What if a colleague runs on you and scolds you

If a colleague runs on you and scolds you, it means that your relationship is very poor, and there is no harmonious colleague relationship, so the work will not go well. For this matter, you have to take it seriously and handle it properly.

First, you need to find out why your colleagues have an opinion about you. There is no hatred in the world for no reason, they have opinions about you, it may be because you don't do well, and you have to find the reason from yourself. Give others respect, and they will respect you.

If you have an opinion about others, then others will have an opinion about you.

Second, think from the other person's point of view and understand the other person. If you don't do well, then it's normal for others to have opinions about you, and it's good for you to change it. If it's not your fault, someone deliberately provoked the relationship between you and caused your misunderstanding, then he misunderstood you, and you have to understand the other party, after all, you didn't explain it to him clearly This is a misunderstanding.

Thirdly, colleagues should communicate more with each other and contact more. Usually have a normal party or something, take the initiative to invite, or invite others to participate as much as possible. Eat together, sing K, run, play ball or something. Contact more, and many problems can be solved in communication.

Finally, when a colleague needs your help, try to help if you can. After all, everyone needs help from others. If you really can't help, you can also help him come up with ideas, think of a way, and find someone who can help him.

Otherwise, it's none of your business, hang high. You'll encounter this kind of thing in the future.

I believe that people's hearts are flesh and blood, and we should have more understanding and communication with our hearts, so as to form a good interpersonal relationship and finally achieve the goal of smooth work!

Doesn't matter!! You just have to keep laughing but at the end!

Where there is reason, there is an appropriate rebuttal.

It is normal for conflicts between the workplace and colleagues, the jujube banquet is not necessarily scolded back by colleagues, depending on the situation, unintentional actions, and a smile, if you find that you are deliberately looking for trouble, sincerely let you not get off the bench Biyin, then you don't have to be polite, go back, and to reply on the spot as soon as possible, you must be level, reasonable, and you must know how to measure, see a good one, and the scene is controllable.

1. On-site response.

First of all, why do you want to respond on the spot?

No matter who is at fault, the act of scolding others itself represents a kind of malice, a kind of top-down bullying, and the other party thinks that they are stronger than you and can wantonly scare you or test you.

In the face of malice, it is necessary to fight back immediately, because once the dialogue is over, there is no reason to start again, and the winner or loser is decided.

The person who scares about you doesn't have to pay anything, and he has also suppressed you and won a greater right to speak, while you are entangled in thinking about right and wrong, relationship, influence, etc., and have lost the best opportunity to counteract.

2. Facts speak.

Next, let's talk about how to fight back.

There's a way to go back. The basic logic is to distinguish between "phenomena", "facts" and "opinions".

Most of the words are "phenomena" and "opinions", and the response is most powerful with "facts".

Here's an example of what happened this morning:

I went to a company for an interview, and HR saw that my latest work experience was naked for a few days, and he asked me, "Are you very willful?" If you don't like it, just say it naked? ”

I replied to him: "The naked resignation is because the transformation of the department is inconsistent with the demands of personal development, which is a rational and analytical choice, and it has nothing to do with whether you like it or not." ”

"willful" is a negative evaluation, "if you don't like it, you will resign naked" is a point of view, to put it bluntly, it is called buttoning a hat. If I take this hat, I will fall into the pit of willfulness and immaturity, and the situation will be very unfavorable to me. At this time, don't justify whether you are willful or not, and tell the other party what the facts are.

In daily conversations, we need to train ourselves to distinguish between "phenomena", "facts" and "opinions", as well as the logical relationship between them, otherwise it is easy to be led into rhythm and slip into the ditch without knowing it.

3. Conflict control.

When responding to the other person, you should be careful about your words and actions, "personal attacks", "discrimination", and "name-calling" are unacceptable, and they will also put yourself in a disadvantageous position, and there is no room for change.

So don't say anything as soon as the emotion comes up, be grabbed by the other party, and kill with one blow.

Mutual resentment is just a verbal conflict, and you should always remind yourself that the conflict should be controlled to the extent that you can control it, at least you will not take the initiative to escalate the conflict, and assess whether the intensity of the conflict is beneficial or unfavorable to you.

In short, keep your emotions in check, don't get upset.

<> junior brother texted me for help, and he said that he had been very depressed in the company recently. I know he's been working on a successful project lately, but why is he still so depressed?

After careful questioning, I learned that he had a good relationship with his colleagues, talked and laughed, and played ball and ate together after work. But because the project was too good, the leader rewarded him, the boss praised him, but his colleagues alienated him because of it.

Now it's getting more and more serious, and I don't even call him to meet for dinner at noon. Although he was valued by his boss and leaders, he was ostracized by his colleagues at the same level, and he asked me what to do, and he wanted to quit his job.

In fact, it is very common to be marginalized in the workplace, and as long as we find out the cause, we can find the right medicine to ease the interpersonal relationship in the office.

There are two reasons why the workplace is excluded:

1. The poor character of the parties leads to the disgust of colleagues in the department, just like a small social microcosm, we cannot guarantee that every colleague has a good temperament, the spirit of selfless dedication, and the quality of helping each other.

There is a relationship of interest between colleagues, so maybe someone will do something disgusting because of their own interests. If you are excluded by your colleagues because of this, you should find the reason from yourself.

Look at your own way of doing things, after all, in a collective place in the workplace, no one can survive alone, so try to handle the relationship with colleagues and help your own development.

2. Too good, so that colleagues are envious and jealous just like the situation of the little junior brother, he was originally at the same level as his colleagues in the department, because he was too prominent and outstanding, so he stood out and achieved gratifying results. Leaders and bosses are naturally happy, but colleagues at the same level will be jealous.

The ability of the junior brother is too outstanding, and in contrast, it is easy to highlight the incompetence and shortcomings of other colleagues. But if everyone is at the same level, then it will not highlight the shortcomings and defects of others, and everyone can still hold together, when one person stands out, it means that he has to break away from the collective, fight alone, and even become the target of the public.

This means that we must not be arrogant or impatient, and do not let our colleagues feel that you are frivolous and arrogant, otherwise, you will only annoy people.

In fact, the most fundamental reason for being excluded in the workplace is that you have destroyed the interests of others, or you have no common language, and you are not a person in their circle, so you will be excluded from others.

There is a saying that goes like this: the gun shoots the first bird. Try not to be a "spearhead bird" in the workplace, and be a low-key person in order to gain the favor of others. Only by doing things in a high-profile way can you ensure the success of your work.

If you find that you are being excluded, don't be discouraged, find out the root cause, prescribe the right medicine, and don't rush to quit and escape, otherwise you will be at a loss when you face the same problem in the next new company.

I think it's better not to pay too much attention to it, of course, you should also figure out why everyone is running on you, if it's your own reason, you have to correct it, if not, it's enough to be yourself.

If you are hindered at work, you should communicate with your colleagues in a timely manner, so that everyone can try to let go of their prejudices and complete their work.