I m very depressed, I m thinking too much, it s so annoying, how can I self mediate?

Hehe, just from the first sentence: friends can't help him in trouble, you can see that you are a warm-hearted, kind, affectionate good boy, whether you can really help him or not, at least it is his luck to have a friend like you, you don't have too hard for yourself, as long as you do your best, with a clear conscience! Regarding learning, it is probably a matter of mentality, have you encountered any unhappy problems recently?

What's on your mind? Or is it too tired to rest well? If you want to study well, both physical and mental are very important, if it is a psychological reason, why not talk to a good friend you trust?

Or you can relax and rest according to your hobbies, and you need to decompress. If it is the body, then it is even more necessary to rest well, the body is the capital of the revolution, don't think too much, don't carry too much mental burden on yourself, appropriately supplement and increase some nutrition, and exercise more when you have time, hehe. Life itself is a crossroads, and we are facing choices at any time, big and small, and it is inevitable to be entangled and hesitated, after all, everyone wants their life to be more perfect, and hopes to leave fewer regrets.

If it's a big problem, you might as well discuss and communicate with your family, friends and even teachers, after all, more people are more thoughtful, and the experience of the elders should be richer. If it's a small problem, there's no need to rely too much on others, try to learn to make your own decisions, contact more assertive friends, and decisively make more decisions for yourself, you will find that the choice is not as difficult as you think. Believe in yourself! Hehe.

1. Insist on exercising: Most people who are depressed and slow and lazy will affect various functions of the body in the long run, and will have more negative emotions. As the saying goes, the plan of the day lies in the morning, the morning air can be said to be the freshest time of the day, it can fully mobilize the potential of the human body to activate the body cells, when the body is relaxed, the heart will slowly relax, and the mood will naturally be relieved to a certain extent.

2. Going out to socialize: the mood is boring, the mood is generally low, there is no self-confidence, and the negative emotions of not doing anything well. These directly lead to their lack of interest, closing themselves off, and reducing social interaction.

The premise of changing this vicious circle is to force yourself to go out, meet more friends, participate in social activities or travel, although it will be painful at first, but as long as you persist for a period of time, the negative emotional feelings will be slowly melted away by the external environment, and your self-confidence will be rekindled.

3. Meditation: Meditation is a good behavior of body, mind and soul practice, and now it has been widely used in psychological and spiritual growth activities, meditation can reduce tension, anxiety, depression and other emotions, and regular practice of meditation will enhance consciousness and help people with upset mood to gain enlightenment.

4. Organize feelings: Boredom is generally manifested in living in their own world, relatively negative, although they know that their practices and behaviors are wrong, but they are powerless to get rid of it. If you want to change this kind of thinking, we have to prepare a notebook, no matter how ridiculous or ridiculous you think it is, all you have to do is to organize it completely in the notebook, don't rush to analyze it and recognize it, you can look at it after exercising or the physical and mental state has been relieved, you know, just look at it without analysis, because this is not to exercise your ability to analyze and understand, and you do not lack this ability, and you will definitely have different feelings.

5. Reading books: Reading more books on psychology, philosophy, including Taoism and Buddhism, can improve our wisdom, let us have a deeper understanding of our own life, and transcend the limitations of our past thoughts.

In the crowd, there are all kinds of people, and life is also very bumpy, so everyone has been troubled and bored, so how to solve it? Only find a way to solve it yourself, others can't persuade you to go anywhere, only think about your own point, when you encounter something, you think about it, you think so, you are depressed is also like this, you are not depressed is also like this, just find a way to solve it, don't let yourself be depressed and get depression again, but it's over, then the family, the child, the old man, who cares? So you have to listen to the song by yourself, go to the beach and stroll, where there is the fragrance of grass, stroll around, stroll in the garden, take a walk, and slowly adjust to it.

Self-regulation is about letting go of one's mood and not trapping oneself in troubles. Specifically, you can read a book when you are bored, listen to **, go out to see the mountains and rivers, and integrate yourself into nature.

I see that you have some problems in your marital relationship, in terms of work management, in terms of interpersonal relationships with colleagues, you need to deal with them, you don't know how to deal with them, you feel that no one supports and understands you, you feel a lot of pressure, you need companionship and support, every day you suppress your feelings and needs, so you will be easily irritable and anxious, I understand your feelings very well. Because your problems are multifaceted and we need to separate them and analyze and solve them one by one.

The first is the emotional aspect. I see that you are very worried about your own problems, and your emotional problems really need to be relieved, I suggest you go to the hospital for a mental health check-up to assess whether you have psychological problems and help you better understand your mental health. You can seek the help of a psychological counselor, and individual psychological counseling refers to a systematically trained and qualified professional who establishes a one-on-one cooperation alliance with you to accompany you to understand and improve the irrational parts of your cognition, emotion, and will.

