It s been more than a month since they broke up, and he can be so ruthless 5

He didn't contact you once, you said he was ruthless, so what about you, did you contact him? Your pride won't let you do it, and if he doesn't, you have to call him ruthless, isn't it a little unfair?

Of course, under normal circumstances, it must be the boy who takes the initiative, but it doesn't matter if the girl takes the initiative once in a while, just look for him if you want to, otherwise maybe you really end up like this.

He said that he can't see your future and has low self-esteem in front of you, so is it because you have said or shown to him things that hurt him very much, and he can't meet you materially, or what aspects can't meet your requirements? Did you not give him a positive answer, will always be together with the reply, I think he loves you, but he doesn't have the confidence to keep you, so he wants to let go, if you really love him and are willing to go on with him all the time, then tell him directly, if you can't be sure of your heart, then breaking up may be the best choice for you and him.

I've read your question.

Here's my advice:

First of all, don't be in a hurry, calmly think about the real reason for your previous breakup, and it is best to think about it differently (that is, you think about him from his point of view). Since you miss him so much, or even want to text him or meet him, you need to let go of what you used to call "self-esteem". Because in the relationship, it is not who asks for whom, but whether you still have true feelings for him.

Texting is fine, of course, but I suggest that if you can, it's best to find a chance to sit down with him and have a good chat, even if the two of you can't be lovers, it's always good to be friends in the future.

Hope my advice is helpful to you, o(o!

Oh, men are like this, I have met more ruthless, seeing people who have loved each other like this to themselves, my heart is cold. People who don't know how to cherish themselves, there is no need to waste time for him, I wasted a lot of time in my senior year of high school for that garbage, and now I know that he is garbage, and my senior year of high school has been decadent. Go and find someone who knows how to cherish you, and I hope you get out of that person's heart.

Since he is so ruthless, it means that he wants to let go, why are you so persistent? Such a ruthless man, even if you are together in the future, you will not be happy.

You don't have to, really! I'm the same boy you call me! You have to understand that when a man can't give you happiness, I'd rather leave you! I don't want you to suffer with him! Do you understand?

I want to open a little, it's just that you're not used to him being around you for a while!

Do you still want to miss him after all the points are divided?

Don't you understand why he said to break up?

If you break up, it means that he wants to strip you out of his world, so do you think he will contact you again? There is a saying: if you break up, don't be a friend, you may even become an enemy.

Do you think it's interesting to keep entangled?

Let's start a new life.

To untie the bell, you need to tie the bell, face it bravely, talk to him well, make it clear, if it is really irretrievable, start over, and don't leave regrets.

If you really love him, and not because you are lonely, you should be brave enough to contact him, in the face of love, self-esteem is not valuable.

You can also try to start a new relationship first and see if you can dilute it

A lot of people are like that now. If he gives up, you give up. If you do it now, you will do it in the future.

For the sake of your own future, it's better to give up.

You have self-esteem, he has low self-esteem, and I guess that says something.

Now that you've broken up, stop being nostalgic and find something else to distract yourself!

Now that we're in that case, let's start our lives again. Happier than him

Hello dear! It's been a month since the breakup, is she so desperate or unwilling to communicate, in response to this situation, if it keeps like this, it means that she really has no idea about this relationship. Of course, it is possible that she is reluctant to break up in her heart, and she mentions the breakup because she has a last resort, such as family pressure and leakage, or she doesn't want you to know about it and then ask about it.

Think about why the other party chose to leave you, there are several reasons:1The other person can't find their needs fulfilled in you.

2.After the first breakup, you didn't change your problems. 3.

After the reunion, the search did not do an effective emotional repair, and instead of heating up, it became less assertive. As long as there is room to solve the problem, he will not make the worst decision and break up. So before the redemption begins, you have to know how to understand the other person and understand yourself.

I'm a very introverted person, not good at expressing feelings, not good at communication, like cold war, when I encounter something, I don't say anything, I don't make trouble, I am cold; "For people like you who are usually sullen and not very good at expressing themselves, it is difficult for the other party to read your inner world, so choosing to entangle after a breakup can help the other party better understand your current thoughts.

When a woman doesn't love you and loves someone else, it's all ruthless, normal imagination.

She really doesn't love you anymore.

In fact, the more ruthless he is after a breakup, the more he can't let go of you, because he doesn't dare to respond to you in the slightest, and is afraid that he will fall again if he is a little careless.

He said that after he broke up with his girlfriend, he always felt that he couldn't let go, and then he kept going to her, always wanting to see her. It's not that he wants to get back together, he just hopes that he can get along with her like a friend and greet each other often.

It's just that when he went to find the girl, the girl didn't have the same idea as him, but just rejected him directly, telling him not to come to him again, and to break it cleanly.

In the face of the girl's desperation, he felt very hurt, and felt that after all, the girl really shouldn't be like this, and he even felt that the girl had never loved him at all.

There are always people who feel that after a person breaks up, they are very ruthless to themselves, and that must be because that person has never gone through his heart at all, so he can be so indifferent, but he doesn't know that whether he loved at the beginning and is never ruthless now is fundamentally different things.

Some people have never really loved at all, but after breaking up, for some purpose, they show a very affectionate look, and some people obviously love very much, but after separation, they become extremely rational in an instant.

After a relationship ends, a person no longer accepts any disconnection, not because he is cold-blooded, but because he understands that everything is in the past and there is no point in entanglement.

