How to regulate my emotions, I can t control the spread of my bad emotions lately, please thank you

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Temper is one of the common psychological phenomena often encountered in daily life. Quite a number of young people are short-tempered and impulsive when encountering problems, especially when it comes to things that do not go well or that they are not accustomed to, they are often prone to anger or instigation, and sometimes they quarrel with others and say some embarrassing things, which may affect the unity among comrades or affect family harmony. There are good and bad tempers in people.

A good-tempered person will be welcomed no matter how he goes, and others like to cooperate and work with him; People with a bad temper often bring distress to themselves and others, making it difficult for others to get along with them. Surveys have found that the vast majority of young men and women make it a condition for choosing a spouse to be good-natured. We also know from experience that if there are one or two people with bad tempers in a family or a small unit where one person lives, it will often make the family or the group ununited.

Therefore, the purpose of changing bad temper is not only to eliminate personal suffering, but also to promote family harmony and strengthen collective unity. The goodness of people's temper has a lot to do with the environment in which they live and work. Good tempers such as meekness, peace, and patience are often closely related to a harmonious and warm family environment and good upbringing; Bad tempers such as irritability, stubbornness, eccentricity, and willfulness are often related to pampering, over-spoiling, or not getting the warmth of the family, and parents being too strict.

The smooth or bumpy path of an individual's life can also have a significant impact on a person's temper and character. "The country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change", which means that people's temper and character have a stable side, but it does not mean that temper and character are fixed and unchanging. We all know that some people were short-tempered when they were young, and they were as strong as an ox that did not obey their commands; But after the tempering of life, especially the loss of a bad temper, his temper gradually became calmer, and he was not so stubborn about things.

So bad temper can be changed. Of course, there are also those who do not change, and that is because he himself does not have the requirements to change his bad temper, or he has a request and does not seriously change it. So, how can you get rid of your bad temper?

First and foremost, it is important to have a good understanding of the dangers of a bad temper. In social life, we always have to contact and interact with other people, hoping to get the favor, friendship, appreciation, and cooperation of others (of course, it cannot be everyone), otherwise, we will feel lonely, lonely, lifeless, and unable to move an inch. People's behavior is regulated and controlled by consciousness, and when we understand the harm of bad temper, we can generate a demand from our hearts to change our bad temper.

Second, it is necessary to strengthen ideological cultivation. Only when we always think of others in our hearts and respect the interests and needs of others will we be warm, considerate, caring and loving to others. Only always keep in mind"Empathy", so as not to be rash and stubborn, in order to be calm and think twice.

Finally, you must have determination and perseverance to change your bad temper, and if you can't remember it today, just be cautious, and after two days, you will still be the same. As long as you have determination and perseverance, you will definitely get rid of your bad temper.

Regulating emotions is an important ability, but it can be a challenge for some people. Here are some tips to help you learn to manage your emotions, especially when you're experiencing bad ones:

2.Watch your emotions: When you're feeling high or low, try to stop and observe your emotions. Ask yourself, why do you feel this way? This can help you better understand your emotions.

4.Change your way of thinking: When you're feeling frustrated or angry, try to shift your way of thinking. Turn from the negative to the positive and look for something positive to think about. For example, when you're stuck in traffic, try listening** or enjoying the scenery.

5.Seek support: If you feel like you can't control your emotions, it's important to seek support. Talking to friends, family or professionals about your problems can help you better understand your emotions and get some advice and support.

6.Develop healthy lifestyle habits: Maintaining a healthy diet, getting enough sleep, and exercising moderately can help you better manage your emotions. These habits can improve your physical health, and physical health is closely related to mental health.

The first is the stop law. When you want to get angry, learn to "stop" in your brain, and then take three deep breaths in a row, which can make your blood pressure, heart rate, and sympathetic excitability drop rapidly, calm yourself down, and your anger disappears. When you calm down, you can go back and reflect on the cause of your anger and adjust your fluctuating emotions.

The second is abdominal breathing.

The first step is to adjust the posture so that the body is relaxed and straight.

The second step is to inhale, so that the abdomen slowly expands, bulges until it can no longer bulge, and then exhale slowly to feel the ups and downs of the abdomen; The third step is to focus on your breath and feel the cool air inhaled and the warm air exhaled.

The third is the body scanning method. Step flat on your feet, shoulder width apart from the ground, put your hands on your knees, keep your spine straight, neck straight, relax naturally, close your eyes slightly, pay attention to your breathing, from the soles of your feet little by little upwards, like a scan, feel whether your body has any pain, tension, numbness or other uncomfortable feelings, if you find discomfort, let your attention stay, take a few deep breaths. "Scan" the whole body and return your attention to your breathing.

In life, each of us will have this or that emotion, when people have bad emotions, it is recommended that friends can use the above methods to adjust their emotions, so that their mood is beautiful. There are still a variety of ways to mediate the mood, and friends can also go outside for a walk or listen to **, the effect is very good.

First of all, we must always remind ourselves to be calm, calm, emotional people are the most unproductive, we must learn to think openly, see openly, emotional hurt the body, nothing else is important, the important thing is that the body is your own, and having a healthy body is the capital of the revolution!

