Some people say that when people reach middle age, they can t afford to fall in love, why do you say

When I was at two o'clock in the morning, I was shocked to see this message from the other party. This is a message from a teacher who has already achieved a successful career and has a cute child who looks very young.

Although I call her a teacher, because in this industry, everyone shouts like this, I have also cooperated with her a few times because of my work, and I have been in contact privately, whether it is work or interaction, it is not bad, and I have become a good friend.

I was shocked because I never knew she was single and had a boyfriend, and when I knew that was when she said that.

She said: "At the age of 38, I can't afford to fall in love at all, and I don't dare to talk about it at all. ”

I understand her sadness, but I also sincerely feel how heavy the mask she wears on herself in daily life is so heavy that I don't even know that she is divorced, in love, broken up, and heartbroken.

Although I didn't dare to ask her directly, as if I usually faced a visitor, I could still feel her current predicament from her words.

When people reach middle age, anxious things abound, although there is no age for falling out of love, but we have rarely met a friend in our thirties and forties in our lives, and you pour out our inner yearning for love, or for love.

Could it be that when people reach middle age, they really lose the right to pursue love?

Not at all, although we keep saying that love knows no age, but when you really reach this age, you still think about the trivial things of life based on firewood, rice, oil and salt, if you happen to be single, you say to your friends: "I long for love." ”

Maybe in exchange, it can only be the word "naïve".

In addition to falling out of love, it seems that after people reach middle age, there are quite a few things that they can't consider.

Going on a walk-and-go trip? Work, family, life.

A scattered madness? Family, life, work.

A willfulness that doesn't care about it? Live, work, family.

It seems that these things are just for young people. But whenever we are a little throbbing, in many evaluations, we will see the evaluation of "the old man talks about juvenile madness".

Probably, every "middle-aged" person will have a mentality of self-abandonment.

Hey, when you're old, what kind of love, love, crazy, crazy, it's all a child's thing. ”

You set me back ten years, even if it was five years, I was better than that. ”

Look at my hair, see? What's this? It's your body reminding you that you're getting older. ”

Wait, hair?

Yes, when people reach a certain age, whether it is baldness or receding hairline, it has become a common trend.

Just ......It's pretty bald!

Generally, when facing a client who is not confident, we will start from the appearance to give each other advice, such as dressing, such as makeup, and then from hair?

Some people say that hair is starting to go bald, where does this confidence come from? I can't let this hair grow on my own for no reason, can I?

Because people are middle-aged, if they fall out of love, it is really difficult to find a suitable other half, because they are past their age, and it is very difficult to find someone who suits them.

Because there is no way back after people reach middle age, if they fall out of love, it may be difficult to fall in love again, after all, they have lost the capital to fall in love.

Because people don't have much time and energy to fall in love when they reach middle age, if they fall out of love, they are likely to be single for the rest of their lives.

Because after people reach middle age, they will gradually become independent, and love will become more and more solid, and the possibility of falling out of love will be greatly reduced.

Because people are very stressed after middle age, they are old and young, and they can't take into account their feelings at all, let alone fall in love.

Because after people reach middle age, their family, career and children have begun to take shape, and when you meet true love, you will also worry about your wife, family and children, and you will not have the strength to love bravely.

When I was middle-aged, I had already experienced the tempering of feelings, I had seen through a lot of things, and when I got older, a relationship lasted for a long time and I couldn't afford it.

It is indeed the case that people do not have much energy to be hurt by feelings when they reach middle age, so they can no longer afford to lose love when they reach middle age, whether it is physical, mental or emotional, this is not the case.

Because the ability of middle-aged people to bear is already relatively fragile, it is difficult to get out of love if they fall out of love again.

When people reach middle age, they have no money, no car, and no house, which is more sad than falling out of love, and life is not easy, so they are qualified to talk about feelings.

No money, unemployment, etc. No money means that the real road is full of ups and downs, and career means that life is full of ups and downs.