Do you know what men are most afraid of in middle age?

1. I am most afraid of unemployment.

Mr. Liu, 40 years old, the company's employees I came to Shenzhen after graduating from high school, and later entered a Hong Kong-funded enterprise, the work is easy, the salary is good, in that work is 20 years, in that company met my current wife, love, marriage, childbirth, and the company grew together, witnessed the rise and fall of the company. Today, the company's efficiency has plummeted, and even worse year by year. When I went to work that morning, the company's door was locked, and when I asked the security guard, I learned that the company was closed, the factory was sealed, the boss ran away, and many employees were anxious, and the wages for nearly three months had not been paid!

The company's factory building is rented, and the equipment inside is not worth a few dollars. Fortunately, I went into the factory at that time and bought Du Bao and had unemployment insurance money. Nowadays, people are middle-aged and unemployed, it is difficult to find a suitable job, there are old and young, and when they open their eyes every day, they are surrounded by people who rely on themselves, and they have no one to rely on, and they are really afraid of unemployment.

2. I am most afraid that my career will be frustrated and I will not be able to support my family. Qiangzi, 40 years old, supermarket owner. I opened a supermarket, the business has been booming in recent years, unexpectedly, there are unforeseen circumstances, in May this year, suffered a fire, their own economic damage, the loss of blood is not to say, an employee burned to death, a customer body burned to a large area, go through legal procedures to compensate, the compensation is not a small amount!

Now he is poor, his wife has given birth to three babies, the younger one is too small, he needs to take it, he can't go to work, the big one is in middle school, and there are two old people in his hometown to support, the living expenses are very large, and the pressure is overwhelming. A 40-year-old man has an economic foundation for his hard work, but his money has been wiped out overnight, and he has an unspeakable loss of soul in his heart.

3. I am most afraid that my wife will dislike her raised beer belly. Mr. Chen, 41 years old, the manager of the company's business department, I am 41 years old this year, a man is middle-aged, frequent socializing, cups come and go, overnutrition, body fat is too much, it is easy to form a beer belly, but also let the hormones in the body plummet. Some people think that men are fat, and they feel bitter when they are implemented, let alone the love of men and women.

No woman likes a man with a beer belly, who walks like a penguin, not to mention any demeanor, and faces the risk of "three highs". When my belly is slightly raised, my wife hates to say, if you don't control your appetite, you're not done! You can do it!

The aggressive tone made me afraid of the breakdown of my marriage.

Middle-aged men are most afraid of getting sick, both old and young, all need him to take care of them, if he falls ill, the elderly and children will have no one to take care of.

I am most afraid of being laid off and unemployed, middle-aged men are old and young, they are the pillars of the family, and without a stable income, the whole family will be affected.

When people reach middle age, what are they most afraid of?These points are very sad, but I have to admit it.

There are many rights and wrongs in middle age, body, career, and family have reached a certain extreme, and they are afraid of something that they don't want to happen, sometimes we really have no way, but we must learn to avoid or even accept him, how is life not like this, and not only some troubles will occur in middle age, but there are indeed some things worth being afraid of during middle age.

1. The loss of relatives and even parents makes you feel broken

Parents are your day, when you were a child, you were your arms to protect yourself from the wind and rain, so to speak, no matter how old you are, you are your parents' children, and at the same time your heart subconsciously still depends on your parents, people reach middle age, your parents have also entered their old age, maybe they will leave the world that day, so at that time, I was afraid that my parents would have an accident, I was afraid that my parents would not be able to enjoy it, so now when we have the ability to make our parents happy, let our parents enjoy it, and don't let our parents feel lonely.

Second, I am afraid that my career will be frustrated or that my career will not succeed

Middle-aged, very afraid of nothing in the career, so for the family, for relatives, for parents, for classmates have no face to show them, feel that they are very incompetent, this feeling is really strong at that time, in addition, when the career is successful, suddenly face the collapse of the career and other career plummeting, this situation is also unacceptable to you, some people even collapsed, and even committed suicide to end their lives.

3. There are physical problems after a successful career

This problem exists for many people, according to epidemiological statistics related data, after people reach the age of 40, the probability of many cancers will rise a lot, many people find out that they have cancer after the age of 40, since then the family is not perfect, life is full of gloom, this situation has to be said to be the sadness of life, so many people, especially those with family genetic history, must do a good job of physical examination, regular physical examination and even cancer screening, to avoid some unnecessary sadness.

