Why doesn t my boyfriend like to communicate with me

Hello, my character is also the type that doesn't like to deal with strangers who don't know each other, and only familiar people can be friends. However, there is an essential difference between your boyfriend, I will not run away from the problem, and I will not leave my girlfriend alone. The problem needs to be solved, it is useless to run away, in my opinion, your boyfriend has a relatively large flaw in his personality, and in the current situation, you can't help him change his personality......So I suggest that you can persuade him to see a psychiatrist and explain your boyfriend's situation to the psychiatrist in advance, but according to personal information, the psychiatrist may not be able to cure all the patients......Therefore, it cannot be ruled out that your boyfriend is not cured, or that your boyfriend does not listen to the advice of a psychiatrist at all.

And with the current situation, I personally don't think your boyfriend will agree to see a psychiatrist ......So my second piece of advice is to break up ...... as soon as possibleThat's right, if you drag it out like this, you can only drag it out until you break up with Lao Zhuhuang, I don't believe you can endure this kind of life all the time, I can't stand it. So instead of being tortured and then breaking up, it is better to break up as soon as possible now and suffer less torture .........Contrary to his words, but I still hope that you will think carefully, don't delay yourself for such a man, listen to your description, your current boyfriend also has a job, should have entered the society, with his character, if he is so rude to anyone, then look at the long-term ......His future won't be smooth sailing, and realistically, you don't have to hope for anything. If he only treats you like this, then it should be even more divided, and people who disrespect their girlfriends are not qualified to fall in love, get married, ......In short, there are thousands of men in the world, and some of them are friendlier than your current men, so let's change them if they don't work.

The relationship is mutual, and your current boyfriend obviously doesn't understand, so unless he can listen to the persuasion, accept the ** and correct it seriously, it is better to change it as soon as possible......

I don't want this, your boyfriend is not a good person, and he doesn't know how to be considerate and understand his lover. You have to mention something that interests him, first make him happy, and then say something to discuss with him, but nothing else. Mainly, he felt that his self-esteem had been frustrated.

Hello, I don't know if you can see it. My boyfriend and I also have this problem and want to know how you guys are doing?

There is no common language with your boyfriend, it may be that your boyfriend is more introverted, shy, and I don't know how to talk when I see a girl, nervous, if that's the case, then the girl can take the initiative, don't always think in thought, boys must take the initiative, girls are extroverted, then find more topics to talk about, there is a topic, there is something to say, neither of them take the initiative, they are particularly introverted, shy, then it will naturally be cold.

It shows that your boyfriend doesn't look down on you, looks down on you, you have no place in his mind, I think you should let go as soon as possible, you can't force it, you won't be happy after being together like this, it's not a trivial matter, it's a lifelong thing, I don't think you can live with such a person.

Your boyfriend doesn't like to talk, maybe he is more introverted or passive, you can find more topics to actively talk to your boyfriend. Your boyfriend talks a lot with other girls, maybe because of work or other necessary communication, don't get me wrong.

Your boyfriend doesn't like to talk to you and communicate, you should take the initiative to express your inner emotions to inspire your boyfriend to care and care about you.

Talk less Some people have a personality like this, they don't like to talk, they don't like to listen to others talk a lot, they like to be quiet. So if your boyfriend has such a personality, then you usually just talk less.

Say things you're interested in If your boyfriend often doesn't have a common language with you, it's probably because you're talking about something that isn't what he's interested in.

Of course, talking less does not mean saying nothing, but just saying that when you usually speak, say some important points. Don't always say something inconsequential, if it's the point of saying something.

Don't nag Many people who meet their boyfriend and don't have a common language with him, they may keep nagging, or keep complaining!

Then you take the initiative to talk to him, sometimes not liking to communicate and not wanting to communicate are two different things, then if he doesn't like to communicate, then you take the initiative to talk to him, he can also listen, that's good, the key is that there are people, unwilling to communicate and talk, he has a rebellious mentality.

Because you've been together for so long, there's no novelty anymore. You can try to do something new with him. You can go and learn something together that you haven't learned. Anyway, find something you haven't done before and develop some common hobbies and topics.

If the landlord has such a feeling, one may be his own delusion, the second may be that he needs to talk about things at work, and if none of the three are not, then it may be a precursor to empathy. Or even your boyfriend himself doesn't mean it, when this situation develops, when you talk less and less, and he communicates more and more with other girls, you may break up because of boredom. You can learn more about your boyfriend's hobbies, and both parties will generally have more communication based on the same hobbies.

