My younger brother didn t go to college, so there was a reason to gnaw at the old age

You can apply for a student loan at school, there is no interest, and the state will not give up every child who wants to study.

Because of my old brother, I have not had a good relationship with my parents for the past two years, and my father asked me to buy a car for my brother, and I felt very uncomfortable, so I refused, and my father scolded me for being a white-eyed wolf and raised me for nothing, saying things like severing the father-daughter relationship. After the quarrel, I left and went back to Beijing to work.

As soon as my mom came to hit **, I knew what was going on, probably my brother's matter, my dad and my mom haven't been able to control my brother now, and then he wants to throw this thing at me, I feel like I can't take care of it.

Actually, I feel that my mom doesn't really want my brother to go out to work, I feel that they may just say that my brother is lazy and doesn't go out to work, and I say that it's easy to do, just don't give him pocket money, but my parents can't do it. Because of this problem, I have a very bad relationship with my family, I haven't been home for a long time now, and now I don't know how to solve this relationship for a while.

I felt that I should keep my distance from my parents, but I couldn't do it in my heart, and it was not easy for my parents to make money, just to support my younger brother.

I tried to communicate with my brother and my mother that day, reasoned with my mother, and hung up with me without two words of reasoning, and my brother also had an attitude, and she hung up with me two or three times when I talked to my brother, and I felt that I couldn't communicate with them.

My brother is 95 years old, he doesn't work or earn money, and he plays games all day long. I'm 36 years old, I'm single, I have a house in Beijing, and then I also have a house in our provincial capital, which I bought myself. The income is about 400,000 yuan, I still have a mortgage to repay every month, and I spend a lot of money, in fact, I don't have any savings, and I live tight every month.

I used to think that my parents were very good to me, but as my younger brother grew up and reached the age of talking about marriage, they began to get anxious, and when my brother didn't work, then my mother became a pressure on me, and because of this, the relationship with my parents began to deteriorate.

My family is rural, my parents are now 60 years old, and now for my younger brother to get up early and be greedy for a small business, my brother is lying at home to play games, since I work, every month to the family 2,000 yuan, a total of 50,000 or 60,000 yuan to my parents.

I have been very filial since I was a child, and since I got a scholarship for graduate school, I began to buy my mother appliances, washing machines, all the furniture, household appliances, small household appliances, including everything.

My parents paid for my first year of college, and I got scholarships and student loans for the rest of the year. My mother will give me a little bit of living expenses, but many times I earn it as a tutor, and I don't spend too much money. My parents were actually very kind to me at that time, including junior high school and high school, they have always supported me, but now they have changed.

My younger brother didn't go to school at the age of 16.

I've been lying at home playing on the computer, and I don't do any work.

My parents raised him for a year.

Three days ago he went to work at a burger restaurant.

It's only been three days, and he feels tired and doesn't want to work.

My dad asked him to go out to buy something, and he scolded my dad directly.

There's really nothing I can do about it.

I'm going to pack up his things and throw them at the door now.

My mom was crying at home.

All methods, soft and hard, have been used, and it is useless.

Here's our chat.

If it's you, what to do.

The family is not so rich that he will gnaw on the old man for the rest of his life.

I want to protect my parents, too.

I suggest you try it like this:

First of all, reasonable communication is the traditional persuasion education, if it fails, you can use the law 2 to take a break, the general undergraduate or junior college can take a leave of absence for 2 years, these two years you have to explain in advance, do not give him any living expenses, he can go to live the life he is pursuing, the premise can not violate the discipline, and must ensure personal safety, the 6th month of work to send 1000 yuan per month to the family living expenses, take care of parents and relatives, prove that he can support himself and his family well without academic qualifications.

The advantage of this: If the younger brother can really do the second one, then it means that it is okay to take a leave of absence, and it is no problem not to go to university. On the contrary, if he does not do well, he will retreat from the difficulties, go back to study honestly, and will work harder.