I talked to my first girlfriend for four years, and her family didn t agree, what should I do if I w

Updated on society 2024-03-05
37 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    This reason for breaking up is a bit far-fetched, but the relationship belongs to two people, you can talk to her first, and if she still does not make further efforts to save her family's opinion, then you give up. Because marriage involves family factors, without the support of parents, there will be many conflicts in the future. If you want to persevere, you can try to work on her parents with sincerity.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    In fact, if his parents say this, maybe they don't like you too much in the first place, or your girlfriend and family complain about something, because if the other party likes it, you shouldn't compromise with your family so easily.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Since she's like this, it's a little pale if you insist. To know how painful the end of wishful thinking is. It's hard to get through this hurdle for parents, not to mention that even the person who accompanied you at the beginning gave up, so why insist on it. Let it go, and don't let yourself be the one who hurts the most in the end.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    First love is just an experiment, my first love has faded for 8 years, and the result is not without results!

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    First love is the most unforgettable, but first love is the least likely.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    This situation should be explained clearly, and it will be fine.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    I can only say that she doesn't love you as much as you imagined.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    I broke up with my first girlfriend because my parents didn't agree, how should I forget a true love?

    1. When you re-enter a relationship, you can't think of your former lover anymore.

    Many people will go through several relationships before they enter the palace of marriage, and among these relationships, the most memorable is the first love. It is very helpless for two people to break up because of their parents' opposition, and the best way to forget their first love is to fall in love again. With a new love, you will find that this is true love, and the former lover is already in the past.

    I don't have to blame myself anymore, I don't have to miss each other anymore, and the most important thing is to face the current feelings with my heart. The first love is just a passing guest in his life, and the current lover will always accompany him.

    Second, work hard and enrich yourself, and you will have no time to take care of the feelings you once had.

    If the shadow of your first love is always lingering in your mind and you can't forget it, then you can divert your attention and keep yourself busy through work. You can ask your boss for more tasks, so that you will be very busy no matter day or night, not only enriching yourself, but also making your salary reflected, which can be said to kill two birds with one stone.

    3. When you travel with relatives or friends, you will be in a good mood and you will be able to slowly forget your true love.

    If you are very idle, and you always work, study, and live in your previous environment step by step, then the bits and pieces with your first love will always affect you. Therefore, you can let yourself come out of the previous environment and come to an unfamiliar place, and you will not see things and think about people. But a person's trip is inevitably lonely, you can go out with your family or very good friends, so that you will have someone to chat with you on the journey, see the beautiful scenery with you, and your own hidden banquet will suddenly be bright.

    If you have a good mood, you will forget about unhappy things, and your first love will become more and more fading in your mind.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Loving a celery person does not necessarily have to be together, the happiness of the other party is the most important thing, we love someone is to be happy with him, if there is no trace of him is still very happy.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Find something to do or go on a trip, etc. Find something to do respect, you can enrich yourself; And when you go to travel, you can see other people's lives, and there is only love in life.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Then you should find someone who suits you and divert your attention to give yourself a new life.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Everyone understands that first love is the most unforgettable for people, because of innocence, too pure, the happiness of being attracted by friends of the opposite sex for the first time is always unforgettable. In today's love era, which puts people and economic development in the first place, the whole process of falling in love is accompanied by the process of growing up. Moreover, the lovers of the two first lovers have been separated for so many years, and the girlfriend of the first love has long been married and divorced, you may be the same as you were back then.

    But the girlfriend in love is not her first love. It is very likely that her transformation is unimaginable, if she or the original her, it is not easy to marry and divorce someone else, and she will wait for you in the same place, and it will not lead to today's results. Now you are a family with a daughter-in-law and a child, if you look at the past affection and want to help.

    She will be tolerant and generous, and with her permission, she will openly and honestly assist her. Don't hide from your daughter-in-law and act alone, in case it causes unnecessary disagreements in your own family, and has the adverse effects of restlessness and restlessness for yourself. Everyone's situation is different, if you ask yourself with a clear conscience, and your daughter-in-law is also kind-hearted and open-minded and trusts you very much, your standards are okay, and you can help your first lover without endangering your daily life.

    Then I think you can discuss with your daughter-in-law how to help and how much.

    There is a common precaution. First love is the best memory of life, and all you leave behind is hard and unforgettable love. The more you can't get it, the better it is in your heart.

    If you are married, you should not be affectionate and entangled with her. She was able to find a new emotion in her. You live your life again.

    No matter how much you like her. You must not light this flame of love again. Because you have a wife and children.

    Live a good life on your own. You can't let down your wife and children either.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    It shouldn't be bothered, because the two of you have broken up, and it doesn't matter how she is doing.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Personally, I don't think you should care about her, because she is married and divorced, and she has nothing to do with you anymore, so you shouldn't care about her.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    If you have a family and a girlfriend now, then you don't need to worry about the other party, because the other party has nothing to do with you at all.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Let it go, her heart is not with you, and it hurts to love.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    o My God shouldn't be much hope.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Let's just say that you did the wrong thing at the wrong time.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Divide it, the longer it goes, the more you can't let it go.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    It's too long. Didn't look at it. Anyway. Good luck.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Do you still want to keep it? I suggest you let go, will the feelings you leave behind still feel the same way they did at the beginning? Finally, I would like to give you a word: where there is no grass in the world, why bother to love a flower.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    She loves him a lot more than you do, so let it go. Wishing you the happiness you find out.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Crazy men and women, it is good to see through the red dust.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Fuck, second-hand, just unreliable.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Tell you, I don't think there's any need to redeem her, she doesn't belong to you in the first place, there is a good saying, the twisted melon is not sweet, have you heard it!!