It means that your boyfriend doesn't really love you.

On the road of love, not every couple can have true love and true love together, if two people are together, there is no true love, and there is no true love, then together there will be many contradictions and troubles; Because if a person does not really love someone, he must not care about the other person's thoughts or feelings; Everything is centered on oneself; When you are unhappy, you give the other person a lot of anger; When you are unhappy, you use the other party to vent; Sometimes, even saying a word to the other party is very uncomfortable and very reluctant.

Then you can be more proactive, and then you can also ask your boyfriend, has there been anything wrong recently? Give him the relationship with the president, such a boy will also think that you are more caring, and he will want to tell you more about anything in the future.

You can take the initiative to discuss this with him, figure out why he just doesn't like to communicate with you, and if it's because of a bad relationship, I suggest that you think about whether to continue.

If your boyfriend doesn't want to talk to you. Then you can take the initiative to chat with him, communicate with him, he may be this kind of character, she doesn't love Thai to talk.

My boyfriend doesn't like to talk to me, you really like him, if you love him, you take the initiative to talk to him, and he will talk to you after a long communication. Later he will love you and talk to you.

Seize the timing The number one reason why boys don't want to communicate is: I'm busy, I'm tired. It doesn't matter, sister communication is not in a hurry! If it's not too urgent, it's not too late to discuss it when the other party is in good condition after a while.

What should I do if your boyfriend doesn't like to talk to you? If he likes to talk to others and you don't like to talk, it means that he doesn't know you well enough, and in one is that he may not love you. So reluctant to talk to you.

The boyfriend talks a lot with her, but he doesn't talk much to you, which means that he doesn't like you very much, what does such a boyfriend want him to do, there are many good boys in the world, don't let him say that it is better for you to break up, you have nothing to say before marriage, how to live after marriage.

Maybe he doesn't like you at all. That's it, we can't think too much about it. So we have to study hard and work hard to make ourselves better. Don't think too much about these questions, these are too much of a waste of time.

I also talk to you, first of all, you have to confirm whether he likes you or not, if he doesn't like you, I think you can directly express your thoughts, if it is his personality problem, you can find more topics.

It should be more iceberg and introvert, you should take him to play and enlighten him more.

Maybe he feels that he can't talk to you, and often needs the boy to find a topic, and then the girl replies, if it's such a single chat, there is really no need to talk about it.

, it is advisable to tolerate him. First of all I would like to say never try to change a person who has a year before to create romance.

There is an explanation in psychology: in fact, silence is a kind of silent resistance. If this is the case, you need to change yourself first, change the way you get along with the other party, and make the other party feel that you respect him and are with kindness.

01. Mutual respect.

Start by asking 3 questions:

01. In the process of communication, do you communicate calmly throughout the whole process?

02. Didn't you show anger or dissatisfaction with any behavior or expression?

03. Are you blaming each other?

If you don't, it means that you don't respect the other person, and the other person will feel very uncomfortable and difficult to communicate. Realize that mutual respect is the premise of communication, talk well, and temporarily put away your anger as you normally do with your parents and friends, open your heart, put the other person on an equal footing with you, and communicate calmly.

02. Listen carefully.

In addition to expressing yourself, it is also important to listen to the other person. In life, there are very few people who can listen to us with their full attention, and people want someone to be like that. Therefore, when you listen carefully to the other person, the other person will also be more willing to open up to you and let you see their real side.

In this process, you will know what they think, know that the problem is in the **, and you will understand each other better and get closer to each other's hearts. For good communication, listening is more important than expressing. If both people can listen carefully to each other, it will be very effective in strengthening the relationship between each other.

03. Empathy.

The reason why there is a conflict between two people is because in life, some of the other party's concepts, ideas, and practices make you feel disagreed. When you look at each other's behavior from your own point of view, sometimes you will feel unreasonable and angry. In the same way, the other person looks at you the same way and finds it difficult to accept.

At this time, if we can't understand and tolerate each other, the contradiction will always exist. The premise of empathy is to listen carefully to the other person, but also to have the courage to express your true thoughts. When the problem is completely exposed, it will also be easier to solve, without having to guess and guess.

