How to politely refuse a colleague who gets off work and rubs the car?

This is a very common phenomenon in the workplace, and the author has personally experienced this situation, with colleagues on the way rubbing the car, but often not on time; There are also those who need to take a detour, don't talk about delaying their own time, and rubbing too much will make them feel very unbeautiful. Here are my personal feelings:

1. If it is a byway, you can take it by the way without a detour, this situation is effortless, and it can enhance the feelings between colleagues, why not? But if the other party is not on time, it is also a headache. So even if you stop by, you must make it clear to the other party that you must be punctual.

If you know that the other party is a very abrasive person, it is recommended to agree on an advance time and let the other party wait for you.

2. If you need to take a detour, simply refuse. You may not know that life is so cool after learning to say no!

Two years ago, a colleague who likes to take advantage of small things told me a destination before rubbing the car, who knew that when he was about to arrive at the destination, he said that he still needed to drive to a small road more than two kilometers away from the destination. I regretted it after driving in, the road was narrow and there were many cars, and there were children playing on the road. By the time I got home, it was half an hour later than usual.

Later, this colleague came to rub the car for the second time, this time it was necessary for me to take a detour to pick it up, ** explained very aggrievedly why he bothered me again, and said that he would wait for me on the side of the road. I relented when I heard it, but I was actually disappointed again, and waited for her for 10 minutes after arriving at the agreed destination! This time I didn't refuse politely, and after getting off the bus, I told her directly that it was inconvenient to pick her up next time, and I was very sorry.

I remember saying it with a smile on my face, but it was clearly serious. After that, the colleague really didn't bother again. For this situation, even if you politely refuse, you will offend your colleagues, so you don't need to have a psychological burden if you just talk about it.

3. What if you meet a colleague you don't want to carry on the road?

A few years ago, an old colleague came to rub the car, lived in the neighborhood next door to me, and came to wait for the bus on time every day, but what was unbearable was that he had a serious smell of sweat. It was summer, and he had to turn off the windows and turn on the air conditioner, and he was simply suffocating as soon as he got in the car. Two days after I picked him up, I made him completely give up the idea of rubbing the car on the grounds that "I lived at my in-laws' house and didn't go way".

In fact, in the workplace, I often encounter colleagues who rub cars, things and even eat and drink, and there are always some people who make themselves in a dilemma. It is human nature to help each other, but if you don't learn to refuse for a long time, you will only be squeezed by yourself, because it is your own time, energy, money, and even resources that are sacrificed.

Refusal is a right. Don't force yourself what you can't do, learn to refuse simply, and don't have a psychological burden.

People should be kind, but they can have their own boundaries and bottom lines. We don't need to "please" and satisfy others by wronging ourselves, but treat ourselves well!

If you occasionally encounter a colleague who rubs the car, I think it is no problem to pick up once or twice, if it is a long-term rubbing car, you can say that you have moved, and he is no longer on the same road, and it is very inconvenient to go back and forth.

You can tell the other party that you won't go home for the time being, and you want to go to other places, if there is such a situation next time, the other party will know that you don't want him to rub the car, so you won't be embarrassed to say it anymore.

You can tell your colleague that you have something wrong after work today, and I think your colleague will understand what you say, and it won't hurt your feelings.

You can say you're going to run an errand and not go home. Say this a few more times, and he should understand what you mean.

<>1.Express gratitude and explain the situation. You can say, "Thank you for wanting to travel with me, but I have some plans today and need to take care of something after work." ”

2.Propose alternatives. You can say, "If you want to travel with other colleagues, I can tell you who has the vehicle and if they can carry you." ”

3.I decline it well. You can say, "I'm sorry, but I can't carry you today, and I hope you understand." ”

4.Tell your reasons and express your thoughts in a clear way. You can say, "I appreciate your request, but I'm too tired today and wish I could go home alone." ”

Even if you don't want to carry a colleague, you can put forward your opinion in euphemistic language, after all, you have to work together if you don't look up and look down.

If you want to tactfully refuse a colleague who is off work and rubbing the car, here are a few things you can try:

1.On their own terms. You can say that you need to go somewhere or do something, so you can't pick up and drop off your colleagues, and express that you already have travel arrangements.

