How do I choose, boyfriend and family?

If only we had to break up as soon as possible!

In fact, are you really filial to your family, care about your family's thoughts, and are you afraid that they will be uncomfortable?

I think you are: I'm afraid of losing face in front of your friends, and you don't want to marry someone who has no money, no house, and no car.

You are unwilling, you want to find someone you love, but you want to find someone who can give you a good material life.

I have a friend who is in the same situation as you (it's a copy).

She finally chose to break up.

My boyfriend's salary of 1,000 yuan a month is not enough for him to spend on himself.

His home in Guangxi, my home in Shandong, is far away!

He has three brothers, he doesn't have a house, he doesn't have anything!

Even ask his boss for an advance every month's money!

I've been dating him for more than 1 year. The two of them talked very much.

My mom and dad said their house was too far away.

I don't agree with anything, I don't agree with it since last year.

I've been scolded by my dad many times.

However, my boyfriend was good to me.

But he had nothing.

I don't even have the money to buy me a dress.

I'm also distressed.

You're too selfish a woman, aren't you?

It's a really difficult question to choose, alas, why is this society so realistic?

I will choose my family, men can have a basket, and my parents are only two people in my life.

He's so nice to you, why think about it

Maybe he doesn't want you to suffer

That's why I don't want you to do a lot of things

Love requires mutual understanding and tolerance

It's good to be together, there's no right or wrong

You just need to think clearly about what you want, what is the experience on the way forward, what is the choice of direction, and recognize the goal.

You said that the family wants, that is, the family has not given a death order to let you do, you can decide for yourself, but there is no stable independent economy**, and no one can guarantee you in the future.

That's all for the suggestion, and the idea is up to you.

It is obvious that you have to give up "loyalty" and choose "filial piety".

Loyalty and filial piety cannot be both, and there is no good or bad, just two different paths!

Personally, I don't think this man is very qualified to be a husband! First of all, you choose to start a business with him, he doesn't work hard enough, you want to help him, not only does he not teach you, but he also says that you say that you are not good! In the end, you said that the choice he gave you was not realistic to raise you in the back!

It's not going to be like that, but if you really work full-time, I don't know what the situation will be! The key is that you have already chosen, and we can only be a reference, after all, only you know what is good and bad! Think about it and bless you!

Why do you think you're so vulnerable?!!

One situation: your boyfriend doesn't think about you at all and doesn't pay attention to you at all in the future! In that case, go home as soon as possible

Another: Your boyfriend is quite machismo! I just want you to do the work of being a housewife, so it's up to you to choose

But I think women must first have their own economy**! In this way, you will have the right to speak, and everything will not be suppressed

Let's enter the Cold War phase first...

TBD Test him!

What a responsible man, do you think he loves you? He doesn't know how boring it is to respect you like this, I think you should choose carefully, there are many good men, marriage is a lifelong thing!

Do you love him, does he love you? Love is for him. Do you think it's worth it to say something irresponsible?

Select Family. Choose what you can be good at. Girls should be self-reliant, don't always think about relying on others, don't bear to live by looking at their boyfriend's face, you are you, you should live for yourself. And not to change you for him.

Go home Sometimes giving up is also an option.

If he had you in his heart, he would think about you.

What do you want such a man?

Falling in love, getting married, a lifelong affair, the family will leave sooner or later, what do you say?

I want to be in your boyfriend and family members to choose to state that your boyfriend and your family are not coming. To take the wine, you should choose the Gari because that is your forever loved one.

The family bar is related by blood.

If you're just in a relationship, enjoy the relationship now, and if you're thinking about getting married, think about it. Marriage is a permutation and combination of two people's families, if it is not handled well, there will be a lot of contradictions in the future, I hope you think clearly, whether you are rushing to get married, or just enjoy love, first of all, you have to think about this clearly.

If it's just two people happy together, it's important to have some wisdom. What to do in this state now?

2. It is still necessary to communicate with your parents. Tell me the whole process of your relationship, mainly about your feelings.

3. Resolve the differences and misunderstandings between the two families.

4. The most important thing is to be financially independent, otherwise, it will be difficult for you to be responsible for your love choices.

5. Don't be impulsive when it comes to choosing between family and lovers. There are certainly aspects of your family that don't understand you, but how much work have you done in it? You can't rely on your boyfriend and his family to solve the problem of poor communication within your family, so really improve your communication skills with family members.

Contemptible people believe that filial piety comes first, and filial piety is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. After all, our parents are older than us, and they have seen more people than us, so you must choose your parents.

If you can convince your parents, you can do that, but if your parents are tough and reasonable, they will listen to your parents. Sister, listen to my advice, it is not easy for your parents to give birth to you, not to hand you over to someone they don't trust. Where is there no grass at the end of the world?

There is still a long life, and there are still many opportunities to find a boyfriend, and it is not certain what kind of person you can meet.

What's so contradictory about this, really, your parents gave birth to you and raised you as well as your boyfriend was good to you for a while? Don't be stupid, it's normal to be uncomfortable to break up, it's okay after a while, listen to your parents.

Choose parents, boyfriend is not husband, there is no shortage of boyfriends in this world, there is no grass at the end of the world, but there is only one parent. It may hurt when you lose your boyfriend, but how long can it hurt, and losing your parents is a lifelong thing. Filial piety comes first, and the two have to choose their parents if they don't have to choose.

In this world, the most loving of us is always our parents, love, it is indeed easy for us to lose ourselves, it is indeed easy to make people excited and happy, but that is not the whole of life, falling out of love is painful, the past will always pass, get through the past, you will meet better.

