I don t know when friendship has gradually deteriorated around me

I suggest you try it like this:

Try to communicate more, sometimes friendship is not dumb, you need to be brave to open your mouth, communicate, and maybe be able to find problems;

You can't ask for too much perfection, there is no perfect friendship, you need to tolerate each other;

It's okay to spoil, it's terrible and sad to have it;

Find out the reasons from yourself and empathize, and you may understand the true meaning of friendship.

Precautions: As the saying goes, geniuses are lonely, don't force them if you don't have friends, you can live a good life by yourself, it's wonderful, if you become self-reliant enough, you don't need friends, but you have to admit that friends are extremely important.

Be careful to protect them.

I wish you happiness and happiness, no worries, find the right partner for you as soon as possible, and save the friendship.

Share a song with the landlord called "Walk and Walk and Disperse", although the background of this song is not necessarily about friendship. Some people say that if you like a song, it is not necessarily because the person who sings it is your idol, but because the lyrics of the song you like sing what you think, love, and feel sad. And the melody of that song is the monologue that wells up inside you.

I have a very good friend, so good that I share a bed, so close that I skip work just to bring her lunch, I'm afraid she will be hungry, don't get me wrong, it's really a pure friendship.

At that time, I thought it would be a lifetime. It's just that slowly as I get older, as each other's identities change, everything starts to change.

Some people may come to your life just to teach you a lesson, to spend some time with you, and when you find that the feeling of friendship between you is starting to change but you don't know why, stop and think about whether the relationship can last forever, not only love needs to be maintained, but friendship is also the same. The same vulnerability, the same need to be felt with the heart. If you do leave, you don't have to panic, at least everyone is happy.

When we are together, we treat each other with sincerity and spend every moment with our hearts. Bless each other as you leave.

In this way, even if the friendship changes, there are no regrets and no need to be sad.

After a long time, you will find that most of the people who stay with you in the end are like-minded and like-minded people with you. You will meet a lot of people in your life, some people will become your friends, some people will become your confidants, some people will become your partners, some people will always accompany you to the end of your life, and some people can only accompany you for a while and cannot go to the end with you.

A large part of the reason why we are friends with a person is because you have the same goals, you have similar interests, you have common hobbies, and you have common topics. Such two people will not feel annoyed when they stick together every day, there will be endless words, even if the two people are far apart, they will not be alienated from each other because of the distance, because she understands your dreams, and you understand her efforts.

When the feeling of friendship has changed but you don't know why, it is likely that your goals are no longer aligned. It's like if you want to go to a café to enjoy life quietly and relax yourself when you get off work, while your good friend wants to go to bars and nightclubs after work to vent your emotions and release your stress. Because your pursuits are inconsistent, so your pace of life is no longer the same, you will have less and less common topics, you are thinking about what books to read on Saturdays and Sundays to improve yourself, your friends are thinking about how to have a good relationship with the leader, you are thinking about going to ** travel during the holidays, your friends are thinking about how to sleep lazy during the holidays and treat themselves.

Your outlook on life and values have changed, so you will feel that the distance between the two people has become distant.

The word "subtle" is made for feelings, and there is nothing more worthy of the word "subtle" than feelings. And the charm of feelings is that many things and many feelings are indescribable, and the same is true of friendship. When you realize that it's slowly changing, and you don't know why, it may be when everything is about to change dramatically.

Looking back, I have had different friends at various stages of my life, who I may have won or gained by chance, but no matter how they came about, they will eventually leave. When friendships start to change, there's no reason for them, and that's it.

For all of this, I boil it down to the fact that one or both of you finally find that what you want is different from what the other person wants.

I've just lost someone I feel like a friend during this time. We are people from different departments, we met by chance during an internship, and then we gradually became familiar with each other because of some work connections. Later, he helped me a lot when I needed help, and from then on, I felt that this person could really try to be friends.

Later, he started asking me out for a walk, a movie, a hangout. I didn't think it was too bad, because a lot of my male friends and I got along like that, just like asking a girl out for shopping.

Later, I gradually realized that when he got along with me, his mentality was not quite right. I can't tell, I don't know, but I just feel that what I want is a friend, and what he wants has changed from a friend to a girlfriend.

Unfortunately, something happened to me during that time that made me reluctant to have an intimate relationship with someone else, so we drifted apart.

In the final analysis, it's just because what everyone wants is too different.

Whether there is pure friendship between the opposite sex, I believe that everyone has friends of the opposite sex, the reason why we can become friends is either to be able to talk and have fun, or to appreciate each other and understand each other, and these have nothing to do with gender, there are also some friends who have been together for a long time and have love, but you have to know that friends and boyfriends and girlfriends are different, friends respect each other, understand each other and care for each other, but each other has their own lives, there is a safe distance, pure friendship must be unconscious, When some of you start to wonder if we are pure friendship, your friendship begins to change, and friends of the opposite sex should keep a proper distance from each other.

There is no way to do this, and those who should leave will always leave! It doesn't matter what the reason is, since it's already spoiled, then I'll accept the reality!