How can you speak calmly and get along with others?

Think about the consequences and think about whether the consequences are something you can bear.

There is a saying. Endure the calm for a while, take a step back and open the sky.

As soon as I opened my mouth, I felt that I had made the subject too big, but I really didn't want to say anything very philosophical, but I simply wanted to summarize my small feelings some time ago.

Engaged in ** for more than a year, did not experience a lot of money, just plain life every day in the sweat shirt search days, the only feeling that sometimes happy and sometimes unhappy is when dealing with express delivery, counting on them to be efficient and not wrong, occasionally lost missing pieces to check the case, this time is really more anxious than the guest.

Some time ago, I was busy and my head was big, and I was in a bad mood, as soon as I received a customer who reacted to the product damage, the express delivery broke things, I had a tough tone to find the express delivery back, that kind of mentality may not have been experienced and difficult to understand, a bit like you let a friend bring something, a thousand instructions said don't break it, the result is still broken, very disappointed and angry, but because of the acquaintance's affection, I can't say, I can only scold him a few words, make myself psychologically comfortable or the state calendar, after all, it is to pay him to bring it, and then there is a burst of complaints, However, the other party was angry, and he said slowly that I didn't break it, what does it matter to me, uh, I'm picking, what to do

There's no way.,The problem always has to be solved.,You can only call ** to the headquarters to let them inquire first.,This time eat a trench and grow a wisdom.,Speak well,Speak gently,Gently,Speak gently,Speak gently,Sure enough, the other party also said in a gentle tone that you can help check it.,If there's a problem with the outer box, they bear it.,Well,It's good to solve the problem.,I'm very satisfied.。

The next thing is to coax the salesman who received the mail back on my side, after all, I have been cooperating for so long, or I can't make a stiff drop because of such a trivial matter, I can only admit my mistakes with him, and I can't blindly complain or the like, fortunately, I didn't delay things, otherwise it would be uncomfortable for the customer to be cold.

Speak well. Let's take a picture of the sunrise taken by my friends, look at it horizontally, it's super cool.

Train yourself not to get angry.

First, learn to say "it's okay." Think about something you were angry about in the past, and use the mirror technique to say to yourself, "It's okay."

Second, when something doesn't go well, after encountering a misunderstanding, adopt a psychologically relaxed way and say "a small thing" to yourself.

Third, try to delay the time of anger, each time by a few seconds longer than the previous one, and over time, you can control yourself.

Fifth, ask people you trust to help you and alert you whenever they see you angry.

Sixth, keep an "anger diary" to record the time, place, and events, and persevere to achieve self-control.

Seventh, be self-loving, reminding yourself that even if others are doing something bad, anger hurts your body first.

Eighth, whenever you feel angry, take a few minutes to think about how you feel and how the other person feels.

Ninth, when you're not angry, talk to those who are constantly angry with you and point out to each other what is likely to cause anger.

Tenth, when encountering setbacks, do not succumb to setbacks, and there is no time to be angry when facing challenges.

Eleventh, remind yourself that "it is better to live happily than to be rich in money", and you can't get angry.

Twelfth, self-deprecation, whenever a game or game is lost, it is said that it is intentional.

Tongtong is four years old and ten months old, and often when he asks his mother to shake his posture and count his mother, he will not say it directly, but cry and lose his temper first, and then make a request, which will make me very irritable. Tonight, she was unhappy because she sang faster, and then with the help of the big problem of the pants, she lost her temper, and I didn't want to pay attention to her even more, and finally hugged her and reasoned with her:

Me: I don't like the way you cry and lose your temper to get to the request for a few reasons:

1.Crying will lead to a very bad mood, and the person next to you will also be in a bad mood when they hear crying, so that negative emotions are contagious, and everyone will become unhappy.

2.Crying can lead to a runny nose, too much nasal discharge can lead to nasal congestion, and it will make people's noses unable to breathe, you have tried, it's hard, right?!

3.You know, what are the consequences of crying?

Kiritoro: It can make people sick and not grow tall.

Me: You're right, if your mother is angry, her body will produce a lot of toxins and she will get sick easily, and if you are angry, she will also produce toxins and she will not grow taller, so that so-and-so classmate will talk to you condescendingly, are you willing?

Tong Tong shook his head.

Me: So we have to speak calmly when we ask for it, for example: Mom, I want you to sing more slowly, it would be better if you could speak more politely.

For example: Mom, can you please sing slowly? Or rather:

Mom, could you please sing another song?

If we don't do it well, my brother will learn from us when he sees it, and if he doesn't do it well, he will learn from us when he sees it, and if he doesn't say anything if he asks for it, he rolls on the floor or throws things at people and hits people, then it's not good......

When you lost your temper, your mother ignored you just now because I told you that crying can't solve the problem, and only calm communication can solve the problem. Do you know what to do in the future?

Kirito: Yes, speak calmly.

Me: Yes!

Find a new love =-=、、And then participate in more activities, and when you are busy, you don't have time to think about the past。

Look at the failures of others, and slowly you will look at yourself as a spectator.

If a person can stay calm in everything and be calm about what he can do, he must have a good attitude, sincerity and delusion. The true heart is water, the delusion is the wave, the wave is moved by the wind, the wind stops the waves, and the water does not move. Silence and thoughtlessness are heartlessness.

Therefore, the mind must be free of distractions, the body and mind must be healthy, and there must be knowledge and wisdom, and when a person is unknown about something, he will have fear, so when a person is not aware of anything, what he does will be very natural, this still depends on the person, come on.

Tell yourself what he has to remember for you? In giving you what you want? No!

When talking to people, learn to be calm. Don't shout, no matter how angry you are, because your loudness, except for disturbing your mind, doesn't make things better. Hysterical yelling won't conquer others, but it will only make you lose your mind in madness.

The way you speak reflects your emotional intelligence and cultivation. Don't do things when your heart is not good, and you will fail when you do things. ”

It's not that there is no water in the well, it's that you don't dig deep enough, it's not that success comes slowly, it's that you don't work hard enough, and the biggest obstacle on the way to success is your own ignorance and laziness. I am not afraid that the world is cruel to us, but I am afraid of self-indulgence. If you don't give up this second, you will have hope in the next moment, and if you don't work hard, you will feel ashamed to envy others.

Instead of having more hearts, it is better to have fewer roots.

If a person lives, one will naturally add one truth, and if it does not belong to himself, don't rob it, because he doesn't belong to you in the first place, but only passes by you occasionally; It's your own, and time will bring him to you. People must be kind, but they must also have a scale, and they must be able to distinguish between right and wrong, not all people can be friends, and not all people are worthy of your sincerity or kindness. Don't be careful, but be principled.

Some people have a lot of opportunities to meet, but they always find excuses to shirk it, and when they want to meet, they don't have the opportunity. There are some things that I have a lot of opportunities to say, but I want to say them later, and when I want to say them, I don't have the opportunity anymore. There are many opportunities to do some things, but they are postponed day by day, and when they want to do it, they find that they don't have the opportunity.

Some love gives you a lot of opportunities, but you don't care if you don't care, and you don't have the opportunity to love when you want to pay attention.

A person can speak calmly, which means that the person's quality is very good, and his character is also very good. This makes it easier for others to accept him.

Because he is not you, he can't think from your point of view.

The elm has a pimple, and his head can't be untied, so he cares about him.