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Introversion and extroversion are one dimension of personality, and there is no good or bad thing. Introversion and extroversion are a continuum, and introversion and extroversion are at opposite ends of this continuum. In real life, we use both sides of this continuum.
Just like some netizens asked: "Why am I sometimes cheerful and talkative, but sometimes I don't like to talk?" "Actually, it's like using something that is on one side on one occasion and something on the other side on another occasion.
We have a natural preference for one side or the other. If we are more inclined to the extroverted side, then we are extroverts, and the introverted side is introverts. If someone is more extroverted, then his extroversion is more obvious; If someone is more introverted, then his introversion is more obvious.
In the same way, there will be someone who is right in the middle of the continuum, that is, his bias is 50 each. It's not that an introvert is introverted at all times and in all situations, he can be extroverted at some times and in some situations, it's just that he is introverted most of the time. For another analogy, introversion and extroversion are like our left hand and right hand, and our left and right hands must be used in life, but we are more accustomed to which hand to use.
If you are an extrovert, then extroversion is like your right hand, introversion is like your left hand, and just like you sometimes have to use your left hand, you are also introverted sometimes. Similarly, if you are an introvert, then introversion is like your right hand, extroversion is like your left hand, and just like you sometimes have to use your left hand, you are also extroverted sometimes. (The above example is based on the assumption that we are all right-handed).
While there has been much debate about whether there are more extroverts or introverts in the world, recent research shows that there are equal numbers of introverts and extroverts among Americans.
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I'll help you, I'll tell you about me first, because I used to be introverted, I was a woman, when I was a child, I saw people blushing, and because my father was a soldier in the army, he was usually not at home, whenever he came home from a family visit, I didn't call him dad when he saw him, and when he recovered, I didn't shout, I don't know why I couldn't shout, until I got married, I didn't start shouting these two words "Dad", and then I was like you, I felt that my character was not good, and I wanted to change some of them, and I also read some books. I think if you want to socialize with others, you have to learn to be a little more cheeky, introverts are thin-skinned, and when you speak, you have to have a loud voice, and when you talk to people, you have to talk to acquaintances, generous, and I am now such a lot of people say that I have a cheerful personality and live happily.
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I'm similar to you, I'm also very timid, and I have to stand outside and wander for more than 10 minutes when I buy things, before I dare to go in, and even go back and forth, and go home again, I don't dare to chase after my beloved girl. I don't want to say hello when I see acquaintances, I have very few friends. When I was in high school, I was scolded for being a decoration.
I was very distressed and often couldn't sleep. I really want to change, I grow very skinny, less than 120 pounds, and I don't speak the local dialect, so please help!
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I'm facing the same problem as you, but I don't think the same way as you, because my personality is scared, and I can't help it and I don't want to change, because I'm me, there's no need to change, nothing is absolute, is it? Let's experiment and like your own personality!!
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As children grow up, they will slowly find that many parents are worried about their children's bad temperament, that is, they are more worried about their children's timidity and introversion, they are worried about what their children do, and they are afraid that their children will not be able to gain the initiative and become the protagonist of life in various occasions when they grow up.
So, how can an introvert become an extrovert?
Clause. 1. To change your temperament, you must make up your mind.
If a person wants to change his too introverted temperament characteristics, the first thing to do is to have determination, the already formed temperament is gradually formed in the process of life practice, then it can also be changed, but it will be more difficult, as long as you have the will to change, then you can change.
Clause. 2. Be open-minded and make friends extensively.
To change the original rigid and single way of life, make more friends, should be open-minded, cheerful people often interact, through the effect of hearing and seeing, gradually you will also have open-minded, humorous, straightforward character traits.
Clause. 3. Change your emotions and ways of dealing with the world.
It is necessary to change one's behavior and methods of dealing with the world, know how to control one's emotions, try to give people the impression of being peaceful and easy to get along with, and learn to respect people when interacting with others, and being modest and cautious can win the favor of others.
Clause. 4. Learn to express your emotions.
To learn to express their thoughts, the feelings in the heart should also be good at expressing, do not always stuff in the heart, do not close the door of your heart, socialize with others, make a few more trustworthy friends, when you are unhappy, you can confide in friends, and release bad emotions in time is beneficial to physical and mental health.
Clause. Fifth, to get along with others, we must know how to observe words and looks.
Learn to get along with others, but also know how to observe other people's likes and behaviors, and understand what kind of issues are of interest to the other party. In this way, when interacting with people, you can know how to do what you like, so that you can get closer to each other and become friends.
Clause. 6. Participate in more social activities.
Introverts can participate in more social activities, so that they can broaden their circle of life and friends, and have the courage to express their opinions in the group, practice their language skills in public, and treat others with a sincere heart, so that they can make more friends and hone their character.
Introverted people actually have shining points, and it is best not to look at introverts with old ideas. Introverts must be confident, fully understand themselves, know their own shortcomings, give full play to their strengths, do things with their strengths and weaknesses, treat others sincerely, and make friends with cheerful people, so that they will also become cheerful.
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If you are more introverted, you can let her participate in some social activities and communicate with strangers; Observe what he likes, and work on what he likes. But don't always say that she is too introverted, doesn't like to talk, is not good at communicating, is not good at words, takes everything to heart, etc., if you say such things to his face, it will make her feel more inferior, more dislike to listen, and will become more introverted.
If it is a combination of internal and external personalities: then please don't worry, in fact, such a person has a clearer mind and knows his own personality better.
Remember one thing: don't say to his face that she's an introvert, and if you say anything about him, she will probably be more silent, more isolated.
Just a little advice from me may not help you, but trust him and her. If you think about it, if there are people with the same personality in the world, it won't be interesting. The world is not going to be rich.
He, she doesn't want to talk, don't force him her. Encouragement or nothing at all may help him!
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·· This is a false introversion, you really want to communicate with the outside world, but you lack the guts and courage to express yourself, on this basis, due to the long-term isolation, you don't know anything about socializing, communication, causing you to be with others, not knowing what to say, not having a topic, etc. You can take a look at this, open a dive confident eloquence training center.
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