Why isn t my always too good? Why am I not doing anything well?

Dear sister, there is no such thing as God deliberately trying to make you suffer in this world, and what you are experiencing now must be the cause of your own cultivation in the previous two years, and everything is still inward.

You don't have to ask why and what happened in the past, but be sure to adjust your mindset and tell yourself that it's best to change yourself now.

Here are a few suggestions from me that I hope will be helpful to you:

Anxiety about appearance, don't care too much about what others think, thousands of people, everyone's aesthetic preferences are different, and the genetics given by parents are good to promote their strengths and avoid weaknesses. **The problem of black, you can usually wear more sunscreen and match some physical tools such as hats and parasols, some people say that a white covers a hundred ugliness, it is conceivable that proper sunscreen will look cleaner and fresher in a summer than sisters who do not do sunscreen.

People's spirit, the core is to have confidence in themselves, exercise is to improve self-willpower is the fastest and most effective and 0 cost investment, please when you feel mourned, go for a run, go to jump rope to do a variety of immediately put into the fitness, do not have to pay for classes and do not have to think about whether there is a smile in doing so, I want to feel fat and others think you are fat, not in the weight but in the state of the seeming problem, please start exercising immediately, If it is still very difficult at the beginning, set yourself a goal of walking 1w steps a day, and perseverance is a particularly good quality.

Introversion and low self-esteem are because they express themselves less, they care very much about other people's opinions, there is no particularly fast way to solve this problem, exercise can train courage In addition to more practice, you can set a small goal for yourself, smile at people every day and respond to conversations between 3 people actively or politely Start practicing from the cleaner aunt around you, the courier brother and the neighbors, say hello, talk about special scenes such as the community environment, the problems related to the property recently encountered, the express delivery charges, etc., practice every day, You'll naturally be able to improve your expressive skills and start to find that you're not particularly unconfident, and if it's really difficult, start by chatting with different chatters on the Internet every day.

In the end, the most important thing is to tell you that not everyone is born with it, others do well but they first face the society and carry out effective exercises, take your time and don't care too much about the results and gains and losses, compare with yourself and seek yourself, which is the best dialogue and growth with yourself.

Why should you care what other people think? Wake up, sisters! If you don't look good, learn to wear makeup and dress to maintain yourself, read more books and do yoga to improve your temperament, when you get better, you will attract the same excellent people by your side, sympathy is this reason, when the time comes, no matter what others think, those who once despised you are no longer worthy of standing by your side.

You are so inferior, how can you think that you are not good at anything? You are too inferior, but you still have to be confident, and you will think that your skills are as good as others.

Change yourself, starting with your appearance and moving on to your inside.

Psychoanalysis: Honey, seeing your descriptions of your daily life, I seem to see the state of my former Lu Ran. Your harshness on others makes me feel sorry for you, because I know that this harshness will surely be doubly inflicted on yourself.

It is also possible that when you were a child, you were still a weak little girl who needed to rely on your parents, and you were treated harshly, and at that time, you were helpless to bear this harsh criticism. Everyone's heart lives with parents and children, and the mode of getting along with parents and children is the way we get along with our parents when we are children, and we will use it in our daily life when we grow up. If you have a pair of critical parents living in your heart, this harshness will translate into strict requirements for yourself in the process of getting along with yourself.

In the process of dealing with others, this can translate into being harsh on others. In the face of this situation, you first have to squat down and hug yourself, you have worked very hard, the parents' harshness is because their growth environment did not teach them how to appreciate their children, not because you are not good enough, so take off this harshness, return it to the parents, tell yourself, no matter what you look like, I will love you, because my parents also want to love me like this, but they won't. In the face of your husband, it may be because of the sense of security that your husband gives you that you dare to unload your tiredness in front of him, you treat your husband as if you were a child and find fault with yourself, and the harsh criticism he endured is just like what you endured when you were a child, try to appreciate your husband, accept your husband, just like accepting yourself.

Your husband is good to you because you care about you and love you, not as you should, pay more attention to your husband's good to you, because you deserve to be loved and cared for, and I hope you will become the person who knows how to love yourself the most.