What kind of psychology is a person who is not good at rejecting others?

Although I want to reject people, I subconsciously hate rejection. Because rejection and rejection are both hurtful for friends, they will unconsciously stay away from rejection. "Please" is the best compensation to stay away from the pain of rejection.

This should be because I don't want to offend others, because every time my boss asks me to work overtime, I don't know how to refuse, and after a long time, he thinks I like this, so he always keeps me.

I was afraid that if I refused, I would lose some friends, so even if I didn't want to help, I wouldn't say no, and I would help if I could.

I don't know what my reason is, but every time a friend asks me for help, I don't refuse and I'm happy to help them, because that's how friends should be.

I'm really scared that my friends won't play with me because of my refusal, and then slowly alienate me, I can't stand this, and I usually say yes when asked.

In my memory, when I was a child, I always kept pleasing me, because I was afraid that my friends would not play with me, and when I grew up, I realized that those flatteries were one-sided.

I have a friend who is very honest, every time someone asks her for help, she always responds, and never wants to refuse, including others who are actually bullying her, and she won't say anything.

Because I value relationships very much and worry about losing friends, every time I ask for help, I don't choose to say no.

I'm a helpful person myself, and no matter who asks for something, I won't say no, not because I don't want to say no, but because I think why I should refuse a friend.

Because I am a person who cares about my own face, I feel that if I refuse, I will make myself look shameless, and sometimes there will be conflicts.

One. Some people are more enthusiastic, he treats all people the same, and they are all more sincere and very proactive.

Two. Some people are not good at expressing themselves in words, and just go to work with their heads bored. But without communication, the more work you do, the better the results you do.

Three. People who are not good at rejecting others are very sincere in their hearts. He likes to help others, which is what everyone calls kindness.

Whatever the requirements? Whenever you need it, I will stretch out my hands to help you. He is not a man of expression, and he does not ask for anything in return.

And not very communicative. Able to work more and try not to speak. It feels like this person will be too real.

Now people who are too real in this society are not popular! So do a lot, but not necessarily someone will appreciate your affection.

People who don't know how to reject others are generally "people-pleasing personalities."

Habitually "conform" to reality and the demands of others. Many people are not good at refusing, always feel embarrassed, if someone asks him for help, they don't want to help, and they are embarrassed to refuse, they always feel that they refuse, as if they have offended the other party, and there is an inexplicable "sense of guilt", and even afraid that others will stumble on themselves.

In fact, many people will not refuse others, always accept other people's requests obediently, habitually help others, just like puppets, always listen to others, do what others ask.

As long as others export, we will not disobey others, but choose to go against the grain, not caring what kind of harm we have suffered, in essence, fear and fear of others, these two feelings make people dare not refuse directly. Since ancient times, the Chinese have had such a concept, that is, "endure the calm for a while, take a step back in the sea and widen the sky", take a step back, and do not have too many disputes and contradictions with others, so as not to get into trouble and put yourself in a dangerous situation.

Many people lose their opinions and feel that they will do whatever others tell them to do, like other people's marionettes. When this situation continues to be serious, then it is not that we do not know how to refuse, but that we are completely enslaved by others, and we have no personal thoughts of our own.

When someone finds you and wants you to help, you can listen to what is going on, if you don't want to help and want to refuse euphemistically, you can say to the other party: I'm sorry, I've been busy with work recently, and I can't help you, or let me think about it, there have been a lot of things ...... latelyThese are all good excuses to tactfully reject others and not embarrass them.

We are all an individual, there is no need to do anything for others, as long as we do our own thing, the essence of refusal is to protect our own interests, we must be brave and dare to say "no", after you refuse the first time, you will find that it is not so difficult to refuse others, with the first time there will be a second time, and slowly you will learn how to reject others.

Not confident enough, always thinking too much. I have seen such a person, he does not know how to reject others, the reason is that he is afraid of damaging the face of others. Rejection can make efficient use of one's time, maintain one's vigorous energy, etc.

