What should you do if someone likes to hit you and make you feel inferior?

4 ways to overcome low self-esteem.

Psychologist Adler.

It has been said: "Inferiority complex is the force that drives people to be superior, and it is the result of repeated failures". Appropriate inferiority complex helps us to better interact with others and achieve success, but extreme inferiority complex can make people self-defeating.

How can we overcome a strong sense of inferiority and live a better life?

1. Know yourself.

We have to know ourselves dialectically, not only entangled in our own shortcomings, but also have acne on our faces, have a bad body, and can't sing...You should also be able to discover your own strengths, such as delicate thoughts, good dressing, good writing, etc.

Accept your own bad, but also see your own good, do not compare your own bad with the good of others, everyone has their own areas of expertise, and improve their own good side.

For example, Li Dan.

is very good at talk shows, so the debate is relatively difficult for him, so he will not have to debate with Qiu Chen and Huang Zhizhong, but concentrate on doing his talk show career.

2. Correct attribution.

We will encounter failures, and the reason for failure may be not enough effort, it may be not enough timing, it may be some force majeure.

It is also possible that you are not capable enough, and if we just attribute our failures to internal causes, we will become more and more inferior and frustrated.

On the contrary, we attribute correctly, find the real cause of failure, solve the problem, and grow.

3. Enhance confidence with action.

Walk with your chest held high (behavior affects mentality).

Speak up in front of others (to exercise your courage and gain confidence for sure).

Encourage yourself in the mirror (don't underestimate the power of suggestion).

4. Re-establish a sense of security.

Lack of security will lead to low self-esteem, dare not take the initiative to contact others, dare not express their feelings and ideas, Lu Xun in the literary world.

He also has an inferiority complex, and he has always wanted to contact his teacher, but he didn't dare to contact him, for fear that the teacher would be disappointed, so he only wrote "Mr. Fujino".

A piece of nostalgia. If you want to overcome low self-esteem, you also need to re-establish a sense of security and change from low self-esteem to high self-esteem. How? On the one hand, we must learn to embrace the past and face yesterday's events calmly;

On the other hand, we need to take the initiative to make some genuine friends, talk to our family members and ask for support, and as long as you know that someone is willing to face it with you, you will be much bolder in doing things.

In closing, I would like to say, "Even if life is a chicken feather."

and march forward". It is normal to have an inferiority complex, and everyone will have some at different times and when facing different people. But as we grow older, our knowledge increases, and we become more and more confident.

My dear, as a person with low self-esteem, you must be very sensitive and very concerned about what others think of you. When the people around you keep hitting you, you must be sad, you may resent the other person, you may feel ashamed, you may have self-doubt, and even want to hide and stay away from all right and wrong.

Speaking of which, I really want to give you a hug and give you a little bit of strength. After all, there is nowhere to escape from this world, we still have to turn around and face ourselves, and I hope that my little advice can bring you a little bit of strength, so that you have the courage to face this not so good world, to be able to protect yourself, and to become more confident.

First, try to accept yourself. I know that deep down in your heart, you must feel that you are inferior to others in many ways, which makes you feel very frustrated and even embarrassed. You shouldn't like yourself like this, right?

So you will also be very sensitive to the blows of others, and every time you will arouse your emotions about the "bad part" of yourself.

But in fact, there are perfect people in this world? And who can get everyone's affection? Perhaps early in your life, there was a very harsh caregiver who was constantly critical and blaming, making you form the belief that "I am bad".

Now, you can try to tell yourself: "I'm not perfect, it's normal, I have a lot of shortcomings, but also a lot of strengths." ”

You can try to do the "mirror exercise" to increase the connection with yourself, to see the true self, the imperfect self, to accept all the parts of him including the flaws, and try to love her. When you truly accept yourself and your own shortcomings, the blows of others will not be so powerful.

Secondly, you need to rebuild and improve your self-confidence. Everyone has weaknesses and strengths, so take your eyes off your own shortcomings and consider how you can maximize your strengths. When you do better and better in your strengths, your self-confidence can also continue to improve.

People with low self-esteem tend to be more afraid of failure, because failure means they can't do it. Now you need to revise your beliefs: "Failure doesn't prove that I'm not good, failure is just an opportunity to change me for the better, because I can see my shortcomings more clearly." ”

With this belief, you will have the courage to try, you will have the opportunity to experience, and in the process, your ability will continue to improve, and you will become more and more confident.

There are always people around you who hit you, saying that you can't do this or that, you have low self-esteem, how can you change this status quo? To change this situation, the best way is to start by abandoning low self-esteem and cultivating self-confidence, believe in yourself, and often give yourself a hint that I can do it, I can do it well! Only by proving ourselves with practical actions can we let the people who hit us see that we are different, facts speak louder than words, we do it, and we will block the mouth of Youyou.

The most terrible thing is that our emotions are swayed by the people who hit us, people say that we can't do it, we also follow the denial of ourselves, shrink back when we encounter problems, this is not my forte, it is not my strength, I don't try anything and dare not let go of my hands and feet to do it, so what else can we do? Just wait to be a spectator, watch others succeed, and watch others make progress one after another. As a result, people have come a long way, and we are still waiting in place, accomplishing nothing, gritting our teeth and stomping our feet to regret that it didn't help at the beginning, what's the point?!

