How much do you know about life nodes, and there are three important nodes in life

There are certain segments in life, a complete paragraph of life is divided into a paragraph, and life is divided into several paragraphs, and Yu Dou contains a special important subject story content for the individual in each paragraph. The beginning and end of each paragraph are the nodes of this period of life.

Every node of life is unusual and particularly important, and there is a complete story that shakes people's hearts. It determines the trend of life and determines the fate of life.

The so-called node is the beginning of this period of time. It is a critical moment in the destiny of life, a watershed, a turning table and an important turning point in the road of social life in the future.

The environment in which people live is different, the conditions are different, the time of the occurrence of important nodes is also different, and the nature and degree are also very different. There is only one thing that is the same, and that is the same importance to the individual.

There is a certain background for the occurrence of an event. The preparation in advance is solid and steady, and things will not feel sudden or helpless, and they will be able to deal with them in a timely and appropriate manner, and there will be no big mistakes.

If you don't anticipate it in advance, you will be in a hurry and overwhelmed and make a mess. Loss, injury and impact are hard to avoid.

There was a problem in the middle and front of the matter, and the failure to deal with it made the matter bigger, and the nature of the upgrade could not be ended. The loss, damage and impact are greater and irreversible, and can only be swallowed bitterly.

The closing stanza of the matter is very important, even if the preceding section is not handled properly enough to be acceptable. How to end this contradiction and dispute, the parties must have a bottom line in their hearts. How much is right and wrong for each of them, how much should be borne and how much has been borne by them.

Can you give in a little more and ask for a smooth ending.

All aspects of each node of life must be carefully handled, and a mistake will be lost. At that time, we lost a favorable opportunity, and it was very difficult to make up for it later.

Every node of life is a lesson in social life, and special attention should be paid to summing it up. After a setback, the situation will be affected for a long time, and it may not be saved, and the damage caused is very serious.

Every node of life is a test of Yan Jun. It is important to pay attention from the beginning so that mistakes are irreversible. Absorb the experience of each node to teach repentance and sell training, so as to facilitate the smooth and smooth social life in the future.

August 22, 2021.

The reason why people's fates are different depends on how to choose these three major nodes in addition to the original family.

The first node is to apply for the college entrance examination and volunteer to enter the university. The same 12 years of hard study, the results vary from person to person, when applying for the major at the same time, most parents and classmates, with the application for the examination, look dizzy and confused, because there is no understanding and preparation in the early stage, just a few days to report a mess, the fate of a lifetime is rewritten.

The second node is graduating from college, and four years are fleeting. Many children feel that they have finally left the control of their parents, no one looks at them anymore, coupled with the fact that their self-control is almost poor, and the environmental impact around them, they have mixed up a diploma in four years, but they don't know anything about the industry and employment, they don't know the world, and they feel that they are very young, and they have trial and error time, but they feel that making money is the top priority, and they hastily find a company and start to enter the society.

The third node is marriage, many children are growing up in a loveless environment, do not know how to love and be loved, do not know how to care and care, and at the same time require each other to be perfect, and when choosing a mate, it is under the conditions of their own family and current ability, some of them are not in a hurry, parents are urging marriage and urging tight, and have to hastily find a lifelong partner, and at this time, the children are living in the fantasy of the future life, such as the future he will be good to me, it will be good to have money in the future, and it will be good in the future......

Hastily choose a university, hastily select a job, hastily choose a marriage, these three nodes basically lock in a person's fate, even if there is a brilliant future to create brilliance, it must have experienced the ordeal of enlightenment and rebirth. These three nodes are very close to each other, and it seems that there are many opportunities in front of us, but in fact, we can only seize it once, such as 112 opportunities to fill in, but only one school can admit Zaohong, for example, if you receive an offer from two units at the same time, you can only identify one; Another example is that several introduced objects, even suitors, are also destined to make decisions. At this time, the vision, thinking, and world view, including family factors, determine the level of choice, and the three nodes seem to be independent, but they are actually related.

After the book of arguments, people have no choice, read carefully, what do we have to do for our children?

The first is to learn more about universities and majors, and help children grasp their future direction with the results they have worked hard to obtain. Universities and majors also determine the criteria for work and mate selection. The second is to live hard by yourself, only by bringing stability and harmony to the family, children will feel the backing of home, and there is no lack of self-confidence and love.

Third, it is to keep pace with the times and keep up with the development of the times, which may be able to help children, but not make children feel helpless and helpless.

There are three key nodes in a person's life, and if you grasp these three nodes well, it is likely to achieve a class jump. If you don't grasp it well, life may become very difficult.

The first node is the college entrance examination.

This node is the one with the highest ROI for you, and it's worth your fight.

Many units recruit employees to attach great importance to the first degree, at least the source of the bachelor's degree is a full-time bachelor's degree. There is more than one Pacific Ocean difference between a high school degree and a bachelor's degree.

In addition, in a good school, your classmates may be elites in various industries in the future, which will be your valuable network resources.

If you want to continue your studies and study for a PhD, then a bachelor's degree is just the starting point.

The second node is the city where you work after graduating from college.

A young person, if possible, tries to choose to work in a big city.

What's the biggest difference between a big city and a small place? Not in the abundance of matter. Nowadays, online shopping is so convenient, you can buy everything you want quickly.

The biggest difference lies in the variety of opportunities, including job opportunities, and in people's cognitive thinking.

For myself, a lot of the training courses I want to take are only available in.

The opening of first- and second-tier cities is particularly inconvenient for me in third- and fourth-tier cities, because I missed a lot of high-quality training because of the location, which is a pity for hail sales.

