The feeling of not being needed, the feeling of not being needed

I feel that way sometimes, too. Inexplicably, he began to feel inferior and began to doubt the value of his existence.

There are people on the street, but I am alone.

Have you been feeling down lately? If it's because you're depressed, I think it's normal, don't worry, just get out of the trough, and this feeling should dissipate.

If it's not because of your mood, then you can try to discover your own value. For example, I know how to go to other people's problems. It's a great way to get accomplished

If you need to have a presence in real life and be needed, then you can volunteer.

If what you need is a sense of presence in the circle of friends in real life, then try to learn more and try to integrate yourself into them so that you can also express your opinions when they talk, talk with them, and you won't feel like you are not needed anymore.

Listen to it

Don't know your specific situation, gender? Age?

But I would like to say that none of us should wait for others to discover you and pay attention to you first. If others are going to pay attention to you, you have to release your charm first.

So, if you want to feel needed, you have to pay attention to the needs of others.

For example, if you are still in college, you can help everyone clean up in the dormitory, and after a long time, even if everyone does not say thank you in front of you, you can see some changes in their attitudes.

Maybe you don't think you can perform well in temporary situations, but the world is big, people's hearts are big, and as long as you put your heart into it, you will be very strong.

It's that you don't give others that kind of thought.

Agree with what was said upstairs.

If you want others to pay attention to you, you must first release your own charm.

Summary. Dear, the feeling of not being needed. Then the relationship will end here, and it will be separated, and it will break up. Are you in a relationship ?

Dear, the feeling of not being needed. Then the relationship will end here, and it will be separated, and it will break up. Are you in a relationship ?

My dear, the relationship will only last if the two parties need to have a relationship of interest with each other.

Honey, has something happened ? Dry rent like is a swing, you can be free to enjoy it, love is like a rocker, two people need to face to face to laugh together, you are happy, I am also happy to lose.

Teacher, I'm 33 years old and I'm not married, and I feel that my friends and relatives don't need me.

Honey, you're 33 years old, are you a girl or a boy? Not married.

Girls don't have a stable job and don't have a boyfriend.

My dear, at least you have lived a peaceful life for 33 years. There is no disease and no disaster, this is the harvest of the bend. Your good fortune is shown in another way. Head of the hall.

I was sick because of online violence, I had depression, and I had been idle at home for 5 years without a job.

Dear, because of cyber violence ? You've been at home for five years. What was your previous major?

My dear, if you have difficulty finding a job in your previous major, you can study another major to earn a living.

My dear, it is at home that you can teach yourself. Take a little time each day to study on your own.

My dear, do you have any other physical ailments? For example, tracheitis ? Heart disease?

I'm so desperate right now, I always feel like I'm in need of someone else, but I'm not being needed.

Honey, you don't need anyone else.

My dear, you don't have any problems except that you are a little unhappy every day and think about some things, right?

There are also problems with marriage and love at the age of 33 and there are problems with work.

Dear finch pants, if you can earn money at home, then work is not a problem. There are a lot of people who don't want to work outside these days. Although I earn less money at home, I save my brother's bus fare and rent.

Besides, if you're a girl, you don't need to earn a lot of money.

My dear, if you can have a continuous and stable income at home, things will be easy to solve in the future. So you must have a technique in the cavity. At home, the debate board can take orders of technology.

What about marriage and love problems?

My dear, marriage is a luxury. If a person can live well. Then getting married is about icing on the cake.

Honey, you are a single woman, and it is really easy to find a partner. I'm afraid you won't like it.

My dear, when you don't have a partner, love yourself well, show yourself, and the opportunity will naturally come.

Be sure to love yourself, my dear. To have a good mental state, so that your complexion will be good, and you will be a good girl who is loved by everyone.

This kind of countertransference experience is a common practice for many clinical psychologists - counselors or ** teachers, hereinafter referred to as counselors. - Often-experienced, typical and universal.

Doesn't that sound strange? The person who obviously came to ask for help, when he was really in the situation of asking for help, seemed to show a certain reluctance, conservative, closed-minded, withdrawn, and even seemed to have the opposite attitude - "I'm fine; Much better; I don't seem to have any problems all of a sudden."

How so?

Time has passed, has it really healed itself? Is it deliberate to play tricks? Or do they have nothing to do and spend money on abuse (which is tantamount to self-abuse)? These explanations don't make sense.

1. They get up to ask for help on a whim, and they do intuitively (or impulsively) feel that they need professional help, but when they arrive at the scene, they are sensitive to something that arouses their suspicions, such as the consultation room seems too open (closed), the front desk is too horizontal, a certain sentence or mantra of the counselor sounds uncomfortable, or their dress is too casual (or too formal), etc., so they put away their willingness to ask for help.

2. They are already ashamed to talk about their psychological problems, and it is difficult to open their hearts. It's much easier to make an appointment without meeting than to talk to a professional you don't know much about what you feel is more or less private.

The likelihood of the above in the beginning stage will be higher. If this is still the case in the middle or late stages of the consultation, it should be considered as a stalemate.

3. The impasse is related to the insufficient contribution of the working alliance to the progress of the projection, involving the adequacy of the investment of both parties, the degree of matching, and some potential resistances that are difficult to understand (perceive) - such as subtle projection identification.

