What to do if your child is introverted and shy

Free-range, but with a plan

Acceptance: Introversion isn't entirely a bad thing, introversion has the advantages and benefits of being introverted:

1 Introverts tend to be more observant and think more deeply.

2 Introverts have a stable temperament, generally do not take the initiative to cause trouble, and are not easy to offend others.

3 Easier to focus. It is easier to take root in certain fields and make achievements and contributions.

4 Inner emotions and feelings are richer and more delicate. It is easier to experience and feel the inner thoughts of others, and to develop empathy and understanding.

Analysis: Introversion is neither scary nor shameful. A lot of good people are also introverts.

Introversion is just one of many personality traits, not all of you, and can't hide the rest of your aura. Everyone has so many shortcomings (and introversion is not a disadvantage), but to achieve success, it is enough to bring out the best in the world.

Social skills can be learned and cultivated, and they are not necessarily related to introversion and extroversion.

Attitude: Grow and gain in solitude, and enjoy yourself.

Allow yourself to be introverted.

While accepting yourself as an introvert, you gradually adapt to your interactions with others and increase the topics of communication.

Don't be afraid to owe favors. Don't be afraid to trouble others and feel that you can't get away. People are built up because of each other's troubles.

If you can't find a topic to talk to, then you can also be silent and smile. Even if you don't speak, it's enough to listen. Sometimes being a quiet listener can be reassuring and comfortable for the person who is talking.

Method: Learn more and learn about some knowledge, hot topics, and jokes to prepare for communicating with people.

Participate in group-type sports hobbies. In extroverted interest interactions, a person's social skills will slowly improve.

Participate in social activities, learn about social networking (see Getting along with others for details), and take the initiative to meet new people.

Try to cultivate a warm and sincere attitude and take the initiative to greet people, which will forget and ease your introversion in interpersonal interactions.

Pay attention to other people's world and focus less on yourself.

Get in touch with people with cheerful personalities.

Do sales, participate in debates, etc., and speak actively.

Children's education: 1. Actively encourage children to take the initiative to speak, communicate with children more often, and encourage and guide children to communicate with other children.

2 Encourage your child to try and not be afraid to fail.

3. Nurture your child's interests and hobbies, and encourage your child to take the initiative to participate in social activities.

4. Create a harmonious family atmosphere so that introverted children are more willing to express themselves.

5. Exercise your child's independence. Communicate more with the outside world, and parents create more conditions for children to accomplish something independently. Like buying something.

6 After the epidemic is over, take your children to visit relatives and friends, and socialize with children in the community.

1. Accept the child's nature, we must realize that at a certain age, shyness is the child's nature, not a defect. Shyness may be caused by genetic factors, first of all, self-examination is whether there are different degrees of shyness, we must unconditionally accept the nature of children.

We don't want to be anxious because the child is shy, and write the anxiety on the face, pass it on to the child, and make the child feel nervous. We should be relaxed, always gentle with our children, and give them positive hints.

2. Understand that children's shyness is caused by many reasons, forcing children to avoid shyness and do things they don't like, children will be more anxious. We need to understand the child with empathy and tell the child, "You're not ready, are you?" Mom understands you, we're ready to talk!

When children feel their parents' understanding of them, they will feel at ease.

3. Help children to socialize with others, timid children are a little bit and lack of practice. Take your child to group activities or invite friends to your home to increase your networking opportunities. Li Xiang began to associate with one person, and gradually increased to socialize with multiple people, allowing the child to slowly expand his social range.

When your child sees a stranger, tell him what to call him, so that he can be mentally prepared.

When a child gets acquainted with strangers, he will naturally overcome his inner tension and become generous and natural. When you see your child's good performance, you must encourage your child in time, "You are so polite today, your uncles and aunts praise you!" Let the child feel "I can do it", it turns out that it is not difficult to get along with strangers.

4. Give children a good example, parents are the main imitation objects of children, and our words and deeds will have a subtle impact on children. We need to lead by example, and when we take our children out, we don't skip some red tape just because our friends are familiar with us. Because friends are acquaintances to us and strangers to children, we also have to greet politely and set an example to children, and children will imitate these behaviors and gradually form habits.

5. Don't label your child, many adults will blurt out "This child is so shy!" when they see that their children are a little scared! "Children will think that they are shy people because of constant hints. Adults see more of the child's "shyness", and they will look at it differently in the future, and the child is more afraid of making mistakes and becoming more shy.

