What should I do if my child procrastinates and doesn t like to learn

For many parents, when their children are studying or writing homework, they always like to rub and always fail to establish a correct concept of time, which makes these parents more headaches, and often angry with their children, but this will not only not have a good educational effect, but even make their children more intensified, in fact, I personally think that if you want to let your children establish a correct concept of time, you can try it in the following ways.

First of all, as a parent should try to calm their emotions as much as possible, to realize that children will not establish a concept of time, there is resistance in learning, love to rub is a common phenomenon, to help children establish a correct concept of time, parents first need to communicate and exchange with their children, so that children realize the meaning and importance of time, learn to be true to themselves, allocate time and make good use of time, so that children can establish a correct concept of time in learning.

On the other hand, when their children have completed their own set goals in their daily learning, make good use of the time to complete their own learning tasks and achieve their own learning results, then in this case, as parents, they should praise and encourage their children in a timely manner, and further motivate their children in this way, so that they can find self-confidence, so as to further explore and summarize the rules in the process of growth, so as to better help children establish a correct concept of time. This method is far more meaningful than parents' blind preaching, and it is also more acceptable to their own children.

First of all, it is necessary to rule out problems with the child's physical and brain development. Some children's hand-eye coordination, auditory coordination development, and small motor development are immature, resulting in children having to react for a long time when they hear the words of their parents and teachers, or they can't copy it when they see it, and they can't write horizontally and vertically when they don't listen to their hands.

If this condition is more serious, there may be a problem of sensory integration disorder, and you can seek help from a professional psychological institution or sensory integration training institution. However, most of the time, let children participate in sports: walking on the balance beam, swinging, climbing all over the ground, sliding slides, walking backwards, etc., insisting on more than an hour of exercise time every day, you can exercise your child's sensory integration.

Excluding developmental problems, some children are suffering because they are chronic, and most of them are inherited from their elders. If you look among your parents and grandparents, you may be able to find a genetic factor. Chronic children are not necessarily a bad thing, and many chronic children have unique advantages:

1. Calm personality and not impulsive

Most of the children who are chronically have a calm personality and will not fight for the moment. Parents of chronic boys are not easily worried about fighting.

2. Slow response but foresight

Chronic children may not respond for a long time after you have said a bunch of words. Sometimes, however, they can make some insightful assertions.

3. Memorize slowly, but remember more firmly

One of my junior high school teachers was a chronic student, and in his own words, he had to memorize words slower than others, but he would not forget them after memorizing them.

4. The homework is written slowly, but the accuracy rate is high

A top student in high school is a chronic student, and he often can't finish the papers, but as long as he has done almost all the questions correctly, the teachers are very convinced.

If your child is born with this kind of natural chronic child, then you don't have to force a change, just respect your child's own rhythm. In the future, the chronic child itself may be the child's advantage!

Children's rhythm of life and physiological rhythm are different from adults, they walk and eat slower than us, dress and wash slower than us, not because of deliberate rubbing, but because their ability is nothing more.

Parenting experts said: Many times the child's friction is just his temporary lack of ability. To find out if a child is grinding, the real criterion should be the speed of children of the same age.

Parents should respect the child's growth and wait for him at the appropriate time.

The reason why the child is procrastinating is that he is not particularly satisfied with the current situation and does not want to achieve it. However, children do not dare to resist with adults, nor do they dare to say no, so they can only express their emotions through this way of procrastination.

Children like to procrastinate for several reasons. First, the baby is relatively young, easy to immerse himself in one thing, and it is not easy to carry out the next thing. Second, the baby does not have the ability to manage time.

It may be that the child's living habits are not good, so they will develop such a bad habit of procrastination.

This should be related to the way parents educate their children, and as parents, we must correct it in time.

The most important thing to change from passive learning to active learning is to guide children to become interested in learning.

Extended information: Just like riding a bicycle with tung pants, the core of the learning methods that we know the tricks but are difficult to explain in words, the learning methods that I have mastered through experience, and the learning methods used by the learning gods I have met!

Even after listening to well-known lecturers, trying complex learning methods, not missing any of the latest information, and spending a lot of money on coursework, the reason why we still can't read well is that we have to learn on our own.

People suffer from spending a lot of effort to learn, but not making progress. This is an inevitable result. Many people spend the whole day attending classes, signing up for more expensive cram schools, chasing other people's book tips, only to sigh because they don't know how to read

I can't stand it anymore, maybe I'm not qualified enough.

However, the reason why there is still no improvement after so much effort is not because of bad qualifications, but because the way to do a lot of hard work is wrong.

First, the attached internal drive

Subsidiary internal motivation mainly refers to the relationship between children and parents and teachers. If the child feels the love of the parents and is positively influenced, the internal motivation will be high. In the same way, the child thinks that the teacher likes him and the teacher, and he will find pleasure in learning.

Note that this is the subjective feeling of the child, including the content of learning and life, not the opinion of parents and teachers, and it is not only related to learning problems.

When we are at home, if our child complains about being treated unfairly at school, we don't think too much about it, tell him "You study hard, don't think nonsense!" Instead, accept the child first, let him speak his heart, communicate with the teacher when necessary, and solve the problems that the child encounters.

Second, self-improvement and internal drive

The internal drive for self-improvement refers to the child's pursuit of mainstream social values, such as the child's desire to be highly evaluated, have a sense of self-honor, get some physical rewards, get a certain position, get public praise, and so on.

We keep a normal heart, sincerely praise the child, recognize the child's ideas, and encourage the child to use his own strength to get everything he wants, rather than taking a false way to get it. If you get it, it means that you have made good gains in the previous stage, and if you don't get it, it means that you still need to continue to work hard. As long as you have a dream, you will definitely succeed.

It should be noted that parents should adjust their mentality. Don't value external evaluations and rewards more than children, and don't laugh at children for caring too much about these.

Is it procrastinating on anything? In fact, it is often not, the average child is only not interested in the orange thing to delay, there are such children to do things is to delay, but, if you want to go out to play the next day, you will not need an alarm clock to open the group to take the initiative to get up early, not delayed at all, and more anxious than you, so the possible reason for the delay is that you are not interested or do not want to do, so you should cultivate an interest in doing things, how to cultivate a dislike interest? Create a pleasant experience in the process while giving a positive, positive feedback.