What if a person is too stupid and often takes advantage of others

Often, you take advantage of others, which means that you feel "at a loss", and you even think that you are "stupid", which I think is the opposite.

"Suffering" may refer to material losses, but a person's happiness or not, but often depends on your state of mind, if you use external things, in exchange for peace of mind, it is undoubtedly to obtain the happiness of life, this is worth it, this is the "great wisdom".

It is a blessing to suffer a loss, but it is the wisdom of the wise.

Once someone breaks up with a friend, he will turn his face and deny people, and he doesn't want to suffer a loss, whether this kind of person is smart or not dare to say, but it is certain that people who don't want to eat at all will only make their path narrower and narrower.

Concessions and losses are a necessary investment, and they are also a necessary prerequisite for friendship.

In life, people generally don't have a good impression of people who take advantage of small advantages. The person who takes advantage of the advantage suffers a big loss in life first, because he has taken the lead everywhere, never considers others, always has his eyes on his optimistic interests, and can't wait to jump out and take possession of it. The people around him were disgusted with him, and after working together a few back and forth, they never wanted to continue working with him again.

The partners left him one by one, so didn't he suffer a big loss?

Wisdom of life At any time, affection cannot be trampled on. Take the initiative to suffer, the mountains will not turn around, maybe there will be opportunities for cooperation in the future, and they will come together again. If a person refuses to suffer losses everywhere, he will want to take advantage everywhere, so he will be born with delusion and pride.

And once a person has an arrogant posture, it is inevitable that he will infringe on the interests of others, so there will be disputes, and in the embattled, how can there be any reason to be invincible?

In life, there are many "fools" who always suffer losses, self-denial, willing to pay, regardless of gains and losses, these people often get affirmation and praise, these people have good interpersonal relationships, no one wants to be his enemy, it is not surprising that he succeeds or lives a peaceful and happy life.

Happy every day!

As the saying goes: "Suffering a loss is a blessing", and there are: "Saiong loses his horse, and he knows whether he is a blessing", and "great wisdom is foolish", so it is enough to enhance one's self-cultivation, not too stupid, but smart.

First of all, analyze that human nature is greedy and self-interested. There is no one who does not like to take advantage, many marketing methods in life are designed according to human nature and taking advantage of the environment, and they are very selfish under the influence of the environment. There is nothing we can do to change this environment, what we can do is to restrain our desires.

If you are a leader, when you give a task to employees, it is best to say why, so that the motivation of employees will increase, and of course, if you can tell some employees the real reason privately, these employees will work for you. For example, you tell an employee who hasn't been promoted that the real reason for another person's promotion is to get them out of your department and make you a central person in that department.

Of course, most friends are from the employee's position, at this time, if the leader asks you about the results and reasons, you had better reply to the boss according to the structure of "because, so", you can have data, proof is better, no, you can add some reasons yourself, this can ease the atmosphere between your conversations, and give yourself time to really think about the reasons for the problem. Of course, if your boss is deliberately finding fault, you'd better not refute it.

If you want to take advantage of your colleagues, you can cheekily take the initiative to explain the reason why he helped you, such as "Because my child is sick, I have to take her to the hospital, and you can do the rest of the finishing work for me, and I will invite you to breakfast tomorrow." "Most colleagues, especially new colleagues, have a hard time turning down your affectionate, justified request.

Needless to say, some queuing scenes, the opening experiment can explain the problem. Here, I have to talk about how some aunts take advantage of everything in life, and the most important point is: shameless.

They can make up a reason to cut in line and take advantage of you.

People are all about saving face, especially when there is group pressure in a group, and when your behavior is noticed, you will pay more attention to your performance. At this time, if you can say "because, so" structured request, it is very difficult for others to refuse, because he needs to have a reaction time in the face of this kind of emergency, but due to the urgency of the situation, many times, he can't react, and will only understand your speech structure, even if he reacts, based on group pressure and face problems, it is difficult for him to refuse.

Of course, it must be remembered that if you are a girl, you will have a natural gender advantage to be helped by others, but if you are a boy or a young adult, the tone of your request must be sincere and soft, and you must be grateful after achieving the goal, so that the other party has a sense of moral superiority and accomplishment that you have gained by helping you.

Soft persimmon psychology.

Frankly speaking, this kind of person is very calculating, they are well versed in the way of socializing, they are always able to exploit all kinds of loopholes, and they will use different methods to achieve their goals in the face of different people. Whenever I see those who have suffered losses but are silent, their psychology of pinching eggplants or burying soft persimmons immediately begins to move.

