Engaged, there is a crisis in the relationship, what to do

I think it's better to find a time to talk about this situation.

Because you're going to live together, you can't text for the rest of your life, right?

Why bother to convey fiery emotions with something that has no temperature?

It's always something to face, and if you don't want to lose, then be bold!

Once many people have determined their partner, at this time, the way to look at their boyfriend will quietly change.

Because, once engaged, people will become very realistic, they will directly consider the future living and economic conditions, people's personality and temperament, family interpersonal relationships, they will compare with other people, they will magnify the shortcomings of the other party, and they will suffer from gains and losses. I was afraid of the tiger and the wolf, and I was worried.

This situation, in the vast majority of people will have this phenomenon, and even affected by the "marriage is the grave of love" radical ideology, originally, falling in love is a very tiring thing, the surface of the article to do more, once the marriage is confirmed, both parties will not treat each other as carefully as before, a lot of words and deeds will appear more direct, even more so after marriage.

Life is inherently realistic, and you will deal with a lot of tiring things, and the mood should have returned to the "mortal" mentality.

If. If you are in a bad mood, you generally have a further understanding of the other party's situation, and many situations are very different from your psychological goals, and you are unwilling to live with the other party for a lifetime.

In addition, because of the customs and face of being engaged, I am in a dilemma, and I have too many worries in my heart.

You should analyze: if the other party's shortcomings are a matter of principle and character, you can suggest canceling the marriage contract, engagement is not marriage, as long as there is no marriage certificate, the law does not recognize the steps of engagement, and there is basically no engagement in the city.

If the other party is a small problem, if it is too demanding, this needs to adjust their mentality, no one is perfect, no gold is barefoot, spend a good full moon, Qingqing and my love will always end, towards life, towards struggle is inevitable.

Your heart is afraid of bondage! Not being is free!

People often say: when you are in love, the other party is an angel in your eyes, and all faults are advantages. When you get married, the other party is a layman in your own eyes, and the advantages are all disadvantages.

We are all ordinary people, no one can be flawless, all the shortcomings are just when to show up, how to show it, and whether it is acceptable to both parties.

You said that you just got engaged, then it means that your relationship is at least stable, otherwise it will not be to the point of talking about marriage. Secondly, when you say that you are about to get married, you mean that everything about the wedding is almost ready, and the ceremony will be held soon. But when you are about to get married, you find that he is not suitable for you, and it is getting worse?

It proved that the feeling was very strong. Here's what I have to say about you:

1.Be clear about what makes you feel inappropriate.

can be combined with the recent performance of the other party, you took care of the whole pre-wedding process, and he did not participate, which made you feel that his sense of responsibility was not enough; It's he who finds out that he is about to get married, and since he has already arrived, it doesn't matter if it's good for you or not; Or does he show disrespect to your family, to your colleagues, to many things, not to care, not to care what you think, etc. There's always a reason why you don't feel like it's appropriate. Then you can list all these reasons one by one, and whether they are extenuating or not.

For example, he didn't participate in the wedding too much, because his previous opinions were all denied by you, so he felt that you didn't listen to what he said anyway, so he wouldn't participate. Then that's your communication problem, and you can't say it's inappropriate. You have to clarify the reasons and how things are going.

2.Can you accept these for a lifetime.

Wait until you've got the first step clear. You can cross it out in the notebook, the first one you think is a communication problem, and after the communication, both parties open their hearts. Okay, then the first one is invalid.

Then look down one by one to see if there are shortcomings that you really can't accept in your life. You must know that life is for two people, and some things need you to sit down and talk, rather than you unilaterally feel that the other party is not suitable, maybe the truth is not what you think? That's not missing a lover.

If there are shortcomings that you really can't accept for a lifetime, or you haven't figured out whether you can accept it for the time being, I suggest that you can consider postponing the wedding to give both parties a cooling-off period, and you are still willing to hold it, and if you don't want to break it up. The pain is much better now than the pain in the second half of the marriage.

First of all, analyze the reasons why the relationship has not warmed up:

1. Some of the other party's shortcomings have been magnified, and I have some mind in my heart, which makes me doubt whether this person is suitable for his expectations for marriage! In this case, you can talk freely, say what you think, open your heart to each other, and solve each other! It will also take the relationship to the next level!

2. After in-depth communication and understanding between the two parties, they found that they were indeed not their ideal objects, but they could not be completely separated because of the face of their parents and their own ideas! At this time, it is not particularly easy to solve, you need to be responsible for your future, you can't grieve yourself for the sake of face, this is a lifelong thing, you need to communicate with your family, say your thoughts! Learn to say no!

The daily unchanged life will also smooth out the passion of love between the two. So at this time, surprise has become a spice in a boring life, and I should also prepare a surprise for the other party, and you will keep the temperature of love. Surprise is the preservative of love, and preparing a gift for her on Valentine's Day or birthday that she likes will surely make your relationship warm up quickly.

When we are smoothed out by life, a hug has become a luxury, and such body language is indeed an essential element in our emotional life.

Feelings need to be managed, we must manage the feelings between each other when we have, cherish the feelings between each other.

What should I do if my relationship enters a flat period?

The first one: go out and walk more, go on dates, and meet often.

Because of typing speed or Internet reasons, many words cannot be explained clearly on social software. Moreover, Chinese culture is very profound, and a sentence can be understood differently.