It is a good medicine to keep relationships healthy and to be able to sustain the stool socks. If you don't refuse when you need to refuse, you will push the relationship between the two people far away. Coarse.

Kind and introverted, not the first to love to talk, low self-esteem, submissive, lose self in love; If you want to effectively refuse a request to be subtly refused, you should master the relevant speaking skills and effectively understand the inner needs of others.

They are very easy-going, don't care about these small details, and are very introverted; You can find some other excuse to tell the other person that you don't have time to help him.

Too lazy to deal with interpersonal relationships, so habitually responsive to others' needs, thus ignoring their own true inner feelings.

Not knowing that rejection is a disease, not only consuming one's own energy and resources, but even one's own character.

Those who do not know how to refuse are accustomed to exonerating themselves with kindness and soft-heartedness.

But in reality, they are just too lazy and cowardly.

It's easy to say "yes", and it's an instant reap of joy.

It's hard to say "no", and you need to find a reasonable reason; Saying "no" means conflict, while "good" is at least able to keep the peace.

Too lazy to deal with interpersonal relationships, so habitually responsive to others' needs, thus ignoring their own true inner feelings.

You are afraid to face conflicts and confrontations, so you are aggrieved, forcing yourself to agree to other people's demands, and then bowing to the best of your ability, and then sighing silently.

You're a good person, so your help is very cheap, and you don't even get half a word of feedback.

You just don't know how to say no, not to accept it willingly.

So even if you help others, you don't get half a sense of accomplishment, only a sense of frustration.

How to learn to say no to others?

It's not a technical problem, it's a cognitive one.

First of all, you have to know yourself objectively.

You are just an ordinary person, not a savior, not omnipotent, your abilities are limited, and your energy is limited.

If you are responsive to everyone's needs, you will be dragged down by others sooner or later.

Second, respect your inner thoughts.

Most people who don't know how to refuse have low self-esteem and are afraid that they will destroy their relationship with each other because of their rejection.

Therefore, to learn to say no, you must first learn to be confident.

Everyone is a precious, incomparable being, even if you are not worth mentioning to others, but to yourself, you are the most important thing.

Respect your inner thoughts, say what you think, and never embarrass yourself.

Secondly, objectively recognize the relationship with others.

Only friends who are worthy of help will help, and those who are not worthy of help will never waste energy.

Only help what is worth helping, others can easily do it, or if you can't do it even if you try very hard, you must not agree.

For people who don't know how to say no, it's really hard to learn to say no, because the "good" is always in their throats and eyes, ready to jump out at any time.

Then, when others ask of themselves, try to give yourself a few seconds to think first, let the "good" jump out slowly, and gradually, it becomes "no".

If you still can't do it, recite this phrase a hundred times a day:

Don't be embarrassed to refuse others, because the person who is embarrassed to embarrass you must not be a good person.

Not knowing how to reject the character of others is the kind of indecision that is appropriate to change.

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What this means is that no matter what others say, they will agree to it and will not refuse any request from others.

Whether it is willing, unwilling, able to do, or unable to do it, I will not refuse others because I am embarrassed.

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Summary. Hello dear.

People who don't resist and refuse are generally submissive. We must maintain our dignity and principles, and not all unprincipled patience and concession can be exchanged for peaceful coexistence. Some people, even if you don't resist and refuse, they will not be grateful and will get more and more inches.

Therefore, you must know that you should resist and refuse, and have a strict bottom line for yourself.

What is the psychology of not rejecting others.

Dear, hello people who don't resist and refuse, are generally submissive. We must maintain our dignity and principles, and not all unprincipled patience and concession can be exchanged for peaceful coexistence. Some people, even if you don't resist and refuse, they will not be grateful and will get more and more inches.

Therefore, you must know that you should resist and refuse, and have a strict bottom line for yourself.

For example, he asked me to get something. But I don't want to get that thing, I don't dare to refuse.

