Is it wrong not to want to live with my mother in law? Is it okay not to live with my mother in law?

Updated on society 2024-02-28
14 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    You have to accept reality! Now the problem is that if you get married, you have to accept the reality of living with his mother unconditionally! There's nothing you can do to change that! You can't really say that you want to drive her mother away, after all, you don't have the right to do this, and others will scold you!

    And I don't know if you have a license, if you don't have a license, this house is your boyfriend's pre-marital property, not marital property.

    And you want to be a housemaid, look at your current situation, it is basically impossible, one Your boyfriend is not financially able, and he has no savings for a few years after graduation, which means that his salary is very low, if you are married and still be a housemaid, his meager salary must not be able to afford it! And if you live with his mother, you're going to be embarrassed every day when you stay at home!

    If you get married, there are a lot of things like this, and it's also a worry about your growth! Because getting married is not like two people falling in love, it is related to two families, and it also has an extra responsibility! In fact, it is the same with whoever you marry, there will be different problems, you have grown up, sensible, you have to think about others, and there will be a reward for paying!

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    It is advisable not to live together, at least not for two years after marriage. After marriage, you and your lover will definitely have a run-in period. In between, you can solve the problem of the two of you by yourself.

    If you live with your family, it will be a lot of trouble. My sister is living with her in-laws after getting married, and now it has been more than half a year, and she is not in a good mood now, and she is thinking about buying a house together.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Little girl, it's not me who said you, if you are married, you can't rely on yourself for everything, and if you are married, you are not a child, you must learn to think about maturity, and don't embarrass your husband.

    The problems you're worried about aren't a problem, you don't like people to touch your things, don't let your mother-in-law move it, and I'm sure your mother-in-law isn't the kind of person who likes to touch other people's things, and your mother-in-law lives with you, at least you don't have to do the hygiene of the house, isn't it very good.

    You say that you like everything in the house and have to do it according to your own thinking, but in real life, everything is not as you expected, and it is not so smooth, and after marriage, it is a test of your patience and temper...

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    I also don't like to live with my mother-in-law after getting married.,There are many people in the world.,I feel very entangled.。。 But you can try to get along with your mother-in-law before you get married... If there is a problem, the husband will definitely find a way to solve it, if you blindly ask you to follow your mother-in-law, why is this marriage knot?

    I married in the past to find a harbor, not to be wronged...

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    First of all, I want to ask you, do you love your husband? If you say you love, then you have to understand that your mother-in-law is the mother of your lover, and you are a family! Why can't your family live together, saying that you can't afford to buy a house at the moment, so why bother adding to your own troubles?

    Finally, I want to say to you that filial piety comes first, and as a child, you must be grateful and treat the elderly well.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Don't guess people's thoughts, communicate with your mother-in-law first, and make friends, this matter will be easy to solve.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    It's better not to live together, the habits are different. Is it too smelly, don't live together, and if you see each other occasionally, it will be extra cordial.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    You have a better mentality, you don't have anything to do at all, compare it to your boyfriend's mother, if your mother and your boyfriend treat it like this, what would you think?

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Falling in love is a matter of two people, as long as you feel good, it is not a matter of two people after marriage, learn to face reality.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    If you have a good relationship, you have to live together.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    There are good and bad, but if there are conditions, it is better not to live together, the various concepts of the elderly are different from those of young people, and there will be some opinions after living together for a long time. It's easy to get along and hard to live with.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-26

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    Hello, I don't want to live with my mother-in-law, this can't be said directly, when you can say it, pay attention to ways and means, and say it in a tactful way.

    If you don't want to live with your mother-in-law, you can just say it.

    Kiss<> kiss, <>

    Hello, I don't want to live with my mother-in-law, this can't be said directly, when you can say it, pay attention to ways and means, and say it in a tactful way.

    We've politely refused many times, pretending not to understand.

    Dear, if that's the case, then you can tell her directly. The reason for this is because: I don't want to live with my mother-in-law, this is something I can say directly, because if I say it directly, although it will make my mother-in-law unhappy, and it will also cause some family disputes with my mother-in-law, but I can tell my husband about my idea of not wanting to live with my mother-in-law and let my husband say it.

    Dear, if you ask this question, you can also tell the teacher about your specific situation, and let the teacher help you judge and help you. I hope it can help you, I wish you a happy life and all the best, and I hope you will come to me next time you have questions.

