Am I doing this is my problem? I was always afraid of being ostracized

When you are self-reliant, your friends are like shadows, and the state of the day is changing, and it is often absent at noon, because the sun is strong and direct.

People are like this, when you are strong, you don't deliberately pursue friends.

When you need it, like when the sun is slanting, friends are always there for you.

I wish you early self-improvement and self-reliance. Happy and happy every day!

As long as you are good to others, you will let the rest be, and if you have the best of yourself, you will not be afraid of anything if you have her to share with you.

It's not your problem at all, the more you are like this, the more you give others the feeling that you are not good, but that you are a tool, a tool that brings convenience to others, and the more you are like this, the less they will think of you, and they will only think of you when they encounter problems. College is not like high school or junior high school, it is very complicated, it is not what you think you can get true friends by pleasing you, and friends do not need to please or help do a lot of things to maintain, it is complementary in character, it is a feeling, if you blindly pay it will have the opposite effect, don't be afraid, the most important thing is to be true to yourself, don't live for others, live for yourself, so that you will have true friends, and friends are to appreciate each other's shining points, good people are easy to be bullied, If you can be yourself, people who can appreciate you will be attracted to you, those who don't appreciate you don't need to care about their feelings, because it's not worth it, I hope you can change it, because it will be more complicated in the future, if you still face it with this mentality, you can only get benefits in the end but be plotted, it's not worth it, I hope you can think about it.

If you are that kind of person, just accept that kind of real life, otherwise can you open up a new situation? It will always be shining, the road knows the horsepower, and the people will see the hearts of the people for a long time, so you will maintain your character, and when you meet friends who can appreciate each other in the future, isn't it better than asking for a little bit now, giving you face on the surface, and asking for a little "friendliness" that is not too real?

To live is to have self-esteem, and I think that's why people want to reject you. And the classmate who wants to be good, if she doesn't help you, you don't have to help her, I remember that the dormitory is two people together, and the two people who are often together can get along very well, they sometimes have to be together, otherwise they will be alone, interpersonal relationships sometimes don't have to be too serious, find someone who can eat in the canteen with you, I think studies are more important.

The world is very big, there are many unknown things, and the pursuit of feelings, who can win the hearts and ...... of people all over the world

The hardest thing for me is the strong sense of doubt and uncertainty about myself. My mother rarely gave me encouragement or comfort, just scolding, scolding, scolding in elementary school? I didn't have many friends in elementary school, because I was introverted, and I didn't want to play the shuttlecock kicking that girls loved, and the only fun was to read, and there were almost no colleagues.

So it has hardly been affirmed by the outside world. But the personality is very strong, and I secretly accumulate all the loneliness and grievances I have experienced into a force, and I want to rebel against the environment's disapproval of me. So my grades in junior high school were top-notch, and I gradually became a little more confident, and I had more friends than in elementary school.

But I still have low self-esteem in my heart. Because I saw that others had good girlfriends, I kept chattering, but I was alone, and I was still scared in my heart, afraid that I didn't have friends because I was not good enough, or ** different from others. I regard my friends as a measure of myself, and if my friends are a little indifferent or distant, I am afraid that I have done something wrong again.

This sense of uncertainty comes from my mother, who is always afraid that my friends will suddenly turn around because of some detail I overlooked. But I don't know what I can and can't do, maybe others may not accept me if I do this, so I cater everywhere, I say yes yes to what others say, and I am also a little polite to good friends. When I'm chatting with a friend, my attention is not on the content of the conversation, I'm watching her reaction to my every word to see if I'm saying something wrong.

This whole process is accompanied by "uncertainty" and "no standard". This uncertainty is really tiring. I don't know what's in this world, and I'm constantly adjusting but I still can't seem to fit in.

What do I think is most dear? I can't tell, but I know that I have had many lows over the years, but it seems that there has always been a fire burning in my heart, and I am just unwilling, I just want to stand at the top and look down on the people who have questioned me. I used to draw a picture of a girl in a white dress standing alone in a deep well, the water reaching her calves, looking up at a green grass outside the well, holding a sickle in her hand.

Every time I feel sad, I feel like I'm standing in the well, and I can't tell whether it's a yearning for light or a desire for revenge on that green grass. I can't tell who I want to take revenge on (this word is a bit heavy), but I really want to have a place to vent my loneliness for more than ten years. This fire in my heart has sustained me to this point, reminding me that I still have myself when I feel like I have nothing.

Speaking of helping myself, I've been partially relieved after being exposed to psychology, seeing the influence of my mom growing up, and not so much haunted by the past. People are also slowly releasing their cheerful side. But there is still a deep sense of insecurity, a confusion of values.

If I had a lot of friends to talk to, I wouldn't worry so much about whether I was doing something wrong, but I don't have many friends, and it often makes me feel lonely. I'm just trying to find a way to live comfortably, to be able to make friends with people I admire, not to be hated, to be appreciated, to be accepted.

Everything has its own mental field, which can also be interpreted as an outward aura of the subconscious state. For example, when you want to catch an animal, it will predict your location (flies, etc.) in advance, and a good hunter will know to treat the prey with a normal mind.

All, you feel that everyone has opinions about you and always avoids you, then the feeling of doing things and talking at this time will make everyone feel uncomfortable and want to leave you.

Friend, I suggest you think about it in a different way. Be cheerful and treat everyone, not to please or be careful to be peaceful. In the beginning, you can deliberately try to treat someone, imagine that he doesn't hate you, imagine that he likes you, likes to talk to you, likes to share your secrets with you, and so on.

Try to do it, provided that you treat it cheerfully and don't scare people, hehe. Take your time, it'll be fine. Remember, treat others with kindness, and there will always be people who treat you with kindness.

Hello, this should be your psychological problem, it is impossible for everyone to look at you differently, you have to overcome the role of the heart, calm your mind, if there is still no way to adjust, just talk to those people, maybe the problem will be solved!

Sometimes it's not necessarily that others really ignore you, it may be that you pay too much attention to this, everyone is busy, why should others pay attention to you and take care of you at all times. You have to find some hobbies and interests, make your life fuller, don't care what other people look at, they have nothing to do with you, it doesn't matter if others pay attention to you or not, as long as you believe in yourself, and wait for the day you make achievements, maybe more people will pay attention to you! Step up your game.

Is it your own psychological problem? If you want to trust others and give yourself self-confidence, you really can't see a psychiatrist.

I'm the same way, so I stay alone watching TV and surfing the Internet, and my life goes by.

...Normal, we've had it too.