What are the manifestations of choice phobias in people around you?

My mother has difficulty in choosing, she lives in a third-tier city, and she is about to get married, and my mother shows me the house, and looks at which community is very good, but I can't make a decision, I want to buy everything, and after a year, the house price has risen boundlessly.

Roommate psychology: I have a hundred, do I buy a swimming blind or a swimming crocodile? Recommend crocodile to him, he will say that the single crocodile is not good, no one plays crocodile now, recommend the blind man to him, and he will say that the next version of the blind man will be weakened and can he still play.

Buying shoes saw two pairs of good-looking shoes, entangled in buying which pair, this pair of white is very handsome, this pair of black is very good, and then I suggested buying both, carrying two shoe boxes back to the dormitory.

When I saw two similar clothes in the street, I liked them very much and wanted to buy them, so I gave them to my girlfriends. My best friend frowned, what should I do, I have a phobia of choice, why should I choose.

Some people will hesitate in front of such trivial things as which color to choose for two identical shirts, and which one to eat for dinner—isn't this what Nima is talking about (:3).

I couldn't choose for nearly half an hour after ordering takeout and looking at the various delicacies on Meituan, so I bought a sock and picked and chosen, which took three days.

When a friend chooses to buy clothes, he can really choose two clothes that are not bad, and he struggles for an hour, and finally decides with coins.

My friend Xiaomei has been very entangled recently: should I listen to my husband? Or should I listen to my parents? "Oh, what should I do, I have a phobia of choice! ”

Friends take the civil service exam, a position in the city is not very fond but close, far away from the city but more suitable, the registration time is coming, has been entangled, and finally I made a decision for him.

My friend is newly married and entangled in buying a Kia or Chevrolet car, but I can't make up my mind, and now I've been married for a month, and I haven't picked up the car yet....

Foreword:

There was once a sincere relationship in front of me, I didn't cherish it, and I regretted it when I lost it. There was a precious opportunity in front of me, I didn't make a choice, and I regretted it until I realized it.

How many people with choice phobia regret not being able to make a choice? In fact, it is not as difficult as you think to make a choice.

In fact, the main reason why people with phobias choose is because they think too much about the consequences, so they can't make a choice in time. Because their self-positioning is not accurate, they finally consider a lot of consequences, in fact, those consequences do not necessarily happen to themselves, but they like to think so muchBecause I don't know my position, I don't know my acceptance, and I don't know my shortcomings.

Therefore, try to use the positioning method to find out where you are and thus eliminate your hesitant mentality. First of all, we should find our strengths and weaknesses, because in this way, we can judge whether we can bear the consequences of making a choice. Secondly, you need to know what your ability is, because after knowing your ability, you can judge whether you can do it well, so you can make a choice.

Many people who choose phobias are just staying in a state of indecision, because they may want to choose this for themselves in the future, what if there is a better chance later? There are many such situations around me, they want to choose the class teacher as a tutor, but they also think what if other teachers are better than the class teacher? Later, when they finished hesitating, the mentor had already been selected by others.

Therefore, we may wish to use the elimination method when we make a choice, this method is suitable for when you are faced with many choices, you can take this method, that is, similar to your usual multiple choice questions, using the elimination method.

Take a chestnut:When you have a choice difficulty, after trying 5 sets of clothes in the store, you don't know which one to choose, then you can list the disadvantages of each set of clothes, and finally eliminate the shortcomings, and the remaining set is your final choice.

People who choose phobia don't have to worry too much, there are no right options for many things in life, when we make a choice, it is actually a random choice of path, some people choose to become a singer and shine on the stage; Some people choose to become teachers and work hard to educate people in their teaching careers.

It's also a great way to follow your heart and make choices. It is suitable for some choices that do not stipulate the answer and the correct option, in which case you don't have to worry about making the wrong choiceYou only need to make a choice according to your heart, and then keep working in the direction you chose, and finally you will find that your original choice is clear.

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Life is a long road

There are countless options to make

Each of the multiple-choice questions is different, but different

Only by understanding the truth of choice and using the right method can you make your choice clearer

Even if you choose the wrong one, you can make it the right choice by working hard.

