Seeing what others have, the mind is unbalanced, and seeking to look down on material things 10

Each of us will have some desires of one kind or another, this is a normal kind of psychology! But if we want too much, we will be burdened by material things.

Seeing others have things that we can't have, it is natural to feel a sense of loss in our hearts, but we must face this sense of loss correctly and not let our minds deviate. You must know that there are gains and losses, and the more a person has, the more he will lose! It's not a sour grape mentality, it's real!

For example, if a person buys a good sports car, others will look envious, but what they ignore is that the better the car, the more people need to pay more! It can cost 10 times as much gas as a regular car, 20 times as much to maintain, and the owner of the car must live in a high-end residential area to ensure that the car is not stolen, scratched, and so on. So don't be fooled by the superficial aura, but also see the other side of things!

Don't just focus on who owns what, and I don't; I should have a positive mindset about how I should work to become more capable and stronger, so that I can achieve all my dreams step by step!

The word desire sounds greedy, hateful, and stupid, but no one is exempt from vulgarity. Everyone has desires, and desires make people young. It's the same with material desires, there is no good or bad, it depends on whether you can make him pure and uplifting.

Jealousy is common to all, and since we can't see through everything like a Buddha would, we should try our best to avoid harm and turn our desires into motivation. For example, since I am not as rich as you, and I am not as good as your family background, then I will surpass you in learning, and I will definitely be a hundred times stronger than you in the future. Since we can't be the rich second generation, then let's be the rich generation.

Also, don't be overwhelmed by other people's experiences and yourself. Don't always think that others are better than you, what you see is only the surface, everyone has their own good side. First of all, you have to be confident and believe that you are the best, and jealousy like this will be less cautious.

In fact, you don't need to compare yourself with others, everyone has their own strengths.

He has mp4 today, but maybe he was still envious of something about you yesterday, and these are superficial things.

Again, I personally think that the most enviable thing is to have a good character and a good attitude.

You are still young, and you can buy whatever you want in the future.

What we have to do now is not to envy others, but to make ourselves strong.

You can think of it this way, you have to look at the second half of your life, you can have the protection of your elders in the first half of your life, but you must rely on yourself in the second half of your life.

If he still has a better life than you for the rest of his life, and you have done your best, there is nothing to regret.

It is recommended to buy a book on Buddhism and read it. After reading it, I thought about everything.

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It's normal for people to have a comparison mentality, and everyone will be like this. But some people will work hard to have it too; Some people are jealous and have bad intentions. I want you to work hard too, because you also have a lot of things that others don't have.

This is greed, don't you lose when someone is sick?

Everyone has different values, and some things that you can look down on will be important to others. As you said, the different growth experiences create the current attitude and choice of things, and your friend's current worship of money may be just to make up for the past, but life comes from a period of time, and the current state will have an impact on the future. Maybe material things are her biggest need now, as a friend, you can watch many things clearly, but life is hers after all, we can't understand the pain of others, and happiness is naturally something we can't instruct.

When she sees through the scenery, she may choose to go through the long stream. As good friends, all you can do may be to understand and wait.

Everyone is, when you are a child, your heart is the most fragile, and you may have left a shadow on your life when you were a child. I think when people are like this when they are young, there will be two ways, one is to be angry and strive to be strong and rely on themselves to get money, and the other is to rely on others to get money. Obviously your friend belongs to the latter group.

In this society, there are not a few people like your friends, and I also sympathize with them, and they can sell anything for money. In the real society, there is no way, this kind of thing, you can only put your own attitude, and others can't control it.

This kind of thing really can't be **, even if it's a good friend now, but the society is still a big family, the forest is big, and there are all kinds of birds.

There are definitely not a few people like your friends. Society is like that.

I would say that everyone has their own thoughts and pursuits, and you can't force someone else to change her own pursuits for you, even if it's a good friend.

So you really don't have to fret, as long as your friend really thinks it's good, just let it go ahead.

Why can't we get along with each other?

Heinz's "Inner Shackles", a psychology book converted from Grimm's fairy tales, narcissistic personality and the ice-like iron furnace man, various diagnoses and personality analyses in the appendix.

