What s the most hopeless thing about your marriage?

The most desperate marriage is not to quarrel every day, but to meet each other in words.

Have you ever seen someone who has to fight with his wife to win or lose everything? I have to fight with you to the end for a sentence.,Watching TV or something for the same plot fight.,Usually don't talk much.,Just raise the bar to your heart.。

Unreasonable, distrustful, self-centered, foolish, uncommunicative, hopeless!

Don't seek to be motivated, just hold his game! Nothing else.

It's been thrown by me now.

Cold War divided the room when I didn't exist. I don't know why, no matter what problems he encounters, he will never objectively analyze the pros and cons, right or wrong, as long as it is someone else's request, he will always accept it, others will always be right, right, and I will always be wrong, the problem will always be me, thinking that I can't bear it. I really can't figure out why he is the way he is.

A few days ago, because of the business disagreement, he and I split the room cold war, now a week has passed, there is no intention of reconciliation, I really feel very tired, although I care about this marriage, but every time I have to take the initiative, I really feel very boring, I don't know what he wants, although he tries to make himself happy, but still insomnia all night long, every day is very tormenting.

Look at each other unpleasantly, hurt each other, torture each other! The heart is dead.

When I was pregnant, I always felt that there was no difference between having him and not having him.

There is no common language, never in the same channel, you reason, she tells you crooked reasoning, you correct her, she still doesn't listen, so angry that you don't want it.

It's just that my wife doesn't do anything, no matter how tired you are and about to collapse, everything is called to you to do it, without a word of concern, and without doing anything for you, including pouring a glass of water!

Two people who don't trust each other together often quarrel over trivial things, which is not good for later life.

It's two people who are not coordinated together and can't get along! Before marriage, most of them cover their shortcomings and show their good side, and after marriage, the freshness has passed, and the original form will be revealed, and the problem will be discovered.

gave birth to a child in the hospital, asked my husband to wash the child's clothes, and he said no. The dress was no bigger than a towel.

When two people meet without talking, each holding a mobile phone, then they will feel that marriage is not as good as a mobile phone in the eyes of their partner, especially the person who can't call the person who plays with the mobile phone.

My marriage is like someone else giving birth to a child through my belly. The man never spoke at home. The scenery outside is infinite, everyone's warm man.

You must be very strange, I lived half my life to know that it was my ancestor who provided me to his family. Once, someone (who opened the eyes of heaven) said to me that I had come to this world with a special mission. Do you believe it?

The most desperate thing about my marriage is domestic violence, there is no verbal communication at all, and I just do it.

There was a small quarrel for three days, a big quarrel for five days, and when the two met, they either fought or hurt each other, without a word of warmth, comfort and encouragement.

They don't trust each other, one party likes to guess and doubt, the husband and wife get along very awkward and tired, and the party who is often suspected must be desperate.

He was smug with the glory of the past, stopped, did not want to make progress, was satisfied with the status quo, and even indulged in pleasure, and I was desperate.

It feels like he's a completely different person from before, his speech and demeanor are becoming more and more mysterious, you can't read or guess, you want to communicate with him, but it's like a chicken and a duck talking, even if you list a hundred ways, he will have an excuse to prevaricate the past, he makes me desperate like this.

The most desperate thing in a marriage is emotional hurt, and without trusting emotional hurt, there will definitely be conflicts between the two people in the end. Managing a marriage requires careful thinking, empathy in everything, and don't blindly jump to conclusions.

The most desperate thing in marriage is"Live together"No emotion at all.

It is the involvement of parents and family members and the inaction of the other half.

Since they are married, it means that in the future, the couple will have to work together to face the future life together. Being married is a small family that begins to become independent. I guess there are a few aspects of disappointment that I experienced.

1.Between the small family and the husband's original family, if you blindly favor the original family in the face of things, just like Su Mingzhe in "It's All Good", he is as foolish and filial as Su Mingzhe, and he doesn't care about his wife and children, he will be really disappointed.

