Talk about whether you regret getting married? Why?

Don't regret it, let me tell me, I've been married for a few years, as a man, after having a child, I instantly feel that my sense of responsibility is bursting? I used to spend a lot of money, but now I have started to save according to the plan. The topics of discussion with people every day have also changed from games, eating and drinking, to how to make money, and so on.

To be honest, it is really uncomfortable to work and live under pressure every day, but every time I see my child, I feel that everything is worth it, so I will live happily and bitterly. In any case, marriage does limit a person in many ways, and there are many unmarried young people around me who are afraid of marriage, but I think that no matter what, it is good to be yourself, let your parents worry, let the family be harmonious, and let your children grow up healthily.

I have been married for almost ten years, during which I have also been tired and questioned about marriage, I have often observed the married life of relatives and friends around me, and I have learned about many marriages in crisis, I have come to a conclusion: most people have a negative attitude in their married life and regret getting married! Especially when the conflict between the husband and wife is not resolved, this negative emotion will be very intense.

The reason is that the husband does not meet his wife's expectations, so the wife will regret choosing this marriage! In reality, we often hear women complain that their husbands are not self-motivated, such as: husbands don't work hard, husbands are addicted to online games, husbands are addicted to making friends with alcohol and meat, etc.

In fact, the core problem is that the husband cannot give his wife a marriage and family with rich material conditions, so the wife is very intolerant of her husband's lazy behavior and bad habits!

Regret! Before marriage, you can live alone as you want, and after marriage, the two-person world or multi-person family is subject to certain constraints and limitations, and you can't be as willful and freewheeling as you were before marriage.

I regret it! Compare the damage! After marriage, the comparison of married life between friends or girlfriends, found that it was far less than the happiness of others, so that the current object was dissatisfied, thinking that everything was caused by the other party, sometimes thinking back to the time when I was chased, I feel that others should be more suitable and can bring happiness to themselves.

A little regretful! Because of the blandness after marriage! Before marriage, it was romantic, and after marriage, for the sake of firewood, salt, oil, rice, sauce, vinegar and tea, the two were familiar with the feeling of left and right hands, and gradually life tended to be dull, with no surprises and no sense of ceremony.

I was unhappy because of my unsatisfactory married life, and I had fantasies about my marriage before marriage, and after I found that all my fantasies before marriage were empty, far exceeding my expected life, so I had regretful thoughts.

I regret it, because after marriage, I usually have children, and I feel physically and mentally exhausted in the face of various states of children, especially in the face of educational problems, and I always don't know how to start.

Marriage is a happy thing, and Pinhan will not regret getting married at all, because for the sake of love, the two people will come to a luzhi, and in order for love to continue, the two people will choose to get married and love each other better.

To be honest, I don't regret it, and the relationship between the two is going well. In fact, the relationship lies in the management, and the relationship between the two will be very good if the management is good, and it will not lead to divorce. I won't even regret it.

1) The trivial things in life are inevitable, and how to defeat them together is the key.

Love is the moon before the flower, but marriage is firewood, rice, oil and salt. When you realize that the nature of these two years is different, you will not require that marriage must be full of flowers and romance like love, and you will naturally understand that love does not mean that marriage will always be happy. Love is rare and easy to fade, and only by dealing with the bits and pieces in life can marriage go further than love.

I remember a client who said with a disgusted face when he consulted, I am really fed up, he doesn't flush every time he goes to the toilet, he says socks a hundred times, or put them on the sofa in a ball, I knew that he was like this after marriage, I couldn't marry him at all!

The trivial contradictions that cannot be avoided in life, as well as the conflicts and anger caused by mutual incomprehension, although they are as big as sesame seeds, they are not enough to crush the relationship between husband and wife.

Therefore, if you want a happy marriage for a long time, first of all, you must understand that marriage is composed of firewood, rice, oil, salt + chicken and dogs, and entering marriage means that you have to work side by side, one level to fight monsters and upgrades, each level may be difficult, and you may need to repeat it to clear the customs, therefore, under the premise of being ready, you must also have enough endurance and tolerance, know how to communicate and collaborate, and it is possible to finally clear the customs!

