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In fact, the most incorrect sentence I have heard of the three views is that the big one must give way to the small one, and this practice is also very wrong. Because children cannot change the order of their birth, children come into this world in the hope that their parents can love them. If you say that before your younger siblings were born, your parents loved you very much.
But after the birth of younger siblings, if parents put all their thoughts on their younger siblings, then it will also form a huge gap in the child's heart. In fact, many people think that the elder brother should let the younger sister, which is also very wrong. Because although boys don't care about these details, over time, these brothers will feel that they don't make their parents like them very much.
Similarly, when these brothers grow up, they will hate their sisters even more.
And we can tell my brother from the side that we can let my brother take care of my sister more in our daily life. Because most boys have some machismo in their hearts, if the brother takes care of the younger sister. If we praise our brother appropriately, then most of them will feel very happy, so they will develop this habit over time.
And most of the brothers will also like their sisters very much, so there is no need for parents to say that these brothers will take special care of their sisters. But if these words come out of the mouths of the parents, they will also deteriorate.
Therefore, the relationship between brother and sister should be discussed by themselves, and they should also change it by themselves. In the process of getting along, parents should not interfere too much, and parents should not let the elder brother let the younger sister. Because many of the eldest were all loved by their parents before the old man was born, they were very angry after the second child came out.
If the parents still ask the eldest to let the second child at this time, then the boss will also be very angry, whether the boss is a boy or a girl, if it is a girl, then he will think more.
So I think the feelings between siblings should be handled by themselves, and it should be mediated by themselves. Parents shouldn't interfere too much, and if parents always interfere, it will make these bosses think that their parents don't love them. Especially after the birth of his younger siblings.
Parents should not let the eldest give the second child, or let the eldest give his own things to the second child. If this is the case, it will also make the boss feel that he is not loved by his parents, and it will make the boss dislike his parents more and more.
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No, it's acceptable to give in once in a while, but it's not always an excuse to give in. Because older brothers and sisters are also children, they also need to be taken care of, and just because younger brothers and sisters are young, they can't lose too many equal rights.
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It should not be blindly given in without principles. People are equal, and no one should let anyone. Parents should grasp this balance and not let the older children be psychologically unbalanced.
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Parents should not blindly educate their older brothers and sisters to let their younger siblings let their younger siblings, but also let their older siblings combine the actual situation, and not accommodate their younger siblings where they are not doing well, and educate and correct them in a timely manner. At the same time, parents should also teach younger siblings to respect older siblings and not to rely on small sales, such behavior will not be connived at by parents. Only when the two sides are balanced can the family be harmonious and stable.
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I don't think you should hand over your brothers and sisters to let your younger brothers and sisters, they are all children in the family, if it is indeed the younger brothers and sisters who do wrong, then you must stick to your own principles, let your younger brothers and sisters recognize their mistakes, and the younger brothers and sisters will not be able to let the brothers and sisters take the initiative to help, rather than letting the brothers and sisters let the younger brothers and sisters do everything.
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Of course, my opinion is that it can be taught, mainly depends on how parents educate, brothers and sisters themselves should let more younger brothers and sisters, since ancient times there is a famous saying that Kong Rong let pears, we should all have a sense of responsibility, and being broad-minded is the person who is a big thing.
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I think this topic is very interesting to discuss, because it is not right for parents to educate their older siblings to let their younger siblings do not have fair love, and over time, children who are forced to be sensible and tolerant will become inferior, because young and pampered children will become arrogant.
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I think it's a big or small thing, I'm the eldest sister in the family, I don't know if it's the family's teaching or other reasons, when I encounter something with my sister, if it's not something important, I will let her; But if it's something very important, I won't give in, because blindly giving in will make my sister develop a pampered character.
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I feel that what parents should really teach is to let all children love each other, rather than letting older siblings let younger siblings unconditionally.
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I think we should still treat each other equally, after all, they are all their own children, no matter which of the big or small is at fault, they all have to apologize to each other, so that it is fair to everyone.
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I think that parents are doing the right thing, since ancient times, we have respected the old and loved the young, and older brothers and sisters should love their younger siblings.
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Because parents feel that older people are more sensible.
Parents think that you are older, sensible and filial, and even if you are wronged, you will not make such a fuss. It is also much easier for parents to discipline. So when I happen to meet at home, my parents let my older brothers and sisters let my younger brothers and sisters let my younger siblings.
Mom and dad are the first teachers of children, and in daily life, they should do a good job of guiding and setting an example. It is not an inevitable proposition for older brothers and sisters to let younger siblings go, but a selective proposition worthy of serious consideration.
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Because we are older than our younger siblings, we should be a little more sensible than them.
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First of all, this concept is a subtle inner hurt for children who are elders. Maybe your parents are casually saying that you have to let your younger siblings because they are younger than you. But this sends a negative message to the elder child – that the parents favor younger siblings, and I am not watching.
The psychological damage this causes to children is enormous. Children who grow up in this environment will invisibly increase the estrangement from their parents, and children will think that their parents do not care about them. This can create more insecurities for the child.
In particular, those children who are not good at communication are not paid attention at school and do not feel the attention of their parents at home, which gives children psychological trauma.
It's huge. Over time, the child's personality is different, but the parents are not aware of it at all, so that in the end, tragedy occurs, and it is already too late. Some people may question that it is impossible for an elderly child to have such a scary outcome for his younger siblings.
Indeed, because of this concept, there are indeed few tragedies, but that does not mean that there are none. In reality, there have indeed been tragic incidents of hurting younger siblings in order to compete for the attention of parents, and it is necessary to prevent it. In addition, this concept will slowly become a child's psychological trauma and will slowly accumulate into the child's negative emotions.