2.No matter if the husband's purpose is to conceal it in good faith or intentionally, it will make the wife feel that her husband does not regard him as a partner, and she will be a little disappointed.

3.The most disappointing thing is probably that you think that when you start a family, you will choose each other, and you will treat each other as your support in this life, but when you accidentally find that your husband has always had a person in his heart, and that person is not you. That's really a disappointment in marriage.

Marriage is a science, and the husband and wife have a long time to go in their lives, and since they are holding hands, they will not give up easily. These disappointments are all problems in marriage. If there is a problem, it must be solved, and of course marriage also needs to be managed.

Disappointed because there is still hope. It's all because of the desire for love, so take the initiative to give love, take the initiative to try to communicate more, and empathize more, I think that slowly will influence each other, not to mention that they came together based on love at the beginning. If it is really from disappointment to despair, then it is not too late to give up, at least you have worked hard.

Song Ningfeng and Zhang Wanting are a pair. One is used to being a "gas bag", whether he is ridiculed by his partner or hurt his self-esteem, he always looks like he wants to explain but has no chance to explain, and the other is to suppress his partner when he has the opportunity, be aggressive, and never speak well.

Zhang Wanting and Song Ningfeng were married in a flash, they knew each other for less than a month Zhang Wanting was pregnant, and the two got married until the child was born, and there were all kinds of contradictions between the two, Zhang Wanting still commented on this relationship in an interview - we are not familiar with each other.

The audience thinks it's very strange, three or two months of marriage can be said to be unfamiliar, and children have been born for so long and still can't be acquainted, how should this kind of marriage be lived?

In this marriage, quarrels are full of them, Zhang Wanting feels that Song Ningfeng doesn't love her enough, and keeps asking for love, but what is the love in Zhang Wanting's mouth?

It is the partner who has to notice her emotional changes all the time, the one who saves her face in front of outsiders, the one who can't fight back and scolds her, and the divorced Song Ningfeng who meets Zhang Wanting, who is ten years younger than him, who is willing to give birth to him, has to love her unconditionally.

And what did this woman who asked for love from her partner do? Blaming and suppressing the partner, not respecting the partner's right to speak, and removing the partner's face for the sake of his own face......All in all, the series of operations is very suffocating. There are several scenes that are most impressive:

One is three pairs of "husband and wife" sitting on the Zeluxin bus driven by Sun Lun, laughing and chatting, Zhang Wanting's spearhead suddenly pointed at Song Ningfeng, and said in front of everyone that Song Ningfeng had a good life, and found a good wife like himself, unlike his own hard life, and found a drag oil bottle like Song Ningfeng.

If it hurts her partner's self-esteem very much, Zhang Wanting can blurt it out without thinking, indicating that in places we can't see, similar "verbal violence" often happens.

Just look at Song Ningfeng's expression, embarrassed and a little submissive.

The second is that Song Ningfeng and Lu Ge are happily playing frisbee, Zhang Wanting chatting with several other guests, speaking of Song Ningfeng, using the word "sinner", and immediately after Song Ningfeng sat down after playing frisbee, he turned on the attack mode - disgusted that he was not qualified as an actor, because he couldn't even detect his wife's emotions; disliked that he didn't know people, and had such a good time with the insincere Lu Ge; He was forbidden to speak and deprived him of the right to express himself.

Zhang Wanting felt that what she said was reasonable, and finally left very angrily.

The third scene is reading a love letter, Song Ningfeng said what was in his heart, and Zhang Wanting cried while listening. Just when everyone thought she was touched, she said in the interview with Cai Zhen that Song Ningfeng's love writing was particularly ridiculous and hypocritical, and shouted in front of Song Ningfeng that she would not change it, saying that what he wrote made her very faceless.

Zhang Wanting often talks about "face", most of the moments when she suppresses her partner are for face, saying that Song Ningfeng is dragging the oil bottle to show her superiority, and the accusation against Song Ningfeng after playing frisbee is that she feels that the other party has not maintained her face, and it is not right to write love letters because he has made himself lose face.

