What to do when your child is frustrated by rejection

What should parents do if their child is rejected.

In general, there are generally two reasons: one is that children of 3 to 6 years old already have a certain social consciousness and have a desire for "independence". He wants to do something on his own, and he has a sense of self, and he begins to feel disgusted with the arrangement and blind manipulation of adults, and he wants to "resist" the manipulation of adults, and try to solve some things independently by himself.

However, due to his ability to take and lack of social knowledge and experience, and the wrong way to solve problems, he is often prone to self-defeating, and when his wishes cannot be realized, he will be anxious and lose his temper.

Another reason is that the adult forces him to do something, and he will not accept it, but the adult insists on him doing it, so he uses a tantrum to vent his dissatisfaction. Naturally, there is another situation, some parents are overly pampered and accustomed to raising their children, as long as the child loses his temper, he will achieve any wish of the child, and over time, the child has figured out the psychological state of the adult, and will threaten the adult according to the tantrum in order to meet their own requirements.

The best way to help your child get rid of tantrums is to reduce or avoid the chance of tantrums before they happen. For example, for the first reason, parents should be bold and let their children do something meaningful or deal with some problems alone. When your child encounters difficulties, you can give some specific guidance in moderation.

For the second reason, parents need to pay attention not to force their children to do what they are not willing to do, and can convince people with reason, move people with emotion, and attract him to do it willingly. For the unscientific requirements of the child, it is necessary to show him why he can not achieve his great truth, or use other things to divert the child's attention and make him temporarily forget his own requirements.

When the child has a tantrum, the adult can also use cold and violent methods, ignore the child, and wait for his mentality to gradually stabilize, and then talk to him about what is wrong with him doing that. Parents should be principled, not because the child has a temper tantrum, give up their appropriate ideas, coax and hug the child, and follow the child's beliefs, which can only promote his arrogance and indulgence. Parents stick to their principles, and after a long time, children will understand that what parents persevere in will not change because of themselves, and tantrums are futile.

When the child has a tantrum, parents can also use the method of diverting attention to attract the child to turn his attention to other content, and then carry out cultural education after stabilizing the mood. It is worth noting that when a child loses his temper, parents should not lose his temper and make the child more impatient, so that not only the differences cannot be handled, but the child will be negatively affected and his temperament will become bigger and bigger. Parents should be able to endure the lonely temper, go from shallow to deep, and slowly help their children correct the bad habit of tantrums.

There are some children who are very cute on the outside, but they have a very big temperament, and if something goes wrong with his heart, whether at home or outside, he can make a big fuss and make his parents feel helpless. There are many reasons for a child's emotional instability, and parents can treat them separately depending on the situation.

At this time, you should reason with your child and tell your child that he should not lose his temper often in life, because it will make parents particularly annoying, and in the end he will not be able to meet his child's requirements.

Parents should communicate with their children, give correct guidance to their children, teach them to evacuate their emotions, and can also take their children to participate in social practice activities, so that children can experience that this is the most normal thing, and let children slowly begin to accept this psychologically.

I think we should change his character, don't get used to him, slowly I will change, don't spoil him.

You should also criticize your child fiercely, so that the child knows that his behavior is very wrong, and it will bring a lot of bad meaning, and he will encounter a lot of problems in his growth.

Hello, in this case, you can explain to the child that you are not his nanny, you are his friend My family treasure is the same, I told him, you are not my servant, I am your friend. He's much better now, and I told him, if somebody wants you, don't say yes, you say, okay, I don't agree, you're my friend, and if you want to play with them, I'll play with you In this case, I think you have to tell your child, don't be afraid to reject others, you can tell him, you can refuse him, but you can tell him that you are not his servant, don't be afraid of him, you can tell him, you can refuse him, but you can tell him that you are not his servant, and I will tell him, If somebody doesn't want you anymore, you tell him, okay, I don't want you, you're my friend. Okay, thank you, you're welcome.

Problem analysis: In the process of growing up, children will encounter a lot of setbacks, which is very normal. Guidance Recommendations:

You can refuse someone, but you can tell him that you are not his servant, don't be afraid of him, you can tell him, you can refuse him, but you can tell him that you are not his servant.

Parents must pay attention to the state of the child after the child is rejected and do not let the child feel that he has been hit hard. If the child is very decadent after suffering rejection, then parents must pay attention to the positive guidance of the child, only in this way can the child face the future life with a better attitude. If parents do not pay attention to making children make some mistakes when educating their children, then the children's future lives will also be affected accordingly.

There are many children who can't accept the blow and can't accept the rejection when they are very young, so once the child is rejected, then the child will be very resistant, and will also do some extreme behavior. Therefore, parents should try their best to let the child face it with the right attitude, and after refusal, so that the child can better cope with some blows in life.

Some children have been rejected, and it may be very extreme in the future, because these children do not know why they are rejected, and the children have always been loved by their parents at home. Therefore, children do not know why someone rejects them, in fact, this is a typical wrong way of thinking, if children continue to be in this wrong thinking, then children are likely to have bigger problems in the future.

