What problems are second child families destined to face, and what preparations should be made befor

First of all, it must be an economic problem, you must prepare money before having a second child, then you must have someone with a child, and then you must discuss it with the husband and wife, and reach an agreement, when these are ready, I think you can have a second child.

Families with two children face the question of whether they can treat all children equally. It's not easy to be fair to every child. Therefore, it is best to ask the child's opinion before giving birth to a second child, and if you really plan to have a second child, you must treat the child equally, and you can't favor one of them.

will face the problem of whether it is eccentric, Dabao's mood is not high, and the two babies fight. First of all, you must discuss with your big baby, don't snub Dabao after giving birth to a small baby, and ask people to think that you still love him.

Economic problems, the second child needs to spend a lot of material and financial resources, and having a second child must first meet the conditions financially and be able to afford it. Emotional problems, some children do not want their parents to have a second child, and they should pay attention to the thoughts in the heart of the first child.

Before giving birth to a second child, the first thing to consider is the feelings of the first child, because moving backwards, most of the time is the growth of the first child with the second child, so you must first consider the feelings of the first child and then choose whether to have a second child, and then you must be ready to get pregnant, but you can get pregnant more easily.

Most families who are preparing to have a second child are facing these three difficulties, so why not understand them first.

First of all, it was very stressful and even more tiring.

We all know that parents nowadays have to devote a lot of time and energy to their children's lives and studies. With two children in the family, parents will have to be more courageous to earn money to support their children. From the child's childhood, it is necessary to work harder than the average person, many children will not be very good to their parents when they grow up, they will also stipulate that the elderly help them take care of the children, in short, the cost of having a child will be very different than the difference.

Secondly, there are the contradictions between the children.

When the parents are old, how to divide the assets between the two children is also a problem, because such an axial force will break the two children. When he is old, the child may blame the parents. Nowadays, children care for their parents with inheritance as the core, especially for those families that are more suitable.

If there is no share of property, pension services are a problem.

Ultimately, how to provide for the elderly.

In China, there has always been a tradition of "passing on the family lineage", and there are even some big families who pursue perfection and have full descendants. For families with two children, it is not a matter to look at the future pension of parents, but is it really that simple? Not really.

If there is one child in the family, the child may do his best to support his parents in the future, but if it is two children, there may be comparisons. If the children refuse to take this risk, the parents' old age will not be assured. It's not hard to imagine that there are many examples of this around.

In fact, if you want to have a second child, you should determine the comprehensive determination according to your own living conditions and family. If you have a good standard of living, you are healthy, and your relatives can help take care of your children. The husband's job is okay, and he has the strength to take this risk, and he can choose to respond to national policies, but he must do a good job in the hot issues of children's education in the future.

The first point is definitely that it is very difficult for the child to be taken care of, the second point is that the boss has no one to take care of, and the problem faced at this time is very difficult, and the third point is that the parents of both sides must still need help.

For example, Dabao is still very young and needs to be taken care of, or his wife doesn't want to be a full-time mother and wants to go out to work.

Two-child families may face several "problems", and parents planning to have a second child should think clearly There are many problems that second-child families have to face, whether it is economic or energetic.

From the day the child is born, the two children will have daily life in comparison, Dabao will be cranky, and the parents' love for themselves will decrease after having the second child, and with the slow transformation of the second child, he will also be afraid that his older sister will be too good to take away the love of his parents. In particular, some parents especially like to make comparisons between two children, for example, often use the more outstanding child to encourage the other child, expecting them to compete with each other and grow together.

However, the original sincere encouragement may cause the contradictions between the children to deepen, and some children will mistakenly feel that it is mainly because the brothers and sisters are better than themselves, so they take away the love of their parents, I think that is very bad for the psychological construction of the child, and will affect the healthy and happy growth of the child.

Some people use such a sentence to describe the two-child family: the eldest brother is raised according to the book, and the second child is raised as a pig. Generally, when the first child is born, the parents will be more mysterious, and the sense of responsibility will also be more and more serious at the level of taking care of the child, but in the case of giving birth to the second child, because of the experience of being a parent, the situation of taking care of the second child may not be as anxious and serious as taking care of the eldest brother.

And with the growth process of the two children is not the same, the parents' energy is limited, they have no way to completely and fairly divide the energy to the two children, so with the development of the children, they only have the energy of this link at this stage, and divide the children who are more critical in this link, for example, when the boss is faced with the situation of primary school to junior high school, parents can of course put more energy on the eldest brother, and ignore the second child who has gone to kindergarten in the second and third grades, which is inevitable. However, some children are very sensitive and may feel that they are being cold.

In the case of having a big brother, the economic situation of some families is not very good, and in the case of having a second child, the family's economic situation is getting better and better, and there is more money invested in the child. When this situation occurs, parents should pay more attention to the children, the fairness of the material conditions, and effectively pay attention to the children's requirements, and do not blindly follow the trend to meet the unreasonable requirements of the children because of the improvement of the quality of material conditions, which may lead to an uneven difference in the psychological state between the two children.

will ignore the existence of Dabao, take care of two children with little energy, will face a lot of financial pressure, there is no way to go out to work, if there is no bowl of water, Dabao may have psychological problems.

After having a second child, the house will become inadequate and the financial situation will become more and more embarrassing, so be sure to save enough money to have a child.

The country has already opened a second child, and now many people who have given birth to a child have already given birth to a second child. So more and more people are starting to think about having a second child. But not everyone is suitable for having a second child.

If you are planning to have a second child, you must think twice before preparing to get pregnant. So what are the issues that need to be considered before having a second child? The following questions must be carefully thought through, and then plan to have a second child after thinking clearly.