The counselor will objectively assess your psychological problems, help you find the cause together, work with you to set counseling goals, evaluate your degree of improvement, promote you to adjust your mentality, improve life satisfaction, and improve mental maturity.

Let's talk about the relationship between husband and wife in marriage. I saw you say that you have a lot of work and psychological pressure, and your sex life has been reduced to nothing, and your heart is getting smaller and smaller, and you are easy to think about it, and you dare not tell your family. I see that the relationship between you and your family does not seem to be very close, home is to provide a warm harbor, why do you dare not use two words, it seems that you are afraid that your family will know your current situation, causing some trouble, here family refers to your elders or your partner, if you are worried about causing trouble to your elders, your heart can be said to your partner.

You are working in the field, you can't be with your partner in space, you need to talk to your partner more, you need a lot of communication and exchanges, you can talk to your lover more, voice and text chat, talk about your feelings, how you live every day, let your partner know more about your recent situation, at the same time you also have to care about his recent situation, push yourself and others, when you feel lonely and lonely, your partner will feel lonely and lonely because you are not there? Is his job hard? What are his feelings and needs?

Third, you have a headache about interpersonal relationships at work, the problem of work is mainly interpersonal relationship problems, if you feel uncomfortable in a new environment with a different job, it means that you need to learn how to interact with people, or learn to adapt to being alone, there is a principle in interpersonal communication "treat others as you expect others to treat you as you would like to be treated", you want others to be close to you and care about you, then you must first get close to others and care about others, so as to get friendship and support.

It is not excluded that there are indeed some management positions, and the relationship between subordinates can not be too close, otherwise it will affect the completion of the work, many leadership positions are a person alone, or you can also extend interpersonal communication, cultivate more interests and hobbies of self-opening holes, friends in other fields are also possible, have friends to talk to, will not always feel lonely and helpless.

I suggest you go and listen to the songs, or stay alone, or you can go on a tour and see the outside world.

If you have the conditions, you can go back to the countryside to live for a period of time, and see those beautiful scenery, which is like the scenery of rice fields. Don't think too much about it, observe more small animals, and look at 1 point. If that doesn't work, go to the doctor for a doctor.

Regulate your own sleepiness, don't put too much pressure on yourself, go out for a walk, breathe fresh air, communicate with your Tongzhao's family, and study more to make yourself better.

Consider actively communicating with others, especially seeking help from family members.

If you are depressed and unhappy, you may have a lot of negative emotions and have abnormal behavior. At this time, you must actively confide, communicate well with your family, and work hard to resolve conflicts, so as to effectively gain your family's understanding, help and support.

You should also choose some ways to relieve your negative emotions and depressed moods, such as watching movies, listening to **, and watching TV. Or go for a walk, go shopping, breathe fresh air, or run or take a walk, all of which can relieve depressed moods. Psychology can also be considered, especially cognitive-behavioral, systematic desensitization, humanism, etc.

Here's how

Shift your attention, do something that makes you happy, forget about your worries, and the negativity will subside naturally. Moderate catharsis is the method of confiding and venting in an appropriate way on the right occasion and with the right person to confide. Self-motivation, similar to the Spiritual Victory Method.

Some people can quickly adjust to negative emotions through self-comfort and motivation.

Emotions**, by changing their cognition, understanding and reinterpretation of things, let themselves suddenly open up, cognition changes, perceptions change, emotions naturally change. So read more books and communicate with people, and you will find that the world is very big, and there is no need to be unhappy about a dark cloud covering the sun.

There are many ways to adjust yourself to outdoor activities, singing at KTV, and exercising appropriately.

1. Go outdoors more: When you are in a bad mood, you need to find the right way to improve, otherwise long-term mood swings may affect your health. Generally, when you are in a bad mood, you can go outdoors more, see more scenery, and in an open place can keep your mood comfortable and regulate your personal emotions.

2. Singing at KTV: It is easy to have various bad symptoms when you are in a bad mood, which are the negative effects of excessive anger. If you can regulate your emotions in time, maintain a good attitude.

3. Appropriate exercise: If you are always in a bad mood, you can relieve it by exercising, which is a way to divert attention.

Ways to get in a good mood

1. Get in touch with nature: Look at the green, nature has the ability to embrace everything.

2. Massage: The tightness of the body will convey bad emotions, and some small discomforts on the body will not be too concerned when you are in a good mood, but when you are unhappy, a little unsatisfactory will be magnified, especially for people who sit in the office for a long time.

4. Write down unhappiness on paper: Whenever I write down the things that make me uncomfortable on the paper, for some reason, the mood will gradually become brighter.