Then you need to have a strong and firm will, and you need to relieve stress and troubles in time when you are unhappy, such as singing, dancing, painting, eating, drinking, and shopping.

emo out of the solution:

1. Emotional cooling.

Let yourself learn to withdraw and cool down your emotions when negative emotions are sudden. This step is actually divided into two parts, the first is identification. Emotions such as sadness, anger, anxiety, etc., may be perceived as "emo", but they are handled in different ways.

Then comes the release. There are many ways to do this, such as deep breathing, distraction, meditation, and more.

2. Change the negative way of thinking.

One of the most important reasons for easy emo is the existence of a negative way of thinking. In the face of the same thing, if we look at it with a negative way of thinking, it is like adding a gray filter to a **. This will make us see the bad side, or make negative expectations about something, and naturally it is easy to fall into negative emotions.

Therefore, we should learn to change the way of thinking, acquire a "happy" way of thinking, and adopt "cognitive behavior**" (CBT) to transform old cognitions into new, more rational cognitions.

3. Sharing doubles happiness.

One of the secrets to happiness is that "it is better to be happy alone than to be happy in all". This has also been confirmed by research: when we share happiness with friends or important people, we gain more happiness in ourselves and will reap more happiness in the future.

4. Divert your energy to other things.

Invest your limited energy into your favorite career and life, avoid paying too much attention to negative news, learn to properly relieve your emotions, and transform the sense of deprivation brought about by the epidemic into a sense of control over our lives.

Unload your fears and be the master of your emotions. For example, try to cook a new delicious dish for your family, and now you can regain your interest in playing the piano and painting and practicing calligraphy, or develop a new hobby.

5. Exercise is a good medicine to overcome negative emotions.

The pandemic and modern life have created a sedentary lifestyle, which has become one of the biggest "threats" to our long-term survival. Various studies have shown that physical inactivity not only makes us physically poor, but also damages our brains – and even causes substantial brain atrophy.

Always warn or use other methods to remind yourself, don't go crazy for a little thing, can't choose to escape when you encounter things, exercise your ability to resist pressure, and learn to adapt.

1. Attention shifting: When something makes you feel very unhappy, try to restrain yourself and shift your attention to things that can make you happy.

2. Learn to control yourself: When you feel that you are angry with the people around you when you feel that your emotions are terrible, you must warn yourself in your heart to control it and not let your bad temper explode.

3. Proper catharsis: When one's emotions are affected by the outside world, you can use appropriate venting methods to make your emotions better, but you should pay attention to not affecting others when venting.

4. Face with a normal heart: In many cases, the reason for the short temper is because you are too careful, so you should learn to face the pressure with a normal heart and improve your personal cultivation.

5. Be silent when you're angry.

What anyone says when they are angry basically adds fuel to the fire and can easily hurt the feelings of others.

When speaking when you are angry, the other person will also respond negatively, making the atmosphere even more tense. In times of anger, everyone is prone to making bad decisions, so in times of anger, it is right to remain silent.

6. Look in the mirror when you're angry.

Even if we pay attention to our inner cultivation in our daily life, we will definitely fall into a state of anger.

At this time, I recommend a method, look in the mirror, to put it bluntly, is to see how ugly you are when you are angry, and naturally, your emotions will be under some control.

Emotional impulsiveness, worth it only in two situations, "one is the person, it is important. One is that it's important."

One day, my friend's father was very anxious because the health code of his mobile phone could not be opened, and because he was illiterate, he was very vague about some operations of mobile phone software. My friend is very gentle in **, patiently guiding the operation step by step, just because a line of reading instructions is not checked, how can not jump to the next step, the friend's father is so anxious that he will not do it, and he went to the police station to ask for help. However, my friend didn't blame my father, and after hanging up**, he still carefully recorded every step of the software operation, and the voice sent in the past was also normal, without loud or impatient.

In the face of his father's dilemma, he did not dislike it, did not hide from troublesome problems, and did not have any emotional fluctuations. The communication between the friend and the father was very efficient, and even if the problem was not solved at once, it also let each other know the current situation and how to deal with it in the future.

It is important to emphasize here that emotional stability is not about going against the grain, nor is it about forcibly holding back emotions.

Doesn't this friend have moments of mood swings? Yes, every time we go to a restaurant or the type of food together, my friends will be impatient, and every time they will immediately stop the car when they are about to lose control. After observation, my friend always takes three deep breaths before the emotion comes, then analyzes the points I am struggling with, and then gives his own opinion, and finally it is up to me to decide.

Afterwards, I chose the right opportunity to explain how to best deal with the situation at that time, and also to talk about what I was uncomfortable with. After a few times, I also became emotionally stable, I didn't feel sad alone, I didn't privately guess whether my behavior was wrong, I didn't spend my time on bad moods, and I had more time to find the good around me.

In "I Defeated Bad Emotions", it is said that everyone has the right to grieve, and only by facing their emotions can they channel their emotions correctly.

In the process of continuous analysis and imitation, I learned the skills of emotional stability of my friends. In the past, I always resented my relatives who stood on the moral high ground, impatient with many things, and hated all disorderly situations.

When you really can't control it, you think, "This person, this thing, is it worth turning into a nodule, collecting it into your blood, forming a spot attached to your liver?" "If it's not worth it, don't waste time.