Don't mess around. Fertility in women is not always present. As you age, your fertility becomes weaker.

If you are already fifty or sixty years old, don't give birth, because you have already entered menopause or menopause, there is no need to toss around.

If you are in your early thirties and forties, and you feel that you only have one child, the child is too lonely, and you want to have a second child so that the child can have a companion, and it is okay to have one. However, having a second child around the age of 40 is an advanced maternal age, and there are many things to pay attention to, and it takes more time and energy to protect the fetus. If you want to have a second child successfully, you must first have a healthy body.

If you don't even have a good body, the probability of getting pregnant will naturally decrease. If you are pregnant with a second child when you are sick, it is easy to cause miscarriage, or premature birth, or abnormal birth. These problems are not only bad for the fetus, but also for the women themselves.

So, before you plan to have a second child, be sure to check your body to see if it meets the criteria for pregnancy. If eligible, further consideration is given to pregnancy planning.

Nowadays, it is not easy for society to raise a child. It is not only enough to be fed and clothed in the past, but also to let the children have knowledge, talent, and so on. To raise a child, it takes at least hundreds of thousands to reach adulthood.

If your family conditions are not very good, it is already difficult to raise a child, and there is no need to follow the trend and have a second child. Because it costs a lot of money from the beginning of pregnancy to birth, and the money to buy milk powder and diapers after birth is also a large expense. If you have already given birth to a child and the family's financial ** can barely support the daily expenses of the first and last children, don't consider having a second child.

Having a second child under such economic conditions will be very embarrassing for the family.

Women will become exhausted by financial problems, saying "but not like those who know they have been poor together". If they don't have the financial means to stay healthy and have a second child, good families will fight over money. Quarrels between husband and wife can hurt feelings and affect Dabao's physical and mental health.

It takes a lot of courage to have a second child at the age of 40 because their physical condition is not the best. Having a second child at this age can easily induce various pregnancy problems. and whether the body can withstand the discomfort caused by pregnancy, etc.

These are issues that need to be seriously considered by women. So the pressure on women will be greater. If you plan to have a baby, you must think hard and adjust your mental state.

First, economic pressure, to see if you have the financial ability; second, the work of the mother, to see if it affects the work of the mother; Third, the issue of education, whether the child has time to educate.

If you haven't conceived yet and are just "preparing to have a second child", the most important thing you need to do is to think about whether you really want to have a baby.

Having two children is a beautiful thing, but that doesn't mean you have to. Having a second child means that you need to pay a lot.

Compared to the first child, the physical strength and energy of the parents will decline when giving birth to the second baby, and taking care of two children at the same time is far more tiring than taking care of one. You need to put in more than double the effort, and you also need to be careful in the relationship between the two children. In many families, the quality of parenting for the second child is significantly lower than that of the first child.

Parents should be mentally prepared for this. If you just want to have a baby on a whim, or "think you should have a second child", I really recommend that you think about it. If, after weighing the pros and cons, you still firmly believe that you want a second child, then it is not too late to make up your mind.

Before having a second child, you need to consider the financial problem, because two children need to spend a lot of money, and secondly, you have to take care of the feelings of the first child.

With the liberalization of the two-child policy, more and more families have chosen two children, and I am no exception. Two children bring twice as much happiness to the family, but there are also many problems that come with it, so I have to think about it.

As far as I am concerned, I worked in a company before I gave birth to Li Bao and did not choose to work full-time. Because I feel that there are elderly people at home to help, I don't think there is anything wrong. My energy gradually declined, and my two children were not being cared for enough, so I had to quit my job and choose a home to take care of my children.

There should be many mothers like me who give up their jobs for their children, and such sacrifices should be made in order for their children to be better cared for.

However, two-child families have to face many more problems than him, so some families regret giving birth to this child after giving birth to a second child. So, if something goes wrong, will two-child families feel stressed and regretful? Let me be specific.

There are many problems that two-child families have to face, and parents need to consider economic and energy problems, but there are still many problems that need to be solved.

I thought about this issue before I gave birth to Li Bao, so I specifically asked Dabao at home for his opinion before preparing to get pregnant, and I thought that if Dabao disagreed, I would not consider giving birth to Li Bao for the time being.

But looking back at my best friend's home is not like that. Because his best friend didn't ask Dabao's opinion when he gave birth to Li Bao at that time, after Li Bao was born, Dabao was reluctant to go home, thinking that his parents didn't love him.

Can you flatten a bowl of water? Before many parents asked for Yibao, they also vowed not to reduce their love for Dabao when they had a younger brother and sister, but this was not the case. It is even possible to ask Dabao to make concessions and sacrifices.

We also often see this kind of event on the news**. For example, in some families where parents neglect their love for their eldest daughter after giving birth to two children, they will not know until something goes wrong. There are some big problems that two-child families may face, and it is recommended that parents who plan to have two children think about it.

Therefore, parents must consider whether they can achieve a bowl of level before asking for a different treasure, so as to avoid the slightest loss of love and care for Dabao after the appearance of a different treasure. Educate your child about whether he has enough energy. At present, with the opening of the policy, the fertility rate of the second baby is getting higher and higher.

Many couples in their 40s and 50s are thinking about having a second child, and I think that after such a big treasure goes to college, the family will not be too lonely.

This method can make the home lively, but without thinking about your own actual situation. Because taking care of Li Bao is not an easy task, it takes a lot of energy and time. Therefore, many middle-aged couples will feel helpless after giving birth, and even let the family's big treasure help share the burden.

Therefore, before asking for Cestbon, be sure to consider whether you have enough energy to take care of the child. Because eventually, as the child enters kindergarten, the education war begins, and without a certain amount of energy, the child's educational needs may be difficult to cope with.