How to behave with others. How can I behave with others?

Ever heard of the porcupine philosophy? The porcupine philosophy is that a group of porcupines gather together to keep warm in the cold winter, and they are too close to the pigs, and they are too far away to achieve the purpose of controlling each other's cold.

Only by keeping a certain distance from each other and not harming each other can we jointly maintain the warmth of the porcupine herd. The law of porcupines tells us that the way to maintain a good relationship is to keep a certain distance – to feel the other person's body temperature without being pricked.

Distance produces beauty, and in life, this distance is called hazy beauty and harmonious beauty. Once the psychological distance is violated, it will produce feelings of discomfort and insecurity, and become irritated. Therefore, we should try to avoid personal space being violated and learn to deal with personal space things skillfully.

You can listen to Mr. Stanley Zhai's lecture, which is very tasteful.

Talk less, do more, and don't use your outspoken heart as an excuse to hurt others. Take a deep breath before you say it!

Silence is golden, go buy a book about forbearance and read it.

I also speak very straight, I do my own thing without hurting others, I can help others if I can, and I feel good about myself, hehe.

Go buy a book about forbearance, think about happy things, and learn to discover the good in others

The most important thing is to pay attention to some of the details of the conversation with others.

Silence is golden, try to avoid when you want to get angry, and try not to yell.

The relationship between man and the natural landscape is even more subtle.

I don't know the true face of Lushan, only because I am in this mountain"。Lushan is a beautiful place in the world, and I can't see its wonders, because I am in the mountains.

Many people have experienced and realized that intimate relationships often cause friction and contradictions, but they are not as easy as first encounters. Many families often complain about each other, which is a manifestation of this situation.

It stands to reason that the deeper the relationship, the easier it is to get along with, and the better the interpersonal relationship. But this is not the case. Why?

Quite simply, people ignore one"degrees"problems. So, despite the good intentions – the higher the level of intimacy you have, the better, it is also important to remember"Intimacy is not inseparable, and beauty requires distance"。

The grasp of interpersonal distance should pay attention to the following aspects:

The first thing is to respect the privacy of others. No matter how intimate the interpersonal relationship is, there should be a psychological space for each other. People often think that intimate relationships, especially between husband and wife, parents and children, should not seem to have any privacy.

In fact, the more intimate the interpersonal relationship, the more privacy must be respected.

This respect is manifested in not casually inquiring into or asking about the inner secrets of others, nor casually confiding in others about their own privacy. Although excessive self-exposure does not have the problem of inquiring about other people's privacy, it has the problem of getting too close to the other party, and it is easy to lose the due interpersonal distance.

Secondly, there must be a sense of tolerance. Accommodating consciousness requires us to respect differences, to accommodate individuality, to accommodate each other's shortcomings, and to understand each other's general faults. "When the water is clear, there are no fish, and when people are observed, there are no fugitives"。

There will be no fish in the crystal clear water, and people who are overly critical will not have friends who do not have a sense of accommodating, and sooner or later the relationship will be pushed to the brink of collapse.

Finally, you need to know how to use the distance effect. The distance effect refers to the distance between each other due to the barrier of time; Once the distance is shortened and reunited, the feelings of both parties can be fully vented.

Here, distance becomes an additive to emotion. It can be seen that sometimes the existence of distance can also give people beautiful enjoyment. Therefore, you should cultivate the habit of looking at others from a certain distance, and at the same time, you should not always set your transparency to 100%.

There is no secret in the heart to show one's openness, but because of this, he has lost the due interpersonal distance and invisibly planted the bane of interpersonal conflicts in the future, which is not a wise move.

Be a low-key person and do things in a high-profile manner!!