When a child shows shyness, we need to downplay it, not emphasize it, and not evaluate it.

1. Let go of the exercise of children and do not do things to replace children, the vast majority of children are only children nowadays, adults are overprotective of children, and everything is replaced. In this way, children become flowers in the greenhouse, and once they leave the protection of adults, they will become timid and afraid, so parents should consciously exercise their children and let them deal with problems on their own, so that children become bolder.

If parents do everything to ruin their children, then from now on they must stop immediately, return the opportunity to exercise to their children, and parents should also pay attention to cultivating their children's independent character and strong perseverance, and encourage children to do what they can.

2. Cultivate children's courage, take children to participate in some adventurous activities, children are timid and afraid, which requires parents to cultivate children's courage, and can take children to participate in some adventurous activities or games. For example, take the child to the children's park to play, climb the path on the hill or do some amusement equipment that the child has not tried, you can try trampoline, swing, merry-go-round, etc. It should be noted that when parents let their children participate in adventurous activities, the premise is that the child should be fully psychologically prepared, and do not force the timid child to do it, otherwise not only can not cultivate the child's courage, but may make the child more timid.

3. Let children face the things they are afraid of, children are timid, often afraid of this and that, at this time, parents should not avoid the problem, but encourage children to face the things he is afraid of, for the things that children are afraid of, scientific explanations and appropriate comfort, if children are afraid of interacting with others, parents should create opportunities for children to contact other people.

As the child grows older, the child's personality will change under the influence and education of parents, when the child loses his temper, when he is alone, and when he does not like to deal with others, it is the embodiment of the child's personality, if the child has the above problems, what to do? Next, I sorted out the relevant content of how to guide children with introverted and shy parents, I hope you like the article!

For shy children, parents should pay attention to enhancing their children's self-confidence, encouraging them more and criticizing them less. Take your children out more often to create more opportunities for communication. Therefore, if you want your child to change the above high-risk personality, first of all, parents should set an example and maintain a kind, optimistic and confident mood, because parents are the first teachers of their children.

1. Make children more confident

This is the most worrying sentence for parents, which also shows that children lack self-confidence. Without self-confidence, he won't start doing things at all, and even if he is pushed to start, the slightest obstacle will scare him because he never believed in himself. Parents should encourage their children's efforts and enjoy the whole process rather than the result.

Let the child know clearly that parents pay more attention to the process of their own efforts, so that the child is more confident'Facing difficulties.

2. Educate children to control their temper

Emotional intelligence determines success to a certain extent, and the most important manifestation of emotional intelligence is the ability to control one's emotions. It takes a lot of thought to teach children to control their emotions, and it is especially difficult for parents who are anxious. If you want to teach your child to control his temper, parents should set an example to control their temper at all times.

And tell your child that it's okay to be angry, but it's not acceptable to vent in a negative or hurtful way for others.

3. Let children learn to get along with others

Some children can mingle with children wherever they go, and seem to be born "social masters". Some children are disgusted by their peers, or even isolated and separated from the crowd. Parents can invite more friends with children to play at home, so that children can learn to get along with others.

In daily life, children should be taught to be caring, know how to share, be helpful, and follow the rules.

Fourth, take your children out to communicate

Some children are the Monkey King who is turned upside down at home, but Sister Lin becomes shy when she sees outsiders. And the most embarrassing thing is that if a kind uncle and aunt want to tease, they will immediately become a hedgehog curled up.

As a developer of early childhood education products, I am often exposed to many questions about children's personality and behavior, including how introverted children develop. First of all, I would like to emphasize that introversion is not the same as a problem, and every child has their own unique personality and characteristics, and introversion is just one of them. In fact, many introverted children grow up showing a lot of positive qualities, such as patience, attentiveness, and thoughtfulness, among others.

Therefore, as parents, we should respect our children's individuality, accept their differences, and strive to discover and nurture their strengths.

At the same time, we can also take some measures to help children gradually overcome the difficulties caused by introversion, such as encouraging children to socialize more with others and participate in group activities, which can improve children's social skills and self-confidence. In addition, you can also start with your child's areas of interest and provide them with more opportunities and resources to stimulate their interest and enthusiasm in learning. These require patient guidance and support from parents to help children build self-confidence and a sense of self-worth.

Finally, I would like to emphasize once again that children's personalities are diverse, and we should accept and respect their differences, and help them overcome difficulties and show their strengths.