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Marriages that make it to the end aren't necessarily that suitable. The most important thing is that two people are more able to tolerate each other, in fact, everyone will have their own mistakes and shortcomings, but these are not important, the important thing is that there is a person who is willing to tolerate you and understand you, which is enough.

First of all, these two people must not be scheming people. After all, a person's life is so long, saying that changing a character is changing a character, and shortcomings are also a truth, saying that adding one will increase one. So if you're the kind of character who doesn't tolerate others, you may indeed be noisy for a lifetime, and both of you won't be happy.

But if you can tolerate each other's small shortcomings, you will feel very happy, at least two people meet is fate.

The second is that the mentality of both people is very good. If one person on both sides is very pessimistic, or very negative, then maybe the two people will quarrel because of these differences. If two people have a common goal, a common pursuit, and are both positive and sunny attitudes, then I think two people should enjoy the state of living more, after all, people like to stay with positive people.

Finally, there is a common goal。In fact, this can be seen when two people are young, if two people have the same goal when they are young, then they can also maintain the same goal in middle age, and they can do it until they are old. If two people can always have a consistent goal, it is easy to cultivate a unique tacit understanding between two people, which naturally reduces the probability of quarrels.

It's that you can't give each other tolerance and warmth.

The personalities of the two people are not separated, and their lives are also very unharmonious.

If you live in two places for a long time, the relationship will be problematic.

Without joint efforts, common progress, mutual care, mutual understanding, and joint dedication to this family, it is difficult to go to the end without these few common points.

Similar three views. A common hobby. Similar character. Pretty much the way of life. Pretty much the same temper. Similar personalities. Pretty much the same family background.

There are no common interests and hobbies, no common direction of development, no common goals in life, no common educational concepts, and no common way of life.

Couples who hate each other very much. Couples who don't have any feelings, couples who don't care about each other, couples who just want children. I know better, because such couples don't pay special attention to each other anymore, and they don't have any emotional foundation, so such people will divorce sooner or later.

The first is that there is no affection between the husband and wife, or there is a lack of communication between the two people, even if they can communicate well, it only revolves around some trivial matters in the family.

It's the kind of people who don't understand each other, don't respect each other, don't support each other's careers, and feel that they have paid more.

Feelings are beautiful. Quietly falling in love with you, we will also work hard for love, desperate to pursue the perfect love. However, when we walked into the door of marriage, we found that the relationship was not as happy as everyone imagined, and what followed was the distress of firewood, rice, oil and salt.

For this kind of two people, not to mention a happy couple, it is difficult to be a person. If it just so happens that the Creator played a joke on you and brought them together. That in your future, it is destined to be a small quarrel in two days and a big quarrel in three days.

Because there are three differences between you, and you have differences in whatever you do. Such a little couple is destined not to go far.

Everyone knows that couples can quarrel with each other, but remembering the cold war will not only help, but will also make the love between two people slowly cold. And the cold war will accumulate dissatisfaction and hatred in her heart. Once it exceeds the scope of one's own commitment, it will inevitably erupt, leading to serious conclusions and causing the breakdown of the marital relationship.

I have to admit that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are the most intuitive way to test the merits of a marriage. A particularly unhappy marriage between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is destined to be unfortunate. Every human being is full of flesh at heart.

Every child loves his parents. Women, as wives, quarrel with their mothers-in-law all day long, causing trouble at home. Ask a few men if they can stand it.

Don't be self-righteous and say that a man loves you a lot. You can't pay attention to its parents. If you love your man again, the love he gives you will be affected.

Eventually, it will get more and more bored.

Two people don't agree and always quarrel. After the dispute, no one wanted to bow their heads to the other, so it developed into a long Cold War. If you have to divide the winners and losers, then both of them will become losers, lose their emotions, lose their trust, and lose their happiness!

Without communication, couples will inevitably quarrel in married life. It's just that some people quarrel at the head and end of the bed, and some people fall directly into a long-term cold war. mode without any communication.

In life, you treat me as a transparent person, and I treat you as non-existent. The long-term cold war between two people is actually the easiest way to trigger a red light in marriage.

Couples with inconsistent views, couples who lack communication, couples who gather less and leave more, and couples who don't know how to understand each other.

<> "Couples with these 3 characteristics are destined not to grow old together."

1. I always feel that the other party pays less than myself.

With the improvement of living standards, the pressure will also increase, and at this time, people will inevitably have some small ninety-nine in their hearts.

