What do our parents think of us?

In the eyes of our parents, we are very naïve, they will feel that we are particularly ignorant, we have experienced very few things, and we have a particularly shallow experience of life and society, they think that we are always children who do not grow up, and in their eyes, we will always be the object of their protection.

In the eyes of our parents, we are all very tall and powerful, and then they will be there when we are in school, and then they will be with us, and then they will always be there when we need him, happy to share with us, unhappy to share with us, and he will always be the one who supports us behind us.

We must be the best in the eyes of our parents, because our parents only have one child, and we are the only one in the eyes of our parents, so no matter what we do, our parents will definitely support us and understand us, we are the best in his mind.

I think first of all, everyone must be the best and most perfect in the eyes of their parents, but there may be some small problems of their own, and my parents will force them to point it out, for example, maybe my parents will think that I am more timid, and he will especially let my friends pay attention to me, I think this is a kind of love they have for me, but they will also think that I will not be ordinary, and they will have confidence in me.

In fact, now that the two of us have grown up, in the eyes of our parents, we will always be a child, the child they spoil, he does not mean that we have grown up, in their eyes we have become adults, in fact, we have become adults, but in their eyes we will always be a child, this will always spoil us.

Children are different in the eyes of every parent, some children may be very proud in the eyes of their parents, my son will be very good, how capable my child is, very likable, friends' parents are better, feel that their children can't do anything, there is no way to take care of themselves and have their own social skills.

No matter how big we grow up, in the eyes of the wind, I will always be a child, and many things are cared for and handled by them, because after all, they have seen us as old as children, and no one understands our nature better than them, so in our eyes, parents will always be our dependence and our future shoulders.

I don't know, I don't know how it is, butMy parents really didn't understand me。I've often felt that we keep communicating and communicating purely because we're related.

It all started when I became a left-behind child.

When I was a child, my family was not very financially good, so my parents went out to work, and I always lived with my grandparents. My grandparents were very good to me, and to a certain extent, they also had a great influence on my character development.

My grandmother is the kindest person I've ever met in 24 years of my life, someone who prioritizes others over everything and is easily satisfied. Like her, my mantra in my life is to be a kind person. Grandpa is a person who is very far-sighted and cares for the next generation.

Because I get along day and night, and because my grandparents give me too much loveMy relationship with my grandparents is actually much greater than the relationship between me and my parents. At least for me now, I think so.

When I first went to college, I argued with my parents about what is really raising children, and I once thought that they were not fulfilling their responsibilities as parents becauseI don't think giving a child material things alone can be called raising.

They expressed their incomprehension and thought that raising children was not the case? Having enough to eat, dress and go to school, that's pretty much it, and then I stopped mentioning the topic.

Later, when I came to the north for graduate school, I was busy with my studies and I didn't adapt to it, and the communication with them became less and less. Although they deliberately showed that they cared more about me, my busyness always made them think that it might be the result of not giving me financial support after grad school.

But it's not like that, I can talk to my grandparents for two hours, even if I get up early tomorrow for a group meeting, I still need to work overtime tonight. Money is important, but I'm not a materialistic person, and it's satisfying for me to be able to eat as much as I want.

But can I talk to my parents about this? No. Because they will feel that I am blaming them for not educating me when I was a child, and even feel a little guilty, and even do some compensatory behaviors that I am uncomfortable with.

But this has never been the key point in my heart, and that's probably itUnable to resonate with the mind(Later I found out that this has nothing to do with age, and I can relate to my grandma in her seventies.)

For a long time, I felt that I would definitely not have children in the future, because I had no way to guarantee that I would be able to raise a child well. I feel paranoidBeing a parent is something that requires a lot of thought, and – there's no way I can be a good daughter.

Because they have experienced too many ups and downs, and we are only at the beginning of life, plus the age gap is too large, there is a big difference between ideas, that is, a generation gap. Our parents actually know us, but they are too concerned, and we have different opinions, they think a lot, and we are very naïve and think very simple. And we didn't go through much, we didn't have patience.

But when we are parents like them, we understand.

It's not that parents don't understand us.

It's that we don't want our parents to know about it at all.

Since the onset of puberty.

Have we ever sat down with our parents and talked about ourselves?

Let parents know more.

I'm afraid it's just annoying my parents.

Of course, they are not us after all, there are some things they can't accept in different eras, that is, there are too many new things, and our younger generation can accept them quickly after all, and then there are sometimes things that they don't understand simply don't tell them, so it creates a deeper situation of ignorance