    Dear, if you tell her that she is pretending to be confused, then you can just say it, say what you think, and then move out.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    I can't accept living with my parents-in-law after marriage, I personally recommend renting a house and living with my parents-in-law, there will be all kinds of conflicts in life.

    You may think that living with your in-laws is a way to save money, but the degree to which you bend your heart is often directly proportional to the degree to which you save money.

    Parents will always have their parents' thoughts, in this family, you are an outsider, and your parents-in-law will definitely be more oriented towards their son, there is no doubt about this.

    Maybe your parents-in-law don't want your partner to do something, it won't put your partner in a dilemma, and it will make you feel that they don't respect you.

    But in fact, they don't have this kind of thought, it's just that they are using their own way to protect their son. I have a friend who lives with my parents-in-law, and the relationship is particularly bad.

    Later, after I couldn't live separately from my parents-in-law, the relationship eased quickly. Because I don't see each other often, even if there is any conflict between my parents-in-law and my parents-in-law, I can deal with it very well, anyway, it's just an occasional thing.

    It is said that distance produces beauty, but in fact, it is because we and our parents' generation, the generation gap is too big. Living in the age of information networks, many of our concepts are too different from those of our parents.

    Maybe you think it's normal to spend half a month's salary to buy a bag, but your parents-in-law will definitely think that you spend money indiscriminately; Maybe you think that going out for a seafood buffet once in a while is enough to save, while your parents-in-law will think that it is healthier and cheaper to buy it and cook it yourself. Living with my parents-in-law and parents-in-law can predict many conflicts.

    Not living with your parents-in-law does not mean that you are not filial to your parents-in-law. If you have time and husband, you often go back to see it, and just have a meal together. You should still focus more on your own business and strive to make money to buy your own house.

    Personally, I still think it's better for a small couple to live with two people, after all, the sound insulation of the current building is not too good, and many private things will make the family atmosphere very embarrassing.

    Of course, how to choose is in your hands, you can live with your parents-in-law, and it is no problem to go out and rent a house, as long as you are willing to bear the results of your choice, these are not problems.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Summary. Hello dear! It's a pleasure to serve you.

    The solution to not wanting to live with your mother-in-law: you must ask your husband for permission to talk to your husband about your thoughts, especially if you don't want to live with your mother-in-law, the reason must be sufficient and realistic. To communicate effectively with your mother-in-law is to have in-depth exchanges with your mother-in-law on your sense and thoughts.

    If you want to settle down your mother-in-law's life, you don't want to live with your mother-in-law, but you must take care of the living arrangements of the elderly first.

    I don't want to live with my mother-in-law.

    Hello dear! It's a pleasure to serve you. The solution to not wanting to live with my mother-in-law:

    You should ask your husband for permission to talk to him about your thoughts, especially if you don't want to live together, the reasons must be sufficient and realistic. To communicate effectively with your mother-in-law is to have in-depth exchanges with your mother-in-law on your sense and thoughts. If you want to settle down your mother-in-law's life, you don't want to live with your mother-in-law, but you must take care of the living arrangements of the elderly first.

    I don't want to live with my mother-in-law, my husband has an older brother and a sister, our family has two sons, his brother's two daughters are not a little burden, I can't communicate with my mother-in-law I don't know how to tell my husband, my husband said that he wants to live with us when his mother has to, but I can't stand it.

    Dear, is your husband a mom boy?

    Thinking of the way she treated me during my confinement before, and some of her usual behavior habits, I really couldn't communicate with my mother-in-law. In the past few years, we have talked very little, my husband and I quarreled, and my mother-in-law would beat his sister.

    He's not, he's the more filial kind.

    Dear, your husband's current thoughts are wrong, because your father and mother are a family, and your husband is married to you and is a family, I think no matter what happens, he should consider the problem from your point of view, and be filial to his parents instead of conniving at them.

    My husband is a macho person, and I mainly don't know how to communicate with him, so that his mother doesn't live with us. If he agrees, that's fine, and if he doesn't, what I'm going to do proves that he doesn't care what I think.

    It has been 2 years since his father died.

    I can't hold back this person, but in his brother's house, his sister-in-law is not a person who likes to talk, and my husband told me before he got married Well, his sister-in-law and his mother have never quarreled once, and I can't hold it back.

    Kiss, does your husband communicate with you, and what is his attitude and statement like whenever you talk about it?

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