Summary. Hello, people who don't reject others don't live happily because they put too many others into their lives, and the consequence of this is that their own lives are messed up. The psychology of not saying no Many people refer to people who can't say no as "good old people", but in fact, they don't know that such people have a people-pleasing personality.

The so-called people-pleasing personality refers to blindly being submissive and pleasing others, but ignoring one's own feelings.

Hello, people who don't reject others don't live happily because they put too many others into their lives, and the consequence of this is that their own lives are messed up. The psychology of not saying no Many people refer to people who can't say no as "good old people", but in fact, they don't know that such people have a people-pleasing personality. The so-called people-pleasing personality refers to:

Blindly submissive and pleasing others, but ignoring their own feelings.

Dear, how long have you been in this state? What is the case with such thoughts?

In the past 2 years, whenever a friend asks me to borrow something, I am embarrassed to refuse if I have it. My classmates asked me to borrow a watch to play **. I didn't want to borrow it, but I borrowed it for fear of hurting my feelings.

Although classmates should have love with each other, no one is born to serve others, and they should say "no" loudly to things they don't like. If the other person's behavior does affect you, and you are embarrassed not to borrow, then make a joke and smile and say "no borrowing" to him, so that it is not easy for him to borrow something from you every time, so that he will not trouble you unscrupulously.

However, if I don't borrow, she will keep annoying me and let me borrow, what if she breaks up with me, every time I break up with a friend, I will think that it is my fault.

Tactful refusalWhen you still haven't learned to say no, or learn to say no outright, you can learn to do it tactfully.

As the old saying goes, "If you are interrupted, you will be disturbed." "When you should refuse, you have to refuse, but the language when refusing should be as tactful and accurate as possible, so as not to hurt people's self-esteem.

There is no need to be sorry and guilty, it is your right to refuse. Have a clear attitude, don't procrastinate. Be concise and to the point, so you don't have to go through a lot of explanations.

If you want to change the situation that you dare not say no, you must start with the habit of consciousness on the one hand, and the way of refusal on the other hand. Refusal should be strategic, and it is advisable to refuse skillfully. Don't be hasty, don't be angry, don't be arrogant, and don't be blunt.

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Summary. Because you know that some people's kindness to you is only temporary, once you accept it calmly and get used to it, once you lose it in the future, it will make you linger and uncomfortable for a short time. So, instead of having a long pain, it's better to never get it in the first place.

But which is better, to gain and then to lose, or never to have?

Well, it's always been there, or it's lucky to get it back. It's that the self-defense mechanism is too strong, and I'm afraid of getting hurt, so I erect a very high wall of heart for myself - an iron wall, trying in vain to block out what will hurt you, and at the same time, I will also put what is good for you and loves you outside.

Because you know that some people's kindness to you is only temporary, once you accept it calmly and get used to it, once you lose it in the future, it will make you linger and uncomfortable for a short time. So, instead of having a long pain, it's better to never get it in the first place.

But which is better, to gain and then to lose, or never to have?

Well, it's always been there, or it's lucky to get it back. It's that the self-defense mechanism is too strong, and I'm afraid of getting hurt, so I erect a very high wall of heart for myself - an iron wall, trying in vain to block out what will hurt you, and at the same time, I will also put what is good for you and loves you outside. Summary.

Because you know that some people's kindness to you is only temporary, once you accept it calmly and get used to it, once you lose it in the future, it will make you linger and uncomfortable for a short time. So, instead of having a long pain, it's better to never get it in the first place.

But which is better, to gain and then to lose, or never to have?

Well, it's always been there, or it's lucky to get it back. It's that the self-defense mechanism is too strong, and I'm afraid of getting hurt, so I erect a very high wall of heart for myself - an iron wall, trying in vain to block out what will hurt you, and at the same time, I will also put what is good for you and loves you outside.

It may also be that you want a lot of feelings to be given equally, and if once the other person is better to you than you can be good to him, there will be pressure, and you will make the other person not be so good to you by refusing, or even hurting the other person.

Not confident, you feel like you don't deserve to be loved.

Hope mine is helpful to you.