In fact, you already have the answer in your own heart, don't you, if it is really worth your efforts, you will not ask here.

Choose your parents. A girl's last backer is her parents, what if her boyfriend doesn't want you one day.

Boyfriend, because in the end your parents will also compromise with you, they will still accept your boyfriend.

Of course, it's your parents, who will always be your last support, and nothing is more important than them.

I think I'll be more inclined to my parents, who still have a vicious eye.

It must be parents, is this still asking! Your parents gave birth to you for so long, and you didn't end up comparing yourself to your boyfriend.

Choose your parents, because your boyfriend can be changed, and your parents are absolutely reluctant to change.

Parents, after all, parents are the ones who have accompanied us since childhood.

Of course, choose your parents, because your boyfriend can be changed again.

Parents, nothing is more important than your own parents, your boyfriend will change his mind but your parents will always love you.

Choose parents, boyfriend can be changed, it's nothing, but parents, can't be changed!

We make judgments every day and even all the time, and our choices actually depend on judgment, and judgments come from all kinds of information and all kinds of evidence collection! Regardless of the relationship between people, who is closer to you, whose opinion should be listened to, otherwise who will be sad, who will not be offended, etc., these factors and emotions cannot affect the facts themselves, and sometimes even these can become an obstacle to seeing clearly! So you have a course to take now, which is to learn to distinguish, from the complex appearance, to find the objective root of the things behind it, for example, your parents say that your boyfriend cheats on you with rhetoric, can they give you convincing evidence?

Even if they can provide it, you have to put the evidence in front of you first, look at it carefully and see if it can be confirmed one by one. If you can't come up with a confirmable answer quickly for a while, then give yourself more conflicting time first, sometimes time can prove a lot of things! For example, you and your boyfriend, spend more time together, don't rush to get married early, after all, marriage is for two people to face life together, and life does require all kinds of necessary costs, you can be more fully prepared for the future, and by the way, see how this relationship will develop over time?

If a man is really trying to cheat on marriage, trying to use opportunistic methods to gain a girl's trust and emotion, usually this kind of psychology will not be sincere and really spend time and his youth, as well as true feelings on a girl, so you don't want to be disturbed by the attitude of the people around you, the attitude and way of your parents is a bit excessive, ** they are too worried about you, you yourself should be calm and calm, if you really have a deep relationship with your boyfriend, then prove it to them, If you are still in a stable relationship after some time and are working hard to prepare for your future, both financially and so on, time is also a good proof!

First of all, think about why he likes you, communicate with him honestly and heartily, tell him about the problems you are facing now, and tell him why you choose him if you choose him. Men are mostly very rational creatures, and it is a great favor for a man if there is a woman who does not dislike his poverty when he is poor and spends it with him. Of course, there are also many men who are bad men who disregard their kindness and want you to judge for yourself.

Secondly, whether your boyfriend is self-motivated, whether he has the intention to make life better and the perseverance to work hard for it, if not, then do you want to be with him for a long time, and he may suffer poverty for a lifetime. A self-motivated, determined and resilient man in a period of poverty is more precious than a mountain of gold.

Again, the most subtle and valuable thing about the relationship between men and women is the heart-to-heart communication and the soul and spirit bond, and they communicate with each other about anything.

Again, wash the clothes yourself, and it's much better to have a man owe you than to do it for you. You have to be clear that "washing your clothes" is also a kind of reward for you "choosing him", don't accept this reward lightly! Do your own thing, and care for him, encourage him, and warm him.

If a man owes a woman something, most of the time he will keep it in his heart, although he doesn't say it, but he knows it in his heart, of course he has to be a good man who is responsible.

Again, the two of you work together, and there will be a house, a car, and so on, and those things, although important, should not be a prerequisite for marriage. You can work with him to make all kinds of plans, ideas, and so on. Marriages based on material presuppositions can easily become transactions.

Try to base your marriage on feelings, and be clear that feelings will not fade and fade over time, and no matter how beautiful your appearance is, it will grow old.

Thirdly, there will be all kinds of difficulties in the future of life, and the question is how you choose to face it and with whom to face it.

In the end, you have to get married, not your parents want to marry, you have to make the choice for the rest of your life, and no one can spend the rest of your life for you! If you choose him, tell him your concerns and tell him why you chose him, even if you don't have money now, you may not have money in the future, and you may encounter all kinds of terrible difficulties in the future because of lack of money. Tell him that you choose him to really love him.

I am an unfortunate person, and I hope that all lovers will become dependents, and I hope that I can see whether the other person is a good person or a bad person. I've been autistic for 10 years because of relationship problems, and it's very painful.

Parents are good to themselves, there is only one parent, and you can find someone else for your boyfriend, there is no one in the world who loves you more than your parents.

Try to get your parents to accept your boyfriend. Because these are the most important people in your life.

Then let fate dictate. Write two notes, one for boyfriend and the other for parents, and pick up one of the midterm to make a decision when they fall into the air. (In the future, your parents will not bear to really break off the relationship with you).

Does this need to be asked? Of course, it's the parents, they give us life, and they only do it once in a lifetime. Boyfriends are optional.

Parents, in my opinion, most children nowadays have a very problematic sense of right and wrong. I only think of the momentary happiness in front of me. The consequences are borne by the family.

Anyway, you're young, so you don't need to be in a hurry.

Then let's talk about it in a few years, and you don't talk about marriage.

In a few years, if you can still love each other as much as you do now.

Two people work together to save some money, make a down payment to buy a house, and two people pay off the loan together.

When you're older, your parents will approve of your marriage.