There is no doubt about it.
Secondly, this kind of thinking will create a false perception for the favored younger siblings - that the older siblings let me and help me to break down the beams. This also has the reality of "Fan Shengmei."
Event. The girl died unexpectedly, and her parents claimed 410,000 yuan from her company to buy a house for her younger brother. The younger brother also gladly accepted it, and never understood his sister, who had never taken care of him, as if his sister was obliged to help him even if he died, because he was the youngest in the family.
Think about how terrible this perception is.
In the end, in the face of this perception, how to correct it is the key. This belief has a long history in China, and among most Chinese parents, it is so ingrained that it is difficult to change. However, that doesn't mean it can't be changed.
Parents, schools, and society can work together to change this. Parents are the most critical link, because parents are the first teachers of children, and they are also the most important companions of children during their growth. If parents do not instill in their children who are elders from an early age the concept that "big must let the young", and do not instill in their younger siblings the concept that "older brothers and sisters will let you".
It is to educate children, whether they are older brothers and sisters, or younger brothers and sisters, to help each other and be humble to each other, rather than blindly humble, and endless humility is called "doting". In this way, the child can be healthy in a harmonious family.
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This is a prejudiced thinking of parents. Parents always think that older children need to take care of their younger siblings below, because that's how they come over.
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Parents in every family will do this, the big ones let the young, the older brothers and sisters let the younger brothers and sisters are the natural habits of every family, because the elder brothers and sisters are a few years older, and the bits and pieces of life let the younger brothers and sisters should also be done, but it depends on what the circumstances, every primary school student understands the story of Kong Rong Rang Pear, so at a young age, the elder brothers and sisters love their younger brothers very much, and they will also redouble their love for their younger brothers and sisters, if the younger brothers and sisters are deliberately arrogant and unreasonable, Then don't let your younger brothers and sisters, if you let your ignorant younger brothers and sisters, it will bring disaster to him when they grow up, and it will be difficult for children who grow up in pampering to become big things.
Kong Rong let the pear. If the younger brothers and sisters are like Kong Rong, they are the elder brothers and sisters, so that the younger brothers and sisters are a happy and beautiful family, as the saying goes, a good family and everything is prosperous.
As for whether you should let your younger siblings or not, it depends on what kind of children your younger siblings are, sensible children don't need to let them, and ignorant children can't let them, it's better to go with the flow.
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This has two implications. 1. Before they reach adulthood, younger siblings are at a disadvantage. Therefore, my sister and brother must let them.
The meaning is very clear. 2. After adulthood. At this time, they are all adults, so there is no question of who is weak.
But in the family, there is a question of mutual respect. Because there is family affection, the elder brothers and sisters have to let the younger brothers and sisters, and conversely, the younger brothers and sisters have to let the younger brothers and sisters. This matter is forgiving and compromising.
Together, it is family affection. Without respect, there will be no family affection.
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No, they should be allowed to get along with themselves. In the long run, my brothers and sisters will feel very uncomfortable. will have a rebellious mentality, they will deal with too much, and they will naturally let the small ones go. Don't stress it all the time.
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It's okay to mention it at the right time, tell your brothers and sisters to take care of your younger brothers and sisters, but it's not appropriate to talk about it often, it will be an invisible harm to your brothers and sisters, and it is also a kind of connivance for your younger brothers and sisters.
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Parents are the co-guardians of their children in the family. Children should be treated equally. So first of all, we must teach our older siblings to be humble to each other. Then, on this basis, the requirements with older siblings can be a little higher.
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In the family, older siblings let younger siblings go.
So this question depends on how to give way in ordinary times.
If you blindly have no bottom line, you will live in the vice of younger brothers and sisters.
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Anyone must learn to be polite! Not only older siblings, but younger siblings should also learn to be polite. This should be a model of courtesy, starting with parents, and whoever does well is a role model, so that everyone can learn well.
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You are going to be spared. Because the brother and sister were killed, the younger brother and sister should go. Let's eat my own brother and sister. It's good Hayakawa's. Said by my dad and mom. Brother and sister know how to let the bad brother and sister be bad. What they say is not sensible.
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There is no need for heated discussions, if you want your brothers and sisters to try their best to help your younger siblings when they are able, the sincerity of your parents will also be felt. Let younger brothers and sisters sometimes involve issues of principle, and older brothers and sisters will feel uncomfortable, and everyone who grows up has certain principles.
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Older brothers and sisters let younger brothers and sisters take care of younger brothers and sisters, brothers and sisters are like siblings, a milk sibling, so that they can also share responsibilities for their parents, and the family lives in harmony, and they are happy and happy.
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Many parents will ask their older siblings to let their younger siblings go, but they also need to distinguish the seriousness of the matter, some vexatious things or the fault of the younger siblings, these are not necessary, parents should be fair.
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Parents should teach older siblings to let younger siblings go. This is a common question. Cause heated discussions. Absolutely!
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If when you are young, there are some things that should be let your brothers and sisters let your younger brothers and sisters, you must still be young and ignorant, and if you are older, you should be reasonable.
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Parents should teach their older brothers and sisters to let their younger brothers and sisters, this is a traditional fine fashion, and it is basically like this to be educated from ancient times to the present, respect the old and love the young!
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It depends on the specific situation, if it is some issues that are not particularly principled, the younger brothers and sisters are not quite unreasonable, the brothers and sisters should indeed let the younger brothers and sisters appropriately, as long as they are not deliberately used to their bad problems, just like parents care about their children, they should also set a good example for their children, and brothers and sisters should also set a good example for younger brothers and sisters.
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