So, don't be afraid to make choices, your choice is the right answer!

Choose A or B, if there are only two options, maybe you can grit your teeth and choose one of them. If you do a multiple-choice question on a test and the four answers look like the correct answers, can you still calmly grit your teeth and choose one of them?

Let's talk about myself first, I don't like to buy things, especially online. To put it simply, I'm a person who can choose one to two hours to order takeout. I don't know if there is anyone more powerful than me.

In short, don't make me choose, that's the choice to do well.

Cecilia Cheung starred in a movie "Shopaholic", in which she played a typical person with a phobia of choice. She was always juggling between two or three styles in the clothing store, and because she didn't have enough money, she had to choose one. And when faced with a date, she didn't know which match to choose, which resulted in the shoes she wore on the date.

Not even knowing how to choose a subject, which is a typical manifestation of difficulty in choosing.

But you will slowly find that you will inevitably have to make choices in life, you have to think about what to eat today, you have to think about what you have nothing to do today. All of these without exception require choice, and choice is everywhere in life. If you don't have a choice, oh, I'm talking about ifWhen you have no choice, can you imagine what kind of life is without a choice?

I can't imagine!

But what I want to tell you is,Since the choice has to be made, let yourself be decisiveFor example, the easiest choice every day, when you go to the supermarket and buy the vegetables you want to buy, you can tell yourself to eat green peppers today and cabbage tomorrow. Of course, if you encounter a time when you can't have both fish and bear's paws, today you choose a fish, and tomorrow there will be no bear's paws, give up the fish and take the bear's paws.

Some friends will ask if you were given two identical fish, what would you choose. Oh, friend, since they are the same fish, why make a choice, just like you give me two hundred bills, no matter which one I choose, isn't it still a hundred bills?

That's what I want to tell youAs long as it is a different Dingxi, there will be the same one you like. Overcome your choices, it's just that your choices can't convince you.

I don't know if you have ever had such an experience in your daily life Looking at all kinds of meals, you can't decide what to eat Whether to go to class in the laboratory building is cycling or walking Open the shopping app, see a dazzling array of clothes, and don't know how to choose This phenomenon is called "choice phobia" in the academic community, and how to choose in choice phobia has become a problem, and I give you the following suggestions on how to deal with choice phobia:

Simplifying the unimportant choices.

Avoid emotional decision-making.

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No matter how simple things are, there won't be just two options. We might as well change the closed-ended multiple-choice questions to open-ended questions, take a long-term view, and explore more options. Seek more possibilities and look at the problem holistically.

When there are more choices, the harder it is for us to make a decision. So, when it comes to small daily issues, try to streamline your options or plan ahead to avoid spending too much time and energy on such small things.

When we make decisions, we should try to avoid emotions dominating decisions. Therefore, there are three suggestions.

Carefully evaluate risky options, think about whether you can afford the worst-case outcome, and then decide whether to take risks.

Compare the pros and cons of each option before making a decision.

When you are unsure, ask someone with experience to give you advice.

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When faced with a choice, people can think carefully, but they don't have to suffer from gains and losses, and be indecisive. When the dilemma comes, and you can't choose, you might as well let go of your reason, trust your intuition, and choose one.

There is no right or wrong in life, as long as you stick to it after choosing, do not regret it and go on firmly, it is right.

There is only one life, may you live every inch of your own time.

In fact, if you really love someone, you will not choose to leave, no matter what kind of person the other person is, even if you have a phobia, you will never leave as always.

Phobias aren't really scary, and customer service fears need to be analyzed according to their severity. In mild cases, it can be improved by self-regulation and improvement of bad mood. If it is moderate or severe, it needs to be improved with medication or psychological**.

Mild psychological fear.

For example, when he is afraid of something, he can change his emotions first, read more about this knowledge, and have a full understanding of the unknown, which can naturally effectively improve the situation of psychological fear.

Moderate to severe. By adjusting the mood and knowledge, it is no longer possible to suppress the fear in the heart, and this situation needs to be improved through drugs or psychology**. The drugs are mainly anti-anxiety drugs, and the psychological ** is mainly to desensitize him to the things he is afraid of step by step, which is actually a kind of strengthening training for fear.

