What should I do, it s uncomfortable?

I can understand how you feel.

The phenomenon you are talking about is also the cause of many "psychopathological" phenomena – the suppression of autonomy by a repressive, controlling environment. Contemporary psychoanalytic theory acknowledges and emphasizes the human influence of the environment, and the mother (nurturer) means "environment" for the child. As the British psychoanalyst Winnicott said, "there is no such thing as a baby", because mother and child are one, and mother and child are an inseparable "binary structure" (just as the Oedipus stage is a "you, me, him" triadic structure), and there is no way to separate the baby from the caregiver and talk about the development of the baby alone.

In other words, the development of the baby (child) is closely related to the caregiver.

Continuing along with Winnicott's discovery, it is also possible to explain what you call another phenomenon, the creation of a "pseudo-self". Winnicott postulates that each individual will gradually develop his or her own autonomous self according to his own will. But if the environment in which the child grows up blindly requires the child to meet the needs of the environment:

For example, if the mother requires the child to meet her own requirements (obedience, good learning, politeness, etc., these can be regarded as the mother's requirements, not the child's needs) in order to give the child love, then the child will be very smart to find a way to obtain love, and give up experiencing his own needs and developing his own self, and develop a false self according to the needs of the nurturing environment.

Anything can pass, nothing goes.

In fact, this is a good thing, at least it makes you gain insight and understand people's hearts.

It's okay, it's useless to think too much, you can't solve the problem if you stay all the time, you don't have any worries now, you can boldly ask who is still lacking.

I'm sure you'll find it, it's nothing if you can't find it, and it's not a big deal.

We live for ourselves, not for others, and it's not that you betrayed your friends, it's okay to take your time, at least, recognize a person, it's worth it.

1. Keep learning, know how to behave as a person, and cultivate your own heart of love, tolerance, and understanding. Improve the level and realm of your own life. When a person has great love, big heart, big vision, great wisdom, boldness, great confidence, and great energy, the troubles and pains will disappear.

I'm the sunniest, the most have.

Help others and be happy with yourself; Care for others and be happy for yourself; Forgive others and free yourself. The joy of helping others will counteract one's own negative emotions and change one's destiny.

Talk to your close friends, talk to you, and read for ten years. If the effect is good, a communication can eliminate the accumulation of years in the heart.

Don't feel uncomfortable, each of us will encounter this situation, if the group can't be successful, you can participate next time, it's not a big deal, as long as you are happy and happy, it won't be a matter if it's over.

Understand, that's fine, it's when you show your hand, you work in a group, complete the tasks of the trio with high quality, and worry about no one to be with you.