Who doesn't want to be young!When you are recklessly wasting your youth, someone tells you that you are already middle-aged. Will you be grief-stricken, will you be in pain, will you regret it for the rest of your life?

However, this is the case, as soon as people reach middle age, they become greedy for life and afraid of death, become unfounded, and even sensitive and suspicious.

Once people reach middle age, they will be timid as a mouse and timid. He was afraid that he would lose everything he had now, after all, everything he had now was the result of his forgetting to sleep and eat and throwing everything away. He was no longer in high spirits and couldn't start over.

I don't want to start all over again, after all, everything I have now has been replaced with the best and favorite things I had at the beginning. When a person reaches middle age, he will have unnecessary worries, because he knows the stupid and bad things he did when he was young. He was afraid of retribution.

People are selfish, and he is no exception, so he lost inexplicably, because he only has so much now.

Fear of baldness. People with beautiful hair must not experience the feeling of being middle-aged, and probably don't want to do so. It is said that people rely on clothing, and horses rely on saddles.

The premise is that people are good-looking and horses are not ugly. Baldness will expose their age not to mention, and it is ugly. Otherwise, how could there be such a thing as a hair transplant.

Baldness is another reflection of your physical unhealth. When your physical condition is exposed to others, you are not just embarrassed.

I'm afraid that the child will not be angry. When middle age arrives, you are more than halfway through your life, and your life is almost frozen. However, your child does not, and you are definitely betting everything on your child.

It is a good thing that your child is sensible and smart, but it does not rule out that your child has a bad problem, like a dou who can't be helped. At this time, you will definitely be the most disappointed and painful one. After all, you don't even have the possibility of relying on your children in the future.

A successful person is often the most unsuccessful in educating his children.

Zi said: I have five out of ten and am determined to learn, thirty and stand, forty and not confused, fifty and know the destiny of heaven. Here Confucius said that forty is not confused, probably the middle age of a person.

However, with the continuous improvement of people's living standards, the definition of middle age is also changing, some people say that it should be forty-five years old, and some people say that fifty years old is more suitable. But no matter how you define it, after the age of forty, people will have a kind of anxiety about their own living conditions, the rich have the worries of the rich, the middle class has the confusion of the middle class, and the proletarians have the fear of the proletarians.

What are the most worrying and fearing people in middle age? It is the self you see struggling between ideals and reality when you suddenly look back: you are despairing of your hopeless ideals while secretly living complacently.

Many choices in life determine the path in front of you, and each choice is for fame, for relatives and friends, or for the escape ......Step by step, he moved away from his original ideal, and forgot his original simplicity and purity.

On the one hand, it is a stable job, on the other hand, it is the wife and children on the hot kang head, at first glance, it looks peaceful and joyful, but every time it calms down, there is always a trace of regret in the heart. With every morning and dusk, I can't find myself, I don't know where I am, I don't know whether it's a dream or an illusion in front of me, and there is always a voice asking again: What are you doing?

Who are you? There are too many forks in the road in life, even if you are down-to-earth, you will still be confused and confused, often like Zhuang Sheng's dream butterfly. I forgot the obsession of rebellion, and I can't remember the idol I worshipped in the first place.

But one day, all the memories will be restored, and you will still be scared in middle age. Afraid of changing your life, afraid of starting over, even if the ideal was just a stone's throw away, but a word of fear has come to an end.

The realistic skinny and ideal plumpness are always so real, making people hate the bony and shy away from the plumpness, what are you most afraid of in middle age? I am most afraid of this kind of confusion about life, and the current may not be the most satisfactory, ideal or need to go through difficulties and firm direction, you are not confused.

When people reach middle age, in addition to working harder, they must also have a calm and steady mentality. Don't be surprised, go and stay at will. As long as you do your best, you don't have to worry about gains and losses. Contentment is the truth.

I remember my dad said: Teenagers are afraid of good times, middle-aged people are afraid of leisure, and old people are afraid of adversity.

I think that everyone in middle age should have accumulated a lot of life experience, and should use these experiences or techniques to do something meaningful, give full play to their light and heat, don't let themselves be idle, make themselves feel that they are a useful person, and life is not in vain. I think this is also in line with the saying: "live in the moment".

The career is not prosperous, and the family is not harmonious.

What does a crisis look like for a middle-aged man? These 2 pressures can easily make men betray their families.

