Why is it so difficult to find a confidant, why is it so difficult to have a confidant?

When a person's life is like a storm, he is young and ignorant, and when he enters the stage of learning knowledge in middle age, the pressure of studying, the conditions for finding a job, the problems of life in starting a family, the living arrangements of the elderly at home, and the relationship between superiors and subordinates in the unit must be reasonably arranged, and the troublesome and trivial things sometimes make it difficult for people to solve. If you have a confidant to help, you can feel at ease. But knowing oneself can not be sought, knowing oneself and knowing oneself, knowing the root and knowing the bottom.

Only confidants, silently dedicating a sincere heart, helping to solve difficulties, as for selfless dedication without showing up. Make your life comfortable, everything is as it is. Beauty lies in emotional affinity, there are difficulties to stand up and bear, and life is as people wish, which is rare.

A confidant is a noble person in life and work, a person who helps you enjoy a better life and dedicates silently. She is like a blooming flower, always giving people the fragrance of fragrance.

I want to have a confidant, why is it so difficult, seeing this sentence, I remembered the ...... "It's rare to have a confidant in life".A confidant is hard to find, and throughout the ages, everyone wants to have a confidant.

Things gather by like, people by groups, the world, you can really find the same aspirations, mutual appreciation, mutual understanding, mutual common topics, etc., if you really understand, you will understand your life, understand your humanity. Daughters are easy to get, but confidants are hard to find.

People often say: a confidant in life is enough, but it is conceivable that a confidant is truly unattainable. In my opinion, it's better not to have it, if you don't get it right, it will backfire and become a stranger and an enemy.

Most people often encounter setbacks and troubles in life, when they are extremely painful and sad, when they are the most helpless and helpless, and when your heart is the most fragile, they want someone to understand you, comfort you, and hug you. The more you are at this time, the more you have to be sober about yourself, there is no free lunch in the world, and it will backfire if you don't get it rightwill suffer a second injury, the kind of blow that makes it worse, and it is a heart-wrenching heart.

So, my opinion: when people are most miserable, when they are most depressed, when they are most lonely, when they are most helpless, when they are most helpless, they should dust themselves up, and do not have hope for anyone. How many confidants do you really understand?

Seeking to know oneself is like pie in the sky......

There are many friends with wine and meat, and it is difficult to find a confidant. To tell the truth, modern people live a more practical life and are quite busy with work. There is also a lot of pressure, as the saying goes, language is the window of the soul, and without communication, you don't understand each other.

In order to live, people work hard, both old and young, buy a house, buy a car, and spend money on children going to school. There's a lot of time to talk to. The actual situation is like this, and the confidant can't be eaten, so everyone lives more practically.

One of life's greatest blessings is to meet a soulmate.

The mountains and flowing water, the sub-period of Boya, the eternal story, is enviable.

There are billions of people in the world, 1.4 billion people in China, and the meeting of Pingshui is fate. Some people, after seeing it once, may never see each other again. Some of them are empty people, and they will never meet them in their lifetime. There are enough people in countries and cities, but it is difficult to meet soulmates.

On the way to school and work, I will meet many people at the end of the day, but they are all in a hurry and walk quickly. People who can get on the same bus or subway already have a fate. It's just that this edge, like a pebble stirring up ripples on the surface of the lake, has no support, and can only disappear quickly.

Such people are passers-by in life. I have to admit that passers-by make up the largest proportion of our lives. And confidant, what is the high hunger?

It is a person who understands and appreciates himself, who has similar interests and hobbies to himself, and between the two, it only takes a look and no words to connect their hearts. It's like the telepathy of twins.

However, in today's fast-paced society, we can't stop our pace and seek the confidant who only wants one person in our lives.

By the time you have the time and energy to seek a soulmate, you may have missed the best time, and your soulmate is no longer around.

It is better to let go of the heavy heart, open your heart, communicate with others, and pass on your heart, as for when the party who receives and gives feedback appears, you can only wait slowly.

May you and I meet a lifelong soulmate.

I often feel that loneliness is the norm in a person's life, at least in the soul.

Confidants are rare, from their own point of view:

1. Most people do not have their own tranquility in their hearts, and they don't know how to know people.

Many people say they are lonely and lonely, but in fact they are just plain bored. A person who is bored in his heart, what he likes to do most is to huddle together to keep warm, drink today and get drunk today, and just enjoy the satisfaction of the moment. I don't know myself, how can I know people.

2. The abundant material life and the pursuit of material things blind people's senses and prevent them from hearing their inner voice.

No one asks about the poor in the downtown area, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains", for most people, everything in the world is very attractive, except for learning, which is an exception. In this case, we have always had a misunderstanding (or limitation), that is, people always like to use money to measure a person's value, simply equate money with value, and feel that as long as people have money, they belong to high-level people, thus ignoring their own spiritual construction, which is extremely one-sided and wrong, because compared with the spiritual level, the material level is not so important at all.

