Why many parents don t like to let go

There are several reasons for this.

One is because love is reluctant to let go.

The second is that in their minds, the child will never grow up.

The third is that if you let go, you are afraid that the child will suffer.

Nowadays, many children are only children, and parents are always reluctant. I'm afraid that as soon as I let go, the child will not be my own.

Nowadays, many parents don't like to let go, in fact, they are imagining with their own will, and their children think that they can't do anything, and they dare not let go and let them do it, afraid that something will happen.

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Why do many parents not like to let go?

In fact, from the perspective of many parents, it is because of love.

They always think of the child who has grown up as the child who is still waiting to be fed.

They are not at ease.

They always want to use their own experience, their own knowledge, to help their children.

In fact, this is wrong, this is a narrow love.

When the child grows up, he should let go and let him choose his own life and start his own life.

And it should not be up to the parents to decide his life, his life.

It is true that he is the child of his parents, but he is such a powerless person.

He is not a copy of his parents.

It doesn't have to be. To accomplish what the parents didn't do.

So it takes a lot of parents to figure this out before they can really let go.

Because your parents are not at ease and feel that you are not yet able to manage your own life and study, most of the things that your parents should let go of when you become an adult.

I worry a lot about it, and I think that this is not okay for children, and that is not okay.

Why can't parents let go?

Parents and children move from initial dependence to independence.

I can't let go because I haven't built a healthy relationship.

Healthy dependencies.

Neither overly dependent nor too independent.

I have the ability to live my own life, manage my emotions, live my own state, we are independent of each other, have our own circles, give both parties space, and encounter things together**.

Because of your company, life and failure are more beautiful.

Over-reliance is manifested.

1. I don't know how to live without you.

2. I don't need you to be extremely independent in doing anything for me.

There are two types of over-dependent relationships.

One is the child's over-dependence on their parents.

Always pay attention to the emotions of your parents, and take your parents' joys, sorrows and sorrows as your own weather vane.

When your parents are happy, you are happy.

Parents are anxious, and they are anxious themselves.

The second is the excessive dependence of parents on their children.

When the child reaches the age of independence, the parents are still not at ease and hold the child firmly in their hands.

It often stems from the high anxiety of the parents, and the high anxiety causes a high degree of anxiety.

Generate a strong desire to control your child, and the more you control your child, the more you want to be independent.

Especially when children enter puberty, there are huge changes in both psychology and physiology.

More enthusiastic about independent self-awareness, parents do not have the values of accommodating their children.

On the contrary, the child is more demanding, and the child's attitude towards his parents will slowly change to contempt and disgust.

Go to extremes, either extremely inferior, or extremely independent (I don't need you to do anything for me) Chawei.

Parents' world.

Longing for the child to grow up, but afraid of the child growing up.

Excessive anxiety puts the child in the process of adapting to the club.

Many of the problems encountered are infinitely magnified.

On the one hand. It aggravates the frustration of the child's adaptation to society.

On the other hand. It destroys the child's self-space and ability to be independent.