01 What middle-aged men are most afraid of is the dignity they lose because they have no money. For men, when they are young, they can have no money, because the feelings at that time are innocent, they can not consider any economic foundation, they can ignore the relationship between the two families, as long as they like it, they can be with each other and leave each other's best memories. But middle-aged men can't, middle-aged men even go on blind dates, and the other party also attaches great importance to the man's economic conditions, and if the economic conditions are good, the woman is willing to communicate with the man in the next step.

This is especially true for many middle-aged people who are married, they are shouldering the hopes of their wives, children, fathers, and mothers, and he is a man who grew up accepting the idea that "men should stand up to the sky", so he must rely on his own strength to shoulder the heavy responsibility of the family. It is a very common thing for a family to live well, the raising of children, the support of parents, and the management of the relationship between husband and wife are all indispensable. And if a person in middle age borrows all his relatives and friends because he has no money, when borrowing money, the white eyes and the contemptuous eyes of the other party will also make a man's dignity completely lost.

Therefore, when people reach middle age, what many men are most afraid of is actually having no money.

02 What middle-aged men are most afraid of is losing their health. In most families, men are the pillars of the family, is a family happy? It all depends on the man's hard work, and as a middle-aged man, if he doesn't even have his own health, then how can he talk about the happiness of his family?

When people reach middle age, health is a kind of responsibility, and when people reach middle age, health is the greatest responsibility for the family. Because no matter whether you have money or not, when you are healthy, you can still rely on your own efforts to improve your family's living situation, but if you are not healthy, then everything you have earned hard will have no meaning of existence.

03 What middle-aged men are most afraid of is that the unemployed are middle-aged, and there is nothing more difficult to sleep than being unemployed! There is no income, the eyes of the family are staring at themselves, and they can't find a job right away, and the companies they go to interview for are all looking at their own conditions in all aspects, and they are pressing the salary again and again. Middle-aged men who are unemployed not only have to face the economic pressure of their families, but also face competition everywhere in the workplace.

Work, for middle-aged men, is not only a job, it is also a necessity for oneself to maintain one's own manly dignity and maintain family harmony.

When people reach middle age, what they are most afraid of is lack of energy. Since Feng Tang wrote "How to Avoid Being a Middle-aged Greasy Man" with self-deprecation, various discussions about "middle-aged" have been on social platforms for a while. "Middle-aged greasy man", "middle-aged mother", "middle-aged crisis" and other related "middle-aged" unique terms emerge in an endless stream.

The young people enthusiastically discussed how to avoid becoming the ridicule they are today in the future, and the real middle-aged people only sighed, and then silently turned around and continued to clean up their chicken feathers.

Not long ago, the controversy over the "996" work system in the Internet world has not subsided, and young people complain that their efforts are not proportional to their income, that they sacrifice too much free time, that they use their lives as the price of their work, or that they spit on the disguised exploitation of companies. These young people can still grasp a certain right to speak in the ups and downs of the workplace, and mobilize their youthful fighting spirit to express their dissatisfaction.

As everyone knows, for most middle-aged people, it is even more difficult to keep up with the pace of 996 with physical energy and time, but the reality can only allow them to endure silently, constantly accumulating unknown bitterness, or completely disappearing in the workplace. Of course, you can say that you have already broken free at that stage, and now you have a rich and stable life, occasionally working overtime, you can drive to play golf with friends on weekends, and the words you say when you push a cup and change a lamp at a social dinner are not indifferent, and the food is quite delicious.

Among the many people in Zhihu who are the ages of "middle-aged", all of them are worried, dissatisfied and tired of the life of the middle search year, among them, there are many analyses of the reasons for this problem, one of which is impressive, he said, "After pushing the car door, you are your husband and father, but not yourself." Indeed, the "hard work" and "hard heart" of middle-aged men are obvious to all. Zhang Ailing once wrote in "Half Life": "When people reach middle age, men often feel lonely, and Li Leaky opens their eyes because as soon as they open their eyes, they are surrounded by people who want to rely on him, but there is no one he can rely on."

The sea of life is long, and the years are fleeting. "Middle-aged" is undoubtedly embarrassing, on the one hand, I still want to carry the vitality of youth, and perhaps there is still an uncompromising attitude towards the world in my heart; On the other hand, the edges and corners are quietly smoothed out by life. If it is said that the struggle of youth is more often caused by the contradiction that the inner ideal cannot be consistent with the real society, then middle-aged people have long been unable to take care of the so-called "self", and more often they can only rise and fall in the ups and downs of life.