Five years after graduation, what is the reason for the gap between everyone?

I think it's a good change to become not afraid of making a fool of yourself. When I first graduated, I was always embarrassed to ask questions whether I was in the office or on the construction site, because my inner thought was: I want to show that I understand, but I can't let others think that I don't know anything.

Even if you don't understand, you have to pretend to understand it very well, otherwise you will feel ugly. Now that I've seen it, it's normal to not understand, especially when I go to the construction site to calculate drawings in the office, it's normal to not understand. Ask what you should ask, even the most mentally retarded answer to the question, ask, no one will laugh, no one will report to the superior:

Hey, that guy in your cost department doesn't know anything! "I used to think too much, in fact, the people on the construction site are almost the best group to communicate, as long as you ask, whether it is an old construction worker, or a young formwork worker, they all know everything to tell you, and you don't understand the words for a while, he will tell you in detail, and even take the trouble to run down the foundation pit full of silt, climb up the dangerous platform to point and tell you what is going on. I've never seen a look of contempt and contempt on their faces, they're a huge knowledge base, and of course, you're being polite...A comrade who smokes a cigarette or something is better than reading half a book.

Face and accept your own shortcomings, instead of trying to change yourself and pretend to be someone else in pursuit of a goal. There is a lot less pomp than before, and life is getting more and more real. Understand the difference between being ambitious and ambitious.

I have a deeper understanding of people than before, and I no longer care too much about them, or ignore them completely. Got it"Career isn't everything"In this way, a happy life is the result of a balance of many aspects. Stop being superstitious about authority and try to think for yourself.

Realize that all conflicts are conflicts of interest or misunderstandings. Therefore, learn to seek common ground while reserving differences and be tolerant to others.

Let's take a look at the uncontroversial changes that are obvious to all! As far as I'm concerned, I've been working for a few years, so maybe my personality has changed. I still remember very clearly that in junior high school, high school, and college, I had a quarrel with my friends who had a better relationship, and my personality was relatively hot at school at that time.

I was a bit more self-centered at the time, and thankfully, my emotional outbursts and lack of scruples didn't cost me my friends and the people I cared about. They are still considerate of me, still tolerant of me, and still by my side until now, and I need to solemnly thank them for their companionship.

When I was in college, my life couldn't be said to be extravagant or particularly good, but it was still very nourishing, and it was a very normal life to go shopping and go out for a big meal. After working for a few years, I found that my life was getting worse and worse, and I had made money, but I was not as good as the school student Wang Gao, who used to have my parents' money and didn't worry about what to do if the money ran out, and now I don't have any money left in my life except for monthly rent, water, electricity, transportation, and food.

When you first graduate, they all look similar, but the further you go, the bigger the difference.

There are two reasons for this.

One reason is that when I graduated, it just looked similar, but the real difference was actually very big, but I was a college student at the beginning, so I didn't see it very much.

For example, some people read hundreds of extracurricular books in four years for the purpose of studying, but this effort is not obvious in school, and it does not even make the test score higher.

For example, some people are naturally smarter than others, but in school, the score is only slightly higher than the average Changcha level. He saved a lot of study time and used it all to play games.

For example, some people have very good conditions at home, but they eat, drink, and play with everyone at school, and they don't drive luxury cars around.

It feels similar, but it's actually 108,000 miles away.

Another reason is that each person's desires vary greatly, and so does the price they are willing to pay for their desires.

As I said earlier, some people find a job that can be accumulated, and they accumulate it for ten or twenty years along the way, far outperforming those with the same initial conditions. After all, most people insist on making progress for three years and then take a break, and there is no difference between working for ten years and working for three years.

But the question is, why do you insist on progressing?

It sounds incredible, as if life is supposed to move forward in the world, but it is not.

People generally get by. This is true for the poor, let alone the rich.

When you really insist on moving forward for five or ten years, you have far surpassed most of your classmates at that time, so why do you continue to endure hardships and persist in advancing to the twentieth year? Especially those rich people who have long been financially free, why are they still stirring up the wind and slippery eggplant clouds, even at the risk of losing their previous achievements, they still refuse to retreat bravely?

On the surface, some people work hard to make money, but after they earn money, they are still working hard, and they don't want to stop at all, and they feel that it is a waste of life to take a break.

They live to keep moving forward, so they are willing to pay a huge price for moving forward, rather than keep moving forward in order to live, and live a little better to stop.

Although this outlook on life is not all born and greatly influenced by nurture, it is definitely beyond the scope of education, mainly relying on the population base to pile up, and one out of hundreds or thousands of people.