3. Only by paying sincerity can we gain sincerity, but sincerity also has a cost.

The development of social technology has advanced by leaps and bounds in the past 100 years, and the cost of communication and trust between people is also gradually increasing at a speed that is visible to the naked eye. Look at the friends around you, how many of them have come all the way from the relationship with classmates, and how many of them have met after entering the society. When you give but can't get the reward, how many people can still insist on giving first?

The more you grow, the more you experience, the more sophisticated you are, and the harder it is to make new friends. Confidants are mostly developed from friends, and when friends limit the scope, confidants are also limited.

Therefore, in this increasingly impetuous era, when you can't clearly understand yourself, how can you expect others to recognize you and establish an unhindered communication relationship with you?

Life has a confidant is enough, the world should be the same as it", the more you experience the beating of the society, the more deeply you know a truth, in this world, to find a person who loves you, a person who understands you, it is really too difficult and too difficult. That's the spiritual fit and resonance, if there is, it's really a blessing in life.

Yes, indeed, because in this world, although we meet many people, there are few people who can eventually become friends, and it is not easy to become a confidant, so this is really difficult. Here's an extended look at confidants.

It means to know, understand, appreciate, and understand yourself. 2.People who know each other and have a deep friendship. [1]

Historical Records: The Biography of the Assassins: "A man dies for a confidant, and a woman is a person who pleases herself." ”

One of Song Yang Wanli's "Elegy for Chen Anxing's Sheren Pavilion": "Xiaozong is the most confidant, and he lost the city." ”

Ba Jin's "Autumn" VI: "I don't have a husband to guide me, and I don't have a friend who is a confidant. ”

Three Kingdoms Wei Cao Zhi "Gift Xu Gan" poem: "Playing the crown is a confidant, who is not a confidant." ”

Tang Wangbo's poem "Sending Du Shaofu to Shuzhou": "There is a confidant in the sea, and the end of the world is like a neighbor." ”

Ming Feng Menglong "Yu Shi Mingyan" Volume 1: "I asked where to go during the banquet, visited each other, and the two became confidants and met from time to time. ”[2]

The 16th chapter of the Eastern Zhou Dynasty Chronicles: "After singing, I wept and sighed, thinking that there was no confidant in the world." This person is deep and strategic, and the light is not as good as it. ”

Qing Kong Shangren's "Peach Blossom Fan, Listening to the Barnyard Lea": "Mo Dao Mountain and High Water are far from having a confidant, you see that there are old brothers at the end of the cape." ”

, Yes, it's really not easy to find a confidant, some people can't find it in their lifetime, it shows that the importance of a confidant, a confidant sometimes depends on fate, some people meet, but miss, it's a pity, some people touch, and catch, then he must be a lucky one, some people may not be able to meet in a lifetime, that is her regret.

There is a kind of friendship that is not inferior to love, not ambiguous, but blue.

You may have loved each other, you may have liked each other, but for what reason haven't you been together?

Maybe he can't chase you for the sake of righteousness between friends.

Maybe it's to take into account the opinions of your family.

You're not together.

Maybe for the sake of his own future, he didn't ask you to wait for him.

Maybe you met too early and don't know how to cherish each other.

Maybe you met too late and you already have another person by your side.

Maybe you're too late to turn back, and the other person is no longer waiting.

Maybe you're trying to get out of each other's hearts.

But even though you're not together, you're still friends.

But you know in your hearts that you care more about this person than your friends.

He has someone he likes, and you will help him chase him verbally, but you don't really know if you really want him to chase him.

When he is in trouble, you will do your best to help him, regardless of who owes him.

When your boyfriend and girlfriend are jealous, you will reassure them that you and he are just friends, but there will be a trace of uncertainty in your heart.

Everyone has had this special friend in their hearts in their lives, and they have very contradictory behaviors.

At first, you were unwilling to just be friends, but after a long time, you suddenly found that this is the best.

You'd rather care about him like that than you'd be together and break up someday.

You'd rather be his friend and not be jealous of each other, so you can really talk about everything.

Especially so, you still know that he will always care about you.

can't be a boyfriend and girlfriend, what's wrong with being his special friend?

There is such a person that I like very much but can't bear to be emotional

Because I know that if we become boyfriend and girlfriend, we will not be pure and lacking Lu can talk about everything without scruples like now.

I'll care more about what he thinks of me.

So it's best to ......... that way

A lot of feelings, because of wishful thinking, can't even be friends in the end.

I often feel sorry, but it's a pity that some of the friendships that were originally good.

In the end, because the other party likes you, if you don't react, this friendship seems to be difficult to maintain, and it's no wonder that some people are reluctant to take this step.

Because it's like a bet, after confessing, you either become a boyfriend and girlfriend, or you can't even be a friend.

Some things are not what you can expect, maybe the other party doesn't care, you can still pretend to be friends, but it's not as good as before!