For example, if the wife washes the dishes for a week, the wife will definitely think, I am not the one who eats, why should I wash the bowls when there is this little ninety-nine, it means that there is a hurdle in the heart, so as long as the husband has any behavior that makes the wife Tangerine Shuhuai unhappy, for example, the husband complains twice, why is the house so messy, and the wife's psychological imbalance will explode immediately. In fact, the most fundamental problem is that there is a problem with the family distribution if the two people do not communicate properly.

2. If there is a problem that is not solved, I always feel that it has been improvised.

It's normal for two people to get married and encounter some stumbling, but the problem is, have these Bi Yuan stumbling been solved. For example, what about a big fight over the payment of wages? Is the solution negotiated?

I was still tired of arguing and rested, and then the next day I should not hand it in and not pay it in.

Of course, this is only a small one, and there are a lot of problems, but after encountering it, should you deal with him, or will every couple encounter it, make do with it, if your mentality is the first one, then congratulations, although the process will be difficult and even painful, but you will not encounter this problem again in the future. But if your mindset is the second one, I can tell you with certainty that there will always be a day when you can't make do with it.

3. The relationship between husband and wife is not harmonious.

Life itself is boring, and there is a lack of communication in marriage, mutual care and warmth are not enough, usually in the name of empty husband and wife, there is no husband and wife, you must not underestimate the intimacy of husband and wife, at first it may be that you don't hold hands, don't hug, don't kiss you think the old husband and wife, no it, then soon you will stop talking, and then don't live together, and finally the body is far away, and the heart is far away.

Theoretically speaking, the husband and wife are not destined, the more important reason is caused by human biological instinct, you can think about a question, do you like yourself in the mirror? I believe that most people like themselves and think they are beautiful. Especially during the teenage years.

This explains why many couples will have a husband and wife relationship, because when they choose each other, they will find someone who is more similar to themselves to marry, which will look more pleasing to the eye and the marriage will be happier. Perhaps, on another level, this is the so-called fate.

Will people who have a husband and wife necessarily become husband and wife?

Not necessarily, it depends on many aspects, and sometimes even if you like each other, you may not be able to be together because of various external factors.

Meijiu: Husband and wife meet because of narcissism. It is often said that "husband and wife" are caused by common living habits, but a study published in the American "Discovery" in August last year pointed out that people like to associate with people who look similar to themselves, which is also a big reason why husbands and wives look similar.

Researchers at the University of California in the United States asked volunteers to choose the face that appealed to them the most from a bunch of **. The faces of these ** were carefully processed and resembled by the participants themselves % and 33%, respectively. It turned out that the one with a 22% resemblance to the volunteer himself was the most favorable.

People who are married will fall in love at first sight.

Evolutionarily, the researchers say, people prefer partners who have a certain degree of similarity to themselves, but this similarity ratio is difficult to control. 22% is a generally accepted good figure. This also shows that everyone has a certain degree of narcissism.

A husband and wife who are very similar if they are not married.

1. The two parties have lived together for many years, have the same diet structure, work and rest time, and their bodies tend to be unified.

2. Husbands and wives often have the same emotions, so facial wrinkles are easy to be consistent, and after aging, many distinctive appearance features of people will disappear, such as subcutaneous, hair, etc., and the appearance shows more bone features.

3. At the beginning of choosing a mate, people tend to choose the opposite sex with similar physical characteristics to themselves.

4. In psychology, there is an effect called the "chameleon effect", which means that we are easy to imitate others, the more intimate the person, the easier it is for us to imitate, and the husband and wife imitate each other, and the actions and temperament will become more and more similar. The positive limb will come back in circles and circles.

Couples are prevalent all over the world, and the United States** selects the "Best Couple Partner" every year, and they find that couples will become more and more similar in appearance over time. There is a special husband and wife station in the United Kingdom to help unmarried men and women find a partner who is similar to their own long town. A survey shows that couples who are married tend to be happier in their marriages.

Whether the three views are consistent determines whether the relationship can develop in the long run. Two people with inconsistent views may not be able to chat even the simplest chat. See if the personalities of the two people are compatible, and if not, whether they know how to be humble.

See whether the eating habits and consumption habits of the two people are consistent, and whether they are harmonious in terms of three views, these are all factors that affect whether the two people can go on in the long run.

whether they value each other and are willing to change for each other's sake; Whether the family is equally valued and whether the three views are the same.