04. Clearly express your needs.

One of the most important aspects of communication is to clearly express your needs. Many people don't have this kind of awareness, and in the end, talking turns into complaining, blaming, arguing about who is right and who is wrong, who pays more, and then breaks up unhappily.

Before communicating, think clearly about what your needs are, whether they are reasonable, and if not, adjust your needs first. When communicating, express your needs clearly and ask the other person what they need. When both people know what the other wants them to do, the problem becomes simple and there is a good chance that it will be solved directly.

Most of them are because they can't solve the problem by communicating with you, and they tend to continue other problems.

First, make a good opportunity.

The reason boys don't want to communicate is simply that I'm busy and I'm tired. It's okay, communication is not urgent! If it's not too urgent, it's better to wait until the other party is in a good situation, and it's never too late.

After all, communicating when he was tired not only did not have practical results, but also easily aroused his mentality.

2. Save face for him.

Finding the right address is key! Sometimes your boyfriend doesn't communicate with you, because he takes care of the crowd places, or has relatives and friends around, he just feels sorry. To deal with this kind of idol baggage boyfriend, just give him some affection! Make an appointment and talk about it privately.

3. Immediately pass the message to him.

It's a very good way to send information, but you don't have to upload information on the gas head, if you are often cold in the gas head, it is very easy to mess up the communication! For example, when my boyfriend has a question about not communicating with me, he can write it in a text document first, or send a letter in a traditional way! Because when sending a letter, people are able to think carefully and sort out their ideas.

4. Tell him a story.

Men love to communicate with you, and you can do that. I have a friend ......Turn everything you want to say into a one-person story! At first glance, it looks cliché, but it's really easy to use!

If you have something to say that you don't want to tell the other person, or if the other party is always wary of communication, why not tell her a little story! Jumping away from each other's roles as the defendant, objective discussion is one way!

Hello, it's a pleasure to answer your questions, I've seen such a passage. Never talk about nothing, nothing to talk about. From not seeing enough to being tired of seeing both, so when he doesn't even bother to talk to you, you just let it go.

From your questions, I can feel that you still attach great importance to this relationship, but now that you are troubled, you can talk about it in detail if it is convenient, I hope it can help you.

Questions. Are you in a different place, and how long have you been together?

Questions. There is no common topic when I go home at night.

Not off-site, a year.

When did this begin? I can feel that you are a little uneasy and a little confused.

Questions. Since I went on a trip at the end of last month, he has rarely messaged me, and during that time he was also on a business trip, and his work was unlikely to be so busy that he didn't even have time to look at his phone. Later, when I came back, on my day off, he didn't message me all day, I just said that he ignored me, he said then I can send him a message or something, I had a fight with him, and he coaxed me.

But now it's like this again, he says he's busy with work.

In addition to this, has the other person been doing anything else recently? Maybe it's a lull.

Questions. My feeling is that he thinks I'm making trouble, last Thursday he dyed my hair with me for two hours, after the results came out, I asked him if he looked good, he directly said that he didn't see it, I was also angry, and then he was even more angry, saying that he came to accompany me after work, and he didn't even drink saliva and bought me milk tea, and then he was angry because he said something that didn't see it, and he felt that I didn't care about his feelings, and I wasn't happy if I didn't go along at all. But he's always been a good talker, and he's been very obedient to me.

So you don't think he's as nice and patient to you as he used to be, right?

Questions. It's usually that he takes the initiative to cook, and he used to say that he would leave it to him for cooking and washing dishes, but now it's changed, and he wants me to cook for him, but I usually have to pay, wash clothes, clean and so on. Well, yes, it's not as good as it used to be, and I'm always thinking about breaking up because of a little thing, but if I think about it, what should I do?

We don't have any common language now, and I don't really want to share anything with him, it's very boring, and I don't want to continue this state, can the teacher give me some analysis or substantive suggestions?

It's usually that he takes the initiative to cook, and he used to say that he would leave it to him for cooking and washing dishes, but now it's changed, and he wants me to cook for him, but I usually have to pay, wash clothes, clean and so on. Well, yes, it's not as good as it used to be, and I'm always thinking about breaking up because of a little thing, but if I think about it, what should I do? We don't have any common language now, and I don't really want to share anything with him, it's very boring, and I don't want to continue this state, can the teacher give me some analysis or substantive suggestions?

This is the time when you are in love.

After the hot love period, it's good to get along slowly and understand each other more.