I always think that other people don t understand me, why don t everyone understand me

If there is something very annoying to say, that can reduce the pressure in your heart, you will not be so depressed, think that others do not understand you, you should think about the problem from a different angle, stand in the position of others, think about what you would do if you were him.

Sometimes people don't have troubles, just because they think too much, troubles naturally appear, if you want to overcome it, you can only rely on yourself, think about others, they may have the same problems as you, what kind of feelings do they have.

It is recommended that you don't think too much, think too much and you will be sad.

It's better to be silent than to say too much.

There will be many things that go wrong in everyone's life, but we only need to remember the following words so that our lives will be happy every day!

Be grateful to the one who abandoned you, because he taught you to be independent

Be grateful to the person who hurt you, and for him you have tempered your mind

Be grateful to the person who tripped you because he strengthened your legs

Be grateful to the one who deceives you, for he has increased your wisdom

Be grateful to the one who despises you, because he awakens your self-esteem

Grateful for failure because it made me a person with a story;

I am grateful for success, because it makes my life full of wonder and beauty;

Grateful for the applause and encouragement as it gives me more energy and courage!

At the same time, I am grateful for criticism and challenges, because it reminds me to be self-aware and self-aware.

Be grateful for everything, learn to be grateful, and be grateful to all those who make us grow!

Let's start with ourselves, first of all, to see whether you are really self-closed, or rather, not really self-closed but not good at expressing and communicating, starting with people close to you, open your heart and talk once, slowly you will find out the reason, and try to find a solution, and then slowly improve!

The reason why others don't understand you well may be because you are not people of the same world at all. That is to say, you have your thoughts, others have other people's opinions, what you think, and the environment in which you live are all different.

For example, you have experienced some things since you were a child, but others have experienced other things since you were a child. At this time, you experience different things, and naturally you will think about different things, so there will be a big difference.

So it's normal for people to not be able to understand you. And you don't have any reason for a lot of people to understand you, because everyone's things are different. You want others to understand you, and you can only understand them first.

Because very few people will pay their attention to others for the first time, so at the same time, others will rarely put their attention or their energy on you, and naturally they will not be willing to understand you.

At this time, we should take the initiative and make ourselves a person who is more willing to understand others. At this time, everything that others do will be tolerated by us, so when we tolerate to a certain extent, we will find that this person will actually have a certain dependence on us.

At this time, they will slowly understand each other. That is to say, when you get along well, you will find that you slowly understand each other, and the other party will slowly understand you, which is a little bit of change.

A lot of things are like this, we don't do anything, and it's hard to get this kind of understanding and consideration from others. So what I got back was this kind of contradiction with others, as well as the feeling of each other's badness or the collapse of feelings.

But when we ourselves look at all the people around us as ordinary, ordinary, and without a particularly deep requirement, we will not encounter such problems. And when we face some things, we must learn to be brave in the face of others.

The most important thing is to use our own heart to constantly feel the people around us, so that we can exchange for others' understanding of us. Because everything is like this, we need to give first, and then we can get back this kind of response from others.

First of all, 80% of your child's problems are yours. Because the establishment of a relationship with children requires a process, and this has nothing to do with IQ. What you need is to learn slowly in the process of getting along with children, and it is impossible to get it in place all at once.

And there's no point in arguing with your husband if something goes wrong. Don't use your study abroad status and your IQ to lower your husband, isn't it normal for children to play with their fathers? Isn't it bad to have a healthy body?

In this regard, you can take a look at Tian Liang and his daughter in "Where Are You Going, Dad".

Secondly, whether it is elegant or not, it is just the definition of a legend, and it is elegant to know a little classical, a little art, and international finance? Come on. In the end, it's just that everyone has different hobbies.

Don't talk like you're playing art, and to be honest, playing art is just a small aspect of life. Problems between you and your husband, reflect on yourself. When you went abroad, your husband not only supported but also brought up your children, isn't this considered respect for you?

He always tells you about your daughter, which shows that he loves your daughter very much. Supporting his wife and loving his daughter, why is it a shortcoming?

Finally, in your own life, you naturally have the right to choose, but, divide the responsibilities clearly. Think about why others don't understand you? Because you feel that you are awesome and don't take others seriously. None of us is just a layman, and the choice can be done, but it must be more or less kind.

Understanding is mutual, I think you can try to learn to communicate with others, if you feel that you are right, and others still don't understand after listening to your ideas, then there is no need to expect them to understand, because you are doing what you think is right, convince yourself not to care.

I'm the same way, I think I'm a misfit, I don't like to talk to others, I don't like to play with others, I think I have few friends, I feel like I'm lonely, I really want to change my problem, I don't think there is a real friend in this world, I don't know what to do, can you make friends with me, I really hope to be friends with you, because [gparagraph3] This ** was introduced to me by my friend, and he said that the people on this ** are very good, I think I should try too, I don't know if I can do it, but I'll try, can you also make friends with me, I'll be happy, my q is:, I also hope you can make friends with me, let's work together, okay! Good luck!

1.Misunderstanding bias.

The understanding between people determines the development of interpersonal relationships. Whether it's a colleague, friend, lover, or family member, getting to know each other can greatly increase the pleasure of spending time with each other. Everyone longs for a tacit relationship.

