocrats, but there are many reasons for other people who don't want to get married, for women may have been immersed in the beauty of love, and it will deteriorate when they get married, and some people are afraid of getting married, because the people around them who are married are tragic endings, and some people would rather be single than settled, for men, the responsibility and pressure of marriage are getting bigger and bigger, and the economic ability is not reached, and there is the scumbag's unmarriageism, just want to enjoy, and then there is resistance to love and marriage, Over time, I rejected them, and I just wanted to make money, and the above are my own views, don't spray if you don't like it, thank you!

Now being single is more happy for women, they don't have to worry about family trivialities, they don't have to think about the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and they don't have to raise children. The main thing is a change in perception.

Now it is difficult to find a suitable person to accompany you for life, plus a series of problems such as a house, you don't want to get married.

Maybe it's because I haven't met the person I like, or maybe I think it's good not to get married, and I don't want to be limited by marriage.

Maybe it's because of my financial pressure and I don't want to get married early.

Because the cost of marriage is too high now, and there is no guarantee that they can give each other a good life after marriage.

The main reason is that the man is to pass on the lineage, I decided anyway that I can't meet a particularly good one, not to see that he is super rich, and in other aspects, if there is no single, not to mention that it is okay to be a woman without me.

After getting married, there are too many entanglements, and how chic you are when you are alone.

I don't want to get married, but I want to have children of my own, and I haven't met anyone I like. I will also worry about being lonely and old, and I can't make do with it, which is infinite entanglement.

It's because of the reality of women! Don't talk about social reality!!

Because there is a utilitarian nature in marriage; A better model is dedication and understanding.

1. The reason why you don't want to get married - the marriage is utilitarian and the feelings are not pure.

Marriage is the act of forming a husband and wife relationship between men and women, and is the foundation and symbol of the establishment of a family, and the essence of marriage lies in its social nature, that is, marriage is established in accordance with certain laws, ethics and customs, and the relationship between husband and wife is a specific interpersonal relationship and social relationship.

The act of marriage depends on the "marital motive", which is not only sexual and emotional needs, but also includes economic considerations. This shows that marriage is actually a social act, utilitarian.

In real life, you can't have both fish and bear's paws, and most people will "give up the fish and take the bear's paws", and from a long-term perspective, stable economic ability is far more real than unreliable feelings. Since this is the case, if such an idea arises, then non-marriage and divorce will inevitably arise.

2. A better model than marriage – devotion and understanding.

I think a better model than marriage is "giving" and "understanding". Emotional stability lies in "human self-control" and "sense of responsibility", dedication to others without expecting anything in return.

The basic tendency of love is dedication, from the heart, to help the loved one do all the things he expects, so before entering the marriage, you can think about whether you can do this requirement, with dedication, there will inevitably be "sacrifice".

Before getting married, if you feel that it is unacceptable to make "sacrifices" for your own life, then do not enter into marriage, which has both self-consideration and cost needs; Such considerations are not selfishness, but "profit maximization".

Just like a man for his own career, he is reluctant to get married or marry late, for this, once he gets married, many career things can not be done, and he will inevitably delay a lot of energy for the sake of the family.

When all aspects are ripe and after thinking clearly, you can also make "dedication" to your partner, and entering marriage is the best choice. In addition to giving, "understanding" is also needed in marriage, dedication alone is not enough, one person blindly dedicates, and the other person does not understand, but relies on and takes in every way, such a marriage will also be balanced.