Afraid of bad popularity? What is the reason for bad popularity?

I also had your thoughts, what should I do if I am not popular, what if no one likes me? I used to be a revision student, and in the year I was reviewing, there was a girl who told others behind my back that I was too straight and didn't like me. When I heard what she had to say about me, I was devastated.

I'm not a positive and optimistic person, so I can't think about it, and I'm always afraid that people won't like me, even when I'm with my best friends, I'm afraid that they won't like me anymore.

But I think about it now, yes, good popularity is very important, but it is not the most important thing, and it is not worth worrying about your popularity all day long. You have more important things to do, think about your dreams, the value of your life, is it to make others like you? Besides, other people's opinions of you are not objective, it is their subjective evaluation of you, which may be wrong.

As long as you think you are right, don't care about what others say about you, if it's wrong, you have to take the initiative to apologize, so that even if you offend someone, you can get it back. In this way, your popularity will also be better.

When you are worried about your popularity again, you think about something that is more important in your heart than popularity, and something that you will regret if you don't do it, so that you will no longer worry about popularity.

How do you get good popularity? You treat others with your sincerity, if the other party doesn't appreciate it, you don't have to care, this doesn't mean that your popularity is not good, it can only mean that that person's popularity is not good, such a person doesn't have to have a good relationship with him. In addition, don't try to please others in order to make your popularity better, which will make you appear unassertive and will not be respected by others.

Also, you will worry that your popularity is not good, which means that you care about other people's feelings, and the person who cares about other people's feelings is the best person, and I believe that your popularity must be good.

Okay, that's all, maybe it didn't go to your heart. You can talk to your friends on a regular basis, and it will be nice to do so.

Relationships come through slowly, and people accept that you need to know you. Time and communication ==OK

1. Devote yourself to the cause, have partners, but may not have friends, distinguish between public and private, and do not recognize the six relatives.

They don't make friends at all, they only talk about interests, there are no permanent friends only permanent interests, he may not have friends around him, but he doesn't regard them as friends, he clearly knows that friends are unreliable, or the most reliable cooperation of interests. Making friends, tired by friendships, can't focus on careers. For example, some workaholics, some artists, some technologists, they focus on their careers and don't make friends.

2. It may be that the personality is too eccentric.

People with too eccentric personalities can't communicate with anyone, and it's unbearable. In the eyes of others, it seems to be a monster, as if it is an alien, as if it is a strange thing. Or too selfish, self-centered.

Never put others in your eyes, friends and you will get more or less hurt and indifferent, so after a long time, friends will naturally be lost.

It may also be that the temper is too strong and too violent, and they quarrel and quarrel when they disagree, and they don't know how to be flexible. A straight personality is a good thing, but it is necessary to respect others and respect their different opinions and feelings. If you are too contentious, your words are too choking, and it is reasonable to lose friends.

3. There are friends but others can't see them.

There is a group of people who have no major problems in themselves, but they just don't like to make friends generally, at most they have two or three confidants, and they don't get together often. Then others don't see it and think that he doesn't have any friends, and it's almost none anyway. Mainly online contact, normal people, a little bit of a problem, a little advantage or something, there will always be a few friends.

Whether it's a respected person or something else, there will always be a few friends by your side.