Why can t I meet the right person when I am single, but after I get married, I can meet a lot of peo

People with this kind of mentality typically have the mentality of looking at the bowl and thinking about the pot. In fact, most of the married friends have this kind of question, why are other people's wives so virtuous. can go to the hall and go down to the kitchen, and his wife is either lazy or short-tempered.

The main reason is to understand, because your wife lives with you every day, and what you see is her truest side. There is no need for her to disguise herself in front of you. And other women can't show their truest side in front of your friends in front of you, maybe she is lazier and fiercer than your wife at home.

Let's talk about the first part of the problem, why you can't meet the right one when you're single, because when you're single, you don't understand love, you don't have a reference, you don't have a comparison, and the requirements are also higher, and the only measure is the girl who makes your heart flutter at first sight. There is no real life feeling.

And after getting married, you have a comparison, and you begin to unconsciously compare your wife with other women from every small detail, and the requirements for love also begin to melt into actual life, no longer the kind of heart at first sight, but hope to find a woman who understands you and cares about the family.

Slowly you will find that in addition to your own wife, there are so many people around you who understand yourself and are suitable for yourself. So. Men will have this illusion, they can't meet the right one when they are single, and after getting married, they find that there are so many women who want it.

Friends who have this kind of thinking should think about it calmly first, you take a closer look at those divorced friends, and most of them will find that they are still the original match after a few years. When you divorce for someone you think is suitable, you realize that the most suitable person for yourself is the person who once held hands with you and shared weal and woe.

Most people don't know what is really a good fit until they get married. The so-called suitability is first of all for the two to live together for a long time, and those romantic legends about love are abstract, which filters out the blandness and tediousness of day after day. So if you can stand the plain, you can keep love.

Qiong Yao, who has written about romantic love for half her life, is in front of her husband's hospital bed, not only is the previous show of affection gone, but even the minimum family humanity is ignored.

Because after marriage, people really understand what they need in life after marriage, and they are still in the stage of falling in love before marriage.

Because the requirements are too high when you are single, the requirements for your other half after marriage are not so high.

When you are single, you can't meet the right person, but after you get married, you can meet a lot of people who feel suitable for you, because there is a lot of pressure in your heart when you are single, so you want to find someone who meets your own mate selection standards.

The reason why you are single is that you can't meet the right person, but you can meet a lot of people who don't feel suitable for you, because before being single, we always lower our own requirements, and at the same time, because of the urgency, we can only settle down, and only after getting married do we feel that both parties are not suitable, and at the same time the correlation is inconsistent, because after getting married, you will see things very openly, and understand a lot of truths.

Personally, I think that because when you are single, you don't know exactly what kind of person you want to find, and after you get married, you will know what kind of man you want to choose for marriage, and you will understand that there are commitments, responsibilities, responsibilities, etc., and you are in contact with this type of man, so you feel that they are all suitable for you

This is because of your own psychological factors, when you are single, your vision is relatively high, you feel that no one is worthy of you, and after you get married, you are troubled by the trivial things of life, and you feel that it is very suitable for you when you meet an average one.

Lonely, I want a partner, I want to get married, because my friends around me got married, and then I quickly joined the blind date army, and finally married myself out again.

When I was young, I felt that love was a troublesome thing, and when I saw the sisters in the same dormitory, I was trapped by love for a while, and I cried for love for a while, and I comforted them day by day and they were about to give me depression to death, so I didn't want to fall in love at that time, and I felt that love was a particularly annoying thing, and it was a fool who asked for trouble, so I didn't fall in love when I was in school.

Later, after work, because I was in the same city with my classmates, I didn't feel how lonely I was at that time, but after two or three years of work, my classmates got married one after another, and that year I was a bridesmaid four times, attended five weddings, and gave out six red envelopes, one of which was to give birth.

At the time, I didn't feel much emotion, but when I gradually found that when I wanted to talk to someone, I couldn't find anyone, everyone had a family, and I was embarrassed to disturb others at night, I felt so lonely, and I was left alone.

And when I can't make an appointment on the weekend, I find that I am really pitiful, I feel like I have been abandoned by the world, so I began to think about love, looking for a partner, and later when my colleagues and classmates introduced me to the object, I actively went to participate, when I went home for the New Year, my parents wanted to give me a blind date in a row, and I didn't stop it, but they asked me to go and I really went.

Finally, I met my husband on a blind date in my hometown, and the two of us were older men and women, and our parents chatted again, so we slapped our thighs and let us get married after we knew each other for three months. So my single life finally ended, and I was no longer alone.

Now that I have been married for eight years, I personally think that if the people around you are unwilling to get married, in fact, you may get married later, but if everyone around you is married, you will be likely to marry early.

Sometimes I envy the people around me, they have a family, and they have a concern in the vast sea of people. But when I saw them arguing over family matters, I was especially glad that I was single.

When everyone around you has their own friends, but they are still single, it is very sad at that time, and it is also very lonely, because there is no one to play with you anymore.

It's a feeling of pride because they're all bound by life, and they can do whatever I want.

I think it should be a sad feeling, because I will feel more lonely, and I will also be urged to marry by others.

It's a very lonely feeling, because I usually get together, and I can bring my family when I get together, and I feel very lonely when I see my friends around me bringing their couples.

When everyone around me is married and I am still single, I think I will be anxious, because I will be very envious and feel inferior when I see them all in and out of the pair.

When everyone around me is married and I am still single, I am still very uncomfortable, I feel that I am not so bad, why is I the only one who is still single, and even have some inferiority complex.

It's not going to be happy. For the two to come together, they must have such conditions. First, the other person is someone you like and love very much, and can give for it.