But Zhang Wanting should never have reflected that when she suppressed and blamed her partner in front of everyone, she lost her face.

It takes many years to warm a heart, it only takes a moment to cool a heart, and it can't be warmed anymore. It's good for a person to dig out your heart and lungs, but in exchange for someone else's stabbing knife in the face, it's a person, you will be sad and angry, and you will feel extremely cold.

You can't afford to hurt people's hearts, don't chill people's hearts, because most of the people who will chill your heart are people who care about you, people who are sincere to you. If you want a long-lasting relationship between husband and wife, then don't always say something that chills each other's hearts, if you talk too much, your heart won't be warm.

01. I never think about things for the other party, I just think about my own things.

In marriage, in fact, it is more about the disrespect and run-in of some trivial matters, so if you can't do two people at the same pace, it is very easy to have conflicts. After a long time, these things will have a great impact on the relationship, so when two people have conflicts, they must fully consider this matter, after all, you are going to go on for a long time, not just separate if you can't do it. At this time, for some things that affect the relationship, it is necessary to take a good look at the best reason and whether it can be completely solved, so that it is the best for both parties.

02. When you are down, you don't help, but you leave the other party and stay away.

There is such a story: the man is a bank manager, in order to give his family a better life, he chooses **, loses a lot of money, and when his wife finds out, she immediately packs up her things and leaves the house with her children. The man had no choice but to divorce for the sake of the whole family.

After the man paid off the arrears, he worked hard for many years and became the president of the bank, rich and powerful, his wife wanted to get back together, the man smiled and said, "When I was in trouble, you wanted to cut off relations with me immediately, and now I don't need you anymore." "Husbands and wives are birds of the same forest, and helping each other in times of difficulty is the first condition for people to find a partner.

03. I don't care about the other party's emotions and feelings in marriage, and I talk about divorce every day.

Many people get married in order to find someone who can shh the cold and ask for warmth, and when the weather is cold, prepare a coat for themselves. When you are sick, I will make you a bowl of warm porridge. If you don't pursue a romantic life, you just need the other party to be considerate of yourself.

But not everyone is so lucky, and there are people who can keep their partner silent. They don't care about each other's emotions and feelings, and talk about divorce every day. When the partner feels uncomfortable and wants to cry and sell, he still feels that the other party is making trouble.

04. Mutual suspicion.

Marriage doesn't even have a minimum of trust, then this kind of marriage is really painful. Trust is the foundation of two people getting along. If you're going to guess what someone else says for a long time, how can you live like this for a couple who don't trust it?

For a long time, they are not only mentally exhausted, the other party is desperate for life, and all marriages without trust are painful. Marriage and divorce are not far away, life is still very short, no one wants to be afraid of life every day, and is not willing to live a life in doubt.

There is nothing to say between husband and wife, and meeting each other is like a stranger. This kind of marital relationship is the most desperate, with little future in sight.

Ignorance, indifference to the other side is the most desperate.

If the husband is a Ma Bao Nan, then there is no hope for marriage, Ma Bao Nan obeys his parents in everything, what the parents say will be what it is, for the wife, there is nothing to discuss between the two, and there is no right to decide, the mother-in-law decides everything.

Marriage despair is due to the fact that many married men go outside to mess with flowers and grass, and moreover, they express disloyalty to their marriage and let their other half feel disappointed, so I feel that such a marriage is unnecessary and not happy, which makes me feel very desperate, so I don't want to step into the grave of marriage.

It must be the husband and wife after the marriage, the love between the two becomes not harmonious, and then there will be some words such as the seven-year itch, and these words have a certain basis, and then after entering the marriage, many of them are firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, ordinary life is no longer the sweetness of falling in love, so it will produce a tired psychology, so that the feelings will slowly fade, no longer falling in love is a sweetness, I will have a fear of marriage, I begin to despair.