When fear arises in the heart, most of it is caused by psychological reasons, so correct the mentality, face the fear positively, and slowly customer the most feared things in the heart for a period of time.

In short, if you really love people with phobias, you will choose not to give up, because it is not a terminal illness and can be slowly improved and eliminated.

Hello, choice phobia is the psychology of being unconfident and evading responsibility, lack of self-reliance, fear of failure.

First, understand yourself, manage yourself, and firmly accept a choice. When faced with a difficult choice, you can try to choose only one of the choices, whether it is right or wrong, and do not think more about it, and stick to that choice. After choosing, tell yourself not to regret it, give yourself positive psychological cues, and believe that you are choosing the best.

Second, improve your relationship with your family, lovers, and friends, as good interpersonal relationships are conducive to enhancing your sense of security and learning to appreciate yourself.

If your symptoms are severe enough to interfere with your normal life, it is recommended that you seek counseling from a professional psychological institution as soon as possible.

Wishing you good health and a happy life! ~

How to make a choice when you are very confused:

1. Focus on the most important needs.

Many perfectionists have difficulty in choosing because they always want a perfect option that can meet all their needs. Vast majority of cases, this is not possible. People who are good at making decisions are not pursuing how good or perfect an option is, but whether it can meet their greatest needs.

That is, to be a satisfactor, not a maximizer.

2. Don't worry too much about opportunity costs.

It's normal for Min Chunpi to think about other options before making a decision, and it's easy to make some not-so-good choices if we don't compare them at all. So, the best way not to bother yourself is to stop thinking about other options once you've made your choice.

3. Exhaustive method.

On a piece of paper or in a document, list all possible options, write down the pros and cons of each option, and then make the final choice.

4. Toss a coin.

If you regret the result, you will know what kind of choice you should make.

5. Minimize long-term regrets.

Imagine yourself in 10 years, look at the choices you make now, see which choice has the least regrets, and make which choice. However, it should be noted that neither investment nor life is a simple binary choice, either/or.

I don't want to tell you a cruel reality, there will be a phobia of choice is really because you don't have money in your hands, if you want to have money, there really won't be a phobia of choice, and the words are not rough.

Two identical mobile phones, but the color is different, which one should you choose? It's a conundrum! It seems that it is not safe to choose any one, and you have to consider which grade is higher, or you are afraid that others will say that you have no taste.

Hey, I'm so annoying! After hesitating again and again, the final result may be that the phone is not bought. In fact, this line phenomenon is a choice phobia.

People will be extremely difficult to choose when faced with choices, and they will not be able to make their satisfactory choices normally, resulting in a certain degree of fear of choice, which is called choice phobia, also known as choice difficulty.

1) Perfectionism, abnormal psychology.

Anyone with a phobia of choice is a person who is extremely perfectionist, and they are extremely demanding people - they demand that they must make a single choice, and the only choice must be the most idealized choice. It can be said that these patients also belong to the obsessive-compulsive disorder group. They tend to strive for perfection and give too much meaning to options.

2) The patient's mind is not sound.

The new generation of people who grew up in a honeypot has never made decisions for themselves, and when they encounter major life decisions, they naturally can't make their own choices, and they don't dare to tell others, so they wander in the virtual world of the Internet, eager to get secrets from them. In fact, this is also the inability to determine the most important needs of one's heart, and the inability to achieve psychological balance.

3) Fear of taking responsibility.

Some major choices may affect the trajectory of life or far-reaching social significance, which can lead to infinite anxiety for those who choose to take on the unintended social responsibilities and consequences of their choices.

4) There is too much to choose from.

Since the invention of the modern standard production line, a large number of items have been produced, but the difference is getting smaller and smaller, which also objectively torments people's choices.

Psychiatry believes that choice phobia is actually a manifestation of self-dissatisfaction, in which patients "project" their dissatisfaction with themselves, torture themselves in disguise, and avoid facing the facts. Whether it's perfectionism or mental imperfection, it's actually a disguised reflection of self-dissatisfaction. Only by carefully analyzing the cause can the disease be eliminated in the right way.

That is, it is necessary to make a "choice" to **choose a phobia.