It is precisely because I have loved unreservedly that I am reluctant to have any contact with that person again, and even let myself keep looking back, and I have been stuck in the past and can't get out.

For him, if he has always maintained some kind of relationship with that person, it will make his heart very uncomfortable, and every time he intersects with that person, his heart will become more painful, and he doesn't want to bear that kind of feeling, and he can't bear it.

Therefore, since there is no way to treat that person normally, he will be very resolute and cut through the mess directly, and he will become very ruthless, not giving that person any chance, and not leaving any room for himself.

Ruthlessness is a choice, but also a way to protect yourself. To be honest, after the breakup, you should be ruthless.

Why bother to keep thinking about it, why bother to keep entangled, since you know that you can't go back, there will be no more possibilities, then you should be separated from each other, and don't have any more involvement.

Only if you really do it, can afford a relationship, never flinch when you should love, love bravely, and at the same time let go of the next person, when there is no future, you will no longer be disconnected, you will not live so hard.

And only if you know how not to let yourself, always live in memories, and always have the ability to love someone, one day in the future, you may collide with the real right person and reap the happiness that truly belongs to you.

Don't let the past delay the present, those pasts, just let it pass, and scatter with the wind.

Text: Tan Meng.

Since you've made such a decision, let's give up. If in a relationship, the other party has given up, it means that there is no love, no love, there is no need to entangle, otherwise it is just a waste of time, and it will make him even more disgusted, let it go, you will meet the person who belongs to you.

Since he's so ruthless, you don't have to hold on. Perseverance will also leave no good fruit to eat. What a big deal can make him so ruthless.

Still not deep in love. The depth of love is what you can endure no matter how much you hurt him. It's just an excuse.

Let's give up. Go and find someone you love who loves you and loves you. Be careful when you speak later.

Stop hurting the people who love you. When the time comes, it will be too late to regret it.

Since he blocked you and resolutely told you that it was impossible, then I'm afraid it will not be easy to recover, because he has been very decisive to block you and doesn't want to have any contact with you, maybe this quarrel is just a fuse, he may not love you so much for a long time, if you really can't let go, just talk to him, make sure he won't accept your words, just get together and disperse.

If it's still angry after a month of breakup, it's not acceptable for us to do that, because we want our love to be sweet forever.

Every breakup has a redemption period. Many people think that the sooner the better, but this is not the case.

After the breakup, the other party will especially want to get back together with you for a certain period of time, and all that comes to mind are the good memories of your past. This is the best time to repair your relationship, and it is also the easiest time to get back together. So just seize this critical period to be able to add more chips to your reunion.

First of all, I want to tell you that there is the best time to recover after a breakup, but it is a time period, not a point in time. This means that if you want to recover efficiently, you must keep your eyes open to the right time and grasp the most favorable opportunity, and at the same time, you don't have to be overly nervous, you don't have to pursue the ultimate just right time, as long as you do it correctly in the right time period, you can greatly improve the probability of recovery success.

In my consulting for so many years, I have found that the best time to recover is different for different breakup situations, but on the whole, true reunion, that is, there will be no second breakup after reunion, 1-5 years of long-term relationship, the recovery cycle is maintained at about 2-4 months, and the short-term relationship of less than 1 year spans relatively large, ranging from one week to half a year.

Compounding is not an easy task, nor can it be done in a day or two, and most repairs take a long time. But I've been in contact with a lot of counselors, and everyone wants to repair their relationship with each other quickly, and they want to find a teacher today and get back together tomorrow. You can understand your anxious feelings, but "if you want to hurry, you can't do it", and quickly reuniting your relationship will make you feel happy for a while, but you may also face the situation of breaking up again.

If you want to truly reconcile with the other person, it is not how many skills you use, but how much you really use your actions to impress and attract the other person. Be down-to-earth, step by step, find the root cause of your relationship, and prescribe the right medicine, so that your subsequent relationship will become stronger and stronger, otherwise you will only repeat the mistakes of the past.

It is normal for young people to have conflicts during their relationship, the two of you just hurt him because of a quarrel, and through your efforts or unrecoverable, it seems that he has made up his mind, and they have broken up for a month, and there is no room for relaxation, it seems that you have no possibility of reconciliation, you still don't have illusions, turn this page, and find your own happiness again.

It can be seen that your boyfriend's attitude to break up is very resolute, even if you admit your mistake and apologize, within a month, he still insists on breaking up, which means that it is difficult to recover if you continue to insist, everyone is afraid of being hurt, and even more afraid of being hurt again, so they can only choose to protect themselves.

It's been a month since they broke up, and the south hasn't taken the initiative to contact the two of you, so you must have apologized to him. If you have already apologized, explain why. If this man still doesn't forgive you, it proves that he doesn't have you in his heart. So, I advise you to give up.

If he still can't get along, then it's time to consider whether there is something wrong with your relationship. It's better to find a time to communicate, and it's better to explain it clearly in person, and no one should guess. If there is really no need to continue, then take the morning to find your own happiness.

It doesn't matter if you get angry when you break up, the most important thing is how to go in the future, don't be afraid, don't break up if you think it's good, and don't think about the past if you think it's bad.

It's been a month, and I'm still so angry. What a blow it was. In addition, listening to your description, the man is very decisive. If that's the case, you might as well leave him alone for the time being and wait a while.