In marriage, why do you blindly please each other, but you will not be cherished by the other party?

I think it is very important for men and women to have equal status in marriage, once you blindly please each other in marriage, you will often not be cherished by the other party, but will cause their disgust and disgust. I think there are three main reasons for this. <>

1. Blindly pleasing often makes you lose yourself.

Once one party sends the message to the other party that I am very well-behaved and obedient, then that party will often feel dispensable to you, as if you are not an indispensable partner for him, at this time your status will gradually decrease, and you will gradually lose yourself in the process, and you can't remember that at that time, when he pursued you, you were confident and proud, such a marriage will only be a torture for you. <>

2. Blindly pleasing the other party may be taken for granted.

What should be done in marriage should be that couples tolerate each other, understand each other, care for each other, and love each other, rather than one of them pleasing each other, while the other party just enjoys it calmly, such a marriage is unequal from the beginning, then it will end sooner or later, and the other party will not be moved by you because of your understanding, they will only take it for granted. Then the flattering party is bound to be hurt. <>

3. Blindly pleasing will only make you look humble and hypocritical.

No one always likes to listen to those boastful words, they prefer to listen to those who are sincere, and in marriage it is more important for men and women to get along with each other with a heart-to-heart rather than one party in a favorable position and the other party in a disadvantageous situation, so that there is an imbalance in the first place. Excessive flattery will only bring endless boredom to the other party, making the other party feel that you are a hypocritical and selfless person, and will gradually get tired of your humility. Not to mention cherishing you.

All in all, I think that in marriage, everyone should keep their own value scale, control the degree of please, don't blindly please others, and don't blindly accept others' please, only in this way can they be cherished and learn to cherish others.

In fact, the main reason why you are not cherished by the other party is that you appear very humble, and others will think that you are worthless, so the other party does not cherish you at all.

Because people have this kind of habitual thinking, that is, they don't cherish what is easy to get, and if they don't spend a lot of energy to get it, they generally don't cherish it.

Because blindly pleasing will make the other party feel that they are cheap and annoying, and they will not feel that they are precious.

I want to understand that no matter what kind of relationship is mutual, except for your parents who can endure the continuous giving, no one can really do it to others blindly without asking for anything in return, blindly just paying, and if you really do this, then in the other party's heart, you may cherish it at first, but after a long time, the other party will feel that you are what you should be.

For example, two people often go to eat together, and one person doesn't like to eat eggs, so he gives them to the other person who goes with them, and every time it is like this, and suddenly one day he also wants to try what the eggs taste like, so he doesn't give them to another person, and then the other person will blame him, blame him for something, blame him for not giving himself, he may say, I didn't buy it, I just waited for you to give it to me, but you ate it yourself, you ate it and you didn't say it earlier, so you see that you are doing a good deed, It turned out to be evil.

And the same is true in marriage, you may be because you want to have a harmonious family at the beginning, in order to maintain a harmonious family, you may make some small concessions, you feel that as long as the family is happy, it doesn't matter if you let one go, the other party may also feel that you are very good, particularly moved, and cherish you at first. But after a long time, you have to give in on small things, because if you give it up after you get married, they will take it for granted, and in big things, if you give it up once, you have to have a second time, because you give it up anyway, why don't you just let it go to the end.

Sometimes you have to understand a word, there are too many people who kick their noses and faces, in real life, there are too many such things in marriage, you blindly try to please each other, blindly accommodate each other, after a long time, the other party feels that you should do something, you should accommodate her, you should let her, everything is what you should, so your good will become very cheap, cheap things, do you think someone will go to treasure as a baby, on the contrary, the other party will not cherish it, right?

The favored one is always fearless, blindly pleasing the other party can not make the other party cherish, but will feel that you are very casual, and even give the other party an illusion that no matter what he does, you will not leave, so you always do not cherish it.

Because if you blindly please, it will make the other party have a delusion, an invisible pressure, and make him feel that you will have no point in living without him.

When pleasing him, the other party will think that he is very tall, and he really needs you to admit his mistakes every time. So, we have to be ourselves.

Because of blindly pleasing each other, it seems that he is too humble, and his unequal status is cherished by the other party.

Because blindly pleasing the other party will make you very cheap, and others will not see the advantages in yourself.