The reason why they have been able to succeed again and again is precisely because of their extremely low sense of social morality and rogue mentality. All kinds of struggle experiences have made them tried and tested repeatedly, so the soft persimmon psychology has become their logic and experience, and it has become a kind of communicative inertia.

In their consciousness, there are two common human natures: introspection and order. When there is a problem, they will take the lead and use the methods of questioning, doubting and scolding to deter the other party, find the problem from their own side, and let the other party fall into an illusion that they are wrong, and they will not find the reason from him, but feel sorry for him.

The reflex arc of people is relatively long, and by the time they react to what is going on, the matter is often over.

Mis-transfers and emotional garbage**.

Psychologists point out that self-blame and self-imposed pressure are more likely to damage a person's mood than anger. Those who are unreasonable take advantage of precisely this. For example, if something goes wrong, they will put the main blame on you, which is a classic mistransfer.

There is a special defense mechanism in their minds, so that they can't tolerate the feeling that the mistake is self-inflicted, so those who cooperate or collaborate with them become the object of their blame. At the end of the day, it's that they don't want to take responsibility alone, and they always want the people around them to bear the same bad experience as they do.

Of course, none of us are stupid, it's just that sometimes we choose to be silent. But how can we possibly remain calm after suffering a lot of dumb losses? At this time, it is inevitable to be angry, not only angry with those scumbags, but also angry with yourself, and even angry with the whole society.

We are angry, why would we cooperate with such a person? Why would such a scumbag let himself meet? Why are you so stupid, you have been tricked by this kind of person, and you still know it later.

1. The way to deal with it is as follows, out of sight is clean, and you see some people who often like to take advantage of them in life or in the workplace, if they do not affect their own interests.

2. Then don't go to debunk them in person, try to hang high when doing things is not about yourself, how big a villain is not as good as multiple friends, open-minded, for people who love to take advantage of small advantages, you might as well open your mind a little.

3. Don't worry about your own gains and losses with them, because this kind of people, if you reason with them, it doesn't make much sense.

4. As long as the benefits will not be particularly lost, from a psychological point of view, people who love to take advantage of small advantages.

5. Greed is just the feeling of taking advantage of a small advantage, if the more you give, the more they will be good to you, then since this is the case, you can sometimes take advantage of the psychological characteristics of these people.

6. Give them enough cheap first, and then there are some things to give them to do, and they will be very happy.

7. For some cheapers that hurt their own interests, they can no longer tolerate the noise, and they must be made clear to them in person.

8. Other cheap can be given, but the current one is not good, this is the principle, and I hope they can understand, if it is the kind of party that always wants to eat the overlord meal, the group waiter takes advantage of the small advantage.

9. In addition, if your own economy is not so well-off, then you can try to avoid having dinner with them.

In fact, we can see people everywhere who love to be greedy for small gains, and people who love to be greedy for small and cheap usually refer to those who always want to take advantage of others and get more benefits.

So what should we do when we encounter such greedy people?

The first point is that we can be open-minded.

For people who love to take advantage of small advantages, we might as well be open-minded and don't worry about our own gains and losses with them, because this kind of people, if you reason with them, it doesn't make much sense, as long as the benefits will not lose a lot.

Second, you can make full use of their psychology, people who love to take advantage of small advantages, they are greedy just take advantage of the feeling of taking advantage of small advantages, if the more cheap they are given, the more they will be good with you, then since this is the case, but sometimes you can use the psychological characteristics of these people, first give them enough cheap, and then there are some things that can be explained to them to do, they will be very happy.

The third point is that we can no longer tolerate some cheapness that hurts our own interests, and we must make it clear to them face to face that other cheapness can be given, but this is not the current one, this is the principle, and I hope they can understand.

Fourth, remember that out of sight is pure.

If they don't affect their own interests, then don't go to the mold face to demolish them, try to do things when they don't care about themselves, multiple villains are not as good as multiple friends.

1. In terms of language, try to remind the other party of the thoughts and behaviors of taking advantage of them through two methods: implicit and explicit. When encountering the escalation of the other party's taking advantage of the behavior, just get up, return a little more temper, and warn and reprimand the other party's behavior.

2. In terms of action, control your thoughts of finding the other party to reveal your heart. Consciously distance yourself from the other party, reduce the communication machine, and if the other party invites, shirk it for various reasons, and reduce positive feedback. Prevent being used by the other party and obtain benefits from yourself.