Second, the person you love also likes you very much, loves you, and spoils you. Third, both of you tend to have the same three views, ideals, morals, and the ability to fight for common values. If you marry someone you feel suitable for and don't like, you will regret yourself.

The marriage of friends around you has nothing to do with you, and you don't need to let yourself out in a hurry, you have to wait for the opportunity to find someone you like, and at the same time the other party also likes you. You can't just blindly solve your own problems.

I don't think I'll choose someone who is suitable but not loved to marry. I have a longing and firm belief in love, I think the foundation of love must be two people who truly love each other, only love each other will cherish each other, and the future married life will be happy. Living with someone you don't love is just as painful, and you must need the company of your loved one on the long road of life!

People who truly love each other can get through difficulties together and share weal and woe. Hand in hand for a lifetime!

I was 90 years old, when I was 25 years old, most of the people around me were married, and my parents were also very anxious, and introduced me to a lot of people they felt "suitable", but I didn't accept it, I had to find it myself, I often went to socialize at that time, broadened my circle, and registered a lot of blind date software to join a lot of blind date groups. Later, I met my current husband on a companion. We got married after two years of love, and he is not only suitable for me, but the most important thing is that we love each other and have an emotional foundation.

So I'm very grateful that I didn't compromise with my parents and found a suitable person to marry. Otherwise, I might not be so happy now.

There are two possibilities, maybe you will slowly develop a relationship after a long time and live a happy life. It's also possible that you don't like her, deliberately alienate her, and have a bad time.

This kind of thing can't be rushed, since you want to get married, of course, you choose the person you like, and the other party must also like you, so that you can be happy for a long time and grow old with a white head.

I feel that the individual is like an outlier, choose a suitable person, but don't like it to marry, since it is suitable, whether I like it or not, it is to run in the communication after marriage. There is no shortage of precedents for the sweetness of getting married first and then falling in love.

Everyone else is married, but you are not married, I think you will be happy for your choice, because this kind of thing has to go through a long run-in. Even people who like each other or like each other will have contradictions, so this kind of thing has to go through a period of run-in or a lifetime of run-in to be happy.

The main reasons why I have been single are the following:

1.Lazy and homely.

In addition to normal working hours, I stay at home all the time, sleep, watch dramas, watch movies, eat snacks, go shopping, and like to be alone. My friend wanted to ask me out shopping, but I didn't bother to go out. At two o'clock every day, the company and the family run back and forth, except for these two places, I have never been to any new places or have no desire to meet the opposite sex.

2.Busy getting out of poverty.

There is no doubt that falling in love and getting rid of singles is a major event in life, but there are still more important things than falling in love.

Before you meet true love, you have to work hard to earn money, put your time and energy into your work every day, and get used to busy and fulfilling work. Gradually, I got used to living alone, and I felt that there was nothing wrong with being single.

3.The social circle is too small.

As he grew older, he suddenly found that there were fewer and fewer resources of the opposite sex around him, which caused his mate selection criteria to go from low to high to low, and finally he couldn't find a suitable partner.

It's not that it's difficult to find the right person, it's just that there are too few resources of the opposite sex to know, the social circle is too small, and the people around me are friends for many years except for colleagues at work, and there is no other way to meet Hu Sui's new friends and make friends.

Sometimes being single is not my original intention, but forced by the current situation, even if I have a heart that wants to get rid of singleness, I can't withstand the heavy blow of reality. Sometimes I feel that love is not a necessity of life, and it is better to be alone.

It may be that you want to be single, because there are really many benefits to being single, so now more and more people want to be single.

When the people around you are married and you are still single, it is a very lonely feeling

Clause. First, the three views are very important.

A person's three views are directly linked to his spiritual world, so if your spiritual world can't be the right one, then your three views may be difficult to agree, two people with different views live together, it is very tiring, and marriage will naturally be useless after a long time.

Clause. 2. Life goals.

In marriage, the husband and wife will be able to achieve long-term harmony if they have the same life goals, but if the husband and wife are inconsistent in spirit and ideas, then it will directly affect the goals and structure of the marriage.

Therefore, many people do not care about the family background and family background when they get married, thinking that as long as they have feelings, they can overcome the habits brought by these original families.

Clause. 3. Common language.

The most direct manifestation of the spiritual level is whether there is a common language, you are talking to him about the world political situation, but he replies to you trivial, like a chicken and a duck talking, you can never find a topic to chat with, slowly you will be alienated, and the spiritual world will feel very lonely. In a relationship, if your girlfriend is very capable, it is a very special experience, so what does this experience feel like? Let me share my opinion.

First, in fact, a girlfriend who can do everything will have some characteristics, first of all, it is necessary to talk about everything, many times there is a kind of girlfriend who does everything, you will find that you can find out what problems she does, that is, what you say, what you do, so that what you think, in the end, it will make you incomprehensible, unable to agree, at this time you will be very uncomfortable, very awkward, but there is no way to solve it. ......Second, the second is to be unreasonable, which is also the second characteristic of a girlfriend who can be a girlfriend, many times you will find that your girlfriend is quite unreasonable, that is, you can't listen to what you say, what he wants to do, you think it's impossible and you can't refuse, because you refuse it is very likely that the volcano will erupt, especially the girlfriend who can be a good person is also unreasonable, like an active volcano, often erupting, so the unreasonable girlfriend is more terrible. 3. Unreasonable trouble, let's talk about the most terrible girlfriend form ,......This form is the third characteristic of being a girlfriend, this form is very scary, at least it will not take the initiative to make trouble, but it will take the initiative to make trouble if it is unreasonable, when your girlfriend takes the initiative to make trouble, if you have poor ability or low emotional intelligence, you can't contain your girlfriend, this experience is really impossible to experience.