At this time, it is very important to make an appointment for a face-to-face interview. Why does the company have to come out for a face-to-face interview every time the company talks about a deal? That's it.

When you are face-to-face, looking at the facial expressions and movements of the other person can make it easier to understand the meaning of these words more easily.

So in this period, what is most needed is for the two to come out for a walk, some physical contact, and warm love words, which can pull his heart back to him again, and may even fall into a second love again.

The second: communicate more and play with your passion for him.

Suspicion and suspicion are one of the culprits of many relationship breakdowns, and the lack of communication and connection is the root cause of this culprit.

So, contact each other a lot, and ask what you are doing when you are usually free or not, and if you miss me. Don't feel these greasy, the more greasy he is, the more he thinks you take him to heart.

Keep an optimistic attitude and believe in the other person, and he will definitely notice it.

Third: empathy.

When contradictions and conflicts erupt, empathy is necessary. Every time you quarrel, everyone will feel that they are wronged and that there is nothing wrong with them.

But if both of them are like this, then this matter will never pass. You can put yourself in the other person's situation and try to think about it with his mind. As.

If you know him well enough, you will find out what he is frustrating. Finally, the two sat down and explained the matter carefully. After a little noise, the emotion will go further!

Fourth: Create some romance.

In a love life, creating romance is not a man's prerogative, nor is it the only thing he needs to do. When the relationship enters a dull period, a little surprise and a little romance are all good helpers to make the relationship warm up again. Any man has no resistance to a woman who knows how to create romance.

I believe that everyone's heart is longing for "wishing to win the heart of one person, and the white head will not be separated", but it can return to reality and be accompanied by trivial things.

Under the dual effect of emotion and stress, your irrationality, paranoia, and willfulness gradually replace your gentle, patient, and responsible you.

At the same time, your love has also undergone a qualitative change, and if you can't maintain it in the right way, it is easy for two people to drift apart.

Many people say that the chance of holding hands again after a breakup is 97%, and the chance of two people breaking up again for the same reason is as high as 80%.

Therefore, at all times, learn to maintain relationships.

The success of redemption after a breakup is not that the other party promises you to "be your boyfriend (girlfriend) friend again", and that result only proves that the other party is willing to return to you temporarily, and the original problems between you have not been solved at all.

If the spearhead of the previous breakup happens again, you will also be separated again.

Therefore, in order for the relationship to be stable, you must master these three steps:

One liter, two bright, three don't.

The first step is to learn to keep the relationship warm;

The second step is to clarify and establish a common goal with the other party, and work towards it;

The third step is to learn to be self-confident, and not to be submissive and cautious.

It's not a bad thing for a relationship to go into a lull period.

In a relationship, it is difficult to avoid encountering this kind of problem. You may have chosen to be together because of one or a few advantages, time passes, people will inevitably grow, each other will change, and those advantages are no longer dazzling, you slowly see the real each other in this relationship, and the passage of freshness is inevitable, not by chance. But slowly you will find that although your likes are hidden in your heart, but the body has become accustomed to being by your side every day, the appearance of freshness represents that your feelings have entered a sublimation state, you still love them very much, but you may not be able to show them in words or body movements as hard as when you were in love, because you have passed the test of time, and subconsciously feel that each other will not leave.

Why is it different from when you were in love, because that time is actually a period of certainty, to determine whether the other party really loves you, so you or they will try to prove that they love each other. The loss of freshness is never a bad thing, but it depends on how both parties grasp it, don't miss it and don't regret it after separation. After this period of time, a pair of lovers can really enter each other's lives.

How to live in the off-season, communication is the most important thing, every quarrel, every disagreement, need to respect and communicate with each other, there is no relationship that can not be managed, only each other slowly do not communicate, after not understanding each other, and the lost feelings, so first you have to learn to communicate and take a step back, if you really love ta, want to live with ta, then you will choose to be soft when each other is not willing to bow their heads.

First: two people go on a trip together and go for a walk. Because after the relationship between two people is stable, they often stay in so many places, and they will feel that there is nothing new.

How to get through the emotional lull? It is necessary to find a new place to travel, and in an environment that is unfamiliar to both people, lovers will rely on each other to create new memories, reminisce about the good times of the past, and reaffirm each other's trust and love. Choosing places you've never been to and trying activities you haven't been to before can help you get through the downtime.

Second: Leave time for each other. Two people also need their own privacy and space.

Giving yourself some time can objectively analyze the current situation, and it can also give the other person a good opportunity to cherish themselves again. Third: change the way you talk and address your lover.

After a long period of love, lovers will become very good friends and even family members, regardless of each other. To prevent this from happening, occasionally change your address or change the way you speak to make the other person feel respected. Fourth:

Praise your lover more for their merits. Couples who have been in a relationship for a long time rarely praise each other. Praise can make the goldfish dance and make the relationship more stable.

Cultivating the habit of complimenting each other in subtle ways can increase mutual respect for each other. Sixth: Change the hairstyle or style of dressing.

People are visual creatures, and it is easy to neglect self-management because they are too close to each other, and present a sloppy image in front of their lovers. At this time, the hairstyle or dressing style needs some new thoughts, and when you appear unfamiliar with each other, you can feel the excitement that has disappeared again. The relationship lull period is inevitable for most couples, and there is no need to deliberately avoid it, and it is crucial to master the skills of how to spend the emotional lull period.

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