Why are people becoming more and more insecure today?

The first thing to determine is where the sense of security is! Why are you insecure, is it a matter of mental or economic level? For example, there is a blind date program on Beijing TV, a 77-year-old man, in the eyes of normal people, is old and slow, because there are many houses for rent, and some women in their early 50s are vying to get married.

What's more, he bluntly said that it depends on the good conditions of this old man to support me, and he doesn't have to do anything. So a sense of security is to work hard to make a difference! Or you can rub out a piece of the world to enjoy.

Lack of financial resources. If you don't have money or don't have enough money, you can't feel secure. Only when you have food in your hands can you not panic in your heart.

In today's consumer society, it is very easy to spend money, and a hundred yuan will be used as soon as it is scattered, but it is not easy to make money. And you can earn it today, but you may not be able to earn it tomorrow. Therefore, if you don't have a very solid "family foundation", it is difficult to survive, and it is even more impossible to have a sense of security.

If you don't work well, you can't feel a sense of security: you can't do your job well, and when there is a problem, you can't find a solution to it; When there are hard tasks or goals, they basically cannot be completed or achieved; The relationship with the leader is not good, there is a gap between each other, and colleagues can not support each other and live in harmony. As a result, I felt stressed, stormy, and worried that I would be laid off at any time.

The body is the biggest capital, and there is no sense of security without health. If you continue to suffer from minor illnesses and frequent major illnesses, you will not only be sad, but also drag down your family, causing mental and financial hardship and even debts to your family. As the saying goes:

There is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time. After a long illness, it is natural to worry about your family giving up.

Lack of trust in loved ones and other loved ones. In today's impetuous society, what is the matter? Everything is utilitarian.

Therefore, I am afraid that "husband and wife are birds of the same forest, and they fly separately when disaster comes", and love cannot stand the test; I am afraid that my brothers will become enemies, father and son will turn against each other, and family affection will not be able to match money and difficulties. In a word: no confidence in people.

Economic malpractice will lead to unstable social status and inferiority, and if you want to make progress, you will encounter many obstacles and unbearable, and if you have more setbacks, you will naturally become less and less confident, and more and more lacking in security and motivation.

Nowadays, many people are becoming more and more insecure, why? In today's life, many people are extremely insecure, but they don't know why they are insecure, in fact, the reasons are nothing more than the following.

1.I don't have any close friends around. The power of bosom friends to each of us is very great.

They can give us warmth, give us confidence, and make us feel the happiness and hope of life. If you don't have close friends around you, you won't communicate with you when you encounter any problems, no one will think with you, and no one will stand by your side wholeheartedly, encourage yourself, help you when you encounter conflicts and difficulties. Solve it yourself, when you are alone, no one will always be by your side.

So if you don't have close friends, you will feel lonely and insecure.

2.The original family is not happy enough. The family of origin has a great influence on a person.

It affects a person's personality, whether they are lively or introverted, and also affects whether a person is optimistic or has low self-esteem. If the family of origin is not happy enough, or even full of sadness, then the person will be affected by the family of origin and feel very inferior and timid. At this time, the man is also very insecure, because family is not his own haven, not even his own nightmare, he will never have someone close to him to care about him, care for himself, no one behind him, and in the battle, he will always be alone...

This kind of person will feel insecure.

3.I'm not good enough. If you can't solve many of your own difficulties and problems and need to ask others for help, you will have more worries, it will make you more dissatisfied with yourself, and you will have more concerns, so at this time, I will be very inferior and confident.

So if you're not good enough, then you're going to be very insecure. Only by constantly improving yourself to become excellent and stronger. will have a sense of security from the bottom of your heart.

Because of the pressure of employment, it is easy to lose your job, coupled with the lack of recognition from others, and your lack of self-confidence, you will naturally become more and more insecure.

The main reason is that people are becoming less and less confident now, and they feel that they are not good at everything.

Because people have become very impetuous, and now people always seek fast-food relationships when they fall in love, so people will become more and more insecure.

Because many people now often think crankily in their relationships, and the other half takes very little care of themselves, so they have no sense of security.

Because many people nowadays have psychological problems to varying degrees, they are easy to deny themselves, have no self-confidence, and therefore have no sense of security.

Betrayed by those who are believed, unrewarded for their sincere efforts, without self-confidence and ego, only by being cared for in the relationship with other people, can they feel "I exist", and they cannot bear loneliness.