Human potential is unlimited, and sometimes the reason why it is not realized is that it is not pushed to yourself. In the early 90s, when I was studying in the provincial capital, our instructor was 28 years old and the child was just over 2 years old. One night, the bedroom suddenly burst into flames, the guide and the child at home, the guide hurriedly picked up the child, just wanted to grab the door out, at a glance saw the living room newly bought 25-inch painting king color TV, and quickly turned back to the bedroom and pulled up the big sheets, three times and two times to pack the TV set on the back, holding the child from the fifth floor staggered down to the first floor ......Later, when she talked to us about it, she couldn't help herself, a weak woman with a height of 1.6 meters and a weight of 90 pounds, the power of the desolation that came at the critical moment? !

In fact, the situation at that time forced it, if it didn't work, if there was one more person in the family, in that case, she might not even be able to hold the child with weak legs, let alone carry such a big and stupid desktop TV ......

Don't say you can't do it, dare to affirm in your heart that you can do it. Those who always say that they can't do it are inferior. The best way to change your low self-esteem is to start by doing one thing.

Perhaps, this thing is a little tricky for us to do, but you have to believe that there are always more ways than difficulties, check the information, think of a way, ask for advice from the seniors, and so on. Once you do it seriously, no matter what the final result is, you will feel the fulfillment and joy of the process, and your inner self-confidence will grow day by day. No matter how big or small the results are, you will see your own little bit of progress, and you will motivate and encourage yourself to keep up with the excellent.

At the same time, our efforts and enterprising those who have struck us are in front of us, and we have done it, and they are convinced that there is nothing to say. So, don't listen to what others say, see what you do, believe in yourself, I can do it!

If a person hits me every day, how can I get along with him? It depends on what kind of relationship he has with me.

If he was my relative, he wouldn't have been malicious, and in most cases, it was the words of the elders to the juniors. Especially more parents, their original intention is to hope that their son will become a dragon, and their daughter will become a phoenix, they are in a hurry to succeed in the process of children's growth and education, and they are eager to let their children grow up one day and climb to the sky one step, in fact, the process of raising children is tantamount to walking with a snail, and they are not in a hurry at all. In this case, a large number of parents begin to abuse their children, and some even beat their children and hit them in various ways.

What should I do if I meet such a parent? Children need to convince their parents to turn to teachers, relatives, communities, etc., and ask them to help them get out of this predicament.

If he is my leader, and he often hits me when there is nothing wrong with my own work, then I know that I can just continue to do my job and not worry about it. The feet are not afraid of crooked shoes, and the body is not afraid of shadows.

If it was my colleague who hit me, I would have stayed away from him. His words don't care what I do, my ears don't hear or bother, and my eyes don't see it.

Blows from others should be dealt with correctly and try not to be disturbed by them.

If a person likes to hit you and uses you to have an inferiority complex, you must never pay attention to her. Because this kind of person is not a good person, he will only bully others.

What should I do if I like to hit you and make you feel inferior? First of all, you get rid of the psychological pressure you prepared, he hits you, you ignore him, and when he hits you, if you can fight back, you must fight back, if you can't fight back, don't pay attention to him, after a long time, he himself will be bored.

People live to experience joys and sorrows, birth, old age, sickness and death, in order to understand what people live for? In order to realize their own ideals, pursuits, goals, desires and values. Life is very tired, very hard, because the society is very unfair, life is very helpless, sad and sad to cry, find something to do, it is not boring, because life is like this, no one's life is smooth sailing, as long as you work hard, it will be wonderful!

I'll give you advice, can you see it? 1.Look at the world with another eye, not everyone in this world is very smooth, just look at how you solve it, for example, you were hit by someone when you were walking, others apologized to you, sometimes you still feel very angry, but you didn't expect that the person who hit you was actually more uncomfortable than you, or think about the sentence "Happy is also a day, unhappy is also a day, why not be happy every day".

2.If you think that you are in a bad mood, you will be in a bad mood, then you don't need to think about it, if you still want to, then keep yourself busy, let yourself have no time to think about it, let yourself live every minute to the fullest, and then don't fall in love with the bed after waking up in the morning, get up when you wake up, get busy, open the window, breathe in the fresh morning air, relax your whole body, and let yourself imagine a happy little angel ......3.Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement, and take a position that you feel comfortable in, standing, sitting or lying down.

4.Move some large joints and muscles of the body, the speed should be even and slow when doing it, and the action does not need to have a certain format, as long as you feel the joints let go and the muscles relax. 5.

Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and exhale slowly, saying "relax" in your mind whenever you exhale. 6.Focus your attention on some everyday objects.

For example, look at a flower, a little candlelight, or anything soft and beautiful, and look closely at its subtleties. Light some spices and inhale the aroma of it. 7.

Close your eyes and try to imagine some tranquil and beautiful scenes, such as blue waters, golden sandy beaches, white clouds, mountains and water. 8.Do activities that you enjoy that have nothing to do with the specific things at hand.

For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, shopping, listening, watching TV, etc. 9.Life is easy, life is easy, life is not easy.

Don't worry, there are a lot of people in this society who are almost like you, but they are all living happily, not everyone can succeed, as long as you work hard to treat everything, take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, no matter how your life is, I believe it is wonderful.

Get plenty of sun. Sunlight is our most precious resource. Sunlight also gives us unlimited energy in our hearts, allowing us to overcome all kinds of blows.

If inferiority comes from the humiliation brought by others, the power of sunshine injects noble pursuits into us. When faith shines like the sun, it can drive out any insignificant insult, drive out the darkness of the world, and drive out those who belong to darkness.

A sun-drenched home is full of the warmth of family, which is the true source of confidence for every lucky person. The sunshine of childhood will shine into the journey of a lifetime, allowing us to walk with perseverance, tenacity, courage and kindness.