2.Indifference or deversion. Give the other person the impression that you don't want to pick them up. You can say that you need to be busy with some things and don't have time to pick up and drop off colleagues, or you can say that it is not very convenient today, and you will talk about it next time.

3.Alternative modes of transportation are recommended. You can provide other travel suggestions, such as recommending them to take public transportation, calling Didi taxi, etc., to solve their car problems.

4.Straight refusal. You can make it clear that you don't want to pick up and drop off your colleagues, for example, "I'm sorry I don't have a lot of accommodation." But be careful with your words and tone of voice, and don't come across as cold or unfriendly.

In short, when rejecting the car rubbing by a colleague of the antler, you should pay attention to your tone and attitude, and try to refuse in a gentle and tactful way. Maintaining good communication and exchanges, and valuing the relationship with colleagues, can better maintain personal dignity and team harmony.

There are many ways to decline a colleague's request, but here are some tactful ways:

I'm sorry, but I have some things to attend to today and it's not convenient for me to take a ride. ”

I need to run some personal business tonight and may not be able to get a ride, sorry. ”

I've already promised another forward to take a ride with my colleague, so I can't pick up one more person, sorry. ”

I have some things that need to be handled privately, I hope you understand. ”

I have some things to deal with privately today, so let's take a ride together next time I have a chance. ”

Whichever way you use, be careful to use tactful, friendly words, and don't hurt the other person's feelings. At the same time, if you have already provided a ride for someone else, you can tell them that you can't pick up another person anymore. The most important thing is to be polite and respectful while giving the other person a reasonable explanation.

You can express your opinion euphemistically, and here are some suggestions:

1.Explain your situation directly. For example, "I'm sorry, I have other things to attend to today, and I can't take you back to your home." ”

2.You can use the word "not very convenient" to euphemistically laugh at Yan Fengda. For example, "It's not convenient today, can you ask someone else for help?" ”

4.The expression of jujube is only gratitude. Even if you refuse the other person's request, you can express gratitude, for example, "Thank you so much for trusting me, but I really can't help today, I hope you understand." ”

In short, when rejecting a colleague's request, you need to respect the rights of the other party, express your own opinions, and at the same time, you also need to pay attention to your tone and attitude so as not to make the other person feel uncomfortable.

It's that you think of a reason every day, go back to your mother's house today, go to your aunt's house tomorrow, go to your friend's house the day after tomorrow, and don't go back to your own house anyway.

Then, the key comes, don't return it.

If he is embarrassed to refuse you to dig the blind bush, it will be simple, you will refuse him to rub the car in any way he refuses to lend you money.

Afterwards, if he is kind enough to ask you to pay back, you will ask him to pay for gas, service, and cleaning, and from then on, as long as he takes your car, you will have to refuel, eat, wash your car, buy cigarettes, buy water, and ask him for money until he doesn't sit on his own.

I'm sorry for the rest of the chain, my car is full of grandchildren I have some private answers to clear people's things that need to be solved, and it is inconvenient to carry others. Or you can try to find other colleagues to hitchhike with. ”

Excuse that something is not going well.

Making excuses is the most common method. For example, going to a relative's house, going to dinner with a spine friend, going on a date, etc., anyway, the destination is the opposite of where he goes. In this way, it is both tactful and effective, and for several days in a row, I used this way as an excuse to go to different places, and people's habit of rubbing cars was broken.

Let his rubbing car not be regular, and the smarter ones can also realize that you don't want to be rubbed by the car, and the brain will react more slowly.

I'm sorry, but my car is full and I have some personal matters that need to be taken care of, and it is not convenient to carry the sails to others. Sail acres or you can try to find a sedan to take a ride with other colleagues. ”

Indeed, I have seen a lot of such examples recently, kindness and convenience, out of the car leakage accident, the other party has to compensate for the bottom line stove Zheng rotten, especially Cong Han's unfortunate become paralyzed, the owner of the car for a lifetime into the quagmire abyss, after all, the insurance company's compensation is also limited.

To be honest, I don't know how to excuse myself, after all, there are some cheeky people with a plaster personality who are stuck and difficult to deal with.

Sorry, I'm sorry, but my car is full and I can't pick you up.

Don't stop by the way, I'm busy with important things!