There are many reasons for insecurity, such as growing up in a family full of contradictions, receiving a "repressive" education since childhood, having no friends and no freedom in childhood; Another example is that you have been excellent since you were a child, you have always been "someone else's child", the shining point in the crowd, one day you suddenly find that there is a person who crushes you in all aspects, it is the "other people's child" in the mouth of your parents, and the person you like is chasing the object, all of them will look at her, but no one knows your loss. Another example is that you rarely refuse other people's requests, are willing to share, hardly lose your temper and rarely show dissipating emotions, but you find that even if your request is small, it is always rejected, they don't take you with you, etc.

Finally, we should not attach too much importance to the participation of others in our own lives, we should choose to let go of the painful past but do not have to forgive, care about what we should not care, we will inevitably lose the center of gravity of life. Life is only once, life is our own, how to choose, you say it yourself.

Thank you.

After being with the partner for a long time, sometimes the other person's love for him is no longer so obvious, or he can't feel the other person's love for him. In this case, some people may feel confused, lost, and even anxious and suspicious. However, there are actually steps we can take to improve the situation.

First, we need to be clear about our emotional needs. Different people have different emotional needs, some people may prefer the other person to tell them to love them often, and others prefer to show love through actions. If we are clear about our emotional needs, we can send a clear message to the other person so that they can better understand their inner needs.

Secondly, we can take the initiative to express our love. Sometimes, when we are used to the other person's love for us, we forget to express our love. In this way, it is easy for the other party to misunderstand that he does not love him or her, and it is also easy to lead to emotional estrangement.

Therefore, we should take the initiative to express our love and let the other person know how deep our love is for him.

Third, we can try to think about the relationship from the other person's point of view. Sometimes, we don't feel the love of the other person, probably because we focus too much on our own feelings and ignore the other person's true emotions. If we empathize with each other and understand the other person's thoughts and needs, we may find that the other person's love is actually there all along.

Fourth, we can get to know each other better through communication. Sometimes, we may misinterpret the other person's actions or be distracted by some of them. If we can communicate in a timely manner and understand each other's thoughts and feelings, we can avoid a lot of unnecessary suspicions and misunderstandings, and enhance mutual trust and affection.

Finally, we need to trust in time and patience. Sometimes, feelings take time to nurture and precipitate, and in the process, we need to be patient and confident. As long as we firmly believe in the other person's love for us, and continue to give and manage our feelings, then our relationship will definitely get better and better.

In short, when we have been with the partner for a long time, sometimes we don't feel the love of the other person for us, but this does not mean that the other person does not love us. We can start with ourselves, clarify our emotional needs, take the initiative to express our love, empathize, communicate, trust time and patience, so as to improve the situation and make each other's feelings more stable, healthy and long-lasting.

Now I feel more and more insecure, and there should be the following three reasons

Your abilities are not worthy of your ambitions.

As we get older, adult development may go in two directions.

Some people no longer bother with the so-called ambition, and choose a plain life, thinking that this kind of life is true, and why bother themselves with a short life of a few decades. Another part of the people still firmly believe in their original ambitions, which are called in the name of "old and strong", rather than move the heart of the white head, be poor and strong, and not fall into the ambition of the clouds.

No matter how hard you try, you still don't achieve your ambitions, and insecurity naturally arises. This is what we call the ability to know, the ability to support ambition, and the mentality becomes no longer calm and insecure.

2. The progress of our career cannot keep up with the pace of aging of our parents.

The fundamental purpose of pursuing career success should be to seal the shadow of the wife and let the parents age gracefully. Although we have made rapid progress and are already very good compared to our peers, there are still unforeseen circumstances and good fortunes and misfortunes. We are worried that the financial resources we have accumulated will not be able to make up for the aging of our parents' bodies, and we are worried that one day our children will not be able to support them.

This sense of insecurity should be a common thing.

3. The future is confused, and I don't know what my future is.

Whether the future is confused or not seems to have no inevitable relationship with age, some people already know that they have found the direction of their life's work or the work they are engaged in before graduating from college; People with sleepiness have been working for many years, but they still don't know what they rely on for food. How much of us do it is just a job, and it has nothing to do with what we are good at or what we are worthy of long-term engagement, it is just a kind of economy to support our families**. This may be the so-called midlife crisis, which is the general loss of security in the middle.