2) Family relationships in marriage require some sense of boundaries.

Entering marriage is no longer a matter of two people, but of two families. Therefore, learning to manage family relationships is crucial to marriage. Among the clients who came to me for consultation, many of them had extremely bad relationships between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which led to the relationship between husband and wife reaching a freezing point.

If you think about it carefully, there is no irreparable contradiction between husband and wife, it is nothing more than a family relationship that cannot be dealt with, which affects them all the time.

How to deal with family relationships in marriage?

From the perspective of the husband and wife themselves, we must know how to clear everyone and the small family, do not sacrifice the small family unprincipledly to pay for everyone, digging and transporting this is not called help, this is called plundering, it is necessary to pay the price, and the sacrifice is the relationship between husband and wife. A good marriage should be two people who break away from their original families, constantly improve themselves to become better themselves, and help everyone at the same time as the small family lives better.

From the perspective of parents, do not interfere excessively in the life of the husband and wife, and learn to withdraw from the marriage of their children in a timely manner, which can help the growth of the small family.

I have no regrets marrying him or her now. Our marriage is based on mutual love, mutual understanding and trust, and patience and patience on both sides.

We work together for a better life, not only for ourselves, but also for our families.

We had a lot of good times together and some challenges together. We support each other, support each other, care for each other, encourage each other, and go through many ups and downs together. We all know that without each other's company, Ichiho Jing personally would not be able to overcome so many difficulties and challenges.

We have also overcome some difficulties and experienced some different hardships together, but we have always persevered, held on to this love, and held on to this commitment.

We have gone through many different stages in our married life, and the experience of each stage has made us stronger and more united. Our married life is full of true love, mutual care and prudent love, mutual understanding and respect.

We have spent many wonderful days together, and we have had some unforgettable experiences, but no matter what, we all know that our love will last and we will go into more wonderful futures.

So, I have no regrets marrying him and her now, only gratitude and pride, we have persevered for so many years and built a family based on true love, which is the most precious.

I regret that I was too young and got married too quickly.

A sister who used to work together has a sweet appearance and a good figure. But after three months of dating, I married a man who we all didn't think was very good. But after getting married, the man actually messed around outside, and the two had children.

The girl and her in-laws are constantly rubbing in the process of taking care of the child. Men don't adjust either. We all thought that this sister was going to get divorced.

But later, she actually gave birth to a second child. We asked her, "Don't you regret it?" I want to continue to live with him".

She just said a sentence, "I was too young to get married without thinking about it, but I got married, and I still have children." That's all there is to it. ”

Regret losing your freedom ever since.

After getting married, you will find that there are many restrictions on the free life you used to have. Especially Honglianshan basically has no time and life for himself after having children. Every day, I am running around at work, raising a baby, dealing with family problems, and dealing with various emergencies.

If your spouse keeps you blocked, it's hard not to regret it.

In fact, regret is because everyone is always full of hope for a successful marriage, but the reality is often imperfect. Not only marriage, but also work and life will inevitably not achieve their expected goals. That's what life is all about.

So don't regret it. Because every choice is a decision you make, and every decision has a good side and a bad side at the same time.

So no matter what choice you make, there is always the possibility of imperfection. Regret doesn't change anything. We can only live hard and make our marriage better.

If you regret getting married, there are two kinds of love1, because getting married is the second reincarnation of life, everything starts anew, and this kind of life is what he doesn't want. 2. After marriage, this kind of life is not as good as I imagined. If it's the second one, I want to tell you, no marriage is perfect, don't believe in fairy tales so much, and don't bring ideals into reality, maybe experience a different life in life, the meaning is the same.

There are hundreds, thousands of kinds in life, and you can't go through them all and then choose. There is also a kind of regret, that is, I chose the wrong half. After getting married, you find that he is not what you want at all, and the gap is too big from before marriage.

If the other party does not have a character problem. Or there is fatal harm such as domestic violence against you. You don't have to regret it, because there is no absolutely happy marriage in the world, and the run-in process is of course painful, in fact, every family is unavoidable, correct their attitude.