Is there still a secret marriage? The steps of an ancient ghost marriage?

Cruelty is the living as the dead.

Marriage is not limited to the dead and the dead, but even between the living and the dead. But the requirements for a living woman are very different from those of a dead man and a dead woman.

At the end of the Qing Dynasty, Liang Shaoren once said: "Today's ordinary men and women, who have been married and died, women or hug the lord to marry, and men or welcome the coffin to be buried." Although this is vulgar, it is also polite.

The meaning of this sentence is that after the marriage of the dead, the woman must observe the festival for the dead man, and she must not remarry for the rest of her life; However, a man can marry another man after the marriage.

Although the secret marriage is regarded as a happy event, it is often mixed with red and white etiquette, and the specific form depends on the proposition of the principal. Not only that, but in many cases, ghost marriages are not limited to the dead and the dead, but even between the living and the dead. But the requirements for a living woman are very different from those of a dead man and a dead woman.

The so-called concept of chastity can be said to have harmed Chinese feudal women. Not only that, but even in some underworld marriages, in order to keep the dead from being lonely underground, in order to achieve the purpose of joint burial, even the one who is alive is forced to die, and even the means of burying the dead alive are used for those who refuse to die, which is outrageous. Fortunately, with the progress of the times, this bad habit has disappeared.

In some film and television dramas, sometimes there will be a "ghost marriage", that is, a wedding is held for the deceased, usually a living woman marries a dead man, when did the ghost marriage start?

Underworld marriage is a bride found for the male deceased, and the bride is also deceased most of the time, and there are living people, but most of the dead are dead. Marriage has been born a long time ago, because some people died before they got married after they were engaged, and the family was worried that their souls would disturb the lives of normal people, so they still had to hold a wedding for them, get married, and then bury them together, so as not to be lonely and lonely.

It is not clear when this form originated, but the most famous record is that Cao Cao did it for his son Cao Zhi. Because of the death of his favorite son Cao Chong, he married a deceased daughter of Mrs. Zhen's family, who was already Cao Pi's wife at the time, and was buried with his genius son, and posthumously presented him with the official seal ribbon of the captain, which shows Cao Cao's love and regret for Cao Chong.

Since the Song Dynasty, ghost marriages have become more and more popular, but after the death of unmarried men and women, their parents will inevitably find a ghost matchmaker to say marriage for them, and then carry out divination, if the result is a marriage, they will make things for them to prepare for the ghost marriage, hold a wedding, and then bury their bones together. During the Yuan, Ming and Qing dynasties, secret marriages were very common, and it was not until the late Qing Dynasty that the idea of secret marriages gradually faded out of people's daily lives due to the impact of Western civilization.

However, although secret marriage is very popular, it has not formed an absolutely fixed process, after all, it is a happy event and a funeral, and what to do depends on the wishes of the organizer. However, in comparison, it is still two dead people getting married, and the impact is a little smaller than that of one death and one life, a good living person will be bound by a dead person for a lifetime, and even die because of it, the impact is too bad, in order to marry a dead person, it is necessary to destroy the life of a normal living person, is it afraid of the ghost of the dead, is not afraid of the resentment of the living?

But whether it is a dead person and a dead person, or a dead person and a living person, the ghost marriage is feudal dregs after all, the deceased is gone, no matter what he does, it has no meaning to him, it is just a living person asking for comfort, this kind of formalism is really unnecessary.

In fact, this is the sustenance of human feelings. In the old days, people were generally superstitious about the so-called "feng shui" of the cemetery, believing that the appearance of a lonely grave would affect the prosperity of the descendants of the family. At that time, some "feng shui masters" (known as "Kanyu" in ancient times) tried their best to encourage this kind of yin marriage in order to earn a little more money.

Yin marriages mostly occur in nobles or wealthy families, and poor families rarely engage in such activities.

Because the ancients believed that everyone had to get married, even if they died, they had to marry in the dark. When his child died, he was afraid of being lonely on Huangquan Road, so he would find a bride to hold a secret marriage for him.

The tradition of famous bastards in ancient times may better expose the ugliness of an ancient custom.

Underworld marriage is to find a partner for someone who has died, because he has passed away before he got married, so he needs to underworld marriage.

This custom was a bad habit of feudal society, and it was more like a spiritual sustenance for people at that time.