I'm sorry, but I'm going to pick up my wife and kids.

If you don't want to rub your car at the same time, you can directly tell him that I haven't been very convenient recently, and you can just go to work without driving, and when he wants to rub your car, you can say that you took a taxi over, in fact, you can also park your car in a parking lot a little farther away from the company.

If that's the case, I think you should talk to him. Let him bear part of the transportation costs, and if he is not willing to bear it, you can explain it directly. Because he doesn't pay attention to your feelings anymore, why should you pay attention to his feelings?

If it were my car, I would choose to have 4 seats other than the main driver, all full of stuff and no way to move around. When a colleague wants to ride in the car and finds that there is no place to accommodate him, he will not have to take my car. Persist for a while, let the colleague get used to the life without rubbing the car, and he will not come back.

You can tell him that he is not on the way, or he has something else to refuse him a few times, he will not rub your car again, if you rub his car is too thick-skinned, you can also ask him for money, just say that it is inconvenient for you to drive now or that the price of oil is **.

You can tell him that you have something else that makes it inconvenient for him to rub the car, so that after a few refusals, he may not rub your car.

As the saying goes, "brothers settle accounts", colleagues should settle accounts, and those who should refuse must be decisively refused, otherwise the other party will only think that you are a bully. For example, you can say, "I'm sorry, I'm going to pick up my girlfriend after work today and go on a date with my girlfriend, and I can't drop you off."

Rub your car every day, if he doesn't give you a little benefit, I think he is really too thick-skinned, you don't have to refuse him tactfully, you can say directly to your face, don't be my car in the future.

You can tell your colleague that you can't leave work right now, or you can say that you have something to go somewhere else today, and say no for a few days in a row so that your colleague won't get off the bus.

You can tell your colleagues that you have something to do after work, and you can't rub the car, and you can refuse him in this way.

You can directly tell your colleague that you need to pick up your friend, and you can't send him off, and refuse him in this way.

will directly tell the other party that it is really expensive to do this in life, and it makes me feel particularly stressed, so I hope the other party will not do it.

I think that it is useless for you to be tactful to such a colleague who likes to take advantage of others, he will only pretend not to understand. So I suggest that you tell him straightforwardly about your troubles and reluctance!

You should tell your colleague that this is your boyfriend's car, and most of the time your boyfriend drives it, and it will be inconvenient for him to be in the car, so you can politely refuse him.

If you don't want to be rubbed by a colleague, you can refuse directly. Each other is an adult, and they should know how to deal with people, and they can't be so dead-faced. If you are embarrassed to say such words, you can indicate to the other party the current oil price.

It is very expensive, and if you want to rub the car, you should pay half of the gas price. If the business quotient is higher, half of the money will be paid. If a colleague is unwilling to pay, you can just decline the colleague's request to rub the car and ignore them.

There are a lot of strange people in the workplace, and some people think that they live on the same road as their colleagues who have cars, so they want their colleagues to take them to work and then send them off work. Such a person is also very speechless, although rubbing the car did not delay anything, but others let you take the car is love, not letting you take the car is also duty, not at all is your exclusive driver, why let you seep into the car all the time? If you are too good to your colleagues, it will make your colleagues take your contribution for granted, and they will say irresponsible things to you, than now Cong Jufeng asked you to bring a little breakfast, and let you come a little later tomorrow, because he wants to go to bed and doesn't want to be so early.

Such a colleague is very low EQ and not worth getting along with, you can cut off contact with him and only be a superficial colleague.

If you feel that the above is too blunt, you can say that you are going to pick up your girlfriend or boyfriend in the future and have no time to pick you up. Colleagues who have a car should have a bottom line and not be too weak, otherwise they may be bullied by colleagues in the office to become their driver. The current oil price is relatively expensive, and the daily fuel consumption is very high.

If the other party still refuses to let him take the car, thinking that it is very wrong for you not to let him take the car, you can not drive yourself, you can go to the subway to experience life, and escape for a while. Then go for a drive, and come a little earlier or a little later, and don't bump into your colleagues.

Everyone must know how to refuse, especially part-time workers, otherwise they are very likely to delegate a lot of things to others, and they will also be very unhappy in the workplace.