This book analyzes in detail the causes and manifestations of narcissistic personality disorder, and discusses how to overcome it through psychological **, the author of the book goes back to people's childhood to seek the deep-seated reasons, he said that the root cause is a person's lack of love experience in childhood, children are flaunted by their parents as a kind of achievement, this kind of child's parents are extremely vain, strict family education, only children will be favored when they achieve grades or are obedient, this kind of family looks perfect on the surface, in fact, there is a hidden potential crisis, The child does not get unconditional love, he can get love because of his grades, this kind of child is very likely to develop into a narcissistic personality when he grows up, he does not experience real family affection, he is loved because of his grades, he is hungry for unconditional love, but at the same time he must pretend to be very strong and perfect, because in his subconscious only in this way he will be loved, he must be appreciated all the time, he is forced to work or study hard, and the success of his career or studies in turn gives them a great feeling. The narcissistic personality is gradually formed.

What he needs is self-realization, not to be a tool for others to achieve self-realization.

He lied to you, surely he didn't? Since you have been deceived by her, you should treat yourself as if you have not. Since it's already like this, what's the use of thinking too much, it's better to go with the flow

If there is no such scene, how can you appreciate the magnificence of this life. Ordinary is a blessing, but few people are willing to be ordinary. We come to this world to experience the extraordinary aspects of life.

The deceived person can see the true face of ** clearly, but he has lost money and feelings. And ** has lost the basic thing of being a man, integrity.

Setbacks are like food failures, only after experiencing them will you understand and see through.

How many were scammed? How to be deceived.

There is truth to this statement. Human affection is emotional intelligence, the handling of interpersonal relationships. In this reality and material society, don't think too well of a person.

I don't think other than Buddhism and Falun Gong will teach people to downplay the world. "Detachment from things" should not be the realm pursued by those who have entered the world.

In our hearts, there must always be people or things that we care about and care about, so that we can feel alive, feel life, and find the motivation to live.

Time is the dilution, and after a while you will find that what you care about now is not too important. But for me now, it's the thing that I pay the most attention to.

It's a matter of one's mentality. Anyone who says it can't go to your heart. Some people say that there are no people in this world who regard money as dung, but this is true, not that everyone is greedy for money, because it is difficult to move an inch without money in today's society.

As for being bearish, it can only be that you don't take material things too seriously, and how to make them bearish can only be realized by yourself.

Believe that nothing in this world is eternal, and give up what you can't get with your best efforts.

One is to find something that interests you, it can be sports, it can be work, it can be volunteering, and insist on doing it, and give the best play, when one day you find something that truly reflects your own value and can give you a sense of accomplishment and joy, love is not the dominant part of life; the second is to take the initiative to make friends, have three or five girlfriends or buddies, and often get together to chat; The third is to do more for your family, find your indispensable position in family affection, that sense of need and presence will make you not have a sense of belonging even if you are hurt by love, I wish you happiness.

Crystal November 2010.

Other Answers(8).

Just look at how you break up and how you are violently violent.

Enthusiastic netizens November 2010.

Let yourself be hurt once first, and you won't change it, you're stupid.

Laugh and laugh November 2010.

After a long time, when the mind matures, it will naturally be bearish, and there is no need to deliberately look down.

My Buddha Compassion November 2010.

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He really doesn't like you too much, you have to understand, everyone comes back in seconds.

Call ** directly, no matter what you talk about, there is always speculation in texting.

It's not interesting, don't think about it yourself,

It's that you always want to get something in return, and you feel that you will be rewarded for what you give, even if it's just a text message. If you just want to give for him and don't want to give back, you won't be annoyed.

It's good to start a new relationship all over again.

I don't message my subjects every day. Because she lost her phone a week ago.

You can empathize, if he doesn't reply, there must be a reason for him. It's not good to think about it, I'll be amorous, I'm also a person from here

The best thing is time, and I used to be the same as you, but after a long time, I look down, or maybe you can try to shift the target.

Find something that interests you to do and let yourself rely on your emotions.

It depends on what content you post, and it will come back to you when you post the content that others like.

Check out other ......Maybe you can divert your feelings or something, depending on your hunger and thirst, don't get out of pit after pit, then you will die.

You can start posting every day, and when he gets used to reading your messages every day, you should be reserved and stop posting! He'll send it to you.

It's naïve. I didn't reply to the message, maybe I just didn't see it! As for the emotional bearishness, I personally recommend the method of diverting attention, which is not to think about it, not to read it, and slowly forget it. After all, time is the best antidote.

Keep a normal heart, I'm the same as you, every time I send her a message, she replies very slowly, sometimes I feel very unbalanced in my heart, I always wonder if she chats with others and doesn't have time to pay attention to me, after a long time, I will be very tired, so I tell myself, keep a normal heart, don't take the relationship too seriously, sleep it naturally.

You can go a little further away and forget about it.

Do what you love.

There is no way, after a long time, my mind will naturally fade.