So contradictions often arise because they are not understood. Each of us longs to be understood and seen.

However, no individual is the same. Therefore, we must accept that there are differences in understanding between people. This also leads to different standards for treating the same thing.

For example, parents feel that they are doing something good for their children, but the children do not appreciate it. In fact, it is not that the child does not appreciate it, but that the two sides have different understandings of "for your own good".

When our actions are not understood, or the other person does not react in the way we imagined. We also want the other person to understand us too much, so we will do things that hurt the other person. Individual differences lead to misunderstandings. Miscommunication can deepen misunderstandings on both sides.

2.Read your emotions before you revise your wording.

It is precisely because of the misunderstanding that in order to be understood, it is necessary to speak up boldly. Only then can others know what you are thinking and what you want. However, when we crave to be understood, we often fail to express our emotions correctly and sometimes we can't even see what we really think inside.

This deepens the misunderstanding between the two sides and makes it even more incomprehensible to the other side.

For example, there are two lovers, and a girl asks her boyfriend to bring something, and the boyfriend forgets. First of all, this sentence has a strong condemnation and is very uncomfortable. In our nature, no one wants to be blamed.

Secondly, it's just a trifle, but when it comes to whether you are alone or not. Forgetting doesn't prove that you don't care. And at this time, the boy will feel that he is unable to give and not be seen, because a little thing will negate all love.

In fact, this time the girl did not see her true thoughts. For a girl, asking her why she didn't bring anything is not the most important thing, the most important thing is that she feels that she is not valued. My words went unheeded.

So a lot of times, we can't see what we're thinking in our hearts, and we don't say what we see. Because I feel that it is very embarrassing to "take the initiative to admit defeat". In addition, there is a problem with his wording, and he does not express his feelings clearly.

This deepens misunderstandings on both sides and makes both sides feel ununderstood.

Not only made others uncomfortable, but also was attacked by netizens. In fact, it's all because of words and emotional expressions. He doesn't feel arrogant; Everyone else has to listen to him.

I hope that others will listen to him and understand him. Therefore, speaking is an art, you have to see what you really think in your heart and correctly convey your feelings to the other person.

If you are right, but you can't be understood by the other person, then you have to learn to accept another reality, accept that when you are good to others, others do not appreciate it. When it is impossible to understand, tolerance and permission are more important.

It's because you're too maverick, you've closed yourself off, and when others want to know you, you deny them access to your life and your world, so when you regret it, no one wants to understand you anymore.

It may be because your own ideas are more unique, and your own ideas are different from other people's, so you will have such a feeling, which means that you are a very individual person.

Because others are not in the same channel as themselves, others have no bridge of communication with us, and if they can't understand our thoughts, they can't understand us, so communicate more with others, and others will understand us better.

It's because I don't have a certain sense of security, and I lack a sense of security, and many people don't agree with my own opinions, so no one understands me.

Because you're autistic, and you're not very expressive, and you don't have any friends in your life, that's how you feel.

The choice of life is like this, no matter what choice is made, it will not be perfect in the end, and if you get your wish, there will always be shortcomings, and perhaps the shortcomings themselves are a kind of beauty. Tell yourself that you shouldn't regret your choice; Convince yourself that this is what works best for you. Don't take the choice too seriously, those so-called ** choices are as simple as choosing to eat and sleep.

Don't make it too hard to give up, time can dilute everything, and leave it to time what you can't decide to give up.

Life is like a play, and everyone is not only the director of their own life, but also the actor of their own life. Only those who learn to choose and understand the way to give up can laugh at life and have a life realm of the sea and the sky. Choice is the wisdom and foresight to do what you can.

Learning to choose is to judge the situation and grasp the opportunity. Giving up is the decisiveness and courage to take into account the overall situation. Only by understanding and giving up can we have a maturity and live a more calm and elegant life.

When you are at a crossroads in your life and you can't choose, maybe giving up is the best option. When you can't choose, you give up!

We tend to get used to starting to choose whether to stick with or give up. Sometimes, attachment is a burden or an injury, and waiting for the obsessive waiting, but the bamboo basket is empty. It takes courage to persevere, but why not courage and courage to give up?

Only when you know how to give up will you gain.

Life inevitably has blanks and regrets, and mature people give up when they know how to give up. Always think about what should be thrown out. Otherwise, there will never be anything new to put in.

If you don't throw it out, anything will always slowly become "bad" in it, and you can't bear it if you put it for a lifetime. What to choose, what to give up. We struggled and hesitated, but no one could decide for us what to stay.

"Open-mindedness" tells us that what is yours is yours, and what you ask for is not what you ask for.

Learn to choose, read and give up, even if there is a little sour, a little bitter, a little pain, but more relaxed, pleasant, joyful. Learn to give up, your bag can hold a lot of new things, learn to give up, travel light to meet new things. Learn to give up, give up what you don't need, give up what is not yours, give up a flower, while it is still beautiful, then you will always have that beauty.

"Giving up" doesn't always mean being passive, helpless and miserable. For oneself, giving up may mean new opportunities, and for others, giving up can mean a relief. For a person's life, giving up in exchange for a memory, whether sweet or bitter, will be a wealth of the soul.