Who knows what the process of the run in period of love is like, and what will happen after the run

The run-in period to love is a state of better understanding between two people What should be said in the first few months has been said Unlike before, when you don't see each other, you don't want to see each other during the run-in period, and you want to be quiet, ** and the information is not as much as before, and you don't want to send some sweet words between the two people, because you are a little tired of each other, the run-in period is also the stagnation period of love, but if you survive, the future love will be stronger.

During the run-in period, there will be quarrels, temper tantrums, etc., and it will be very sweet if it is over.

It will be like a relative but it is not, the tacit understanding is increased, even if there is nothing to say together, it will not feel embarrassed, it is a very delicate realm, but it is difficult for ordinary people to achieve, and basically say goodbye halfway.

The first three months were particularly sticky and busy. This period from three months to half a year is particularly annoying, and there may be quarrels and breakups, and it is basically stable after half a year, but there will still be a run-in, and it will be basically run-in and play in about a year.

In addition to appreciating each other's advantages, we must also learn to accept each other's shortcomings, tolerate each other, understand each other, and pass the run-in period smoothly so that both parties can go further in the future.

Many couples may break up because they have not gone through the run-in period, after all, love is two completely different people together, each person has a different personality, a different way of doing things, and different views on many things.

Therefore, when two couples who have just been together face each other's different views and different lifestyles, it is easy to have friction and even quarrels, which requires constant running-in.

The so-called run-in is, I can accept your different views, you can also understand my and your different styles, slowly understand each other, do not quarrel because of different opinions, and will not force each other to be consistent with themselves, you may quarrel at the beginning, in the process of running-in, more and more understanding of each other, but also more and more tolerant of each other, and finally, even if your opinions are still different, you can also accept each other, and at the same time will help each other, this is the perfect result after the run-in.

Of course, there are also many couples whose run-in period is not very smooth, neither of them can unify each other's views, they all want to be recognized by each other, and they do not regress from each other, and they cannot understand each other well, such a run-in period is full of quarrels and contradictions from the beginning to the end, resulting in both parties consuming the goodwill and love between each other during the run-in period, and the final result is likely to lead to a breakup because they cannot get through the run-in period.

Each couple's personality is different, the situation encountered is different, therefore, their run-in period is not necessarily the same, many couples have a very short run-in period, for example, one party is very tolerant of the other party, fully agree with all the other party's views, then they may not have a run-in period at all, the so-called run-in, is to accept each other's differences.

I think that the love run-in period is a period when a couple of lovers get to know each other deeply, and it is also a period when they can find problems. When encountering the run-in period, two people should put forward their own ideas and opinions on each other, and then everyone will solve the problem together.

The love run-in period is the cooling-off period after the ambiguous period, and it is the complementary period after the two parties remove the love filter. In the run-in period, it is necessary to pay attention to the coordination of both parties, and not to be too impulsive.

The relationship run-in period is the difference in behavior and habits between lovers, etc., which requires mutual acceptance, understanding, and appropriate changes.

Entering the world of two people from a single state, you will gradually realize the difference between each other, which is called the love run-in period, and it is also the real test period. The process of overcoming the run-in period is also a process of trying how to love someone. When two people are together, it is not simply a question of who is right and who is wrong, the key is to respect each other's ideas, try to change themselves for each other, and accept each other with a tolerant heart, love will be more beautiful!

When a couple decides to go together after a period of hard work, they actually have a longer road to face, because after that they are really living together, out of the perfect side that they showed at the beginning.

They may have a cold war because they have different opinions on a certain line in a certain movie, or they can quarrel because the other party does not wash their socks, in short, they will feel unacceptable to each other in many details, and then it will be time to run in. It's a long process, and you have to be tolerant and considerate, and be able to think about each other and the future. Lovers who have gone through this level will be sublimated to a state of knowing each other, and you will become more and more tacit at that time.

This may be the so-called how to see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain, and how to achieve harmony without experiencing running-in.