Because this is a custom of the Chinese, the marriage is only available to rich families.

For the sake of the unmarried deceased, in ancient times, dying without marriage would affect the feng shui of later generations.

This is a habit in ancient times, for fear of affecting the vulgar. I'm afraid of being lonely after I die.

First of all, secret marriages are not a very common phenomenon.

Ordinary people don't have this economic condition, and the average rich and noble don't do it. A small number of people who believe in feng shui are like this.

Specific steps: Generally speaking, the underworld marriage should also be introduced through the matchmaker, and the two parties will go through the portal post and get married together in the life hall to obtain the dragon and phoenix post.

The release is mostly one-time, so it doesn't matter whether it is big or small. Half of the gifts sent by the man to the woman are real silk rulers, gold and silver treasures; Half of it was a piece of papier-mâché leather, cotton, a clip, and a single garment, and two pairs of brocade boxes, which contained earrings, bracelets, rings, hairpins and other jewelry. On the night of the fixation, it was burned in front of the woman's house or on the grave.

During the communication, the "goose cage", "wine sea", dragon and phoenix wedding cakes, elbows, and happy fruits sent by the man to the woman are all real, but the clothes and jewelry are papier-mâché utensils.

The dowry accompanied by the woman is generally paper work, and after it is sent to the man, it is only displayed in front of the "groom"** or tablet for half a day, and some are only carried around the man's courtyard for a week, that is, led by drum music, and sent to the nearby square for incineration.

The ceremonies listed above are not necessarily held in secret marriages, but the marriage ceremony is indispensable. It is a high day to build a greenhouse, feast relatives and friends, and light the sedan chair in front of the door. The wedding room is dedicated to the "hundredth" gods.

Set up a low table on the opposite kang for the "groom"** or tablet, and set up several plates of apples and dragon and phoenix cakes in front. And there is a big red flower, decorated with a ribbon on the words: "groom".

The woman's "boudoir" is offered to the "bride"** or tablet, as before, and there is a big red flower, decorated with a ribbon, and the words "bride" are written.

After the sedan chair arrives at the woman, the "bride" ** or tablet will be taken off by the wife, and the wife will take it over and release the sedan chair. At this time, the father and mother of the "bride" will inevitably cry loudly and chase them out of the house. It's not a happy atmosphere at all.

After the sedan chair returns to the man, the wife still takes out the "bride"** or tablet and puts it on the offering table on the kang of the wedding room, which is juxtaposed with the "groom". And tie up the two ** with a red head rope, (take the meaning of the old moon and the red line), and reuse the red and yellow colored silk.

Only if the wife of the marriage gives the whole god "100 percent" incense and kowtows, even if the husband and wife worship heaven and earth. Then the teahouse will bring "a cup of wine", "dumplings for children and grandchildren", and "longevity noodles" for the "newlyweds"** or before the tablet.

For example, if the "newlyweds" have younger siblings or younger siblings, brothers-in-law, etc., they will be called out and kowtow to the ** or tablet. The two in-laws congratulated each other.

After the above ceremonies are held, choose a good day for the "auspicious day of the zodiac" to break the ground and bury, and the woman can rise up. According to the time designated by Mr. Yin and Yang, after the coffin was lifted, he immediately poured a bucket of water in the pit and threw down two apples. At the same time, raise the red paper money high.

The same is true for initiation ceremonies that are not underworld marriages).

The man digs a hole on the side of the grave, exposes the groove of the "groom" coffin, buries the "bride" in this hole, and buries the "husband and wife" together.

After the burial, that is, in front of the grave, the wine and fruit are displayed, the red paper money is incinerated, and the marriage sacrifice is held. The father, mother and other family members of the man and woman (i.e., the two in-laws) weep and say "great joy".

Since then, men and women have been treated as in-laws.

There is a clause in ancient funeral customs that ancient people must enter the family cemetery after death, otherwise they will be regarded as lonely ghosts and helpless. In addition, if an unmarried family member dies, he or she is not allowed to be buried in the family cemetery. In order to solve this problem and allow unmarried and deceased family members to enter the family cemetery, some feng shui masters came up with the method of ghost marriage, which has been passed down to this day.