The third node is to select a marriage partner.

This person doesn't have to be rich or powerful, but he must be consistent with your three views.

He is the person who will accompany you through the rest of your life, if you are at odds with your three views, you will often have friction, your energy and energy will be constantly consumed, and the whole person will shrink more and more. He doesn't help you, but at least he can't consume it.

Maybe you want to say, if it's not suitable, get a divorce. Yes, but in the process, you spend time, energy, emotion, and perhaps unclear property disputes.

The above are the three most important nodes in life, which are worthy of our careful treatment.

Facing a child who is still in junior high school or high school, I can see infinite possibilities in him, because he is still in the first node, as long as he grasps these three nodes well, he can live a completely different life from his parents.

At this time, I will say to him, do your best for the college entrance examination, it is worth your efforts. Even if the foundation is poor, as long as you are willing to work hard and master scientific learning methods, this first node - the college entrance examination can be successfully passed. You're in charge of the effort, and I'll leave it to me to share the method.

For a person who has not grasped the three nodes well, don't be too pessimistic, as long as you don't lie flat in place. Take your actions, start from the little by little, invest in yourself, and look for opportunities.

The best time to plant a tree was 10 years ago, but it's now.

While the three nodes are particularly important, you need to remember that more important than the nodes are your efforts and actions. Share!

Personally, I think there are three turning points in my life.

One of your coming of age.

Your celebration of coming of age represents the beginning of your formal contact with society, and you need to pay the corresponding responsibility and price for what you say and do.

Second, your marriage.

Your marriage represents the beginning of your formal assumption of family responsibilities and obligations.

Third, your funeral.

Your funeral is a sign that you have officially left this society, and it is a declaration that you are out of this world.

At the beginning of 2011, I left Shanghai, where I had worked for two and a half years, and settled in Nanjing, one of the largest architectural design institutes in the country, which was the end of a fifteen-year separation between the two places (but it was only five years later that I quit my Shanghai hukou). But just after the Chinese New Year, at the kind invitation of my brother, I flew to Beijing, where I had stayed for 12 years, and joined my brother's private Shuangjia design company to help him manage the business of architectural design. In just a few months, there are actually three big changes.

First of all, from inside the system to outside the system. Of course, there will be unease, but the stronger feeling is freedom. The original value of freelancing lies in freedom, and the system of large-scale state-owned design institutes is neither reasonable nor promising in my opinion. ‍‍

When I joined a start-up company from scratch, I had enough psychological expectations that what I had to do would be complicated and trivial, so in the first month of my career, I was a development engineer and often had to do administrative, financial, purchasing, and marketing work, but I was able to be calm. ‍‍

My younger brother was six years younger than me, and he was a sophomore in high school, probably because of this change, coupled with his poor grades, he insisted on dropping out of school to work, but he couldn't be persuaded to turn back, and he still ran out of school, and finally went to Shanghai, where he started as an apprentice in the kitchen of a hotel with his relatives. In my senior year, I had never been prepared to look for a job because of graduate school, and I continued to study because I didn't have tuition fees and a little subsidy every month during my graduate studies. ‍‍

In 2011, I graduated from junior high school and was not admitted to high school, as it should be, after all, I am poor in English, mathematics, physics and chemistry, and the only excellent thing is history and Chinese. My mother asked me if I wanted to repeat my studies, and I gave up, because I had already repeated a grade twice, and my cousins, who went to school two years later than me, were admitted to high school, and if I repeated the grade, I became my cousin's younger brother instead, and I couldn't afford to lose this person.

After my college entrance examination, my grades were not ideal, and between repeating and ordinary universities, I chose an ordinary university, and then I was successful in the graduate school entrance examination, and I felt lucky that I didn't waste an extra year.

Graduated with a master's degree in ignorance, went to work in the imperial capital, wrote ** in a measurement and control company, and adjusted the hardware. Work, for me at that time, was just a way to make money. Limited by the pattern of vision, this life has come here, and every step ahead is pushed forward by life, and I have never thought about what I want at all, let alone make a reliable plan for my life - but I have had some unrealistic fantasies.

After the initial joy and excitement, I began to calm down, looked at the world seriously, saw more possibilities, and brought new confusion and anxiety. ‍‍

In 2010, I left Hong Kong, where I had lived for two years, and came to Liverpool, England, to start my PhD. At that time, I had been graduating from my undergraduate degree for five years, and it was not easy to make up my mind to choose to pursue a PhD at this point in time. Because that means that when my classmates are gradually starting to mature in the workplace, I will not only have to give up catching up with others, but also spend extra years looking for a new place in the unknown (academic) world.

When I was 28 years old, I left my lover who had been in love for 7 years, so I gave it up. It's embarrassing. I complained to each of my friends about his crimes, and after their angry condemnation, I suddenly realized that I had never loved this person, and I was sad not that he was gone, but that my self-esteem was trampled on, and I was sad not that he was in love with someone else, but that he betrayed me.

When he was on campus, he was so handsome that when he was running, he would be followed by a group of female students, and he had a good temper, we almost never quarreled, and his parents were also very kind and very good to me, I liked all this, it made me very comfortable, so I thought it was love. Many friends have said to me: If one day the two of you are separated, I will never believe in love again.

By this week, I had just started my PhD for a full year. To sum up this year's life in one sentence, "It's not the alarm clock that wakes me up every day, it's work." "What impact did the PhD have on me?

I used to feel a bit perfectionist and wanted to do everything well. This year, I learned that if you just ask for "do well", it is a waste of other people's time and your own. Only by doing your best can you be worthy of your heart. ‍‍