    Don't be nostalgic for her appearance, appearance is not important, what matters is the heart, you yourself know very well that she doesn't care about you, so what else to force, for example, even if she is by your side, she may not be happy if you are happy!

    Do you want your loved one to live an unhappy life for the rest of your life?

    Sometimes giving up is also a sign of "love"!

    Go and enrich yourself, let time pass, and find your own girl again!!

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    Hey, really, there's no need for this kind of woman.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    Hello this gentleman!

    If I were your object, I would break up with you! Even now, you don't understand that you are defeated in **!

    From your words, I can tell that you do love her very much, but you love her too much! There should be a limit to the amount of love that people give, you should give each other enough time and space, the more the initial love is like a flame, the more it will be extinguished by the wind in the end. Your life shouldn't be all about her, and if you do, everyone will get bored with you.

    You all have friends, colleagues, relatives and friends, and if you spread out the love, there won't be so much love in the personal space of the two of you, but because of this, you will cherish the rare love that belongs to each other more!

    Finally, if you still love her, don't bother her. You are secretly happy when she is happy, you are sad when she is sad, you lend her shoulder when she needs to cry, you listen when she needs to speak, don't say much about this, silence is your panacea!

    If the two of you don't end up, I'm sure she'll come back to you!

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    After all, it has been paid. It is quite normal to have such a phenomenon. Prove that you are a person with affection.

    But there is a time limit for this phenomenon. Give it a deadline. Slowly forget.

    Slowly adapt to the current life. You also know that everything will be fine. It's just a matter of time.

    Find something to do for yourself when you're about to go crazy. Divert your attention when you think about her. Slowly you will forget about her!

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    I can only go in style... In fact, sometimes what makes you uncomfortable is not the feeling of loving her, but the feeling that you want but can't get; After finding someone who is really destined to love each other, you will naturally be liberated, and you will definitely be able to.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    If you chase a girl, you have to be shameless and thick-skinned.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    I can understand that you are heartbroken, so I don't think you can think about this issue entirely emotionally. For example, some friends upstairs only analyze feelings, importance or something, I don't completely agree.

    Marriage is a matter of two people, but each person's family is a part of who he is, it is an indispensable part of his life, and you can't cut it off. Unless he can completely ignore the opinions of his family (there are not many such people), most people will have a hard time facing his situation. No matter how much you stress your feelings, you can't solve it.

    If you want to redeem it, there are only two ways, one is to see if he can resolutely resist the opposition of his family, and the other is whether you can gain the approval of his family. These two paths, one hard and one soft, can go hand in hand, but only if he is willing to implement them with you.

    If he can't stand it and won't turn back, don't be harsh on him. Like some friends upstairs and your mom said, it's actually a bit one-sided. Even if there is true love, the old people in the family don't agree and want to hang themselves, do you really dare to watch it?

    Right. So don't infer that he doesn't really love you, it's kind of. Now the problem is that he doesn't want to face it and chooses to be submissive – your mom is right – then you have to talk to him and see if he can stand by your side and face these problems with you.

    If he can't, be forgiving.

    In short, you can't force him to turn his face with his parents, otherwise he will either feel guilty for a lifetime or be conflicted for a lifetime. In addition, you should also give him some warmth and energy and confidence so that he can catch his breath and have the strength to talk to his family. If it really doesn't work out in the end, even if it's fate.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    Girl, hold on Although I haven't finished reading what you wrote, if the boy still loves you, then you should persevere. If both the boy and you are in a period of exhaustion, breaking up is the best option. Go with the flow, give up when it's time to give up, don't drag the mud and water, otherwise you will miss your youth.

    The world is so big, there may only be one boy worthy of your affection, and he loves you, so you shouldn't say anything to give up, and you have to say break up for a little noise. There's no need, young man!

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    Please, punctuation, okay? Fortunately, I have enough patience to read it. It's really a pity to break up because of the family element.

    So you only have two ways to go, one is to fight tenaciously and resist to the end. The second option is compromise.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    If it were me, I wouldn't be reconciled, because you should try to communicate with your parents to make the two elders accept your love.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-03

    Stiff it. No parent has ever won their children, so it's really not good, so let's get the certificate first.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-02

    I've encountered the same problem, but my time is much shorter than yours, this kind of thing is not how you want to be, the main thing is the boy, in fact, I don't really understand why boys think a lot of things, think so far, I can't accept it at first, but now, slowly, it's much better, friends say that there is a better one, I said before, I've met it, and I don't want anything else, but now I think a lot of things really don't decide for yourself, we should think about it more, after all, our relatives and friends care about us Finally, I hope you live happily...

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-01

    Looking at your narrative, it seems that you love him very much, silly girl, in fact, the love between two people cannot be influenced by the outside world and there is a generation gap, whether his thoughts and thinking are true or not, but at least one thing has been confirmed, that is, you are not the most important person in his vitality, and he does not occupy the most important position in his heart, in fact, these are not the main things, the important thing is that he will not change because of your feelings, and he does not even give you room to consider a solution, do you think, this feeling, Even if we come together, can we be happy? Feelings are two-sided, just rely on you to fight unilaterally, then you only have to pay in vain, nothing in exchange, think about it, I just personal advice, I hope you can find the happiness that really loves you and belongs to you.

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