How to spend it. Only when the two who successfully pass the love run-in period can the two who love each other really accept the test. As the saying goes: if you only stay in the center of the circle, you will never find the radius and you will never be able to draw a circle.

Therefore, men and women in love should not always be self-centered, only care about their own feelings, but should start from the other party's point of view, tolerance and patience are the laws of harmony and immutability.

If you quarrel over different lifestyles, you can make a rule and make everyone give way; If you quarrel over housework, you might as well make a task list and assign the tasks to people, which will add more fun and harmony; If you quarrel over money, you might as well set up a savings account for two people, and each person will save a fixed amount of money into it, so that you have both money for the future and the freedom not to interfere with each other; If you quarrel because you have lost your freshness, you might as well change your monotonous lifestyle, or change your image or surprise each other a little more...In short, no matter what method is used, it is only by safely passing the run-in period that the fortress of true love is strengthened. After the run-in period of love, in the near future, love will be sublimated into family affection.

The love run-in period is a necessary stage in the process of love, and it is a stage of friction between men and women in spirit, life, details and dealing with problems.

Of course, this is an academic interpretation.

I think that there are some couples who are in love nowadays who do not have a run-in period, because their love is just sweet words, false feelings and hypocrisy, and a combination of desire.

In fact, any relationship must go through a love run-in period.

The real love run-in period is also relatively simple to explain, for example, after the two families get married, they move to one family, and they need to constantly run in the habits, traditions, habits, personalities, daily life, work, customs, etc. of the two families.

The overall point of the love run-in period is to understand each other and recognize the process of the other party.

Many people have a relationship run-in period that occurs before they fall in love, and they have known each other for a long time before the relationship is established.

But whether it is true understanding or recognition is another matter.

The love run-in period is the process of understanding and recognizing each other.

Perhaps, the following thoughts arise in your heart, then you are still in the run-in period of love, not in love: how could she and him be like this? How is it different from before?

The love run-in period refers to the fact that the two are a little uncomfortable at the beginning. Therefore, there will be a run-in period, but there is no need to run in when you are really in love, and you will fall in love when you fall in love with each other. So this run-in is just a pretext.

It's just the beginning of a relationship, but they didn't adapt to each other's personalities.

It's just that after falling in love, they always quarrel and the other party doesn't want to see each other.

The "running-in period" is used to grind the unsuitable place, the grinding is suitable, and the grinding is not suitable.

In addition to the problems of principle between the two people, or the disparity in family background, lifestyle, living habits, temper and personality of two people, communication style, etc. can be grinded.

Because people will change, you don't know if he will grow and change before the run-in, so you have to give each other time and opportunities to run-in.

The main purpose of the run-in period is to respect each other and balance the needs of self and the other party.

For example, one person needs his own independent space, and the other person wants the other person to always keep in touch with him; One person wants to not be interfered with by the other person, while the other person is always used to giving the other person all kinds of advice; Some people feel that the points that the other person cares about are completely different from the points you care about, and there is always friction in their views and opinions on things, which is really tiring.

These contradictions require you to re-establish the balance between them. You can't just care about your own feelings and blindly ask the other person to change to obey you, nor can you give up your "self" in order to please the other person and avoid conflict.

First, we should not evade problems, but spread out problems and contradictions, put them on the table, and do not avoid the important and trivial.

Second, tell the other person exactly how you feel, such as "When I tell you what I think, I want you to give me more affirmation, because I am less confident, I need your affirmation", instead of yelling, "Why do you always talk about me?!" ”

Third, the "run-in period" is different from the "love period", the love period is bent on making the other party happy so it always compromises unconditionally, while the run-in period requires two people to communicate frankly and rationally, and to respect each other as the starting point, and make appropriate concessions. Let go of some of your unrealistic fantasies, such as "the other party can't understand what I mean and doesn't care about my feelings", you want him to do what you want to tell him, you need to tell the other party everything, some people just don't talk about love yet, it doesn't mean that he is not willing to pay for you.