4. Some specific types of clients, such as obsessive-compulsive or narcissistic personality (disorder), will have a tendency to over-focus on self-esteem and indulge in interpersonal interaction in their own subjective world, and the openness is very low. It's not easy to get into their hearts, but it's even harder to influence them.

Counsellors experience repeated experiences of feeling unwanted, and frustration continues to rise. They sometimes struggle to tolerate this pressure, and are overwhelmed by the sense of self-worthiness that it provokes, threatening their professional identity and experience of self-integrity. In addition to being useless and powerless, they also experience a large number of related negative feelings, such as self-blame, shame, guilt, anger, self-doubt, confusion, entanglement, meaninglessness, and depression.

Once the counselor feels that the client is "hanging out" and the impasse appears, it is best to seek strong supervision and help as soon as possible. If the impasse cannot be overcome despite the help of a supervisor, a referral or termination of counseling should be considered. No ambiguity.

It is in accordance with professional ethics to do so.

There is such a person, no one understands his thoughts, no one accepts his Amway songs and movies, there is nothing extraordinary, and mentioning his name has to make people think about it for a while, maybe it is still difficult to remember, as if one day he disappeared from the crowd and no one will find out...

The above is pure brain hole, haha.

It's just that I've recently discovered that the sense of presence is always subtle in a different way.

A friend said that his girlfriend used to be very clingy to him, but now she has become very independent and indifferent.

Because of the long-distance relationship for too long, his girlfriend has become accustomed to carrying everything by herself, and she won't tell him everything. He said that he felt that the two of them were not in a relationship now, he was completely unwanted, and he felt useless after being separated by thousands of kilometers.

Guys seem to be more concerned about "being needed", so girlfriends will be happy if they can show that they need him appropriately. Even if you are in a long-distance relationship, you have insomnia in the middle of the night and call him **, and you want to listen to him, he will not feel disturbed, but feel that he is needed and very valuable.

Schopenhauer wrote, "Young people expect their lives to be like a playful book, and their disappointment comes from this." Bird Hide".

And this feeling of being needed also applies to work and study. Would you rather stay in the magic capital of Shanghai and be an inconspicuous member of the crowd, or would you like to take a back seat and take a back seat to be the leader of a project?

Many people expect to live like a protagonist, but later find that the ordinary may be the norm of life.

I was depressed for a while, feeling like I was redundant in the world because I felt as if no one needed me anymore.

After coming to the north to study at university, old friends have new friends, and the circle of friends posted has nothing to do with me.

Mom is also very busy at work, and if I don't go back, I may forget that I have a daughter.

There are no cats, no dogs, no boyfriends.

It seems that everyone is doing well, and it is the same with or without me, which makes me even more lonely in this northern city.

When I was a child, I was required to study hard, and then my friends came to me to explain the topic. When I grow up, I need to work hard to earn money and then buy myself beautiful clothes.

In fact, the essence is the same, that is, you have the strength to make the people around you happy.

I enjoy the feeling of being needed by someone close to me. I don't feel that this kind of need is hard at all, but I feel that it is a kind of motivation to become stronger.

PS: I wouldn't be happy if someone kept asking me to do something he didn't want to do under the guise of needing me, and I wouldn't be happy if I hadn't been in touch for 800 years and said they needed me to borrow money to help. )

Feeling that you are not needed is probably the emptiness of a lack of fulfillment. Since you have nothing, don't be too ambitious, useless worries and illusions will not do you any good except to make you more frustrated.

Alone. To live a steamy life, you don't need to worry about anyone, you don't need to wait for anyone, you just stand there as if you are a force.

Nowadays, I take time out of my spare time to input and output every day, reading and writing, and I dare not stop, but I also enjoy it. I just hope that my words will become your needs one day.

Just like this little lamb is dirty and smelly in the eyes of others, but in the eyes of some people it is beautiful, gentle, and cute, so don't judge him with your point of view, or maybe you don't want him to be a fragrant dumpling to others.

That's what you think, because everyone's values are different, and the values they show are different. What is average in your eyes may be outstanding in the eyes of others. Don't ignore the people who love you, if one day you lose it, it's too late to regret it.

I don't know why you have this idea, does your girlfriend have a lot of shortcomings? Only you know? If you don't want to give up on her, it means that you still love her very much, don't have ridiculous ideas.

In fact, sometimes it's just your own feelings, and others just tolerate you in front of you, and everyone has their own side.

Everyone has their own responsibility for development, even if they feel that no one wants it, but the family needs it.

Don't think of yourself too well, it's much better than yourself. It's better to be humble in everything and not be too arrogant in everything. Feelings are innocent, mutual respect, you have me in your heart and I have you in my heart.

It may be that in your eyes he is not so good, shortcomings and faults, you may count a lot, if you don't want him, no one may want him, this is just your personal opinion. Maybe he is in the eyes of others, and in the side of others, he may not be as bad as you say. So, don't think too low of others, think of yourself very high.

People always have all kinds of strengths and weaknesses, in your eyes it is a disadvantage, in the eyes of others, that may be a strength. Since we are together, we must treat each other well, don't belittle others too highly, or treat the people around us well and cherish the people around us.

There is no one in this world who can't live without him, and you just think that you want a reason why you want him.

This feeling is not very reliable, what kind of psychology do you have, sympathy or pity, not heartfelt like, so a little reluctant, the result will not be too perfect.

That's what you think personally, maybe you think he's a spot in your eyes, but maybe it's very good in the eyes of others?