Parents should use the right attitude to deal with the rejection of the child, to let their children know that there is no big problem with themselves, if the child is really wrong, then parents should guide the child to correct, do not let the child fall into the extreme of thinking. If the child falls into the horns, then the child may have various problems in the future, so parents must do a good job of positive guidance for the child, only in this way can their children always maintain positive energy.

Children often have some self-defeating behavior, so pay more attention to it, because this will have a serious impact on the child's development.

If the child cries or throws something, you must pay attention, which proves that the child's psychological tolerance is relatively poor.

Signs of quarrels, crying, loss of appetite, weakness of the limbs and signs of slow development must be noted.

If your child cries or leaves in a huff, you should pay attention to your child's mental health.

Summary. If the child who asked you to help with a little shoes also complained, it means that the child is too ignorant, you can make it clear to him that the help of the shoes itself is out of the joy of helping others, due to force majeure factors such as changing the point caused both children to be late in class, as a result, everyone does not want to do this, can only say that in the future, try to do their own things by themselves, and do not entrust others to handle it, so as to save everyone unpleasant.

Hello, it's a pleasure to have you ask. First of all, parents should be careful to explain the reasons according to the things that have a dull body, and the children will be more empathetic when they know the reasons, which will help them accept the parents' requests. Secondly, parents and children do it together, and doing it together can bring the relationship between parents and children closer.

Finally, parents should summarize what they have done with their efforts and praise and thank their children.

I think that this is to explain the problem to the children and parents, and he himself entrusts you to help. It should be understandable that things happen for a reason.

It's a good thing to help others I have a good relationship with the child's parents I delay the time to run a few more times It's nothing, but this kid Cha Hengsan and my child are a little bit of a little ninety-nine 2 people The relationship is not good enough to wear a pair of pants I think I helped send this child over and let my family wait I can't figure it out Late is God doesn't give me this child to make my child wait As a result, my family is 20 minutes late The child is afraid of being late to my house.

If the child who asked you to help with a little shoes is sleepy, Wang Shi's child also has complaints, indicating that the child is too ignorant, you can make it clear to him that helping a little shoes is out of the joy of helping others, due to force majeure factors such as changing points, both children are late in class, and as a result, everyone does not want to do this, so they can only say that they will try their best to do their own things in the future, and they will not entrust others to handle it, so as to save everyone from being unhappy.

Listen to your description of that and quite a heart, let our child not get too close to him in the future, although helpfulness is a virtue, but also the other party can also have a grateful heart, can not let the answer to do good deeds to win people's hearts.

I hope mine can help you, and I hope you and your family are happy and healthy.

The environment in which the child was born has nothing to do with the economy, and the importance of each family to the child is becoming more and more obvious, so there are many people who call them "little emperors". Just like what he said before, if he is unreasonable demanding, then as a parent and guardian, he should stop and guide education from the beginning, at that time he has not cultivated such a big ability, and he can use beating to vent at once, children are also people, and they must vent if they have emotions, but the way to vent is to be correctly guided by parents, such as at the beginning, many children will use willfulness, crying, etc., or even rolling on the ground, if parents compromise at this time, he will know that this way is feasible. Because it is an unreasonable demand, so adults must take a firm stand, and cannot easily change the association, although they do not approve of parents educating their children in a repressive way, but the minimum authority must still be there.

Change yourself, use yourself as a role model for children to learn, how do you talk to your parents, what way do you usually vent when you are upset, every word, every action, the child does not say, but also in the eyes, unconsciously will have the same habits as you, this environmental education, all say that the close Zhu is red and the ink is black, here is not a derogatory meaning, which parent is not good, but the family environment you give will make the child have their own imitation of some things and some behaviors, and want to change the child, First, calm down and think about what you do.

Finally, you can let your child have a person to worship, or someone who can look up, now many people say idols, this can be the parents themselves, or some positive energy people, not to chase the star, you can also start from this aspect to guide, if you want to become that kind of person, these behaviors will not help you, what kind of quality has been in the person you worship since childhood to achieve him now, let the child want to become, don't let you establish, just don't do everything, This only works if he has an idea of his own.

These children are in a more lost mood in the morning, and at this time they will also express their dissatisfaction by crying, and sometimes they will be sullen, and they don't care about the people around them to ease things, and sometimes there will be violence, and sometimes they will resist.

After the child is rejected, his first reaction will be to roll on the ground or cry and hail, hoping to get the result he wants in this way.

Sometimes he will directly express his own special grievances, and has been asking his mother why he didn't buy it for him and why he refused.

In the end, he would cry directly, hiding in the corner and crying silently.

The child will be very depressed, and the child's love is not high, the child will cry if he is particularly fragile and Sun Xun, the child will also seek help from adults, and some children will be very angry, particularly irritable, and the mood is also very unstable. Macro this.