Fourth, don't be afraid of quarrels during the run-in period, no quarrels, no sadness, no breakups, no quarrels, no quarrels,

If you give in at a certain point, it will make you unwilling, aggrieved, and unfair, so you would rather quarrel until you run away from home, but also tell the other party that your boundaries are in**.

Fifth, again, we must give each other time and space to run in, but whether we can successfully run in is another matter.

The run-in period is also time-limited, if you have tried your best, the other party has not done anything, or the way he has chosen still makes you feel very painful, then there is no need to force it. Sometimes it may not be how good your relationship is, or that you recognize this person, but that the sunk cost is too great for you to give up. The shoes are good-looking, but the feet are grinding, and they are obviously uneven but they have to be worn, so they can only hurt while walking.

1. Have mutual friends.

When two people are together, there will definitely be an intersection in the circle of friends. If you have a quarrel, it is undoubtedly a responsibility to have friends with each other to help enlighten and introduce your boyfriend and girlfriend to your friends

2. The Cold War should not last more than one day.

Don't stay angry overnight. The Cold War is the greatest harm to feelings, and if two people don't say anything, two people will be suspicious of each other, and the consequences of suspicion will inevitably be the greatest damage to feelings.

Don't think that not talking and ignoring the other party is a way to show your anger, in fact, this is a kind of cold violence in love.

3. Don't mention breaking up casually.

Many girls like to force their boyfriends to conform in this way, but you have to know that the other party keeps you and compromises, just because the other party loves you, but unscrupulously use love as your weapon, and you can't hurt the other party.

In the run-in period of love, you should think more about the sweet romance of the love period, and don't impulsively give up a relationship.

4. Have a personal independent space.

Although two people are together, you are thick and I am thick is indeed very sweet, but there are always times when you are tired, sometimes you keep your own independent space, and have your own independent privacy will make the other party not so stressed.

5. Travel together.

If you feel like you're not in a good relationship with each other, and your life isn't the same as it used to be, make a travel plan.

During the love run-in period, two people put aside firewood, rice, oil and salt, put aside various emotions of work, and take a trip to show affection between the two.

6. Make a reasonable money plan for both parties.

Couples quarrel a lot because of money, in fact, you should make a set of money plans that everyone can accept at the beginning, otherwise in the end, you can easily find that money really hurts feelings.

7. Create small surprises.

Feelings will eventually return to blandness, and bland feelings are like chicken ribs, tasteless to eat, and it is a pity to abandon them. How many couples finally break up on the grounds that I don't love you anymore

It's really not easy to really let go of a person, especially if you once really loved each other, and at this time he became the cinnabar mole in your heart, with an unshakable status.

Maybe sometimes I know that this is a kind of self-deception, but I just can't control myself, when you tell yourself again and again, I just can't let go, you really can't let go, and when you no longer have illusions, put your mind at ease, after a long time, slowly it will be praised.

In fact, the real letting go starts with "no longer looking forward to"!

It is difficult for everyone who has loved deeply to let go, and everyone who has loved deeply will have something to look forward to, only when she was disappointed again and again, did she understand that the two people were really strangers, and they no longer looked forward to it, and slowly let it go.

Many times, when you are no longer looking forward to it, it is easier for you to let go, and you can't let go of the previous one, just because you are unwilling, but because you have illusions, thinking that there will be a day when you can get back together, until you find that it is really impossible for two people, and you will die.

It's hard to forget a loved one, and it's hard to really let go, and the best way is to stop looking forward to it, so that you won't get hurt again, and you won't keep thinking about the past.

Perhaps, everyone has a person in their hearts who can't let go, perhaps, it is difficult for everyone to forget the good memories of the past, but if you know that the two people have come to this point, then let yourself accept it, stop the loss in time, it is better than force.

When one day you think of him again, there is no wave in your heart, you will never feel heartache again, you will never feel that he has any influence on you, at this time, you will really let go.