What is it like to be someone else s child since childhood?

Low self-esteem, feeling inferior everywhere"people", may be in the eyes of parents is someone else's child is good to say to your own child can motivate the child But in fact, it is also a kind of harm, deep harm.

I feel very lonely because my parents don't trust my abilities, and if I doubt my abilities, I feel very unconfident.

When I was a child, my parents said that others had such good grades in exams, and you were so bad in exams, and you still had the face to go out to play and read books, and when you grew up, your parents said, look at people who are as old as you, and now you will make more money, so you will stay at home every day, and you have always felt that there is a shadow and you feel inferior.

I have always tried to be "someone else's child", but no matter how hard I try, someone else's child has always existed in the hearts of parents. Until now, when I hear who is in the xx family, I am still so aggrieved that I can't do it.

I was the one who was told how to behave as a child, whether it was exams, reading, sports, or even dressing. will be said to say this, since I was a child, I have been pinned on hope but often compare with others, and I feel that I am a very failure.

My mom's best friend's daughter is a year younger than me, and it's been a nightmare of my life. When I was a child, my grades were better than mine, and when I grew up, I found a husband who was better than me. Because the relationship between the two families is good, they have nothing to eat together, and then they say that I am all kinds of bad, and everyone is all kinds of good, and I am really tired of listening to it.

My mother is typical, other people's children are treasures, their dolls can't be praised, everyone's children are better than me, it's always a comparison, anyway, I don't have a good place.

My mother never approved of me, she talked about other people's children every day, and any child was better than me, and I could feel that she disliked me.

My parents always compared me to my cousin, and I was disgusted for 20 years, and my relationship with my cousin has never been good. It's because they always say he's good, I'm not good.

What does it feel like to be a child of an individual family? I've had the idea of being a Dink since I was a child, and I even think it's good to be alone, the kind that doesn't get married. When people are surprised and say that you are still so young, don't define it so early, I want to ask them, you grew up in a family environment like mine, do you still want children?

Since I was a child, I was the kind of other people's children that my classmates hated the most, and I only learned the basic state of the family in my life, that is, my parents revolved around my scores, and once I had a slight bias in my grip pants, they began to quarrel and blame each other, and I also hated this, why would it be so sad to be a child? Is it true that children can only succeed and not fail?

It wasn't until I was diagnosed with major depression in high school that my parents changed a lot for me, and I began to feel sorry for his careful and gentle care for them, and the relationship between our family of three became closer. I know that my parents love me, and I love them too, and because of those experiences, I have my own ability to know what kind of life I want to live.

No matter what decision I make now, whether to get married and have children, or to be a single aristocrat, I will be able to be responsible for myself after careful consideration. This story is from Kun Kun Baby, Kun Kun Baby, Hello.

Thank you for sharing your story, it's been a pleasure to meet you.

Personally, I think that in the mouth of parents, the gap between other people's children and their own children is infinite, because always other people's children are the best, and their own children are not excellent, which requires parents to treat rationally.

Generally speaking, there will not be a big gap, because the family environment is different, the resources are different, and judging with an objective eye, everyone is the same.

The gap is not big. Each child has his or her own strengths, which should be developed and should not be compared with others' strengths.