There are also some people who are not so exaggerated, and their simple ambition is a little bigger than the average person, and the bigger they are, the farther they will advance, and when they are satisfied, they will slow down.

Even if other things are equal, they still go faster and farther than ordinary people, and the longer the time, the greater the difference.

I've seen that most of them have been sharpened. Some people say that when people get old, the first thing to age is not the body, but ambition. Even if you struggle and don't achieve positive results, at least you are stronger than now, and there are three important choices in life.

These three steps are right, the future will be much smoother, there is a month to go out for an internship, the undergraduate is not a famous university, at the same time the university has been playing for 3 years, the home is in Panyu, Guangzhou (I don't know whether it is a second-tier or third-tier city), the family bought a car to prepare for me to go to work, and the family introduced the work.

<>I think that now this society does not need five years can be very different, aside from family factors, everyone's personality is different, the attitude towards work is not the same, the pursuit is different, everyone will experience different things, some students have started their own business for more than a year, in fact, there is no need to dwell on these, hard work is the essential cornerstone of success. In the seven years of life, boys and girls from different walks of life were selected for interviews. It is visited every seven years from the age of 7.

When I was about to graduate, I talked to a classmate of mine about the development after graduation, and the classmate said that the housing price is getting higher and higher, and I hope to buy a house in the year after graduation. I said that it would be unrealistic, it would take four or five years, and I ended up working hard to buy a house when I graduated four years ago. And my classmate, I'll tell you the truth, after graduating from the second university, I didn't ask my family for a penny, and the salary was too low when I graduated in 10 years, the department's efficiency was not good, and there was no bonus, thanks to my girlfriend at the time, my current wife is a car salesman, and she can earn seven or eight thousand, and we rent a house.

After graduation, zh, jy, and gy basically belong to the assigned work, and the monthly salary is not bad within a year. I, SJ, and Py continue to play online at home. Within three months, PY joined a high-end entertainment venue for an internship (not working for a few months, the following table) with a monthly salary, and SJ was arranged by his family to a domestic TOP10 real estate company with a monthly salary of 5K; Now some of the other students have joined China Southern Airlines as air flight guards, and they are with the flight attendants every day.

Because graduation is the starting point, how to develop in five years directly determines the direction of future life, and if you want to go through these years well, you need to work hard enough.

This is because there will be a lot of things happening in the five years after graduation, for example, you have to go through some intrigues in the workplace, and you have to go through some tests between lovers, and you have to do a lot of things today during this time to make your character more mature.

This is because the age of just graduating is the age when a person grows the fastest and is the easiest to stereotype, if you enter the wrong line, you will waste your youth, and the time behind it will be irretrievable, the so-called wrong step and wrong step.

Because after 5 years of graduation, the gap between each student will become very large, some people succeed, some people fail, some people do nothing, some have married and have children, and some are still struggling, so they have lived a different life.

The knowledge learned in the five years after graduation can basically be used to the fullest. Of course, you have to choose the right direction.

Because in the past five years after graduation, it can be said that I have seen through the warmth and coldness of human feelings, and I will also go through the tempering of society repeatedly, so the meaning of life is actually very far-reaching.

Because during the five-year period, if your job is stable, it means that your future life is relatively smooth, and if you do not have a stable life and work, it will definitely be difficult to develop in the future.

The five years of graduation are very precious, and it will also allow a college student to grow into a social person, these five years are very precious.

Because these 5 years are the best time, if there is good development in these 5 years, then life after that will be very stable.

Because 5 years after graduation, if you haven't achieved anything. This shows that this person is already decadent. There will be no more developments.

The first 5 years after graduation are an important period of transformation and development in life.

Bidding farewell to campus, stepping into society, and entering the workplace marks an important transition in life, that is, from a student to a professional. As a newcomer to the workplace, the transition process is not only difficult but also painful, during which you need to overcome the insecurity caused by the gap between your personal imagination and the actual situation of society and the workplace.

It is necessary to adapt to the various environments in the unit, and also need to listen to the guidance and management of superiors and colleagues, to master the rules and procedures of the work, and to obtain the recognition of the unit and other people.

I'm graduating now, and I'm going to be five years away.

I think the main thing that has widened the gap between you is your own business.

Those who have done poorly in their careers must be unwilling to meet well with development, and feel more ashamed.

Those who have ideas and ways are basically up, and those who mess around every day are basically still like that, and the gap between everyone has basically widened, and they have become people at different levels.