Ghost marriage, also known as ghost marriage, ghost marriage, ghost marriage, and matching bones. Seeing the ghost marriage, maybe we are a little afraid, yes, it does have something to do with the god of death, the meaning of the ghost marriage refers to the fact that a man and a woman are unmarried during their lifetime, and after death, their parents or relatives will find a spouse for him (her) according to the human marriage etiquette and hold a wedding. It should be explained here that parents looking for a spouse for their dead children are actually afraid that their dead children will be too lonely, but no one wants to marry their children to the dead.

Therefore, I had to look for an unmarried man (woman) who had just died for my dead children. Of course, this must be done by the decision of both parents, otherwise it will be disrespectful to the deceased. However, no one wants their children to be lonely, and they are willing to find a companion for them.

In fact, ghost marriage is not only an ancient practice, there have also been such a ghost wedding ceremony in modern times.

Korean actress Zheng Duobin, after her death, her parents held a secret marriage for her, because her parents didn't want their daughter to die too lonely, so they held a yin and yang marriage for her, and found an actor in South Korea who had the same profession as her and died not long ago, and with the consent of both parents, a grand secret marriage was held. In fact, the bones of both men and women are buried in the ceremonial tomb of husband and wife, so that they will not be lonely and lonely when they go to heaven. And parents will be relieved.

In fact, holding a secret marriage for one's children is also the longing of parents and relatives for their children. They were afraid that their children would be too lonely and lonely in heaven, so they thought of holding a secret marriage ceremony for their children. Of course, this also requires the consent of the other party.

The other party is the object of the secret marriage with his children. However, it is also necessary to conform to the original tradition: "the right door".

Otherwise, the dead sons and daughters will not be at ease when they leave, and even in heaven, they will not be happy. Because I didn't find the right lover.

We did have the custom of holding a ghost marriage in ancient times, and it is still passed down in some areas. What is a secret marriage, the most basic situation is that if a young man or woman who has been married but has not yet married dies unexpectedly due to some circumstances, then the families of both parties will hold a wedding for them, so that their souls can rest in peace after death, and do not disturb relatives and friends. In ancient times, it was understandable to believe in the idea of ghosts and gods, but now we should abandon it.

In addition to the death of the two people who are married, there is also a situation where one of them dies, is it also necessary to have a secret marriage? The truth is so cruel, especially the death of the man, for the woman to hold this wedding is equivalent to being widowed without passing the door, which is too unfair for the woman. This is also because the elders of the deceased took pity on their children and grandchildren and wanted to hold a wedding for him to express their love.

But this is, after all, the dregs of antiquity, and not worth advocating.

As the saying goes, marry a chicken with a chicken, marry a dog with a dog. Unmarried men and women are dead, but they will definitely not be able to hold the wedding before their death, but if they don't hold a wedding, they are not considered a family. In ancient times, after a wedding, the woman would join the man's family and be buried with her husband after death.

If you don't get married, you don't get started, which is a very strict thing for some big families. Therefore, it is necessary to hold a secret marriage for them in order to officially recognize that the two have become husband and wife, and only then can they enter the ancestral grave.

But the ancient custom of yin marriage is already a kind of dross. In modern times, in some backward areas, there are still people who advocate holding yin marriages, and their thoughts are to make more money. Because the people who hold yin marriages are generally the so-called masters, relying on the means of deception to instigate the parents of the deceased couple to hold a ghost marriage and spend a lot of money.

In ancient times, why did an unmarried person want to be smart after death, this is also because the social background at that time was different, and rich people would choose to find someone to marry her smartly, which is also a feudal superstition, so that he can find a good wife in the underworld.

In ancient times, why did unmarried people get married after they died, it was because of the vague belief that led to belief.

It may be that the ancient people had strict requirements for marriage, and if they did not get married before their death, they wanted to marry him when they died.

This is a kind of superstitious behavior in ancient times, if a man and a woman die before marriage, they will find an unmarried man and woman who are not dead, marry the dead, and hold a marriage ceremony, which is called a marriage between the underworld. Because the ancients believed that those who died unmarried were unlucky and incomplete, they had to marry through the underworld to make their lives complete.

Because a person is not perfect if he is not married, and he is afraid that he will be bullied on the other side without a ghost to help.

It is the feudal superstitious mind that is at work.

The person who was afraid of death was lonely, so he solved it by himself, but his relatives knew that this was not good for his health, so they married him.